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Oh okay, I'm sorry. Ohhello, I didn't see you standing there
recording me. It's like the BlooperNews. You know, this is our
Friday episode that we call One GoodQuestion, where we take one question from
you and from sometimes us uh andwe answer it in roughly ten minutes.
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So we're gonna jump in here.I'm I'm Jim. There's Mike and Tiffany
are our trainer here at third Bar? Miss deadlifts, Miss deadlifts. Yeah,
I should ask a deadlife question,but that's not what I'm gonna do.
Here's a question. How do yoube a good consumer of coaching?
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Like, how do you be belike a good student or good client?
Yeah, a good client. Ithink asking questions is huge. I think
you should be a listener, knowwhat to ask, So like, if
you have a question, don't beafraid to ask your coach. Instead of
looking on social media for a lotof answers, I think you should go
straight to the source, reading abook, asking a certified personal trainer a
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question because a lot of it islike I can look at you and you
could ask me no questions and Icould say, okay, let's go do
a deadlift or let's go do bicep, curls or whatever. But if that's
not ultimately what you're looking for,if you don't, maybe you don't want
to lift, maybe you want todo cardio, or maybe vice versa.
Maybe you want to lift weights notdo cardio. How am I supposed to
know that if you don't ask questions? So I think really asking the question
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to your coach is going to helpyou in the long run because the more
you know when you're first starting off, as far as knowledge goes, the
better it's going to be for longevity. So, like, if I'm just
getting into this right and I don'tknow jack shit about technique for a movement
or nutrition or anything, how amI going to succeed at the end of
the day. How am I goingto maintain that momentum into like six months,
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you know, because they say ittakes a couple months for you to
build that habit. Yeah, sure, how am I going to do that?
If I don't know any answers,You're not going to You're going to
fall short. You're going to feellike, oh, well, I'm scoring
through social media and I just seepeople getting fit in thirty days, sixty
days, whatever. But in realitythat's not really true. Yes, you
know, it's it's just it's fuckLike, there's a lot of edits on
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social media. There's a lot oflike promises that aren't really given on social
media, and until you really doyour research and talk to somebody, you
don't really know anything for sure,and so you've got to have some knowledge
around that. So I think beinga listener and asking questions is huge.
Like, if you're coming to mefor coaching, you know, yeah,
no, I agree, I thinkyeah, naturally, for some reason,
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whether it's team sports or just socially, we always think of coaching is like
a one way road, right,like or like an authoritative position, where
a lot of coaching actually like isan authoritative it's not the same as a
boss. So I'd agree one hundredpercent that being like proactive with your questions,
with your needs. You don't wantto be like a hypochondriac and like
ask every little fucking hey, youknow, my left pinky toe hurts or
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some shit. But yeah, givingas much feedback and being really proactive online
in person is slightly different online,like being proact as everything, Like I'm
not emailing shit, like if you'renot coming to me with your videos or
your questions. I'm not chasing yourass around in person. There's obviously it's
more immediate for feedback, but Iwould agree, I would agree, And
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you don't have to be you don'thave to like know everything to be able
to ask certain questions or give certainfeedback and be as honest as you can.
Coachability or like being coachable, isthe term a lot of people use,
and like, I don't know ifthat's a skill you can like hone
in per se, you can definitelyput attention to it. It's like coachability
or being coachable typically means that yourespond well or quickly to feedback, and
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some people just like can't you know, And that's not necessarily a bad thing.
I mean, it's not a greatthing, but it's not something you
should get down upon either. Youknow, some people might need five reminders
before they do just five headed yeah, or I feel like some people just
can't absorb it as quick, especiallylike lifting weights has always been a difficult
thing to work on technique because you'retrying to move your body through space under
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very heavy load, and moving yourbody through space to begin with is difficult.
Now you're under load and doing it. So like, don't be a
you want to be open minded asbest you can. And I think that
you can work on but being coachable. I don't know if it's like inherent
or innate, but it's uh,it's a goal. But you shouldn't feel
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frustrated if you need reminders all thetime. Well that and like with lifting
weights, everybody's technique is so differentsure, so like it's not just a
one way road, so you haveto kind of try to figure out what
feels best for you because you shouldn'tfeel uncomfortable in any kind of lifting position.
You should feel like you're in yourmost optimal position. So sometimes that
can take time. Yeah, it'sall right away, it's just repetition.
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It's just all right, well thisdidn't work, let me try something else.
