Ep12: Friend or Foe

What is a toxic friend? They can come in many shapes and sizes, but the overall characteristic of a toxic friend is negativity! 

Point 1. What makes a friend toxic?

1. The negativity can be explicit or implicit! If it is explicit, you can pick up on the negativity every time you hang around them. If it’s implicit, it’s harder to detect and it’s a lot of background shade happening
2. They look to hold you back or stunt your growth in some way. Most times it has nothing to do with you personally, and has everything to do with their own insecurities, but that doesn’t mean you should keep them around
3. They can be manipulative by playing on your weaknesses and vulnerabilities, and that’s what makes them soooo toxic to be around!

Point 2: How to get rid of a toxic friend

1. Option A: Make a clean cut without explanation! You don’t owe them any explanation as to why you don’t want to be their friend anymore… they know what they’re doing and it shouldn’t be a surprise
2. Option B: Put a 12ft pole between you and that person. If you know what they’re doing is because of their own insecurities, and you don’t necessarily want that person out of your life completely… then keep them at a distance sis
3. Option C: Expose, Educate, and Evacuate! This is where you expose them to what they’re doing if you think they aren’t fully aware of their actions. Then you educate them on how to possibly fix the behavior in the future, and then evacuate from the friendship!

Point 3: Normalize making new friends in adulthood!

1. Don’t get caught up on how long you’ve known a person! If that friendship is no longer serving you, cut them off! PERIOD.
2. Get friends that align with your purpose and your passions! These friends will naturally come and gravitate towards you the more you focus on doing the things you love.
3. Pray about it! Ask God to eliminate all of the toxic friends in your life and replace them with loving friends that uplift and support you through the ups and downs!

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