Beautification of Communication - The Communification Podcast

1. The spiral of silence is real

2. Responding to negativity looks different every day

3. How negative comments impact our personal lives

4. “Guru” mode vs. Two fists up

5. Some practical tips for dealing with the “haters”

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1. The SIMCA model has real application to REAL LIFE

2. Learning about “slacktivism” was a good reminder

3. Authenticity, passion, & inspiration can be found on social media

4. Knowledge isn’t only gained in one space

5. The amazing ways Kimi & Melissa have used social media to generate pro-social collective action online

Show notes: https://www.malikadudley.com/show-notes

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1. What is slacktivism?

2. Does online collective action help or hinder boots on the ground activism?

3. The shocking research results on white nationalist propaganda

4. How we can avoid getting sucked into the echo chamber

5. How we can help the causes that really need it

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1. An introduction to SIMCA - the social identity model of collective action

2. How identity, injustice, and efficacy factor into the effectiveness of collective action

3. Are you impacted by the spiral of silence?

4. How social media aids and hinders collective actions online

5. Online and offline collective actions and how they interact

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1. Online dating while traveling can be tricky

2. When the pool of available singles is small, online dating can help open up options

3. Safety first, ALWAYS

4. A lot of the men she’s encountered online are MARRIED

5. Finding the right balance of self-disclosure in your bio is challenging for women with safety concerns

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1. Knowing what you want/need simplifies the process.

2. Misrepresentation happens, and some people might even have a blind spot for their fatal flaw. 

3. Details on a study that is “everything wrong with our society in one place.”

4. Misrepresenting yourself doesn’t help anyone.

5. Our personal experiences with the “latency period” have garnered a range of results.

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1. Online dating is quite the journey no matter your sexual orientation and gender

2. Online dating is “work”

3. Meeting face-to-face quickly helps to not “waste time” on a relationship that won’t work

4. Meeting face-to-face quickly sometimes leads to uncomfortable (potentially dangerous) consequences

5. According to our cisgender male guest, “Men are lazy” 😂

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1. Self-presentation is the tool by which we manage other people’s impressions of ourselves. Dr. Hall explains. 2. As soon as we think we might want to get to know someone, our desire to reduce uncertainty goes really high. 3. Online we engage in what Dr. Hall calls strategic self-presentation. What is that? 4. Online “misrepresentations” are sometimes what some researchers call a “promise.”

5. Move to in person conversations as qu...

1. How aggression feeds into our digital addiction

2. Are we being used as pawns?

3. Where is the line between activism and cyberbullying?

4. Using the rules of publishing, social media tools to navigate this

5. Parenting and cyberbullying - what’s the plan?

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1. Our “mean girl” experiences were a sign of the times
2. Malika’s defense mechanism for trauma
3. Balancing freedom of speech, exposure to tech, and safety
4. Lyssa fell into a bad crowd because they accepted her & didn’t judge
5. The internet is the wild, wild west

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1. Eighth grade seems to be the tipping point

2. We learn new terms: doxing, flaming, trolling, cyber stalking…

3. How the five trials of adolescence (physical, parental, social, occupational, sexual) factor in to cyberbullying

4. How the Skills Deficit Model & General Regression Model help to explain cyberbullying

5. When bystanders should and shouldn’t intervene

6. How to prevent cyberbullying: the rules o...

Main takeaways:

1. Body ideals change, as does our own body image

2. Transparency, authenticity and awareness are key

3. Designing our social media environment is so important

4. The relationship between desirability and self worth

5. A reflection of our own personal struggles, and the strategies we’ve used to overcome them

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1. More than 50% of young people are unhappy with the way they look.

2. Body dissatisfaction is not just a problem for young girls, but for women, young boy, and men too.

3. Beauty ideals are very specific. It’s hard to achieve something that is simply unattainable.

4. We tend to make upward comparisons. How does that impact us?

5. You have control. You create your social media environment. Be intentional with what you create for y...

Malika went back to grad school after a 15 year break - to finish what she started and to pursue her passion for communication theory. 

In the Spring of 2021, she auditioned to be student speaker and was selected by the selection committee. It was her great honor to represent the Class of 2021. 

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1. We all know prolific liars AND transparent liars… but it’s nice to know that most people are honest most of the time.

2. When we were younger, we were liars.

3. Mika shares how she lost trust in an ex-boyfriend after incriminating texts surfaced.

4. Malika shares a personal story that will hurt your heart.

5. A discussion about “fake news” from the perspective of two jo...

1. You can be honest and not be rude. You can be honest and protect your privacy. It’s not all or nothing.


2. We learn about both the positive and negative consequences of lying.


3. How honest are people really? Dr. Levine shares his research.
 

4. We break down demeanor. Can you tell someone is lying by their body language alone?

5. We talk about deception and relationships. Is it easier or harder to detect lies in our close rel...

1. You are not alone. We commiserate on trying to integrate technology into our lives in a healthy way.

2. The pandemic has made it even harder - and yet technology has also helped us get through the pandemic without going crazy.

3. Learning and adapting to the world our children are growing up in.

4. How recovering perfectionists can use “bumpers” to help guide us. 

5. What 5-year-old Wai...

1. Phubbing can result in negative social and psychological outcomes

2. Why people don’t like being phubbed

3. How parents can set healthy expectations for their digital use when in their children’s presence

4. Balancing using the phone for professional reasons, personal reasons, and engaging with our children

5. The surprising research-based strategy that has been a god send for Malika and her family

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