July 2, 2018 • 14 mins
Everyone has an opinion! But how does criticism serve you? Here are three tips to Combat Criticism.
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(00:07):
I am so excited to be herewith you guys today. Today marks the
very first day when the podcast isofficially on iTunes. Yeah, I'm so
excited. I want to welcome youall those who are listening in for the
first time. I am Janelle Langford. I am the life stylist. I
(00:29):
am a life coach and a stylemaythn, which really puts together two of
my passions. I am very passionateand have purposed my life's work to empower
and equip women entrepreneurs, Christian womenentrepreneurs, specifically to excel in business,
(00:51):
to grow in business, and tolaunch their strategy and plans for their business.
And then, of course I haveworked in public relations for the last
twelve years, a specializing in fashionand beauty for Sweet Public Relations, which
was a company I started in twothousand and five. So I have great
(01:14):
affinity to the fashion and beauty industryand have also layered in some of my
styling services and expertise to the public. So I'm very excited about that.
I wanted to make sure that forthose who have been listening to the podcast
up into this point, that wenow can expand our audience to iTunes.
(01:38):
So this is the very first episode. All of the episodes are on iTunes,
but this marks the first one wherewe are officially on iTunes. So
today we are going to talk aboutcombating criticism. Combating criticism. Thank you
so much for joining me. Let'sgo ahead and get started. So a
(02:00):
lot of times when you are inbusiness, launching business, preparing for a
business, and also just dealing witheveryday life, we have to combat criticism.
Sometimes we get criticism that was unsolicited, and sometimes we get criticism that
(02:21):
is constructive. However, we maynot be ready to receive it, we
may not have the ability to interpretit, or we may not have the
bandwidth to discern what we are receiving. So today I'm going to give you
three quick tips and practices to bettercombat criticism. Now, sometimes when we
(02:45):
talk about criticism, we think ofit in the sense of being something negative,
and we have got to let thatnotion and understanding go mainly because even
if it is negative, it isall about how we receive it. Right,
So when we know that the weaponswill in fact form but they will
(03:07):
not prosper, then we can bettermaneuver through life with the understanding that all
things work for our good. Soit does not matter if you get criticism
that you feel may be hurtful orwasn't presented in a way that you can
(03:27):
best digest it. None of thosethings matter because we know all things work
together for our good. So whenwe are combating criticism, it is going
to best serve us to prepare andhave coping skills to best discern the criticism
that we are getting in to manageif it's something that we need to implement,
(03:52):
because just because we don't like howwe received it, or we don't
like the messenger, that even tous does not mean that it cannot be
utilized. So my first tip isto operate in excellence. I have met
so many people, business owners andnon business owners alike who are not operating
(04:18):
in excellence. We have to learnhow to do that. A lot of
times, the reason why we areunable to receive the criticism that we're getting
is because we know we're not doingthe right thing in the first place.
We know that, you know,whatever the subject matter is is a point
of contention for us because we areunsure of what we presented in the first
(04:43):
place. Because mainly we are notoperating with excellence. We are not operating
in excellence. That means that we'velaunched a website and we know that it's
not quite ready. That means thatwe have shared a service that we want
to offer but know that the jargonisn't correct on it. We know that
we are planning an event but don'tquite have the budget or haven't secured the
(05:08):
host that we said we were goingto secure. Right, So we're not
operating in excellence. And when youdon't operate an excellence, it makes you
more sensitive to criticism, whether itbe constructive or destructive, because we know
that we haven't done our part yet. If we put our best foot forward,
(05:32):
constructive criticism will only excel you andnot offend you. We easily get
offended when we don't have things inorder and properly aligned. Okay, So
perception is one thing about how we'rereceiving the information that's given to us,
(05:53):
but a standard must be upheld,and a lot of times we haven't done
our work, and we haven't doneit in excellence. Because now we live
in a society where everybody is tryingto push out something and everybody wants to
hurry up and be the top personand everybody is an expert, and everyone
has an area of expertise. Andwe are fighting for our point, and
(06:16):
we are fighting for our position,and we have left some stones unturned.
