Turning Point // Onwards and Upwards, Part 3

One of the things that this bit of a pause between Christmas and New Year affords us, is some time to draw breath and decide what we're going to do differently next year. So … as you stand on the threshold of a new year … what are you going to do differently next year?

Here we are in this funny week in between Christmas and the New Year and I thought (together) we might look back on the year that's been and forward at the year ahead. It's a bit of a turning point, I guess, between what's been and what's going to be.

Over the last couple of days, we've looked at the year in review – what's been. In particular, yesterday, we had a chat about dealing with the pain of regret. Today, I'd like to take one step further. We're going to look at turning things around. Just looking at your life, here and now – where you're at? What in your life would you like to see turned around?

Probably since calendar's were first invented, people have been making New Years' resolutions. You know the ones: "I'm going to lose some weight this year, I'm going to give up cigarettes and smoking, I'm going to achieve this, I'm going to work harder at that, I'm going to go to the gym every day." You know because you've been there. I've been there. We've done that, we've got the t-shirt. It's a natural thing to do in this funny little week between Christmas and New Year.

A lot of people, whether they're in the Northern Hemisphere in a cold winter or in the Southern Hemisphere here in a warm summer, a lot of people have this week off. And we like to look back at the things that have been and think, "Well, you know, it wasn't a bad year or it's a lousy year or I would have done this differently". And we also look forward – we dream, we hope, we plan. There's something, I don't know, wonderful about contemplating the next year in the New Year.

But it's also true that by and large, the resolutions that we make in this quiet Christmas/New Year period, well, they normally don't last. By the end of January, most New Years' resolutions have been broken at least a dozen times. And what we do after we break them because it's such an incredible sense of failure, "I didn't even get to the end of the first month of the year", you know that feeling – we bury them. We don't want to actually even remember that we made them because it's such an embarrassment that we failed so early.

Are you with me or am I the only one going out on a limb here?

But as we look back on this last year, there are some good things that happened to us and I guess there are some not so good, some bad things that happened. And you look at the bad things, some of those things are completely out of our control but some of the bad things that happen to us are within my control. They're because we do silly things and New Years' resolutions are generally about changing those things.

If someone's overweight, the reason (normally) that they're overweight is because they eat too much and they don't exercise enough. And so a New Year's resolution is taking those things that are in our control that are causing us grief or pain or just things we want to change and making a resolution of short-term pain for future gain.

Losing weight is about sacrificing in the short-term, not eating the chocolates and the biscuits and the cakes and all of those sorts of things, right? So that we can fit into our clothes again and we can feel better and we're healthier and we have more energy. The formula of the New Year's resolution is the same every time – short-term pain for future gain.

It's about achieving something. And you know when there are things that are in our control that are bearing bad fruit in our lives like over eating, like drinking too much, like smoking, like being super critical, like gossiping, like … the list, you know the list. We all know the list. We all have some of these things in our lives.

On the one hand, we can look at them and be really depressed and think, "I can't change that." On the other hand, we can look at them and say, "There is an incredible opportunity that awaits me here, to change my life for the better."

Thomas Edison I think, the man who invented the light bulb, said this, he said:

Opportunity is missed by most people because it's dressed in overalls and it looks like hard work.

You love that? I love that saying. Opportunity is missed by most people because it's dressed in overalls and it just looks like hard work.

When we want to turn something around in our lives, it requires effort and commitment as well as the decision. It's something that we need to stick with.

And that's the reason that we fail. That's the reason it can be tough. "I'm going to lose weight" and the first time we get hungry in the afternoon, we go and reach for the chocolate bar or we're going to reach for a piece of cake in the frid