To Love Honor and Vacuum

To Love Honor and Vacuum

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!... Show More

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So often I hear the sentiment that the reason so many good christian guys are using porn is that their sexual needs are not being met by their wives. Not only is this blaming wives for their husband's sin, but it simply isn't true most of the time. So I am going to talk about this issue and lay down some facts about why porn use starts, how it affects mirriages, and how we can move past it!
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November 21, 2019 28 min

My husband who is a pediatrician joins me on the podcast to address a slew of reader questions about erections. There's really not much more to say than that!
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Today let's talk about a very serious topic. With all the cases of pastors and other influential people in church using their power to sexually abuse members of their congregations, and the recent news about Christian comedian, John Crist, I want to talk about how to recognize the patterns and processes of people who are trying to groom others for their own purposes.
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November 7, 2019 30 min

My grandson is 2 weeks old now, so I will be talking with my daughter about the difficulties of the road to recovery after a baby. It's a topic that people often don't talk about, but it is so important to have understanding and compassion for those going through it. On a related note, I also address a reader question about overcoming vaginismus.
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Today is Halloween and the last Thursday of the month, which means I am once again speaking to you men out there. And this week we are talking about how to start those uncomfortable conversations about sex with your wife when you think you should both be getting more out of your sex life.
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Today Rebecca and I talk about one of the big ways in which we as women today are making our lives a lot more difficult than they need to be. So let's talk about areas of expertise, social comparisons, and asking for help when we need it.
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Today we are answering reader questions from marriages that are past the honeymoon stage and are now working on sorting life out. One reader asks what to do when your husband won't come to bed with you and stays up playing video games. Another asks if it is wrong to want a great marriage, not just a fine one. And a third reader asks what to do if your husband who is hooked on games wants to buy an Xbox at the same time your ... Read more

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Kicking off October's series on the stages of a sex life, we are addressing a number of issues and questions regarding the beginning of marriage. We will be talking about boundaries during engagement, what to do when the honeymoon years of sex aren't as mindblowing as you expected, and why the best sex is usually had after 15 years of marriage!
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I have had many women asking me to do a podcast for men so they can get their husbands to listen and understand women better. So, starting this week, the last Thursday of each month will be a men's episode called "Start Your Engines." Ladies are of course still welcome to listen in, as it's still relevant for you, but I am speaking more directly to the men here. We start off our first episode giving an overview o... Read more

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This is a long one. Recently, the author of Love and Respect sent out an email to his readers addressing some complaints he often receives about how his teachings from the book are applied. And his response sent up a sea of red flags. So, I have brought my husband on to discuss our issues with it. If you want to check out the blog post that accompanies this podcast, you can find it Read more

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September 12, 2019 38 min

What do economics have to do with your sex life? More than you'd think. Today I talk about that in depth, and also address reader questions and comments about how to live with joy together in the middle of the mundane. Finally, Rebecca and I address the criticisms we have received for teaching women how to reduce their risk of being sexually assaulted. Check out the Read more

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Let's talk about how a seemingly small financial decision can have a domino effect that may create stress in your marriage. Also, how can we use routines without letting them take over our lives? Don't forget to check out the amazing "Get Your Marriage On" app, and check out the blog at Read more

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We're going to be getting a little academic today as I look at the Greek and the Hebrew used in the Bible to shed some light on the discussion about what it means for the man to be the head of the family. Rebecca and also talk about family support and family boundaries. As always, check us out on To Love Honor and Vacuum! Read more

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I think we often go looking for marriage advice hoping for some easy fix that doesn't really require effort or change. But that's not how to get the most out of marriage. Starting now,  the blog and the podcast will both be focusing on action steps. Each week, I will issue a challenge to help you grow your marriage. Also in this episode, I address a reader question about dating a long-distance woman who lives with a high... Read more

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We have had a lot of conversations on the blog about modesty recently, and questions about yoga pants and women who wear revealing outfits at church always come up. In this episode, My daughter, son-in-law, and I go in depth on the topic to break down some of the unhealthy teachings and talk how to build each other up in Christ!
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August 8, 2019 45 min

In light of recent events, I want to talk about the isolation and loneliness pervasive in today's society and address what we can do as individuals, parents, friends, and church members to connect with one another on a more effective level. As always, check out the blog for all of the extras right here!<... Read more

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August 1, 2019 42 min

This month I am focusing on taking back "sexy", so for today's podcast we are discussing how sexy isn't shameful. My daughter comes on to talk about lingerie that can make you feel sexy and comfortable at the same time. I also talk about how sometimes it would benefit us to adopt a broader approach to our faith rather than to become immobile or ineffective due to a narrow spiritual world-view. Check out the extra... Read more

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Today, Joanna, Rebecca, and I talk about some sad recent news in the Christian world and talk about the current status of the purity culture. Check it out on the blog here!



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Sometimes the way we talk about dating and marriage with our kids can seriously hold them back when it comes to finding a good spouse. But there are ways that we can set them up with the tools to succeed when the opportunity arises. Rebecca and Joanna also go on to discuss what to do when your relationship with your college-aged kid starts to become strained. Be sure to check out all the extras on the blog Read more

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Today I am on vacation so Rebecca, Connor, and Joanna take over to talk about how putting systems in place can take a lot of the stress out of marriage and how to be sensitive when talking to people about pregnancy. For all the extras, check out the post here!



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