August 29, 2025 • 24 mins
Fat positivity hurting loved ones, dating transgender radicals, getting kicked out of the LGBTQ friend group, and more! I react to your woke horror stories, personal life situations, and questions in this Voicemail Friday episode of the Brad vs Everyone podcast.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Fat positivity is killing my nephew, a crazy story about
a trans boyfriend, plus when politics breaks apart your family.
All this and so much more is coming up in
this Voicemail Friday episode of The Brad Versus Everyone podcast,
(00:23):
our daily show where we take on the craziest ideas
from across the Internet, our media, and our politics, all
from an independent perspective. On Fridays, I take voicemails from
you guys with your wo Kira stories, your personal life scenarios,
where you want my advice, and any questions you guys
have for me. Remember the link to send one of
(00:44):
those in is always in the description. Now, guys, we're
going to start with the genuinely sad one because the
fat positivity cult has claimed another victim, and this time
it's a child, which I think makes it all the
way or worse and all the more horrible. Let's take
a listen to a voicemail that was sent in from
(01:04):
one of our loyal viewers.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Hi, Brad, I only have a minute and a half,
so I'm gonna talk fast. Okay. So I have an
older sister, she has five kids. My sister is very
very liberal. She's very very, very very far left. She
has a seven year old son and he is morbidly obese.
He's like the normal height of a seven year old,
but he is probably about one hundred and seventy to
(01:29):
one hundred and eighty pounds. I am a five Oh
my god, she mail and ee weigh one hundred and
eighty pounds. If that kind of puts it in perspective
for you. He can't walk upstairs without having to brace
his knees, and it's just a really bad situation. And
he just keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
And my sister's not doing anything about it.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
She's really into the fat liberation body positivity movement, and
she's killing her son. She's killing my nephew, and I
don't know what to do about it. She is very
sensitive about things. She acts like it's not a problem,
and I am genuinely concerned for the help of my nephew.
(02:11):
How would you approach this situation if this were you?
Like I said, my sister's very very far left, very
in fat liberation, and she's very petty as well, So
I don't really know. I tread lightly, but yeah, any
advice would be great.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Love your show. Bye.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Well, thank you for the note, and I'm really sorry
to hear this happening. This is pulling out my heart
strings because like, I'm a big believer in live and
let live, And if people want to make unhealthy choices,
you know, adults want to eat that extra bag of Cheetos,
I would always encourage them to be healthier. I don't
really want to pay for all their additional health expenses
in the world. But ultimately, like, you choose your own path,
(02:50):
and if you know the risks and you just do
it anyway, that is on you. But when people do
this with their children, it really bothers me, Like, it
really horrifies me because those kids. I mean, you can't
expect a seven year old to overrule their parents and
assert proper nutritional boundaries. All of us, if given cake
(03:10):
for dinner at seven, would have just gobbled it up.
So I think it is absolutely terrible parenting. It is
really harmful. So you are one hundred percent right to
be concerned. Now how you approach it, I think depends
a lot on the dynamic with your sister. If this
was my sister, I would call her up and say, like,
(03:31):
wtf are you doing? I would just tell her one
hundred percent what you just said to me. Obviously, if
your sister is like a woki and she's fragile, or
she'll she's petty and she might just cut you off
or tune you out, or call you a bigot or
what have you, you have to take a different approach.
And so I think even these types might listen if
(03:52):
the information comes from a doctor. So one thing you
could try to do is figure out what pediatrician is
she taking your nephew too, and is it some crazy
activist or is it a normal pediatrician, Because if it's
any kind of normal pediatrician, liberal, conservative, non political whatever,
(04:12):
they will see a seven year old that is one
hundred and seventy pounds and say this is a problem. Mom.
You got to change his diet, you got to get
him moving, you got to help him lose some weight here.
So maybe you could explore trying to get your sister
to take him to a pediatrician who you know will
tell her what she needs to hear and actually do it.
The other thing you could try to do is take
(04:35):
an interest in your nephew. Maybe find a sport that
he likes that you could take him to play. Maybe
just start taking him for walks or do whatever you
could in your own capacity as an aunt without really
overreaching in a way that your sister will be upset
by or snap at you over and try to promote
(04:55):
healthy habits with him. And beyond that, I'm not sure
there is a ton that you can do. Unfortunately, it's
a horrifying situation. But all you can do is be
honest with your sister, raise your concerns to her and
say it in as diplomatic a way as possible while
still being direct, and then encourage her to if you
(05:18):
don't believe me, take him to an expert. Please. Here's
a list of pediatricians. Pick whichever one you want. And
then beyond that, I'm not sure there's much more you
can do. It's possible that when he grows up and
he's sixteen or seventeen, or even when he's twelve or thirteen,
he'll look around and realize none of his classmates are
the size that he is, and he'll be very frustrated
(05:40):
with his parents and maybe try to change it on
his own or push back on them. But it's a
horrible situation. I think it's terrible parenting. I think you're
doing such. We're not talking, guys, about a kid that's
a little chubby, or eight a couple too many oreos, Okay,
we're talking about people essentially poisoning their children. I mean,
if your seven year old is this overweight, you are
ilicitly poisoning them, and I think it's horrible. I don't
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necessarily think it's something that a department of Child Welfare
services could or would even do anything about. So I'm
not sure even exploring that route is productive because it
would almost certainly, you know, cause a problem between you
and your sister, and I don't think it would achieve anything.