We have not crossed our tees,and we have not dotted our eyes,
which makes us more susceptible to beingoffended. The best way to combat that
part of criticism is to operate anexcellence. When you know that you have
(06:40):
done well, it is easier foryou to receive criticism and feedback that you
can then turn and use to serveyou. Right, because we're going to
approach it with the notion that allthings worked, all of those things,
knowing that all these things work togetherfor our good. So we're going to
(07:02):
operate an excellence. We're going toput our best foot forward. We are
going to receive the fullness thereof,and we will not be offended when we're
challenged. Right, we are goingto receive it, we're going to discern
it, and we're going to applyit properly. The next thing is to
(07:23):
honor where you are. So oftenwe compare our middle to people's end,
and sometimes we need to sit inhonor where we are. If you have
a keen understanding of where you are. It will better help you implement any
criticism or feedback that you receive,because then you can say, well,
(07:48):
this person told me that, andI know that this is absolutely something that
I need to work on, orthis is absolutely something that I already had
put in my strategy plan, thisis something that I knowitative, or this
is something that I'm already planning onrolling out. When you know where you
are and you have a keen senseof self, okay, a keen sense
(08:11):
of self, a clear, concise, truthful understanding of where you are and
who you are, you can betterhonor where you are and you can be
more respectful of the feedback and thecriticism that you are getting. So often
(08:31):
we have pushed and propelled this,this mantra of fake it till you make
it so much so that we ourselvesdon't even know who we are. We
don't have a keen understanding of wherewe are. So then when you don't
know where you are, you don'tknow how to proceed, You don't know
how to maneuver, you don't knowwhat the next step is. If you're
(08:52):
not being truthful with who you areand where you are. We have got
to begin to honor that, bevery proud of where you are. You
have to honor that because in thatyou can know how far you've come.
You can celebrate your success your successes, you can learn from your failures.
(09:15):
But if you take home that notionof fake it till you make it to
the point where you don't even havea truthful understanding about where you are in
this moment, it is going tobe very difficult to grow. And then
again you will be offended when youare criticized or when you are challenged.
(09:37):
So let's honor where we are.So often we don't take inventory of how
far we have come, and thenthen we're not able to be good stewards
of where we want to go andwhere we're going. So let's take a
minute to honor where we are,to say, like, this is where
I am. This is now Ican better understand my trajectory. Now I
(09:58):
can know what my next step is. I'm not comparing. I've understand and
celebrate my growth and my successes alongthe way. I know the things that
I have to look forward to,so I can better receive feedback and criticism
on something that I've put out,something that I'm working on something that I'm
(10:20):
working too because I've honored my place, and in every step that I go,
I'm going to honor that next place. The third and final thing is
find the favor. Don't focus onthe negative. So often when we experience
adversity, especially in the form offeedback or criticism, we just focus on
(10:41):
whatever the negative parts of that criticismare, and we're not looking at that
piece of criticism or that piece ofinformation and finding the favor. Right,
because if all things work together forour good, then we can absolutely find
the favor in what is said.If you are daughters and sons of the
(11:03):
Most High God, then your lifeis full of favor. So even in
adversities or even in your valleys,you can find the favor in where it.
Find the favor in the criticism,find the favor in the instruction,
and find the favor in those thingsthat make us uncomfortable. Right, find
(11:24):
and find and meditate what God saysand who He says you are, and
who and the promises that He's givenyou. That is what the focus should
be. If you harbor and meditateon the negative, then that is what
is going to manifest. So weneed to meditate and think on those things
that are only going to serve us, and stop focusing on the negative.
(11:48):
The negative doesn't serve you. Evenif it's true, the negative doesn't serve
you. You want to find thefavor. And every experience and three feedback
and every blog comment, find thefavor, make it positive, turn it
around. That is the only waythat you can move forward in faith.
(12:13):
You must find the favor. Everythingis not going to be sunshine and and
and cali lilys and you know,all balloons and candles. Everything is not
going to be that. Sometimes you'regonna have to kind of, you know,
take those proverbial punches and you haveto roll with them, and you're
(12:35):
gonna have to find the favor,find the goodness, find the purity,
find the things that serve you,Find the things that line up to the
word of God, and it willhelp you to move forward in faith,
to move forward and strength, andto move forward with tenacity in your heart
and in your spirit. So thoseare my three things of how you need
(12:58):
to bad criticism. The first,again is to operate an excellence, do
your good work, don't allow yourselfto be offended. The second is to
honor where you are. You've comeso far and you should be so proud
of your moment. Sit in that, rest in that and know that you've
done well. And thirdly, findthe favor. Find the favor, find
(13:24):
the good thing. Look for thegood thing, Meditate on the good thing.
Don't focus on the negative. Itdoes not serve you. I am
so excited to have this moment withyou. I'm so excited to be here.
I am honoring where I am tofinally have the accomplishment of having this
very first podcasts on YouTube, excuseme on iTunes, and being able to
(13:54):
share my heart with you all.So please continue to join us. Sure
you hit the subscribe button so youdon't miss a moment of what I have
to share. My goal and mypurpose is to continue to pour into you
so that you can live, have, and manifest your very best life.
