The Unhooked Podcast

“You work on your side of the street… and I’ll tend to mine.” I say it often in more than one of my family relationships.

It’s a way of shaking loose from old patterns of enmeshment.  I have learned if I don’t guard my time, energy, and peace, no one else will either.

Bear one another’s burdens—that’s support, kindness, empathy, safety…that’s showing up, being there.

And we don’t have to do any of it alone, when thos...

A person struggling with an addiction, contrary to what many in a faith-based belief system may think… is not the same as a prodigal son, or an evil person. Though their behavior may align with dishonesty or wickedness at times.  They’re being tormented by evil, as much as their behavior is causing pain and torment, sorrow and damage in the lives around them.

The cycles of addiction are rarely (as in the case of the Prodigal Son in...

There are times when we need space and separation. It’s not abandonment.  It isn’t necessarily permanent, and it’s not selfish…it’s healthy.

I tend to default to “all or nothing” thinking when it comes to thoughts around family members close to my heart.  Especially if there’s any type of risk involved.  Conflict, relapse, health, death…etc.  My mind goes immediately to the scariest, most fatalistic, defeatist possibilities be...

Can the Bible effect addiction and recovery? Does faith play a role? What if your community of faith has been a painful, abusive, condemning and outcasting experience and you've been damaged?

How can faith then apply and parlay into helping relationships surging with conflict, addiction, alcohol or dysfunction?

These are some painful, deep questions I have struggled with in my own life. I don't pretend to have al...

In this new episode of The Unhooked Podcast we meet KL Wells! KL is a community leader, influential speak and a Mother.  For more than 20 years she collaborated with hundreds of non-profit organizations, effectively leading iniatives with CEOs, senior executives, board directors, trustees, and philanthropists that have attracted hundreds of millions of dollars to ignite organizational and community-wide change. She recently chang...

This episode of “The Unhooked Podcast” 🥊 takes a look at: “Feelings of Jealousy and envy.” 

Just to keep it real...it can sometimes be hard to see others living their BEST lives, seeing pictures of holidays, weddings, graduations, social media perfection (or running into them in the grocery store as we are dying on the inside), when we are going through one of our WORST seasons of life. What do we do when it hurts to see...

“The Unhooked Podcast” 🥊 In this episode of the Unhooked Podcast, the topic is: “Shadow Beliefs, Patterns and Schemas.” 

Those inner, hidden, underlying belief patterns that lead us back to the same old behaviors, and the same old pain. Can we heal them? 

Listen in to hear knowledge shared from the experts and the rooms of recovery! 

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“Why you should never give up!” 

These last 18 months have been some of the most brutal days for my family, to be honest I thought about throwing in the towel more than a few times. 

Listen in as I share why it was important that I not give up - and why it matters that you don't either! 

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The Unhooked Podcast 🥊 “Surviving the wilderness” There are seasons of life that simply knock the breath out of us. If you (or someone you know) are dealing with adversity, crisis, chaos and trauma...this episode of the Unhooked Podcast might be helpful. Tips for managing our way through the hardest times of life align well with survival skills we use to guide us through the wilderness! Check out this episode of "The Unhook...

“The Unhooked Podcast” 🥊 • How many friends have deleted you lately? In this short episode we take a look at applying recovery principles to the way people handle differences of beliefs and opinions these days. (Note: for the sake of clarity, when it comes to keeping in mind that you could be wrong when you go at someone - regarding the part about the message I received in ALL CAPITAL LETTERS, it's interesting that the point th...

“The Unhooked Podcast” 🥊 “Don't Talk, Don't Trust, Don't Feel,” those are the unspoken rules for families with communication problems. Listen to this episode of "The Unhooked Podcast" for examples, experiences and counsel from the rooms when it comes to not being able to communicate with family members, or those we are in relationship with. "The Unhooked Podcast" can be heard using this Anchor link, or on other platforms such ...

“The Unhooked Podcast” 🥊 Unending Arguments You know those conflicts that spring up but never seem to have an end?  The bottom-less pit kind of arguments, they return frequently and the awkward and sometimes even heated feelings rise up anytime we speak of the subject, or cross paths with anyone involved... Listen in  to this episode of the "Unhooked Podcast" to hear wisdom from the rooms when it comes to dealing with people ...

“The Unhooked Podcast” 🥊 “Everyone Needs Support” We all need support, every last one of us.  No one gets it right all the time and none of us can handle the heavy things on our own.   Even animals and birds, even trees need support!   Our pets often know exactly how to support us. Listen in to this brief episode of the "The Unhooked Podcast" to hear about the benefits of support from family, friends and rooms we can trust. ...

We have all crossed paths with someone who sees everything as worst case scenario...  There's always a crisis, an upset, a down side and a problem; and usually even a problem with the solution to the problem! Listen in to this quick hitter episode of the Unhooked Podcast, with input from the rooms when it comes to dealing with those who constantly call with chronic problems, and never ending bad news. "The Unhooked Podcast" can...

Drama and chaos happen, they seem to come in cycles and waves.  Listen to this episode of "The Unhooked Podcast" for a few quick, relatable points about chaos and drama erupting. Hear about the "Drama Triangle" and listen to a few points about High Conflict Personalities, which we may all cross paths with (or even be ourselves) from time to time. The good news is - we don't HAVE to get swept up in every tornado of chaos, or accep...

This Unhooked episode covers thoughts about unloading, or venting - versus bottling issues, worries, feelings and struggles up inside us.  (Our dysfunction...our "junk.") One thing I know, feelings need oxygen to dissipate, once they hit the air healing can begin.   It doesn't mean unload to every checkout clerk or radio show, some things we need to work through before we share them...and it's definitely crucial to be careful to...

When it comes to dysfunctional thinking, sometimes we aren't even aware that our thoughts are calling the shots.  No one is immune, we can all fall into unhealthy patterns, I personally have definitely tried each of them on for size! Listen to this "Unhooked Podcast" and hear how we can sometimes veer into wrong thinking in the midst of struggle. The Unhooked Podcast can also be found on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play Mus...