I don't really think those departments are equipped to explore
this category or this pretty modern ideology. But my heart
(06:29):
goes out to you. I'm so sorry you have to
deal with this and all you can do is do
your best to help, and I'm sure that you will.
What do you, guys think? Do you have any advice
for this woman? Let us know in the comments below.
Do make sure you subscribe to hit THATG button while
you are at it, And guys, next, we're going to
hear from somebody who found themselves dating a radical left
(06:50):
wing trans boyfriend and now doesn't know quite what to do.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Hello, Brad, I am your number one token black pig
me fan of all time. Let's go content, and I
need your advice. I consider myself to be a staunch
conservative Republican but also open minded. In the heat of
the moment, I may have gotten into a relationship with
(07:16):
a far left, forever victim transman. I will you suggest
that I could end this relationship before it gets too
far away from me? Thank you for your time.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
My dude, I have questions how did this happen? How
does one just casually enter and find yourself in a
relationship with a leftist transgender man. That doesn't seem to
me like something you just stumble into. So I have
some more questions for you, but we don't have that
context from your voicemail. I mean, I'm kind of amazed
(07:50):
this person even wants to date you. Does this person
know that you're a hardcore conservative Republican Because if he
knows that, I'm amazed he would still want to date
you if it's really a militant left wing trans person.
So if they aren't fully aware, I mean, the easiest
approach to ending this relationship would just be to tell them,
(08:11):
be like, yeah, by the way, I love Trump, I'm
a big mega guy, and they're gonna dump you. That
will solve the problem for you or whatever. Your views
are right And now, if they really are very open
minded and tolerant about it, and maybe you just have
your differences, then maybe it's worth giving the relationship a chance.
If you would otherwise be interested in this person, I
don't know, and if it's not, then just I don't know,
(08:35):
be a man about it. Dump them, Talk to him
in person. Don't be a little bitch. Do not do
it over text, do not do it over the phone.
See him in person. Say I just don't think we
are well suited and well aligned in our values long term.
You seem like a great person. I wish you had
nothing but the best. But we should stop this here
before we get more attached. It's not easy, but it's
(08:57):
also not that hard. If you know what I mean,
you know what you need to do. It's just hard
to bring yourself to actually do it. But I believe
in you. And again, it sounds like you have a
couple options to take even before you have to do that.
And if you still have to, well that's just life. Man,
you got to do things that aren't easy sometimes, and
if you don't see a future for yourself in this relationship,
(09:18):
it's not fair or kind to waste this person's time.
That's my take. But what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comments. Okay, up, next, we're gonna
hear from somebody who got excommunicated from the LGBTQ friend
group for a pretty dumb reason. Let's listen, Hi, Brad.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
So I won't share my name due to privacy reasons,
but when I was a junior in high school, I
was friends with a large group of like LGBTQ plus
community people. It was mainly like lesbians or bisexuals, and
they were the type of friends who would try to
convince me that I was into girls, and I always
(09:56):
felt like a bunch of self hate after I would
do anything. And then finally my teenage brain put two
two together, and so I ended up having to basically
come out to my friend group about being straight, which
was very interesting. But shortly after that, maybe like less
than a week, I was in class and I heard
one of the girls that was a common friend screaming
(10:17):
about when a fetus's heart forms, and so I go
over to her and I correct her on it, and
she gets mad at me, and I was like, you
know what, google it if you don't believe me. You know,
it's not a big bule, not my problem. She then
later tells the whole friend group that I slut shamed
her for an abortion that I didn't know she had,
and the entire friend group took that opportunity to stop
(10:40):
being my friend. After she admitted on text that she
lied about me slupt shaming her. I confronted the friend
group and they said, you know, I feel like we
just grew separate. And when I told them I know
that they knew it was a lie, they still would
not be my friend. So they were pretty shitty. I
(11:00):
would say, but.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, junior year, ye'ahll. Sometimes I hear these stories and
I'm just so thankful I'm not a girl and I
never had to be a teenage girl, because y'all, y'all
sound exhausting, And that's coming from somebody who's had to
deal with the gays. No shade, obviously, I'm joking. I
know not all women are like that, but there certainly
is a drama to the teenage girls that I would
(11:24):
find exhausting because socially, I'm more of a bull in
the china shop, and I probably would have said something
to get excommunicated from this group long before you ever did. First, Like,
these friends just sound weird. It's not normal to like
shame or pressure you for being straight when that is
the default of humans and the norm. And yeah, it
(11:46):
doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. Now, I have
a little bit of compassion for the girl who got
upset with you, because a lot of women actually having
an abortion can be a very traumatic experience for them,
and maybe she is coping or projecting based on emotions
that she has about that experience. It's still not fair
(12:06):
to you, though, So I'm sorry that that happened. And
I mean, there's not much more you can do. If
you explained that you were just clarifying the facts, you
weren't even pushing anything. You didn't know this was a
sensitive subject for this person because you didn't know that
they had an abortion, then I'm not really sure there's
anything more you could have done. But it's sad because
this kind of thing, I mean, I don't think it's atypical.
