Talk About Gay Sex TAGSPODCAST

• What if falling in love didn’t start with dinner? What if it started in a club, in a blur of bodies — and still became something real?
• Many gay men’s relationships don’t start with courtship — they start with attraction and physical contact (e.g., hookups on Grindr, at bars, in clubs).
• The hosts share how they met their partners...
• In the movie 'Paris: 5:59' Théo and Hugo meet literally mid-sexual encounter — and from ...

• Does winter make you crave intimacy more?

• Does cold weather make sex hotter… or loneliness louder?

• Do partnered guys feel pressure to perform romance?

• Do single guys feel invisible?

• Have you ever scheduled a hookup on Valentine’s Day on purpose?

  Valentine’s Day can amplify:

  • Body image insecurity

  • Couple envy

  • “Why am I still single?”

  • Fear of aging alone

  Hot Topic: Removal of the the P...

• How Pillion has reignited curiosity about the leather daddy archetype — and what that reveals about visibility, stereotypes, and lived experience in the broader leather and kink communities.
• We're talking about the premise of the Dom/Sub storyline as well as talking about the history of the leather community
• The hosts share personal stories of their involvement in the BDSM community and what it means to them
• Mainstream...

• What used to turn you on that now feels toxic?

• How do you define healthy desire now?

• Have your patterns in love changed?

• What does ‘hot’ feel like when you’re fully present?
• What does sex feel like when it’s no longer about validation?
• Hot Topic: $350 per month for the new Edge tier on Grindr???
• Hot Topic: 16k Floridians expected to lose HIV meds?
• Hot Topic: New data shows gay and bi people don't live as ...

• Outgrowing Your Sexual Persona
• Who were you when you first came out sexually? The hosts discuss...
• What labels did you grow into that no longer feel true?
• What parts of your sexuality have evolved with age?
• What messages did you internalize about aging as a gay man?
• What does sexy look like now vs 10 years ago?
• Sex Work, Power & Self-Expression
• Hot Topic: The Grammy's! We breakdown from the performances to who ...

What are some default settings gay men are taught?

• Chase validation

• Separate sex from emotion

• Confuse chaos with chemistry

• Avoid vulnerability

• Use apps for distraction instead of connection

• Treat intimacy as weakness

• Perform confidence instead of build it

• When our internal system needs a reboot
• The hosts share how they are rebooting both sexually and in their relationships...
• Hot Topic: Potent...

• We breakdown how some gay men are obsessed with being bigger based on a recent mini-doc "Behind the Bulk: The Hidden World of Gay Men on Steroids"
• The hosts share their own stories on their bodies, working out and how that has affected dating and more...
• “If anorexia is the terror of not being thin enough, swolexia is the terror of not being big enough,” narratively describing how these mirror anxieties function as oppos...

• Queerty collected a range of reader replies about locker-room encounters among men — showing sexual play in communal spaces has been part of queer culture lore.
• These spaces historically served as both physical and emotional zones where queer desire could surface when other options were limited.
• Have any of you ever felt that gyms/saunas were more than just physical spaces — maybe sites of connection, tension, or curiosi...

• It’s not just bad apps or lack of flashy photos — the real challenge of gay dating is that many men carry early-life conditioning around intimacy, rejection, and safety, which makes closeness feel threatening.
• Have you ever felt simultaneously craving connection and bracing for rejection?
• Do you think apps reward detachment over vulnerability?
• Endless profiles = decision paralysis
• Swipe interfaces can train people to...

•  Aging as a privilege in the LGBTQ+ community

•  The fact that many of us didn’t always imagine ourselves getting older

• Letting go of youth obsessed culture...
• Shifting from validation to self-assurance
• Does sex change as we age?
• Taking care of our gay health as we age...our sexuality makes our gay health unique
• Problems or issues that can arise as we age
• Aging as becoming more your ...

• Tonight's Sex Talk is based on gay therapist, Brian Spitulnik's take on "Heated Rivalry" and how gays emulate these types of gay relationships which may not be healthy for us....
• The hosts discuss past unhealthy relationships...
• Why we love watching 'Heated Rivalry'
• Intensity ≠ intimacy
• Obsession ≠ commitment
• Fantasy can be hot without becoming a blueprint
• “The love that changes your life doesn’t feel like a riva...

• The hosts are back and share their holiday and New Year's recent plans
• The hosts share their sex and relationship goals for the new year...
• Predictions and forecasts for the new year in sex and relationships including: Deeper Connections in sex and love due to 'Heated  Rivalry', App Fatigue, A.I., Meeting in Public, Sexual Health and more.
• Hot Topic: List of things stuck in rectums from the emergency room you won't bel...

• The hosts share an office party they've been too..
• We're reviewing the second half of Hot Topics in 2025 that made the headlines. Do they still hold up?
• Hot Topic: What's going on with Nicki Minaj?
• Hot Topic: Frankie Grande is confronted with a drunken man on stage...
• Hot Topic: Bob the Drag Queen is taking over!

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• The hosts share a theme song that would describe their sex and relationships in 2025
• Turn-ons that surprised us in 2025
• Patterns we're retiring in the new year...
• Boundaries that we set in 2025 and that we will carry into 2026
• The hosts share their sex and love lives in the past year...
• Rapid Fire of 'this' or 'that' in sex and relationships
• Hot Topic: PV is getting a makeover including a 'friendly zone'...
• Hot...

• The hosts start the office party by sharing their favorite personal moments of 2025 including some of their favorite sex moments...
• The hosts go down memory lane of the first part of 2025 sharing the top Hot Stories that made our headlines. There were many and we're reviewing some of the hottest.
• From the erasure of any mention of HIV on the White House website to the CDC erasing vital info relating to our community to A...

• The Post-Sex Reality Check - what happens? Cuddling & pillow talk?? Immediate showering??? Ghosting???? Or Avoidance of intimacy?????
• We break down the new hot show "Heated Rivalry" and how the characters reflect a lot of our community when it comes to sex and intimacy...
• Can casual sex built real intimacy??
• The hosts were talking about 2026 projections for sex and intimacy and now we're reading Todrick Hall's wish lis...

• The hosts share their Best sexual moment this year
• Did more sex = more connection or less?
• Did we have more orgasms than meaningful eye contact?
• How holiday season amplifies loneliness and horniness
• The hosts talk about tantra as a doorway to presence
• Sex projections for 2026 are made!
• Hot Topic: Breast reductions are the number 1 plastic surgery for cis gender men but is there a double standard for the Trans com...

• Post Nut Clarity: “It’s that moment right after orgasm where suddenly you’re like: ‘Why did I text him?’ ‘Why am I here?’ ‘Do I even like this person?’”
• The hosts share personal stories on when they experienced PNC...
• Some people feel zen. Others feel guilt. Others feel absolutely nothing.
• Casual hookup vs partner you’re connected to - does it make a difference with PNC?
• When there’s connection, communic...

• Why this day is still crucial (stigma + funding drops + reduced visibility
• The hosts unpack experiences growing up under the shadow of AIDS
• The hosts share the first images or warnings you heard about AIDS growing up?
• We share how it shaped our early feelings about sex, desire, or coming out
• Even when fear was everywhere — the desire never went away. The body never stopped wanting
• Friends/partners/hookups who chang...