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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We get a message from a DM asking for our help, Lenny.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Yes, we did so.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
I got a GM from somebody a few days ago,
and essentially she rekindled with an old boyfriend from ten
years ago two months ago to the medeting for two months.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
She's recently divorced, so she.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Hasn't dated in a long time, and now she's wondering
how to handle Valentine's Day. They haven't spoken about it.
So I asked her because she DM me. I said, well,
did you ask him his thoughts on it? Because she goes,
I don't know how to approach Valentine's Day. She said, no,
I'm afraid to mention Valentine's Day and put pressure on him.
I'm totally chill of the day and not a girl
who wants a lot, but I'm afraid not to do
(00:36):
anything at all.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
We talked about this last week. What do you do?
What's the right thing to do for Valentine's Day?
Speaker 4 (00:45):
It's hard around any holiday when you're newly dating someone.
My two cents, you need to acknowledge it. Don't go overboard, right, yep.
Do something little just to acknowledge it, to make him
know that you're thinking about him.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
And that's it.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
That's what I would do.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Well.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
My thing is she's asking us about it.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Clearly she's not chill about the day, because if she
was really being chill about the day, she wouldn't be
dming me asking for advice about how to approach it.
I think she cares more than she wants to let on.
And they have not had the exclusive talk yet. I
asked her that, so I don't know. Maybe because she'dre
not exclusive, she's thinking they shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Again, it doesn't hurt to acknowledge it, right in some
small way if you're dating someone. But if they haven't
had the conversations, he I didn't know that. If they
didn't have the conversation that they are not exclusive, then
that's a problem.
Speaker 5 (01:37):
Yeah, if I'd like a follow up on this because
after Valentine's Day, because if I'm the guy in this situation,
I have something planned.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Yeah, that's just.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Me, even after two months.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
Even after two months, and they have a history. They
dated ten years ago, so they have a history there,
so it's not just two months right either way. If
I'm really it really is are you? Is he really
into her? If he's really into her. I would have
something plan for sure, and I have gifts and all that.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I'm so glad you said that, justin because I said
to her, I don't believe it's your responsibility to set
the tone for this.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
I think it's him just at the tone, which he
may be.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
He might have something planned.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
I know, but it's it's Wednesday and he hasn't talked
to her about the plan yet.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Right, Well, yeah, it's yeah to be a surprise, but
she could have approached it a few weeks ago.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
But like, hey, Valentine's coming up, Like did you want
to do something or not?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
The fact that she's so afraid to even bring it
up means she doesn't think he's on the same page.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
Yeah, there might be a disconnecting.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
There might be might be something going on, especially.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Say the words would you be my Valentine?
Speaker 4 (02:38):
I think I think you billy. I think that's cute
because then at least you know if you're exclusive. See
right now, she doesn't know someone else, right, Yeah, and.
Speaker 5 (02:48):
He might not have a dinner plan, but he might
have something a gift he might bring to her on Wednesday.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Well, yeah, I mean, it's not a big deal. Valentine's Day,
maybe a dinner or maybe just flowers or something to
acknowledge it.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Yeah, I agree. I think in all my years of
dating and stuff like that and making so many mistakes,
go with what you want to do. Like, if she
feels like she wants to get him something small and acknowledging,
she should do that because that's who she is, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah, I just think she's thinking too much.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
About it whatever Valentine's Day. Don't know a lot of
people get engaged on Valentine's Day when I make that up.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Well you could, I'm sure they do.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
I just think Valentine's Day is a super important holiday
early in relationships, the first under a year, you know,
around the year, two years. As you're with somebody longer,
obviously you acknowledge it, but it's so important earlier.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
You're right, If that first piece of jewelry is given
to you on Valentine's Day, you will never give it away.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
You'll always have it.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
I always went all out early on Valentine's Day. Nowadays
it's the you know, I don't want to do anything
for Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Every year she says that to me, let's do nothing
that Michelle does. No, that's a trap.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
No, we don't fall for that.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Yeah, yeah, you have to come in hot.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Yeah so I already have her her gift planned out.
So yeah, I always acknowledge it for sure.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Well, I think that you're an awesome husband for doing that.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Oh thank you, Lisa.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
But I do get back to that.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I do think you're right that the beginning stages of relationship,
that's the only time Valentine's Day actually even really counts.