(14:15):
For more information, please feel freeto log onto my website Janelle Langford dot
com. Sign up for the mailinglist so that you don't miss anything,
miss any news, miss any moments, and be sure again to subscribe to
this podcast so that you can stayup to date with our next episode until
next time. I Love you,Love on somebody else,
I am so excited to be herewith you guys today. Today marks the
very first day when the podcast isofficially on iTunes. Yeah, I'm so
excited. I want to welcome youall those who are listening in for the
first time. I am Janelle Langford. I am the life stylist. I
(00:29):
am a life coach and a stylemaythn, which really puts together two of
my passions. I am very passionateand have purposed my life's work to empower
and equip women entrepreneurs, Christian womenentrepreneurs, specifically to excel in business,
(00:51):
to grow in business, and tolaunch their strategy and plans for their business.
And then, of course I haveworked in public relations for the last
twelve years, a specializing in fashionand beauty for Sweet Public Relations, which
was a company I started in twothousand and five. So I have great
(01:14):
affinity to the fashion and beauty industryand have also layered in some of my
styling services and expertise to the public. So I'm very excited about that.
I wanted to make sure that forthose who have been listening to the podcast
up into this point, that wenow can expand our audience to iTunes.
(01:38):
So this is the very first episode. All of the episodes are on iTunes,
but this marks the first one wherewe are officially on iTunes. So
today we are going to talk aboutcombating criticism. Combating criticism. Thank you
so much for joining me. Let'sgo ahead and get started. So a
(02:00):
lot of times when you are inbusiness, launching business, preparing for a
business, and also just dealing witheveryday life, we have to combat criticism.
Sometimes we get criticism that was unsolicited, and sometimes we get criticism that
(02:21):
is constructive. However, we maynot be ready to receive it, we
may not have the ability to interpretit, or we may not have the
bandwidth to discern what we are receiving. So today I'm going to give you
three quick tips and practices to bettercombat criticism. Now, sometimes when we
(02:45):
talk about criticism, we think ofit in the sense of being something negative,
and we have got to let thatnotion and understanding go mainly because even
if it is negative, it isall about how we receive it. Right,
So when we know that the weaponswill in fact form but they will
(03:07):
not prosper, then we can bettermaneuver through life with the understanding that all
things work for our good. Soit does not matter if you get criticism
that you feel may be hurtful orwasn't presented in a way that you can
(03:27):
best digest it. None of thosethings matter because we know all things work
together for our good. So whenwe are combating criticism, it is going
to best serve us to prepare andhave coping skills to best discern the criticism
that we are getting in to manageif it's something that we need to implement,
(03:52):
because just because we don't like howwe received it, or we don't
like the messenger, that even tous does not mean that it cannot be
utilized. So my first tip isto operate in excellence. I have met
so many people, business owners andnon business owners alike who are not operating
(04:18):
in excellence. We have to learnhow to do that. A lot of
times, the reason why we areunable to receive the criticism that we're getting
is because we know we're not doingthe right thing in the first place.
We know that, you know,whatever the subject matter is is a point
of contention for us because we areunsure of what we presented in the first
(04:43):
place. Because mainly we are notoperating with excellence. We are not operating
in excellence. That means that we'velaunched a website and we know that it's
not quite ready. That means thatwe have shared a service that we want
to offer but know that the jargonisn't correct on it. We know that
we are planning an event but don'tquite have the budget or haven't secured the
(05:08):
host that we said we were goingto secure. Right, So we're not
operating in excellence. And when youdon't operate an excellence, it makes you
more sensitive to criticism, whether itbe constructive or destructive, because we know
that we haven't done our part yet. If we put our best foot forward,
(05:32):
constructive criticism will only excel you andnot offend you. We easily get
offended when we don't have things inorder and properly aligned. Okay, So
perception is one thing about how we'rereceiving the information that's given to us,
(05:53):
but a standard must be upheld,and a lot of times we haven't done
our work, and we haven't doneit in excellence. Because now we live
in a society where everybody is tryingto push out something and everybody wants to
hurry up and be the top personand everybody is an expert, and everyone
has an area of expertise. Andwe are fighting for our point, and
(06:16):
we are fighting for our position,and we have left some stones unturned.
