April 18, 2025 • 31 mins
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Secret lesbian Republicans whose friends want to k*ll Trump. An OnlyF*ns creator who doesn't want her daughters to find out. Young sisters brainwashed by communist propaganda. I answer your voicemails and give my advice on all these messy situations in this bonus episode of the Brad vs Everyone podcast.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Ronald Lisbian who voted for Truck. These people and I'm
actually friends with who aren't actually aware of my political stance,
we're all advocating for this violence and especially violence around
will killing over President.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Guys, I asked you to send in voice notes spilling
the tea and it is piping hot. We're going to
react to messages from listeners and here's some really shocking
stories and things that are going down in this bonus
episode of the Bad Versus Everyone podcast, my daily show
where I take on the craziest ideas from across the Internet,
our media, and our politics, or from an independent perspective.
(00:39):
Up first, this woman sent me a message telling me
about how her friends won't stop talking about killing Donald Trump.
Take a listen and buckle up because this is a
crazy one.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Hey, Brad, I'm Aiden. I'm twenty two, when I'm freshly
out of college. I wanted to tell you a little
bit of story of a question at the end. The
main thing is this is tying around the little political
assassination culture.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
See.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
To start off, I'm a lesbian who voted for Trump,
and one of the hardest things I've gone through was,
especially after the twenty twenty four election was slowly unfriending
all these people who are saying, if you vote.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
For Trump, kill yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
If you voted for Trump and you're a lesbian or
a woman, you turn your back against women.
Speaker 4 (01:16):
And that was just painful.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So to my own surprise and my own group, these
people that I'm actually friends with, who aren't actually aware
of my political stance, we're all advocating for this violence
and especially violence around well killing of the president. My
main question is is that should I call them out
on this stuff, because at this point it started off
as a joke and it's not a joke anymore. And
I don't know what to do because, you know, some
(01:38):
of the stuff they say literally threatens my own father,
who is a Republican man. And well, by thank you, Brad,
I love your podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Wow. So first of all, I'm so sorry that's happening
to you, and it's just a sign of the times
and how deranged everything has become. The people are actually
treating each other like this because of political disagreements. When
I opened up the voice notes, guys that got over
one hundred from you guys just in a couple of days,
and so many of them were about this about friends
(02:05):
and family cutting people off because of politics, and it's
so tragic, But this one is particularly disturbing because, setting
our differences aside, it is not okay to support political violence.
It is not okay to want to kill people or
wish harm on them because you disagree with them politically.
And that's like a very basic premise or fact here. Now.
I'm a big believer that sometimes when you have friends
(02:26):
or family members of very different political views, the best
thing to do can be to just not talk about it.
You're not going to change their mind, they're not going
to change yours. But in this case, I do feel
differently because at some point there is a light in
the sand where you have to stand up for your values.
And if they are openly wishing harm on people like you,
people like your father, if they're openly talking about killing
(02:50):
the president of the United States, if they're just saying
they wish it would happen, that's one thing. If they're
actually talking about it or talking about doing it, you
need to contact the police. But if they're just joking
about it or saying, oh hope it happens soon or
something like that, you should call them out and It
doesn't have to be, you know, you putting them on blast.
(03:11):
You don't have to send them a text paragraph about
how terrible they are. I would simply say, how would
you have felt if Republicans talk that way about Biden?
I thought, you, guys, I thought we all believed in democracy.
I thought we all believe that in this country we
had to pick our elected leaders and we solve our
differences at the ballot box, not with bullets or other
(03:31):
kinds of acts of violence. And I would challenge them
in that kind of a way and make it clear that, look,
you're talking about violence, because it sounds like they're talking
about violence against Trump supporters, not just Trump, about people
I love. And I also think you should be able
to tell them if you're truly close with these people,
that you are less being Republican. That shouldn't have to
(03:51):
be a secret. There's nothing wrong with you. You're entitled
to your opinion and your perspective and to vote for
whatever you'd like. And if they really finding that information
will make them disown you and hate you, that's tough.
And I'm not going to sit here and say, oh,
it's an easy call. They were never your real friends.
Or anything like that. But at some point, if you're
hiding a big part of yourself because you know they'd
hate you if they knew about it, they already hate
(04:15):
you and they just don't know it, you know what
I mean. So I think when it comes to something
this serious, there is a point where it's not just
a disagreement you can just ignore, right, Like we disagree
about abortion, so we don't talk about it, okay, Like
I have family members where there's issues like that where
we both feel strongly we're not going to change each
other's minds, So why debate it and argue about it.