(12:29):
I think some young people are very much radicalized in
I have grown up in this very weird echo chamber
and this is the result. But frankly, I'm sure you've
found other friends who are more aligned with you, and
I'm not sure these friendships were ever really going to
last if these people are that deep in the echo chamber. Okay,
up next, we're gonna hear a sad story about how
(12:51):
politics broke one family up from the inside. Let's take
a listen.
Speaker 6 (12:56):
Hi, Brad, my name is Josh. About a year ago,
I was with my father and his wife and during dinner,
they wanted to talk politics. I suggested we did it,
and that gave away that I, for the first time,
was no longer aligned with the Democratic Party. They immediately
(13:18):
snapped and after a few comments about my wife getting raped,
and then they owe my son being gay, I told
them I really don't care if my son's gay. He's three,
by the way, but I could tell you Rare she's
not a girl, which my stepmom replied, you don't know
(13:39):
that yet. A lot of arguing ensued and she went outside.
She had told my wife that my wife should take
the kids and leave me because my views are very
dangerous that if I don't let my son become a
girl one day, you know, he can potentially unlive himself. Anyway,
(14:01):
this has been going on for a year now. I
want to have a relationship with my father, but I
just don't even know how to come to the table
when they keep telling me that that comment that was
made was to protect my children from me. Anyway, Now
I guess I'm a Republican. I didn't want to be,
but this is where I ended up. Thanks.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
You know, that last comment that you made is really
interesting to me because I actually think a lot of
people found themselves gravit gravitating towards the right in American
politics just because the left like pushed them out over
one differ disagreement or one position, which is not very
smart tactics from the progressive side of the political realm, right,
(14:46):
if you're supposed to be building coalitions, not pushing people
out of your ten like kind of crazy. But look, obviously,
when I hear these kinds of stories, I only get
one side of the story, So maybe there's some d
I struggle to even imagine what could possibly justify these
comments or these remarks from your stepmother, But like, maybe
(15:09):
there's something I'm missing here. But based on the information
you've presented with me, you've done nothing wrong. This woman
is deranged, and it's not okay to like try to
get your in law, your daughter in law, to divorce
your step son and leave him just because of a
hypothetical concern. It wouldn't even be okay if you actually
(15:32):
had a trans kid and you were guys were arguing
over what the best thing to do is for their
health and their safety. But like, this is a hypothetical
that like ninety nine percent chance isn't even going to happen,
and she's trying to destroy your family over it. That
is psychotic behavior. That's not okay, and she is the problem. Like,
your first responsibility is to your child and to put
(15:55):
him first, And frankly, doesn't really sound like this is
somebody who who you could trust to be in your
child's life. So I think you need to draw a
very firm boundary. You should communicate to them both that
this is my approach as a parent. You don't get
an opinion, right that this is what we're doing as
a family. You can have your own views, but these
are my boundaries and you need to respect them. And
(16:17):
if you can't then we're going to keep our distance.
And really, I don't somebody like this. You're not going
to rationalize with her. You're not going to change her mind,
you're not going to convince her. You're not going to
send her, you know, a study or anything. She's clearly
deep in the kool aid. All you can do is
establish a boundary and if they violate it, keep your distance.
(16:40):
That's really all you can do. But I'm really sorry
this happened to you, Like, that's just not okay. And
I really as somebody who major parts of my family
are fractured and broken and I wish I had relationships.
It always really bothers me when people discard family members
for totally in defense reasons and just bizarre problems they
(17:03):
have invented or created of their own volition. And that
really sounds like what your stepmother has done is just
horrible and also a word for your father. He needs
to man up here and not just let his wife
destroy his family with her insanity. If he's not fully
on board with that, hopefully he needs to set her straight,
(17:25):
right like, it's not okay to try to get my
son's wife to divorce him because you disagree with a
hypothetical parenting approach that he might have in a rare,
statistical scenario that hasn't happened yet, And to say, like, oh, well,
what if your wife gets assaulted? Is psycho to start
talking about whether your three year old son is going
(17:46):
to be gay or not. I mean, I understand that,
like one day they'll grow up and they'll have a sexuality,
but it is weird to start projecting about the potential
sexuality of a three year old. And it's also strange
because what about anything you said even suggests that you
would be homophobic. I didn't pick up on anything about that.