Maybe this will work. And thenonce you find it, you stick
with it and you build on it. That's how you get stronger. Yeah,
I think patients and trust would beanother one I would add to do
it. Yeah, because a lotof people like program hop is like an
old thing people used to talk abouta lot. I don't know how common
that is anymore, but now alot of people up coaches, coach hopping,
Yeah, coach, that's probably similarvibe streets. Yeah, but back
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in the day like very rarely,not rarely, but more rare, that
everyone had a fucking coach. Noweveryone seems to have a coach, but
kind of, like you said,it's going to take a time so to
have a little bit of trust becauseeven a coach, a coach is trying
to learn you just as much asyou're trying to learn the coach, and
so they can't always just like havea quick fix. Yeah, your dead
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lift just can't go up, evenif it's hypothetically the best coach on the
planet to ever exist. They can'tjust make your deadlift hop up one hundred
pounds in a month. So alot of it's you too, for sure,
Like a lot of it's your mindsetgoing into training, Like you know,
like for example, like if I'mdoing a one on one and maybe
let's say my client is a littlebit shyer, maybe not as opened up
to me, and let's say Isee that their knees bothering them, I'm
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gonna ask them and be like,hey, how you feeling, And nine
times out of ten they're gonna tellme exactly how they're feeling. But it
just takes them actually opening up toyou, and you may be asking that
initial question for them to feel comfortable, because sometimes people feel like they can't
tell you how they feel, rightbecause you're going to be disappointed in them
or whatever. So just that mindsetlike, oh, I can't I can't
ask this question because they're going tomake me do it anyway, or because
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they're going to be disappointed me,Like that's horrible. They should feel like
they're able to open up to you, able to talk to you about their
issues. That way you can helpthem in the long run, because in
reality, right, we're working outto be able to play with our kids
and we're sixty and not to bejust fit in our twenties, you know,
yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it is. Well anyway,
it's a long game. Yeah,you're in this for a long time.
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So the thing is, I thinkit even starts earlier than that, Like
it starts with choosing the person thanyou want to work with, and and
you're fit with them, and you'reright, you have to ask a lot
of questions of that person about thehandle situations, and then you have to
make a judgment about how challenged youwant to be sure by your communicating,
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by your your coach, you know, like how do you want somebody to
push you really hard? Or doyou want, you know, somebody to
hold your hand? Kind of Yeah, And I think the other thing is
just is is consistency m as aas a person who's being coached. If
you're if you're there all the time, the coaching works better. Yeah,
you have to show up to it. It's something that you're kind of investing
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in yourself. Like if you're payingfor what, you're asking me for advice,
so I'm here for that. I'mhere to give you advice. I'm
here to help you, to teachyou. And if you're not showing up,
how can I teach you? Yeah? Environment matters a lot obviously in
gym's like this, people tend tostick with things a little bit longer and
be more consistent. But like coachingout a commercial gym, yeah, people
are like yeah, they take liketwo sessions in a expect like shit to
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happen or like yeah, oh likeI know enough now, Like all right,
man, like good luck, LikeI'm not going to sit here in
car salesman you but like it takesmore than two times a week to see
any real progress, Like you haveto be doing it with your coach and
without your coach to really see trueresults and for you to gain any kind
of determination to finish for sure.I was just talking to I was with
the Jen Whederstrom a week ago.Is one of the best, one of
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my best friends, but also oneof the best trainers on the planet.
She trains anyone from a list celebritiesall the way down to Yeah, she
trains everybody. Uh. And Iwas talking about, like, how do
you know, how do people getthe foot in the door there? And
what does that look like? Andand she's trained NBA players, She's trained
everything. Wow. And she's talkingabout is like also like just like want
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to be someone like to hang outwith, Yeah, you know. And
so that's kind of a part onboth ways too, like being a client,
like being open minded, not justcoming and being a dickhead, you
know. And and understand that alot of people don't like working out.
I'm a fitness professional for twenty yearsand I don't I'm not always stoked to
work out. But when meen yousay abouts are filming or even we're working
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out, like I'm gonna put mybest foot forward. And I think that's
also on the client. Like everyoneexpects the coach to be that being happy,
and that's great and they should that'spart of the job, but also
the client to come in positive andas receptive as possible. Well also too,
because you're not always going to bemotivated. Like there are days I
wake up and I don't want totrain at all, for sure, But
I do it because I know Ihave an end goal that I want to
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get to and if I'm not makingprogress towards that goal, how you're ever
going to get there? Yeah?And you probably have a coach too.
I do. Yeah. And myfriend Jen again one of the best trainers
on the planet, she has acoach too. She's like, Yeah,
I got like a special pilates coachI go do twice a week and it's
just to push you. Yeah.It's well beyond just having knowledge and applicability,
having feedback. Yeah, exactly,it's somebody to push you to that
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next level, right, And likesome people are able to do it on
their own, which is great,like high five to them, sure,
but some of us we need thatextra push. And when a client who
is fresh. They've maybe never beento a gym before, or maybe they've
had experience in the past. Theymight have a negative outlook on the gym
setting itself because of the whole meattheadenvironment type thing or whatever. And so
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you now have to take that mindsetand help change that for them, which
is changing mindset is hard. Idon't care what anybody says. It's hard
to take somebody's mindset and be like, Okay, now I want you to
feel this way right away. Andmaybe the hardest thing though it is it
is. And so when you're teachingsomebody how to work out, a lot
of it is mindset too. Iagree. You know you're dealing with how
people feel. I don't think sous not really, I don't know.
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I don't know. I was listening. I was like, yeah, he
has got everything. Well that meanswe answer the question hopefully. Where can
they find you? Tiff shout outUnderscore Tiffany deadlifts and then at Third State
Barbell Easy ladies and gentlemen come onin tips here Often you can email her
DM or ever beater in person.I'm selling like where you want to find
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