(04:36):
Just let it aside. When we're talking about violence against people,
When you're talking about this kind of drastic, dangerous rhetoric,
I do think at some point you have a responsibility
to call it out, and I would recommend doing it
in the way that I said. And if they can't
handle that, if they lash out at you, or if
they kick you out of the group or unfriend you
or whatever, ultimately that's on them and you'll be able
(04:58):
to know that you did the right thing. So my
heart goes out to you, and good luck dealing with
what sounds like a really toxic social environment right now.
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(06:22):
have somebody calling in about their rather tumultuous love life.
Take a listen.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
My name is Bill. I recently broke up with my
hey boyfriend assigned female at birth. He was a very
much left wing individual. I consider myself of a right
leading moderates. How would you recommend on trying to talk
with these individual hus, add some nuance to you our
(06:55):
conversations with the and do so in a way without
being accused of being a Trump apologist. Unfortunately, my relationship
didn't work, and I was just kind of wondering where
I went wrong, not only in my relationship with my
domestic partner, but with democrat that's all over the place.
Speaker 6 (07:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Well, there's a lot there, and there's part of this
I will not be able to help you with, which
is how do I talk about these things or raise
questions without being accused of being a Trump supporter or whatever. Honestly, bro,
they're going to accuse you of that. Some people are
going to accuse you of that. No matter what you say,
no matter how much you criticize Trump, the minute you're
not on their side, they're gonna blast you as I
didn't know you were a mega right wing nut. I
(07:39):
get this all the time. It's obviously not true. In
my case, I didn't endorse Trump, I don't support Trump fully.
I agree with some things, I disagree with others, and
I give my honest opinion. But some people will always
say that because they're just still trapped in that kind
of tribalistic partisan thinking. So I wouldn't get too hung
up on how do I get them to not say that.
(08:00):
Some of them will, and it just is a sign
that maybe their mind is closed off. Now I'm sorry
your relationship didn't work out with your trans boyfriend. Now,
I will say that the idea that if you're anywhere
on the right, or you're a right leaning gay person,
that a relationship between you and a trans person is
what's going to go well might have been kind of
(08:21):
naive on your part. Not all trans people. Maybe if
it was a trans conservative or a trans Republican, which
do exist. A lot of trans people are very left
wing in their politics and have kind of this social
justice ideology that for me would have been a flag
that even if you are open to that personally, I
wouldn't be open to that. That's just my preferences. But
(08:42):
if you are open to dating a trans guy, I
would make sure you're at least somewhat on the same
page politically, or it's doomed to fail. And I'm not
sure there's a way that, especially in this current climate
where trans issues are so contentious and so toxic, that
there's a way around that. So I would say say
that you need to be on the same page on
that front, and just in dating in general. I like
(09:04):
this idea that you know, we can be a Democrat
and a Republican and we can still get along. And
we've been married for four years, and I hear from
people and I support that. I think it's wonderful. I've
got nothing against it. But I do think it's fine
to not want that for yourself. I do think it's
okay to say, actually, I want and need a partner
who shares similar values to me, not oh, we agree
(09:25):
on every political issue, we vote the same way in
every election, but we generally agree on what things we value.
We value hard work, self sufficiency, independence, freedom, family, whatever
it may be, or maybe you value other things, maybe
you value community, justice, fairness, whatever those values are the
(09:45):
animate you in life. You should be on the same
page with your partner, and so I would say it's
really important to lead with those things. Not necessarily in
a dating profile. You don't need to plaster like moderate
Republican in all caps, because some people might just be
instantly dismissive of it. Who wouldn't be if they would
get to know you. But you should be upfront about
it pretty early on, and you should try to find
(10:07):
somebody who you don't have to hide part of yourself,
where there's not part of yourself that you feel like, oh,
I need to kind of keep that down because I
wouldn't want them to be upset with me. That shouldn't
be how a loving relationship is. You should be able
to talk about things and have disagreements and not always
have the same viewpoint and be okay about it. So
I would just honestly imply that as a litmus test.