(18:06):
Just not being a Democrat doesn't mean you're homophobic, doesn't
mean you would mistreat your son if at seventeen he
did come out as gay or whatever, which again, like,
why are we even that's very unlikely?
Speaker 6 (18:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
This whole story is insane. I'm really sorry I had
to go through this, And hopefully you can set some
firm boundaries and your parents will respect them. But again,
really sorry, And it sounds like you're a good parent
and you'll make the right decision. Okay, guys, now we're
gonna hear some drama about a lesbian breakup. You know,
(18:40):
I love my life is very stable, and I don't
want to say boring because I love my life, but
it's like not a lot of drama these days my
personal life, and so I love hearing the tea from
you guys to keep up to live vicariously through y'all,
because actual drama in my life would be exhausting. But
a little bit of tea, a little bit of drama
that I can hear about from you guys, is I'll
(19:03):
take it. I think that's fun. Actually, so let's listen
to a voicemail about a lesbian breakup.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Hey, Brad Rory here and my thirty four year old
living in Saskatoons schedule in Canada and of your show
and watch it daily. Anyway, I recently had a will
Coorse story that I felt like sharing. I was at
a dinner party full of other LGBTQ folks and transitions
were brought up. I normally wouldn't have said anything, but
(19:32):
I was drunk. I said that I don't think kids
should get puberty blockers and that it's dangerous for trans
women to competing in women's sports. After I said that,
I was asked to leave. The next day, my girlfriend
of five years broke up with me for being what
she believes is a fascist. Additionally, people who have been
friends with for fifteen years or longer started a social
(19:54):
media campaign against me by posting a picture of my face,
including my name and calling me a turf, which is
insane because I have tons of trans friends and have
no issues with adults doing what they need to do
to feel good in their body. Anyway, I love Again,
I love your show and I watch it daily. I
(20:16):
especially love Normal Gaze React. Thank you for listening to
my question and I hope you have a great day. Well.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Thank you so much for sending in this voicemail because
it was a trip, a ride, a roller coaster of
a story. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
This is so crazy to me. What do you mean fascist?
For saying something ninety percent of the world agrees with
(20:44):
right that children shouldn't be given puberty blockers, which, by
the way, they're at least in the US. That's not
even an FDA approved treatment, right, That's an experimental treatment
that's prescribed off label. So wow, and then thinking it's
not safe for trans women to compete in women's sports.
(21:05):
Oh okay, so that's again just a common sense opinion
rooted in biology, shared by most of the opinion. If
that makes you a fascist, then I guess I'm a fascist.
I guess we're all fascist. We can rename the show
Brad and the fascists. Like, do these people not realize
they are watering down that word? And also to say
that you're like a terf or your transphobic just because
(21:27):
you hold those common sense positions is again watering down
those accusations, because I mean, like like you, I have
absolutely no issue with trans adults living their best life,
and I've always been happy to accommodate them within reason
and respect them. But if not wanting to sterilize children
or not wanting males and women's sports makes you transphobic,
(21:48):
then I guess I'm transphobic. And actually that, of course,
because I'm not, because I have no hate in my heart,
that waters down that term. And just then, if everything
and everyone is transphobic, then no one is. Then you're
not really able to actually highlight bigotry or call out
or spotlight things that are hateful. When disagreement and sticking
(22:09):
to common sense is now fascism. This is beyond parody.
I mean, frankly, these friends sound crazy. But what is
this person that you were dating, This woman who after
five years dumped you over this? Did they not know
your political views after that multi year relationship? That person,
(22:30):
she cannot have cared about you very much to simply
dump you over one thing like that that. I'm sorry
she wasted so many years of your life, that's my take.
But you dodged a bullet. Doesn't make it easy to
just say, oh, well, she wasn't right for you. Obviously,
that doesn't change the fact that it hurts and that
you have years of memories with this person. But if
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you are a thinking person, you need to be in
a relationship with someone who is also a thinking person.
You don't need to agree on everything, I don't need
to have the exact same worldview, but you have to
have similar levels of open mindedness and inquisitiveness and critical thinking.
And if you don't, then I think that relationship is
doomed anyway, So I'm really sorry this happened to you,
But hopefully you will find somebody, maybe another viewer of
(23:18):
brad versus everyone or normal gaze that shares your critical thinking,
your introspection and your curiosity and can have conversations or
slightly different opinions without acting like you are a fascist.
I really hope that you find somebody and that it
works out for you. But thank you again for sharing
your story. And I'm really sorry that happened. I really
(23:39):
am you, guys. I hate hearing about all. I mean,
I find it interesting and I'm glad to share the
experience with you, guys, but I hate hearing about all
the terrible things that have happened to you all. It's
so unfortunate. But anyway, guys, that'll be it for this
episode of the Brad Versus Everyone podcast. Thanks for tuning in.
