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April 18, 2023 28 mins

This week is Part 1 of a 2 part series all about creating the identity & life that you want TODAY!

The brain will always move you towards the direction of who you say you are, so if you continue to proclaim an identity that you're unable to be today, then you'll live in suffering and resistance every single day.

Letting go not only decreases your resistance to WHAT IS, but it also creates space to become the next highest version of you.

 

[1:28] Why as long as you are attached to the past versions of yourself, that’s where you will always be held to

[1:58] How holding onto the past creates resistance between where your life is & where you want it to be

[3:04] Why you need to look at what parts of your identity need to be let go, so you can get out of suffering

[4:30] How dancing was an integral part of my identity as a teenager & how I evolved when I lost this ability for 6 years

[6:30] What losing my ability to dance (again) at the height of my professional dance career & in my 30s taught me about letting this part of my identity go and the grieving process

[10:31] How letting “Ashleigh the professional dancer” go decreased my suffering & allowed me to CHOOSE who I wanted to become (instead of living in the past)

[11:20] How suffering increases from living in the resistance of where you are today because you just want to be where you were & how to change this destructive pattern

[12:59] Why you need to start thinking about who and what your identity is still attached to that is in your past but isn't in your life today & how to let this go

[13:51] How the detachment you can feel from your past identity can be a beautiful sign of your healing journey

[16:07] How to honor the different seasons of your life by becoming more present in the season you are currently in

[18:10] What identity are you still attached to that's causing you suffering because you aren’t able to be that person or do that thing today?

[19:59] How constantly wanting to “go back” to a former version of ourselves or former version of our lives creates so much suffering & actually takes our power away from us

 

“What do you need to let die, so that you can live today.” -Ashleigh Di Lello

MAKE SURE TO JOIN ME FOR NEXT WEEK’S EPISODE PART 2 about creating your new identity for who you want to be NOW!

 

“You are not what happens to you, you are who you choose to become” -Ashleigh Di Lello

JOIN MY FREE MONTHLY COACHING CALL “Ask Ashleigh” → https://ashleighdilello.com/askashleigh/

 

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