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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Jay Sheddy, good to have you on the show. This
is so cool.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Global best selling author, award winning podcast host, chief Purpose
Officer of Calm, purpose driven entrepreneur, fifty million followers, and
you finally made it to the billion Lisa Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
This officially put you over the top. J.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
I'm so great for to meet you both. Thanks for
having me.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Well, we're happy you're coming to Boston. So what can
people expect? You know, with your on Purpose tour when
you come to the Box Center, you're saying there going
to be some surprise guests.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Yes, I'm so excited. I'm going to be bringing my
podcast for a live in person experience. I'll be interviewing
a very special guest for the audience. We'll be doing
a Q and A session so people can ask me questions,
the audience questions. I'll be leading us all in a meditation,
and so it's going to be a truly memorable evening.
And I can't wait for people to come out.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Can you tell us who these surprise people might be?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Jay, it might be coming out shortly. We may it's
definitely someone who's known for being in Boston. Let's say ah.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
But then again, if you told us, it wouldn't be
a surprise guest anymore.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
What did Jake exactly exactly? But I promise it'll be
worth it.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I gotta tell you, Jay, there's so many people I've
told over the past week that Lisa and I were
going to be talking to Jay Sheddy.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
They were overwhelmed.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Their immediate reaction was, Oh, my god, I love him
so much.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Oh I love that. That makes me so happy, And
send my love to them, please, I.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Shall, I shall.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Now I'm looking at a long list of other major
celebrities that you've had on, everybody from Kobe Bryant to
j Lo will Smith, Selena Gomez, and Benny Blanco.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I thought was a wonderful, wonderful interview, Jay.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Oh, thank you so much. They're the best. It was
incredible to have such a beautiful conversation with both of them,
and it was amazing to see people all over the
internet talk about positive masculinity and healthy love. And I
think it's made everyone hopeful to find real love again,
which is beautiful. Jay.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
You've been producing content for like ten years. You've been
helping people navigate this crazy world that we live in.
Why do you think people are craving all of these
types of conversations.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
I think lives, just if we're honest, got harder for everyone.
It's difficult, it's challenging, whether that be work, whether it
be outside of work, whether it be family. I think
people have more stress in their lives. People are busier,
they have less help, and so I think it's a
time when people are really seeking and I think also
at the same time, there's a great appetite for wanting
to build habits and improve their lives and improve their sleep,
(02:28):
and improve the quality of their relationships, which, by the way,
I believe are all good things because if we make
a difference when things are easy and things are a
bit better for us, then things become better for us
in the long term. So I think it's amazing that
people are opening up to all of these ideas, whether
it's through podcast, books, live events, and everything else.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Jay, let me ask you this, these are crazy times
right now. We keep hearing the words seeing the word anxiety.
People are very anxious. They're very nervous between in WAYA
and tariffs and the cost of things for your house,
for your home, for your family. If we were in
a session right now and we were telling you we
were anxious, we were freaked out. What would you tell us.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
The first thing I'd say is that's normal, and that's natural.
It's not a weakness. It's normal right now to feel anxiety.
It's natural to feel anxiety, and I think we need
to stop feeling like there's something wrong with us. If
we feel it, we almost think there's some glitch, or
there's some mistake we made, or that it's not meant
(03:32):
to happen. I think that's what's meant to happen. If
things are uncertain, we will feel anxiety. What I would
say is that in times of uncertainty, we often look
for certainty to feel stable. But instead of looking for certainty,
we should look for service. Look for opportunities to help
someone else, look for opportunities to make someone else's day.
(03:53):
Sometimes you'll relieve your anxiety quicker by trying to help
someone else than you will by trying to solve your
own I think we will find a lot more meaning
and a lot more connection if we help others more
than even trying to solve our own anxiety.
Speaker 4 (04:07):
I know that you talk a lot about the practice
of meditation, and I keep telling Billy that he needs
to meditate.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
But why should we all be doing it?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Well, I think it's because of what we just spoke about.
There's such a newfound, you know, origination of stress through
so many things. Whether it's you wake up in the
morning and you spill your coffee, or wait, you know,
you get to work and you're already fifteen minutes late
because of the traffic, or you get to a meeting
and you realize there's a task that's been incomplete. I
think there's so many moments in the day that creates trust.