Make sure subscribe if you aren't yet to hit that
like button you are at it. Remember the link to
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sending your voicemail is in the description. And with that, guys,
we'll talk again, real soon. We'll talk h
Fat positivity is killing my nephew, a crazy story about
a trans boyfriend, plus when politics breaks apart your family.
All this and so much more is coming up in
this Voicemail Friday episode of The Brad Versus Everyone podcast,
(00:23):
our daily show where we take on the craziest ideas
from across the Internet, our media, and our politics, all
from an independent perspective. On Fridays, I take voicemails from
you guys with your wo Kira stories, your personal life scenarios,
where you want my advice, and any questions you guys
have for me. Remember the link to send one of
(00:44):
those in is always in the description. Now, guys, we're
going to start with the genuinely sad one because the
fat positivity cult has claimed another victim, and this time
it's a child, which I think makes it all the
way or worse and all the more horrible. Let's take
a listen to a voicemail that was sent in from
(01:04):
one of our loyal viewers.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Hi, Brad, I only have a minute and a half,
so I'm gonna talk fast. Okay. So I have an
older sister, she has five kids. My sister is very
very liberal. She's very very, very very far left. She
has a seven year old son and he is morbidly obese.
He's like the normal height of a seven year old,
but he is probably about one hundred and seventy to
(01:29):
one hundred and eighty pounds. I am a five Oh
my god, she mail and ee weigh one hundred and
eighty pounds. If that kind of puts it in perspective
for you. He can't walk upstairs without having to brace
his knees, and it's just a really bad situation. And
he just keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
And my sister's not doing anything about it.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
She's really into the fat liberation body positivity movement, and
she's killing her son. She's killing my nephew, and I
don't know what to do about it. She is very
sensitive about things. She acts like it's not a problem,
and I am genuinely concerned for the help of my nephew.
(02:11):
How would you approach this situation if this were you?
Like I said, my sister's very very far left, very
in fat liberation, and she's very petty as well, So
I don't really know. I tread lightly, but yeah, any
advice would be great.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Love your show. Bye.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Well, thank you for the note, and I'm really sorry
to hear this happening. This is pulling out my heart
strings because like, I'm a big believer in live and
let live, And if people want to make unhealthy choices,
you know, adults want to eat that extra bag of Cheetos,
I would always encourage them to be healthier. I don't
really want to pay for all their additional health expenses
in the world. But ultimately, like, you choose your own path,
(02:50):
and if you know the risks and you just do
it anyway, that is on you. But when people do
this with their children, it really bothers me, Like, it
really horrifies me because those kids. I mean, you can't
expect a seven year old to overrule their parents and
assert proper nutritional boundaries. All of us, if given cake
(03:10):
for dinner at seven, would have just gobbled it up.
So I think it is absolutely terrible parenting. It is
really harmful. So you are one hundred percent right to
be concerned. Now how you approach it, I think depends
a lot on the dynamic with your sister. If this
was my sister, I would call her up and say, like,
(03:31):
wtf are you doing? I would just tell her one
hundred percent what you just said to me. Obviously, if
your sister is like a woki and she's fragile, or
she'll she's petty and she might just cut you off
or tune you out, or call you a bigot or
what have you, you have to take a different approach.
And so I think even these types might listen if
(03:52):
the information comes from a doctor. So one thing you
could try to do is figure out what pediatrician is
she taking your nephew too, and is it some crazy
activist or is it a normal pediatrician, Because if it's
any kind of normal pediatrician, liberal, conservative, non political whatever,
(04:12):
they will see a seven year old that is one
hundred and seventy pounds and say this is a problem. Mom.
You got to change his diet, you got to get
him moving, you got to help him lose some weight here.
So maybe you could explore trying to get your sister
to take him to a pediatrician who you know will
tell her what she needs to hear and actually do it.
The other thing you could try to do is take
(04:35):
an interest in your nephew. Maybe find a sport that
he likes that you could take him to play. Maybe
just start taking him for walks or do whatever you
could in your own capacity as an aunt without really
overreaching in a way that your sister will be upset
by or snap at you over and try to promote
(04:55):
healthy habits with him. And beyond that, I'm not sure
there is a ton that you can do. Unfortunately, it's
a horrifying situation. But all you can do is be
honest with your sister, raise your concerns to her and
say it in as diplomatic a way as possible while
still being direct, and then encourage her to if you
(05:18):
don't believe me, take him to an expert. Please. Here's
a list of pediatricians. Pick whichever one you want. And
then beyond that, I'm not sure there's much more you
can do. It's possible that when he grows up and
he's sixteen or seventeen, or even when he's twelve or thirteen,
he'll look around and realize none of his classmates are
the size that he is, and he'll be very frustrated
(05:40):
with his parents and maybe try to change it on
his own or push back on them. But it's a
horrible situation. I think it's terrible parenting. I think you're
doing such. We're not talking, guys, about a kid that's
a little chubby, or eight a couple too many oreos, Okay,
we're talking about people essentially poisoning their children. I mean,
if your seven year old is this overweight, you are
ilicitly poisoning them, and I think it's horrible. I don't
(06:04):
necessarily think it's something that a department of Child Welfare
services could or would even do anything about. So I'm
not sure even exploring that route is productive because it
would almost certainly, you know, cause a problem between you
and your sister, and I don't think it would achieve anything.