(10:27):
Apply it as a litmus test going forward in your friendships,
your romantic relationships, just early on, try to test is
this person open minded to differences in opinion, because even
if they're a liberal or a Democrat, there still are
many that are. Or maybe they're an independent, or they're not,
you're to their right, whatever it may be. Just test
for that openness, because it's really important in a relationship
(10:49):
in my book, if you're not entirely on the same page,
or try to find someone who is and maybe cast
a wider net. Maybe try to meet offline or meet
online outside of your area. I'm a big proponent. You
know what, if you can find somebody who's really perfect
for you and they're halfway across the country, you can move,
you can get a new job. That's so important and
so rare and so hard to find, especially if you're
(11:12):
in a niche subcommunity like gay Republicans or gay moderates,
where most of the community is not on the same
page as you. So maybe cast a broader net as well.
And I hope it works out for you, my friend.
Up next, we've got a voice note from somebody who
is not very happy with me and thinks that I'm
the problem. Let's take a listen.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Hey, Brad, You, as far as I can tell you,
you pick out like the worst representatives of the people
on the left. You make them influencers. You give them
voice with complete disregard to the possibility that they could
be paid shills, or they could just be people who
have mental health problems that really don't need to be
(11:52):
picked on as a form of entertainment.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
But for sake, man, you are causing this escalation of
violent and polarized views by punching down.
Speaker 7 (12:06):
So to be accusing the other violence is wrong? Correct?
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Why do you need it to be violence is wrong
from the left?
Speaker 7 (12:13):
You make this trash man.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Well, thank you for telling me how you really feel.
But I just think the whole premise here is wrong.
I don't make the people I criticize on my show
influencers or influential. I'm not picking out. I mean, maybe
once in a while I'll show a video of somebody
who's a small account, But like if you look at
just recently, I cover a lot of this guy's videos,
Spence Wap. His videos get millions of views. He has
(12:36):
seventeen point eight million followers. Me on YouTube, I got
like two hundred k. So I'm not punching down. I'm
not making these people influencers the same way half the
people I talk about are major cable news hosts or
elected politicians, and I play clips disagreeing with Jasmine Krockett
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and her craziness and her ideas and her toxic rhetoric.
I'm not making her a star of the Democratic Party.
They are, They're literally uplifting her as a new leader.
So then I'm reacting to that. Am I using these
people for entertainment, content and enjoyment? Yeah? I am, And
I don't feel bad about that. I don't apologize for that.
I disagree with you that. I first off, I never
(13:19):
encourage violence against anyone. I even try. I'm not perfect,
so I'm sure I've slipped up. I try to avoid
even making personal insults against people and just talk about
their ideas and why they're wrong. And maybe once or
twice I've crossed that line, and I'm not perfect, sure,
But to say that I'm bullying them or punching down
on them, heck no. A lot of these influencers have
way more followers than I do and already are reaching
(13:41):
millions of people with this message. I'm just doing some
counter programming, pushing back on it, and yes, entertaining people
with it. And if you don't like it, that's cool,
but I'm not gonna feel bad about it and this criticism.
It doesn't hit for me, babe, not the way that
you think it hits. Anyway, Guys, let me know in
the comment if you have thoughts on any of the
(14:01):
things that we've discussed so far, if you're enjoying this series,
if you'd like to have me do it more often.
I'll also link the voice note feature if you want
to send me one in the description. And now we'll
take a look at a note I got from a
long time listener whose comments I've seen and who I appreciate,
asking me about a rather unique personal dilemma she has.
(14:22):
Let's take a listen to this.
Speaker 8 (14:23):
Hey, Brad, my name is Jayla Starr, and my question
is that I used to do korn back in the
day in my early twenties, about ten teen years ago,
and I still dabble in nov right now. But I
also have two daughters, and I'm wondering, what is your advice?
What would you say to them, you know, when they
asked me about it when they get older, hopefully no
time soon. They're all in ten. But yeah, I was
wondering what you would say. I know, you're a libertarian,
(14:46):
So yeah, but what would you say to your children
if you are in this position. I'd hope that but that,
you know, maybe it would be forgotten and buried under
the internet by this time, but it has not. It
is still very much bre it. People still bring it
up to me. So yeah, my name is Jayla Start
and I'm a big fan. I love you so much
and I really appreciate everything you do. You're so entertaining.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
I love your show.
Speaker 8 (15:07):
I watch it every single day, multip time today because
I don't have people, I watch it all the time.
So thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Bred Well, first off, thank you for your support, and
I appreciate it. I know a lot of y'all who
send in voice notes are loyal listeners and it means
the world to me that I'm able to do this,
and it's only because of you guys. So first off,
I'm not judging you at all. It's your life, it's
your body, do whatever you want, make whatever decisions you want.
And guys, in the comments, I don't want to see
people being nasty or judgmental. Keep it chill, keep it constructive.
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But I will say this is why I personally advise people,
especially young women or young gay men, against doing only
fans or against doing adult content because for some people
they think they're going to make a lot of money,
but really only the top top top ones make a
ton of money, and then most people barely make anything
from it, and then it will follow you for the
rest of your life, like there's no such thing. I've
(15:55):
said this before and I'll say it again. Once you
show hole on the internet, you can't unshow pull on
the internet. And that's the dilemma you find yourself in.
What I'll say is this, your daughters will find out.
There is no chance ever, zero percent, that they just
don't discover it, that it gets buried in the Internet.
(16:16):
And I know they're only ten, but and this is
really sad, kind of a sad indictment of where we're
at these days with society. Ten year olds, eleven year olds,
twelve year olds. Some of them do see pornography on
the internet. Their friends do show them adult content. They're
exposed to it at increasingly young ages. So I would
sit down with them very soon and I would tell
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them about it in whatever way feels right to you,
rather than wait till a friend teases them about it,
or a bully teases them about it because someone finds
out that will happen. Honestly, is just a question of
when more than if, in my view, So I would
take an affirmative stance. Decide how you want to frame it.
Explain maybe why you chose to do it, what you think,
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if you regret it, if you would not do it,
if it maybe try to steer them if it's something
you don't want them to do. Maybe try to emphasize
the downsides of it to them. But I think you
gotta bite the bullet and talk to them about it
before someone else shows them or bullies them about it, because, sadly,
with the state of digital America that we live in,
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unless you're gonna homeschool your kids and live in a cave,
they're probably gonna find out and it will be better.
It won't be great, It's not gonna be great, but
better to hear it from you, with your context and
your framing, than from some bully on the school bus.
Good luck to you, and thank you again for your
loyal listenership and support. Up next, what do you do
(17:44):
when your sisters are both communists? Let's take a listen
to this really interesting voice. Note we got from one
of our audience members, pay bread.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
My name's Luna. I've been watching you for maybe three
years now. Just want some advice on how to go
about me and my sister's relationship. I have two they
both identify as Communists. One is twenty and the other
one's almost nineteen. I mean, I do think maybe they
(18:16):
just need time to mature a little bit in the
things that they believe. I can understand some of their
beliefs and might agree with them on a lot of points. However,
if they knew all of the things that I believe in,
they would most likely cut me off. So I just
would want to know your opinion on how to deal
with something like that, because I love my sisters, I
(18:39):
truly do, and I don't believe in alienating or cutting
off family members who think differently than I do.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
Thank you. Okay, so there's a lot there, but let's
start with an upside. I was worried when you told
me this, and I'm still worried for them, but when
you said they're nineteen and twenty, I got a little
less worried because the good news is they still got
mushy brains. All right, those brains are still underdeveloped. The
adults are not in the room with us, not really
(19:05):
like they're legal adults. But there is hope for them
yet a lot of people were communists or Marxists or
crazy in college and then grew out of it and
became normal people. Trust me, When they leave college and
that first tax bill hits, the communism is going to
be leaving their body real quick. Potentially, maybe not. Some
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people stick with it, but far fewer. What I would
say is this, I don't think that especially with people
that age, especially I'm an older sibling, you really if
you come into him fisted and try to like correct
them or teach them or set them straight, it's only
going to engender resistance and push back, and they're not
going to actually be open to it. So, just like
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an older sibling relationship or a parental figure, there's still
probably in that young phase of rebelliousness where they're not
going to want you coming in and like correcting them,
and they'll push back on that. What I would say
is a couple things, keep an open relationship and connection
with them, avoid at all costs getting cut off and
is stranged, and just try to maintain that relationship and
(20:10):
sneak a little bit of connection to reality or to
different perspectives into it, not a lot. Don't come on strong,
but just maybe open up things in conversation or let
them know that you're not on the same page on
some thing, so that someone they love and care about
does see the world differently. That kind of thing where
they still have a tether to other perspectives or reality,
(20:31):
is much better than just being totally cut off from them,
both from a personal standpoint but also from the standpoint
of changing their mind. It's almost like the way that
cult experts recommend having a relationship with someone in a
cult is to keep contact, not cut off contact, but
just have that tether. So that way, if at some
point they do feel themselves maybe wanting to explore or
(20:53):
move away from it, they're not cut off. They have
a lifeline there and maybe this would be hard to navigate.
