San Diego's number one rated sex, intimacy and love coach takes you on a passionate journey through all the forbidden questions you've always wanted answers to. Get clear, sensual, guidance to help you learn about your body, experience more passion and uncover hotter chemistry. Learn how to do all of it simply by tuning in and applying what you learned. If you're currently experiencing heartbreak, emotional pain or betrayal there are plenty additional episodes to help you get through it all. Tari's unique blend of wisdom, intelligence and humor takes complex and often uncomfortable subjects and breaks them down into something you can do something with, tonight! A must for anyone who wants to elevate themselves or their intimate relationship to the next level. The Closeness podcast is also a supplement to real world in-person and virtual coaching sessions. To schedule an appointment for you and your partner, fill out an intake form at


February 13, 2023 82 min

In this unprecedented interview read by the podcast host, a Closeness Client shares her struggles with intimacy and grapples with her desires for dominance and assertiveness in relationship. A two part interview with a "director's cut" version: commentary from the host, as well as an unadulterated interview. Does her experience hit home?


0:00 Intro

2:15 The basis of this interview

6:04 The unedit...

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Without a doubt, one of the number one reasons people struggle in long term, committed relationships, is because they feel like best friends or roommates at home. There's no passion or excitement! Nothing is moving forward, or things have gone stale. In this hour long episode you’ll learn how to immediately take the reins again and change that immediately. 


0:00 Intro

0:57 The Waiting game 


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Often the things we aren't doing in bed can be as detrimental as the ones we are. Here are ten reasons why your wife or girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you.

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An unusually intelligent and intellectual college student explores her boundaries of sexuality, and intimate desires. How men and women at the university level interact with each other these days in the dating world is different than what we've seen before. Together, we explore who should initiate and seduce in the bedroom, male and female nature, teaching inexperienced men how to have sex, what confidence looks like in a ma...

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0:00 Intro

4:45 Speak up for yourself

12:00 Speaking unconsciously for obnoxious lengths of time

20:26 Making her come well and relax often triggers women to talk

22:24 Learning to be open and in a receptive mode to welcome intimacy

25:58 Don't have sex with people you don't like sleeping with

27:02 Beating up your man for mistakes from his past that he has remed...

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The most difficult subject for any man to think about much less discuss is likely to be: keeping it up, getting it up and finishing too quickly. This is an episode you'll want to listen to with your partner because there are tools, tips and tricks in here for both men and women. Don't skip out on incredible intimacy when the answers can be found right here!


0:00 Introductions 

1:33 Finishing too ...

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0:00 Introductions

3:29 How exactly does a man learn to be dominant

8:06 What does healthy dominance mean?

14:30 When a woman is ready for sex before you are and understanding gender roles

16:15 What is sexual foreplay?

22:05 Women often can't express what they want

24:03 How do you handle bad results and fears

25:37 Welcome to Deep Listening™

29:04 What do women want in bed?

30:15 The s...

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0:00 Introduction and can you have it all? Recitals and disclaimers

2:44 In a nutshell

4:20 What does it mean to have it all?

9:40 Misunderstandings

12:40 Should one person be your everything?

15:21 COVID and Politics

16:26 Are you really perfect, just the way you are?

17:40 The Disney Fairytale

21:30 How Women Select mates

24:39 How men often think of intimacy

25:45 Great sex does no...

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Avoid these thirty expressions to have a better life

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One of the biggest questions of our time as it pertains to intimacy is whether or not a man should always "finish" when having sex. This episodes dives deep into the pros and cons and explores the little known avenue of pressure that women can place on men. Topics include:

0:00 Introduction

0:53 Societal expectations around finishing

1:33 Typical expectations around male ejaculation

9:10 Is a male orgasm bad...

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Please listen to this episode with your partner. Sexually inexperienced men do not get a lot of attention. Because this subject is so sensitive, there isn't much real world instruction around it either. In fact most men grapple with a great deal of shame and guilt around the subject and often will not reach out for help. This episode is for you. 


0:00 Introduction Cause and Effect

6:34 You're not alone 

9:11 Sex...

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One of the most difficult things someone can hear, is that their partner needs space. Nothing is clear, the terms are undefined, and once uttered it usually ends up in disaster. Tune in now to find out what to do.


0:00 Introduction

5:25 Malignant phrases

6:20 How to handle short term space

8:38 When she takes days, weeks and months of space

13:15 What you're supposed to know when she says she need...

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1:45 Actions speak louder than words

5:55 What do you actually owe the other person?

8:24 Do unto others as you would have them do unto you

10:36 When we invest ourselves too much and get overextended

13:54 Self care and taking care of ourselves

20:23 When you think you don't want anyone else but them

23:28 getting over your previous relationships

24:36 an exercise to show yourself you can get past thi...

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One of the biggest challenges of being alive today, is handling, processing, surviving and getting through a breakup. In this 90 minute episode I am going to help you get through it.


Intro 2:45

You are probably in crisis right now

7:09 We look for ways to resent our partner to get over them

8:05 Understanding the emotional scale 9:08 There must be a grieving process

10:20 The disaster of distra...

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Breakups are extremely painful and can often take months and years to heal from. But there are always warning signs and things we often ignore. In part one of this three part series, we help you identify what's working and not working right now in your current relationship, to see if it will last or if it's time to breakup, given how you're being treated.

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It's one of the most detrimental behavior patterns of our generation. Here's everything you need to know to recognize it, avoid it and if you are afflicted with this disease, how to cure it. CHAPTERS: 0:00 What is ghosting? 2:25 Why do people ghost? 6:25 When does emotional involvement begin? 10:17 Preliminaries and disclaimers 13:15 Having to make backup plans 14:41 Taking our own insecurities out on others 15:16 The m...

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What’s your definition of hot passionate chemistry? Do you believe that it’s just “there or it isn’t?” In this episode we will put that myth to an end. 

We’ll explore over twenty concepts including: 

- How to have naturally good chemistry with everyone around you

-Is chemistry for men inevitable or bound to happen regardless of what happens?

-How many kinds of chemistry are there? 

-How to have good chemistry by "...

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0:00 Intro

1:16 Is she asking for it? 

8:04 Men don't really like to be teased the way women do

8:43 You should always be able to say no 

9:43 He's reading your cues accurately if you're advertising sex

10:04 The same cues you use to flirt are the same cues people use to have sex

13:52 When a man takes you shopping... 




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In this unprecedented time of worry and concern regarding COVID-19 (or coronavirus), this is our corona-free offering to soothe you and help you relax: a sensual meditation to listen to again and again, anytime you need it. Think of it as a rampage of appreciation. We won't reveal much, but make sure you're in a comfortable and relaxing place before you listen. Fifteen minutes is just the right amount to help shift your foc...

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Countless Closeness episodes focus on how to pleasure a woman, but what can you do to take care of your man? Put down your magazine and let's get deep. Sure, we can talk about how to go down and how to arch your back, but what about the stuff everyone is afraid to talk about?


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