I don't really think those departments are equipped to explore
this category or this pretty modern ideology. But my heart
(06:29):
goes out to you. I'm so sorry you have to
deal with this and all you can do is do
your best to help, and I'm sure that you will.
What do you, guys think? Do you have any advice
for this woman? Let us know in the comments below.
Do make sure you subscribe to hit THATG button while
you are at it, And guys, next, we're going to
hear from somebody who found themselves dating a radical left
(06:50):
wing trans boyfriend and now doesn't know quite what to do.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Hello, Brad, I am your number one token black pig
me fan of all time. Let's go content, and I
need your advice. I consider myself to be a staunch
conservative Republican but also open minded. In the heat of
the moment, I may have gotten into a relationship with
(07:16):
a far left, forever victim transman. I will you suggest
that I could end this relationship before it gets too
far away from me? Thank you for your time.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
My dude, I have questions how did this happen? How
does one just casually enter and find yourself in a
relationship with a leftist transgender man. That doesn't seem to
me like something you just stumble into. So I have
some more questions for you, but we don't have that
context from your voicemail. I mean, I'm kind of amazed
(07:50):
this person even wants to date you. Does this person
know that you're a hardcore conservative Republican Because if he
knows that, I'm amazed he would still want to date
you if it's really a militant left wing trans person.
So if they aren't fully aware, I mean, the easiest
approach to ending this relationship would just be to tell them,
(08:11):
be like, yeah, by the way, I love Trump, I'm
a big mega guy, and they're gonna dump you. That
will solve the problem for you or whatever. Your views
are right And now, if they really are very open
minded and tolerant about it, and maybe you just have
your differences, then maybe it's worth giving the relationship a chance.
If you would otherwise be interested in this person, I
don't know, and if it's not, then just I don't know,
(08:35):
be a man about it. Dump them, Talk to him
in person. Don't be a little bitch. Do not do
it over text, do not do it over the phone.
See him in person. Say I just don't think we
are well suited and well aligned in our values long term.
You seem like a great person. I wish you had
nothing but the best. But we should stop this here
before we get more attached. It's not easy, but it's
(08:57):
also not that hard. If you know what I mean,
you know what you need to do. It's just hard
to bring yourself to actually do it. But I believe
in you. And again, it sounds like you have a
couple options to take even before you have to do that.
And if you still have to, well that's just life. Man,
you got to do things that aren't easy sometimes, and
if you don't see a future for yourself in this relationship,
(09:18):
it's not fair or kind to waste this person's time.
That's my take. But what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comments. Okay, up, next, we're gonna
hear from somebody who got excommunicated from the LGBTQ friend
group for a pretty dumb reason. Let's listen, Hi, Brad.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
So I won't share my name due to privacy reasons,
but when I was a junior in high school, I
was friends with a large group of like LGBTQ plus
community people. It was mainly like lesbians or bisexuals, and
they were the type of friends who would try to
convince me that I was into girls, and I always
(09:56):
felt like a bunch of self hate after I would
do anything. And then finally my teenage brain put two
two together, and so I ended up having to basically
come out to my friend group about being straight, which
was very interesting. But shortly after that, maybe like less
than a week, I was in class and I heard
one of the girls that was a common friend screaming
(10:17):
about when a fetus's heart forms, and so I go
over to her and I correct her on it, and
she gets mad at me, and I was like, you
know what, google it if you don't believe me. You know,
it's not a big bule, not my problem. She then
later tells the whole friend group that I slut shamed
her for an abortion that I didn't know she had,
and the entire friend group took that opportunity to stop
(10:40):
being my friend. After she admitted on text that she
lied about me slupt shaming her. I confronted the friend
group and they said, you know, I feel like we
just grew separate. And when I told them I know
that they knew it was a lie, they still would
not be my friend. So they were pretty shitty. I
(11:00):
would say, but.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, junior year, ye'ahll. Sometimes I hear these stories and
I'm just so thankful I'm not a girl and I
never had to be a teenage girl, because y'all, y'all
sound exhausting, And that's coming from somebody who's had to
deal with the gays. No shade, obviously, I'm joking. I
know not all women are like that, but there certainly
is a drama to the teenage girls that I would
(11:24):
find exhausting because socially, I'm more of a bull in
the china shop, and I probably would have said something
to get excommunicated from this group long before you ever did. First, Like,
these friends just sound weird. It's not normal to like
shame or pressure you for being straight when that is
the default of humans and the norm. And yeah, it
(11:46):
doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. Now, I have
a little bit of compassion for the girl who got
upset with you, because a lot of women actually having
an abortion can be a very traumatic experience for them,
and maybe she is coping or projecting based on emotions
that she has about that experience. It's still not fair
(12:06):
to you, though, So I'm sorry that that happened. And
I mean, there's not much more you can do. If
you explained that you were just clarifying the facts, you
weren't even pushing anything. You didn't know this was a
sensitive subject for this person because you didn't know that
they had an abortion, then I'm not really sure there's
anything more you could have done. But it's sad because
this kind of thing, I mean, I don't think it's atypical.