Try to expose them to the viewpoint of somebody in
real life who lived under communism, because there's a lot
of them and they're still with us, people who lived
in the Soviet Union, people who escaped Maoist China, all
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of these things. I would try to expose them to
somebody who actually lived it. They can't dismiss it as
old their CIA propaganda, like, no, they were there. So
I would try to introduce them or in some sort
of way brought in their perspective to include something else.
But think about it. It might be something to try to
do over a longer term, because short term, if you
just start sending them prager you videos from people who
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escaped communism, they're not going to buy that. But maybe
if you got to know someone in real life and
introduce them casually in some way, it could start to
get through to them. Otherwise, I would say, just keep
the doors open, keep that relationship going, and try to hope,
cross your fingers, and hope that those brains develop a
little bit and the Communism leaves their bodies. I'm rooting
(21:58):
for you, and I'm rooting for them, and I would
say that not all hope is lost quite yet, thankfully.
Up next, speaking of young people, we've got a question
from a young listener who wants to know how he
can avoid getting brainwashed. Let's take a listen.
Speaker 9 (22:11):
Hello, I'm cult, I'm going into college next year. I'm
a senior in high school right now, I'm going into
economics and polysci. I'm mastered in polyscie, but I'm going
into a very leftist college. I was wondering how you
would suggest to keep your political lining straight.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Well, thank you for the message, but I'm not sure
you should keep your political lining straight, or your orientation
or your value set in stone. If you're just a
eighteen year old high school senior. I think you should
go to college with an open mind, and maybe I
mean be aware that you're probably, depending on the college,
going into a very left wing echo chamber. Maybe they're
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right about some things. Don't entirely close yourself off or
try to like fortify yourself from any of the liberalness
entering your body. It's almost what I hear. Maybe it's
not what you meant, but it's almost what I hear.
I would say, don't do that. Go in with an
open mind. However, this is the problem that plague so
many college students. Even when they're in an economics department
or a political science department, where you think they'd be
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exposed to all sides, they're not. They just hear the
left wing perspective and everyone around them is agreeing with it,
and there's this social pressure of all the college students, like, wait,
how could you be pro life? How could you oppose
gun control? How could you not want socialist healthcare for everyone?
What that to avoid? What I would recommend is building
a media diet, an intellectual and media diet where you
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are still consuming right of center viewpoints and conservative arguments
and independent libertarian arguments on everything, on all the topics
you're studying. So don't just read the books assigned to
you by your economics professor who's probably going to be
a progressive knesy and economist. Also read Thomas soul, Milton Friedman,
contemporary free market economists and their critiques of the kinds
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of people that will probably be on your course reading list,
and that sort of thing. Keep reading right of center
news and opinion, whether it's like Wall Street Journal, Auditorial Board,
National Review, whether it's watching Fox News from time to time,
whatever it may be, whether it's watching really smart YouTubers
who criticize both sides. Keep in touch with all of that,
and then bring those arguments to campus and debate and
(24:15):
challenge and be outspoken. I know a lot of people
want to just go along with the crowd, and I
would have this at my college where I'd speak out
in a class and I'd be like fifteen verse one
in the class debate me arguing again suffirmative action or
whatever it may be, and then multiple students would come
up to me afterwards and be like, thank you for
speaking out. I totally agreed with you, but I didn't
(24:35):
want anything to say anything my friends. I don't want
my friends to hate me, And in hindsight, I feel
kind of bad for those people. That's kind of a
weasily and sad way to go through life afraid to
say what you really think because of social backlash. Now,
maybe there's some situations where, like the potential consequences are
so extreme, but just like your peers not liking you,
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at some point you got to stand on business or
what you believe in. And so I would challenge you
to not totally fortify yourself against everything you're hearing, but
simply maintain a balance of perspectives. And when you go
to a left wing campus environment, that will require very
intentional and persistent habits and seeking out alternatives because they
(25:17):
won't be in your readings, I mean, or they won't
be on your course list at least not. Most of
the time, they won't be represented in your classroom discussions,
but you can still make sure that you're hearing all
the arguments and then go wherever that leads.