We have not crossed our tees,and we have not dotted our eyes,
which makes us more susceptible to beingoffended. The best way to combat that
part of criticism is to operate anexcellence. When you know that you have
(06:40):
done well, it is easier foryou to receive criticism and feedback that you
can then turn and use to serveyou. Right, because we're going to
approach it with the notion that allthings worked, all of those things,
knowing that all these things work togetherfor our good. So we're going to
(07:02):
operate an excellence. We're going toput our best foot forward. We are
going to receive the fullness thereof,and we will not be offended when we're
challenged. Right, we are goingto receive it, we're going to discern
it, and we're going to applyit properly. The next thing is to
(07:23):
honor where you are. So oftenwe compare our middle to people's end,
and sometimes we need to sit inhonor where we are. If you have
a keen understanding of where you are. It will better help you implement any
criticism or feedback that you receive,because then you can say, well,
(07:48):
this person told me that, andI know that this is absolutely something that
I need to work on, orthis is absolutely something that I already had
put in my strategy plan, thisis something that I knowitative, or this
is something that I'm already planning onrolling out. When you know where you
are and you have a keen senseof self, okay, a keen sense
(08:11):
of self, a clear, concise, truthful understanding of where you are and
who you are, you can betterhonor where you are and you can be
more respectful of the feedback and thecriticism that you are getting. So often
(08:31):
we have pushed and propelled this,this mantra of fake it till you make
it so much so that we ourselvesdon't even know who we are. We
don't have a keen understanding of wherewe are. So then when you don't
know where you are, you don'tknow how to proceed, You don't know
how to maneuver, you don't knowwhat the next step is. If you're
(08:52):
not being truthful with who you areand where you are. We have got
to begin to honor that, bevery proud of where you are. You
have to honor that because in thatyou can know how far you've come.
You can celebrate your success your successes, you can learn from your failures.
(09:15):
But if you take home that notionof fake it till you make it to
the point where you don't even havea truthful understanding about where you are in
this moment, it is going tobe very difficult to grow. And then
again you will be offended when youare criticized or when you are challenged.
(09:37):
So let's honor where we are.So often we don't take inventory of how
far we have come, and thenthen we're not able to be good stewards
of where we want to go andwhere we're going. So let's take a
minute to honor where we are,to say, like, this is where
I am. This is now Ican better understand my trajectory. Now I
(09:58):
can know what my next step is. I'm not comparing. I've understand and
celebrate my growth and my successes alongthe way. I know the things that
I have to look forward to,so I can better receive feedback and criticism
on something that I've put out,something that I'm working on something that I'm
(10:20):
working too because I've honored my place, and in every step that I go,
I'm going to honor that next place. The third and final thing is
find the favor. Don't focus onthe negative. So often when we experience
adversity, especially in the form offeedback or criticism, we just focus on
(10:41):
whatever the negative parts of that criticismare, and we're not looking at that
piece of criticism or that piece ofinformation and finding the favor. Right,
because if all things work together forour good, then we can absolutely find
the favor in what is said.If you are daughters and sons of the
(11:03):
Most High God, then your lifeis full of favor. So even in
adversities or even in your valleys,you can find the favor in where it.
Find the favor in the criticism,find the favor in the instruction,
and find the favor in those thingsthat make us uncomfortable. Right, find
(11:24):
and find and meditate what God saysand who He says you are, and
who and the promises that He's givenyou. That is what the focus should
be. If you harbor and meditateon the negative, then that is what
is going to manifest. So weneed to meditate and think on those things
that are only going to serve us, and stop focusing on the negative.
(11:48):
The negative doesn't serve you. Evenif it's true, the negative doesn't serve
you. You want to find thefavor. And every experience and three feedback
and every blog comment, find thefavor, make it positive, turn it
around. That is the only waythat you can move forward in faith.
(12:13):
You must find the favor. Everythingis not going to be sunshine and and
and cali lilys and you know,all balloons and candles. Everything is not
going to be that. Sometimes you'regonna have to kind of, you know,
take those proverbial punches and you haveto roll with them, and you're
(12:35):
gonna have to find the favor,find the goodness, find the purity,
find the things that serve you,Find the things that line up to the
word of God, and it willhelp you to move forward in faith,
to move forward and strength, andto move forward with tenacity in your heart
and in your spirit. So thoseare my three things of how you need
(12:58):
to bad criticism. The first,again is to operate an excellence, do
your good work, don't allow yourselfto be offended. The second is to
honor where you are. You've comeso far and you should be so proud
of your moment. Sit in that, rest in that and know that you've
done well. And thirdly, findthe favor. Find the favor, find
(13:24):
the good thing. Look for thegood thing, Meditate on the good thing.
Don't focus on the negative. Itdoes not serve you. I am
so excited to have this moment withyou. I'm so excited to be here.
I am honoring where I am tofinally have the accomplishment of having this
very first podcasts on YouTube, excuseme on iTunes, and being able to
(13:54):
share my heart with you all.So please continue to join us. Sure
you hit the subscribe button so youdon't miss a moment of what I have
to share. My goal and mypurpose is to continue to pour into you
so that you can live, have, and manifest your very best life.
(14:15):
For more information, please feel freeto log onto my website Janelle Langford dot
com. Sign up for the mailinglist so that you don't miss anything,
miss any news, miss any moments, and be sure again to subscribe to
this podcast so that you can stayup to date with our next episode until
next time. I Love you,Love on somebody else,
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