(04:39):
So what we need is a practice that helps us
balance that out. We need a practice to bring us
back into feeling centered, and meditation does just that. So
what I often recommend to people is, if you're feeling stressed,
you're feeling like you're out of alignment today, breathe out
for longer than you breathe in. So breathe in for
accounter more and breathe out for more than four If
(05:01):
you exhale for longer than you inhale, it relaxes your
body and mind. Again, when your breath gets shallow and
your breath gets quicker, you want to deepen it and
slow it down.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
That's what I've been doing wrong. I'm breathing in the
wrong direction, a shallow breather.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Jay.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
If you don't mind, I want to read a couple
of your quotes and have you elaborate on you.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
If you don't mind, I love this one.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more
expensive it is to get home.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Please elaborate.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Yes, I shared that the other day. It's not one
of mine. It's someone that I shared earlier this week.
But no, I love that quote. It's I think for
so many of us we feel we maybe got on
the wrong job, or for so many of us, we
feel we got into the wrong relationship. And I think
a lot of us are scared of leaving something that
feels bad because we're scared of the unknown. But the
(05:52):
reality is, if we stay on that train for too long,
if we stay in that relationship for too long, with
that job for too long, it actually becomes harder to
find our way back. So it's never too late to quit,
it's never too late to pause, it's never too late
to stop. It's important to do that as soon as
you feel you can. So I try to encourage people
to not put this pressure on themselves to push something
(06:13):
or force something to work if it's not serving them.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Do you have a favorite book?
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I know you have two books out, but do you
have a favorite book that you always go back to.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Oh, that's a great question. One of my favorite books
of all time is probably Thinking Fast and Slow by
Daniel Kahnman. It's a brilliant, brilliant book really breaks down
how the mind works, how the mind tricks us, how
our thoughts work. I love that book.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Jay, you spent three years as amongk you were meditating
eight hours a day, and then you realize there are
a lot of similarities between that world and the digital world.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
How so well I found the connection between what I
was learning, and I was thinking, Wow, this would really
help people that I grew up with, and you know,
my generation and then every generation that's now living in
the digital world. I find that if you're living in
a constant digital landscape with a screen in front of you,
having practices and habits that allow you to detox and
(07:09):
disconnect or even more important. And so I'm grateful that
I've now been able to see the fruits of that labor,
because you know, just around ten years ago, it was
just an idea that now I've seen the impact of it.
It gives me even more confidence that these tools that
are thousands of years old are actually so practical and impactful.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
You're not still meditating eight hours a day, are you, Jaye?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Not even close, not even close. It's nowhere near. I
don't think I could. I don't think I could hack
that with my schedule. But I do go back to
the monastery every January with my wife to do that.
So we do go back and start our year there,
which is one of our favorite things to do.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Every time your name comes up, Jay everyone says, oh,
my god, I love him so much, but they also say, God,
he has the most beautiful blue eyes I've ever seen.
Do you hear how many times.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
A day do you hear that?
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I hear it often. I'm very grateful for it, but
I can't take any credit for them because I didn't
do anything for them. So it's one of those catch
twenty two situations where yeah, it's like, what do you
do when you didn't eard them or take credit for them?
So yeah, I'm grateful.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
So they're not contacts.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Definitely, definitely, No, I am kidding, Jay. I know you're
I know you're coming to Boston.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Have you been here much?
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Yes? I have. Yeah. I actually performed at the Wang
Theater I believe two years ago as well. So I've
been before. I've told it before. I've always loved coming
to Boston and excited to be there again soon.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
So how can people find you? You're here May fifteenth?
Where should they go to get tickets?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Yes, I'll be at the Wang Theater in May fifteenth.
Head to Jay Chetti dot Me Forward slash Tour for tickets.
It's Jay Setty dot me Forward Slash Tour and.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
The Wing Center Wayne Theater. Rather is a beautiful venue.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
As you know, you've done it before, which is why
you're coming back and doing it again.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Jay.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
We can't thank you when I for giving us the time.
I know you're really busy. Oh my god, fifteenth, can
you give up a few of your followers send them
our way.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
I'm just fifty million, Jake.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
I love it. I love it. You guys are the best. No,
and I can't wait to see you in the show.