(12:29):
I think some young people are very much radicalized in
I have grown up in this very weird echo chamber
and this is the result. But frankly, I'm sure you've
found other friends who are more aligned with you, and
I'm not sure these friendships were ever really going to
last if these people are that deep in the echo chamber. Okay,
up next, we're gonna hear a sad story about how
(12:51):
politics broke one family up from the inside. Let's take
a listen.
Speaker 6 (12:56):
Hi, Brad, my name is Josh. About a year ago,
I was with my father and his wife and during dinner,
they wanted to talk politics. I suggested we did it,
and that gave away that I, for the first time,
was no longer aligned with the Democratic Party. They immediately
(13:18):
snapped and after a few comments about my wife getting raped,
and then they owe my son being gay, I told
them I really don't care if my son's gay. He's three,
by the way, but I could tell you Rare she's
not a girl, which my stepmom replied, you don't know
(13:39):
that yet. A lot of arguing ensued and she went outside.
She had told my wife that my wife should take
the kids and leave me because my views are very
dangerous that if I don't let my son become a
girl one day, you know, he can potentially unlive himself. Anyway,
(14:01):
this has been going on for a year now. I
want to have a relationship with my father, but I
just don't even know how to come to the table
when they keep telling me that that comment that was
made was to protect my children from me. Anyway, Now
I guess I'm a Republican. I didn't want to be,
but this is where I ended up. Thanks.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
You know, that last comment that you made is really
interesting to me because I actually think a lot of
people found themselves gravit gravitating towards the right in American
politics just because the left like pushed them out over
one differ disagreement or one position, which is not very
smart tactics from the progressive side of the political realm, right,
(14:46):
if you're supposed to be building coalitions, not pushing people
out of your ten like kind of crazy. But look, obviously,
when I hear these kinds of stories, I only get
one side of the story, So maybe there's some d
I struggle to even imagine what could possibly justify these
comments or these remarks from your stepmother, But like, maybe
(15:09):
there's something I'm missing here. But based on the information
you've presented with me, you've done nothing wrong. This woman
is deranged, and it's not okay to like try to
get your in law, your daughter in law, to divorce
your step son and leave him just because of a
hypothetical concern. It wouldn't even be okay if you actually
(15:32):
had a trans kid and you were guys were arguing
over what the best thing to do is for their
health and their safety. But like, this is a hypothetical
that like ninety nine percent chance isn't even going to happen,
and she's trying to destroy your family over it. That
is psychotic behavior. That's not okay, and she is the problem. Like,
your first responsibility is to your child and to put
(15:55):
him first, And frankly, doesn't really sound like this is
somebody who who you could trust to be in your
child's life. So I think you need to draw a
very firm boundary. You should communicate to them both that
this is my approach as a parent. You don't get
an opinion, right that this is what we're doing as
a family. You can have your own views, but these
are my boundaries and you need to respect them. And
(16:17):
if you can't then we're going to keep our distance.
And really, I don't somebody like this. You're not going
to rationalize with her. You're not going to change her mind,
you're not going to convince her. You're not going to
send her, you know, a study or anything. She's clearly
deep in the kool aid. All you can do is
establish a boundary and if they violate it, keep your distance.
(16:40):
That's really all you can do. But I'm really sorry
this happened to you, Like, that's just not okay. And
I really as somebody who major parts of my family
are fractured and broken and I wish I had relationships.
It always really bothers me when people discard family members
for totally in defense reasons and just bizarre problems they
(17:03):
have invented or created of their own volition. And that
really sounds like what your stepmother has done is just
horrible and also a word for your father. He needs
to man up here and not just let his wife
destroy his family with her insanity. If he's not fully
on board with that, hopefully he needs to set her straight,
(17:25):
right like, it's not okay to try to get my
son's wife to divorce him because you disagree with a
hypothetical parenting approach that he might have in a rare,
statistical scenario that hasn't happened yet, And to say, like, oh, well,
what if your wife gets assaulted? Is psycho to start
talking about whether your three year old son is going
(17:46):
to be gay or not. I mean, I understand that,
like one day they'll grow up and they'll have a sexuality,
but it is weird to start projecting about the potential
sexuality of a three year old. And it's also strange
because what about anything you said even suggests that you
would be homophobic. I didn't pick up on anything about that.