Probably and if they're not having this conversation, he probably
might not be that into it with her.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
Yeah, I know, I wish we'd talked to her.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Well again, like if he hasn't made a plan yet,
I'm a little worried
Speaker 1 (04:38):
He has a plan, but it's with someone else exactly
We get a message from a DM asking for our help, Lenny.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Yes, we did so.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
I got a GM from somebody a few days ago,
and essentially she rekindled with an old boyfriend from ten
years ago two months ago to the medeting for two months.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
She's recently divorced, so she.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Hasn't dated in a long time, and now she's wondering
how to handle Valentine's Day. They haven't spoken about it.
So I asked her because she DM me. I said, well,
did you ask him his thoughts on it? Because she goes,
I don't know how to approach Valentine's Day. She said, no,
I'm afraid to mention Valentine's Day and put pressure on him.
I'm totally chill of the day and not a girl
who wants a lot, but I'm afraid not to do
(00:36):
anything at all.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
We talked about this last week. What do you do?
What's the right thing to do for Valentine's Day?
Speaker 4 (00:45):
It's hard around any holiday when you're newly dating someone.
My two cents, you need to acknowledge it. Don't go overboard, right, yep.
Do something little just to acknowledge it, to make him
know that you're thinking about him.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
And that's it.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
That's what I would do.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Well.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
My thing is she's asking us about it.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Clearly she's not chill about the day, because if she
was really being chill about the day, she wouldn't be
dming me asking for advice about how to approach it.
I think she cares more than she wants to let on.
And they have not had the exclusive talk yet. I
asked her that, so I don't know. Maybe because she'dre
not exclusive, she's thinking they shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Again, it doesn't hurt to acknowledge it, right in some
small way if you're dating someone. But if they haven't
had the conversations, he I didn't know that. If they
didn't have the conversation that they are not exclusive, then
that's a problem.
Speaker 5 (01:37):
Yeah, if I'd like a follow up on this because
after Valentine's Day, because if I'm the guy in this situation,
I have something planned.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Yeah, that's just.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Me, even after two months.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
Even after two months, and they have a history. They
dated ten years ago, so they have a history there,
so it's not just two months right either way. If
I'm really it really is are you? Is he really
into her? If he's really into her. I would have
something plan for sure, and I have gifts and all that.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I'm so glad you said that, justin because I said
to her, I don't believe it's your responsibility to set
the tone for this.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
I think it's him just at the tone, which he
may be.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
He might have something planned.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
I know, but it's it's Wednesday and he hasn't talked
to her about the plan yet.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Right, Well, yeah, it's yeah to be a surprise, but
she could have approached it a few weeks ago.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
But like, hey, Valentine's coming up, Like did you want
to do something or not?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
The fact that she's so afraid to even bring it
up means she doesn't think he's on the same page.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
Yeah, there might be a disconnecting.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
There might be might be something going on, especially.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Say the words would you be my Valentine?
Speaker 4 (02:38):
I think I think you billy. I think that's cute
because then at least you know if you're exclusive. See
right now, she doesn't know someone else, right, Yeah, and.
Speaker 5 (02:48):
He might not have a dinner plan, but he might
have something a gift he might bring to her on Wednesday.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Well, yeah, I mean, it's not a big deal. Valentine's Day,
maybe a dinner or maybe just flowers or something to
acknowledge it.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Yeah, I agree. I think in all my years of
dating and stuff like that and making so many mistakes,
go with what you want to do. Like, if she
feels like she wants to get him something small and acknowledging,
she should do that because that's who she is, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah, I just think she's thinking too much.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
About it whatever Valentine's Day. Don't know a lot of
people get engaged on Valentine's Day when I make that up.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Well you could, I'm sure they do.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
I just think Valentine's Day is a super important holiday
early in relationships, the first under a year, you know,
around the year, two years. As you're with somebody longer,
obviously you acknowledge it, but it's so important earlier.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
You're right, If that first piece of jewelry is given
to you on Valentine's Day, you will never give it away.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
You'll always have it.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
I always went all out early on Valentine's Day. Nowadays
it's the you know, I don't want to do anything
for Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Every year she says that to me, let's do nothing
that Michelle does. No, that's a trap.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
No, we don't fall for that.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Yeah, yeah, you have to come in hot.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Yeah so I already have her her gift planned out.
So yeah, I always acknowledge it for sure.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Well, I think that you're an awesome husband for doing that.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Oh thank you, Lisa.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
But I do get back to that.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I do think you're right that the beginning stages of relationship,
that's the only time Valentine's Day actually even really counts.
Probably and if they're not having this conversation, he probably
might not be that into it with her.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
Yeah, I know, I wish we'd talked to her.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Well again, like if he hasn't made a plan yet,
I'm a little worried
Speaker 1 (04:38):
He has a plan, but it's with someone else exactly
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