Jay Sheddy, good to have you on the show. This
is so cool.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Global best selling author, award winning podcast host, chief Purpose
Officer of Calm, purpose driven entrepreneur, fifty million followers, and
you finally made it to the billion Lisa Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
This officially put you over the top. J.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
I'm so great for to meet you both. Thanks for
having me.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Well, we're happy you're coming to Boston. So what can
people expect? You know, with your on Purpose tour when
you come to the Box Center, you're saying there going
to be some surprise guests.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Yes, I'm so excited. I'm going to be bringing my
podcast for a live in person experience. I'll be interviewing
a very special guest for the audience. We'll be doing
a Q and A session so people can ask me questions,
the audience questions. I'll be leading us all in a meditation,
and so it's going to be a truly memorable evening.
And I can't wait for people to come out.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Can you tell us who these surprise people might be?
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Jay, it might be coming out shortly. We may it's
definitely someone who's known for being in Boston. Let's say ah.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
But then again, if you told us, it wouldn't be
a surprise guest anymore.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
What did Jake exactly exactly? But I promise it'll be
worth it.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I gotta tell you, Jay, there's so many people I've
told over the past week that Lisa and I were
going to be talking to Jay Sheddy.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
They were overwhelmed.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Their immediate reaction was, Oh, my god, I love him
so much.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Oh I love that. That makes me so happy, And
send my love to them, please, I.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Shall, I shall.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Now I'm looking at a long list of other major
celebrities that you've had on, everybody from Kobe Bryant to
j Lo will Smith, Selena Gomez, and Benny Blanco.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I thought was a wonderful, wonderful interview, Jay.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Oh, thank you so much. They're the best. It was
incredible to have such a beautiful conversation with both of them,
and it was amazing to see people all over the
internet talk about positive masculinity and healthy love. And I
think it's made everyone hopeful to find real love again,
which is beautiful. Jay.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
You've been producing content for like ten years. You've been
helping people navigate this crazy world that we live in.
Why do you think people are craving all of these
types of conversations.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
I think lives, just if we're honest, got harder for everyone.
It's difficult, it's challenging, whether that be work, whether it
be outside of work, whether it be family. I think
people have more stress in their lives. People are busier,
they have less help, and so I think it's a
time when people are really seeking and I think also
at the same time, there's a great appetite for wanting
to build habits and improve their lives and improve their sleep,
(02:28):
and improve the quality of their relationships, which, by the way,
I believe are all good things because if we make
a difference when things are easy and things are a
bit better for us, then things become better for us
in the long term. So I think it's amazing that
people are opening up to all of these ideas, whether
it's through podcast, books, live events, and everything else.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Jay, let me ask you this, these are crazy times
right now. We keep hearing the words seeing the word anxiety.
People are very anxious. They're very nervous between in WAYA
and tariffs and the cost of things for your house,
for your home, for your family. If we were in
a session right now and we were telling you we
were anxious, we were freaked out. What would you tell us.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
The first thing I'd say is that's normal, and that's natural.
It's not a weakness. It's normal right now to feel anxiety.
It's natural to feel anxiety, and I think we need
to stop feeling like there's something wrong with us. If
we feel it, we almost think there's some glitch, or
there's some mistake we made, or that it's not meant
(03:32):
to happen. I think that's what's meant to happen. If
things are uncertain, we will feel anxiety. What I would
say is that in times of uncertainty, we often look
for certainty to feel stable. But instead of looking for certainty,
we should look for service. Look for opportunities to help
someone else, look for opportunities to make someone else's day.
(03:53):
Sometimes you'll relieve your anxiety quicker by trying to help
someone else than you will by trying to solve your
own I think we will find a lot more meaning
and a lot more connection if we help others more
than even trying to solve our own anxiety.
Speaker 4 (04:07):
I know that you talk a lot about the practice
of meditation, and I keep telling Billy that he needs
to meditate.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
But why should we all be doing it?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Well, I think it's because of what we just spoke about.
There's such a newfound, you know, origination of stress through
so many things. Whether it's you wake up in the
morning and you spill your coffee, or wait, you know,
you get to work and you're already fifteen minutes late
because of the traffic, or you get to a meeting
and you realize there's a task that's been incomplete. I
think there's so many moments in the day that creates trust.
