Ep 26: Marisa and Christopher Discuss the Painful Experience of Losing Their Son and Feeling Mistreated by Medical Professionals Pt 2

Disclaimers:

This episode may contain sensitive topics related to infant loss. If these subjects are triggering for you, please listen with care. While there may be conversations about medications or medical treatments, I am not a doctor, and I am not offering any medical advice. Please consult an actual doctor for your own medical care.

In today's episode, Marisa and Christopher are back to share their experience with healing after the loss of their son Xavier. They're also talking about how and why they decided to go down the road to adoption.

The adoption process proved to be more difficult than they ever imagined, and they share the intense hoops that potential parents have to jump through to be considered to adopt a baby. When COVID hit, adoption became an even more difficult process, and this year, they decided to take a pause.

Their story is so remarkable because they have worked through the grieving together (as well as apart) and have grown stronger as a couple, in a situation where some marriages often struggle. Through therapy, honest conversation and time, they are continually working through how their son's death has changed them, the frustrations of adoption, and where to go from here.

What's in this episode:

• How they learned their new specialist was married to the doctor who performed Marisa's initial surgery [02:35]
• Why it's difficult to sue for medical malpractice [04:21]
• When and why they started down the road to adoption [05:32]
• How they worked through this as a couple and leaned on each other through their unique experience [07:36]
• How somatic therapy has helped strengthen them individually and as a couple [11:08]
• How getting an X tattoo for Xavier was a therapeutic healing experience for Christopher [14:15]
• How they started the adoption process and how intense it was [17:38]
• How things changed when COVID hit and why they decided to pause the adoption process [24:01]
• Questions and paths they've considered during the pause [27:51]
• Why it's difficult for them to consider adoption in light of recent abortion bans [30:45]
• The importance of staying open and honest and keeping each other's feelings in mind during this process [35:42]

 

If you're feeling alone on your own infertility journey, I invite you to tune in to this episode.

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