(18:06):
Just not being a Democrat doesn't mean you're homophobic, doesn't
mean you would mistreat your son if at seventeen he
did come out as gay or whatever, which again, like,
why are we even that's very unlikely?
Speaker 6 (18:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
This whole story is insane. I'm really sorry I had
to go through this, And hopefully you can set some
firm boundaries and your parents will respect them. But again,
really sorry, And it sounds like you're a good parent
and you'll make the right decision. Okay, guys, now we're
gonna hear some drama about a lesbian breakup. You know,
(18:40):
I love my life is very stable, and I don't
want to say boring because I love my life, but
it's like not a lot of drama these days my
personal life, and so I love hearing the tea from
you guys to keep up to live vicariously through y'all,
because actual drama in my life would be exhausting. But
a little bit of tea, a little bit of drama
that I can hear about from you guys, is I'll
(19:03):
take it. I think that's fun. Actually, so let's listen
to a voicemail about a lesbian breakup.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Hey, Brad Rory here and my thirty four year old
living in Saskatoons schedule in Canada and of your show
and watch it daily. Anyway, I recently had a will
Coorse story that I felt like sharing. I was at
a dinner party full of other LGBTQ folks and transitions
were brought up. I normally wouldn't have said anything, but
(19:32):
I was drunk. I said that I don't think kids
should get puberty blockers and that it's dangerous for trans
women to competing in women's sports. After I said that,
I was asked to leave. The next day, my girlfriend
of five years broke up with me for being what
she believes is a fascist. Additionally, people who have been
friends with for fifteen years or longer started a social
(19:54):
media campaign against me by posting a picture of my face,
including my name and calling me a turf, which is
insane because I have tons of trans friends and have
no issues with adults doing what they need to do
to feel good in their body. Anyway, I love Again,
I love your show and I watch it daily. I
(20:16):
especially love Normal Gaze React. Thank you for listening to
my question and I hope you have a great day. Well.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
Thank you so much for sending in this voicemail because
it was a trip, a ride, a roller coaster of
a story. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
This is so crazy to me. What do you mean fascist?
For saying something ninety percent of the world agrees with
(20:44):
right that children shouldn't be given puberty blockers, which, by
the way, they're at least in the US. That's not
even an FDA approved treatment, right, That's an experimental treatment
that's prescribed off label. So wow, and then thinking it's
not safe for trans women to compete in women's sports.
(21:05):
Oh okay, so that's again just a common sense opinion
rooted in biology, shared by most of the opinion. If
that makes you a fascist, then I guess I'm a fascist.
I guess we're all fascist. We can rename the show
Brad and the fascists. Like, do these people not realize
they are watering down that word? And also to say
that you're like a terf or your transphobic just because
(21:27):
you hold those common sense positions is again watering down
those accusations, because I mean, like like you, I have
absolutely no issue with trans adults living their best life,
and I've always been happy to accommodate them within reason
and respect them. But if not wanting to sterilize children
or not wanting males and women's sports makes you transphobic,
(21:48):
then I guess I'm transphobic. And actually that, of course,
because I'm not, because I have no hate in my heart,
that waters down that term. And just then, if everything
and everyone is transphobic, then no one is. Then you're
not really able to actually highlight bigotry or call out
or spotlight things that are hateful. When disagreement and sticking
(22:09):
to common sense is now fascism. This is beyond parody.
I mean, frankly, these friends sound crazy. But what is
this person that you were dating, This woman who after
five years dumped you over this? Did they not know
your political views after that multi year relationship? That person,
(22:30):
she cannot have cared about you very much to simply
dump you over one thing like that that. I'm sorry
she wasted so many years of your life, that's my take.
But you dodged a bullet. Doesn't make it easy to
just say, oh, well, she wasn't right for you. Obviously,
that doesn't change the fact that it hurts and that
you have years of memories with this person. But if
(22:53):
you are a thinking person, you need to be in
a relationship with someone who is also a thinking person.
You don't need to agree on everything, I don't need
to have the exact same worldview, but you have to
have similar levels of open mindedness and inquisitiveness and critical thinking.
And if you don't, then I think that relationship is
doomed anyway, So I'm really sorry this happened to you,
But hopefully you will find somebody, maybe another viewer of
(23:18):
brad versus everyone or normal gaze that shares your critical thinking,
your introspection and your curiosity and can have conversations or
slightly different opinions without acting like you are a fascist.
I really hope that you find somebody and that it
works out for you. But thank you again for sharing
your story. And I'm really sorry that happened. I really
(23:39):
am you, guys. I hate hearing about all. I mean,
I find it interesting and I'm glad to share the
experience with you, guys, but I hate hearing about all
the terrible things that have happened to you all. It's
so unfortunate. But anyway, guys, that'll be it for this
episode of the Brad Versus Everyone podcast. Thanks for tuning in.
Make sure subscribe if you aren't yet to hit that
like button you are at it. Remember the link to
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sending your voicemail is in the description. And with that, guys,
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