(04:39):
So what we need is a practice that helps us
balance that out. We need a practice to bring us
back into feeling centered, and meditation does just that. So
what I often recommend to people is, if you're feeling stressed,
you're feeling like you're out of alignment today, breathe out
for longer than you breathe in. So breathe in for
accounter more and breathe out for more than four If
(05:01):
you exhale for longer than you inhale, it relaxes your
body and mind. Again, when your breath gets shallow and
your breath gets quicker, you want to deepen it and
slow it down.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
That's what I've been doing wrong. I'm breathing in the
wrong direction, a shallow breather.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Jay.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
If you don't mind, I want to read a couple
of your quotes and have you elaborate on you.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
If you don't mind, I love this one.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more
expensive it is to get home.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Please elaborate.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Yes, I shared that the other day. It's not one
of mine. It's someone that I shared earlier this week.
But no, I love that quote. It's I think for
so many of us we feel we maybe got on
the wrong job, or for so many of us, we
feel we got into the wrong relationship. And I think
a lot of us are scared of leaving something that
feels bad because we're scared of the unknown. But the
(05:52):
reality is, if we stay on that train for too long,
if we stay in that relationship for too long, with
that job for too long, it actually becomes harder to
find our way back. So it's never too late to quit,
it's never too late to pause, it's never too late
to stop. It's important to do that as soon as
you feel you can. So I try to encourage people
to not put this pressure on themselves to push something
(06:13):
or force something to work if it's not serving them.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Do you have a favorite book?
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I know you have two books out, but do you
have a favorite book that you always go back to.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Oh, that's a great question. One of my favorite books
of all time is probably Thinking Fast and Slow by
Daniel Kahnman. It's a brilliant, brilliant book really breaks down
how the mind works, how the mind tricks us, how
our thoughts work. I love that book.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Jay, you spent three years as amongk you were meditating
eight hours a day, and then you realize there are
a lot of similarities between that world and the digital world.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
How so well I found the connection between what I
was learning, and I was thinking, Wow, this would really
help people that I grew up with, and you know,
my generation and then every generation that's now living in
the digital world. I find that if you're living in
a constant digital landscape with a screen in front of you,
having practices and habits that allow you to detox and
(07:09):
disconnect or even more important. And so I'm grateful that
I've now been able to see the fruits of that labor,
because you know, just around ten years ago, it was
just an idea that now I've seen the impact of it.
It gives me even more confidence that these tools that
are thousands of years old are actually so practical and impactful.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
You're not still meditating eight hours a day, are you, Jaye?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Not even close, not even close. It's nowhere near. I
don't think I could. I don't think I could hack
that with my schedule. But I do go back to
the monastery every January with my wife to do that.
So we do go back and start our year there,
which is one of our favorite things to do.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Every time your name comes up, Jay everyone says, oh,
my god, I love him so much, but they also say, God,
he has the most beautiful blue eyes I've ever seen.
Do you hear how many times.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
A day do you hear that?
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I hear it often. I'm very grateful for it, but
I can't take any credit for them because I didn't
do anything for them. So it's one of those catch
twenty two situations where yeah, it's like, what do you
do when you didn't eard them or take credit for them?
So yeah, I'm grateful.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
So they're not contacts.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Definitely, definitely, No, I am kidding, Jay. I know you're
I know you're coming to Boston.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Have you been here much?
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Yes? I have. Yeah. I actually performed at the Wang
Theater I believe two years ago as well. So I've
been before. I've told it before. I've always loved coming
to Boston and excited to be there again soon.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
So how can people find you? You're here May fifteenth?
Where should they go to get tickets?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Yes, I'll be at the Wang Theater in May fifteenth.
Head to Jay Chetti dot Me Forward slash Tour for tickets.
It's Jay Setty dot me Forward Slash Tour and.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
The Wing Center Wayne Theater. Rather is a beautiful venue.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
As you know, you've done it before, which is why
you're coming back and doing it again.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Jay.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
We can't thank you when I for giving us the time.
I know you're really busy. Oh my god, fifteenth, can
you give up a few of your followers send them
our way.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
I'm just fifty million, Jake.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
I love it. I love it. You guys are the best. No,
and I can't wait to see you in the show.
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