Speaker 7 (25:29):
You.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Don't stay rigidly attached to everything you believe at eighteen
years old, but don't fall into an echo chamber either.
Up next, this young woman left me a message telling
a really horrifying story about something that happened to her
a few years back when she was just in the
eighth grade. Take a listen to this.
Speaker 6 (25:47):
My name's Telia. I am a sophomore in high school
right now. I am don't with some crazy shit. In
an eighth grade we were told that we were. I
was told I was trans because I simply started liking
more masculine things by the school and my parents are like, no,
you're not, and like the school kept telling me, yes,
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you are. And it came this whole big thing to
the point where I kind of tried to become trans,
which was a very big mistake in the long run.
I figured out within like three months actually, thanks to
you and book Angels and Blair Whites talking that I
wasn't actually trans. This was just an agenda that was
being pushed on me. And then when I started speaking
(26:29):
up about my beliefs against the ideology and stuff, I
started being called homophobic, transphobic, and just overall a bigot
and stuff, And so occasionally happens. I'm a sophomore now.
It all started in eighth grade.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
But there's a lot of us.
Speaker 6 (26:49):
Who still believe that a lot of this is just bullshit,
and we disagree with almost everything that the Biden in
Commel administration has done.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Well, thank you for your note and and formos. I
am so sorry you had to go through this. Like
the regressive nature of a lot of the gender ideology
stuff and this extreme pendulum swing we lived under can't
be talked about enough. It's okay to be a tomboy.
It's actually fine to not like love makeup and pink
and want to be a princess or whatever, Like why
(27:18):
are we even back to that? But now you actually
and you know, maybe they're even in well intentioned, these
mental health professionals in schools, these guidance counselors, these teachers,
Oh you could be trans. But the thing that's so
frustrating about that is there has always existed a tiny percent, tiny,
tiny percent of the population who from a very young
(27:39):
age felt like trapped in the wrong body and felt
like they were the born and the wrong sex. And
those people, you know, if that persists through puberty and adulthood,
are actually probably best suited to live as if they
are the other sex, to be what we would call transgender.
But they did not suddenly discover that in ninth grade,
after never feeling discomfort with their body or their gender,
(27:59):
or their you know, style, or whether they like to
be masculine or feminine. It was there from a very
young age, and it is normal as an eighth or
ninth grader or what have you to feel bad about
your body, to feel awkward in your gender or your
sexuality or these other things. It doesn't mean you're transgender.
And in fact, very very rarely will people suddenly feel
(28:20):
gender dysphoria. And that's truly a lasting thing that isn't
going to go away, and I fear that a whole
wave of young people in the coming decades will come out.
We just don't have good data on this stuff right now,
detransition or regret rates or anything like that. There's really
very basically no actually high quality data. But I fear
we're gonna have a wave of this, especially female to male,
(28:42):
because there's something about this period in young female's lives
where you know, they feel uncomfortable with their body. They
hate being sexualized and objectified by the world as a
young woman, and so the idea of oh, maybe I'm
actually a boy is appealing to them, especially when it's
pushed by a thought figures or adults in their lives
who may be their well intentioned but boy, they should
(29:04):
really know better. So I'm so sorry you went through that.
And as far as people calling you a bigot, don't
listen to them, continue to speak out, consider to continue
to talk about your experience, because you are not alone.
Lots of other people have had very similar experiences. And
as long as you know that in your heart you
don't hate anyone, you're not nasty towards anyone. As long
(29:25):
as you are always kind and you speak truthfully, but
you don't bully or demean people, then they can call
you whatever they want. Those words are losing power because
they've thrown them around like candy and Halloween for years now.
So as long as you know that it's not true,
you're not homophobic, you're not transphobic. You know that you
treat people kindly and you don't call people's slurs or
(29:46):
insult them or demean them. Then continue speaking out, and
if they call you names, let them, let them tell
the air they run out of air in their lungs,
because that's losing power at this point. And it is
more important for you to speak the truth and share
your experiences and stand on business and live by your
values than it is for you to not upset some
(30:09):
people or not have some people call you names. That's
my take on it. But I'm really glad that your
parents didn't just immediately embrace this and push you down
this path, because God, who knows, maybe by now, in
another life or another scenario, you would have had a
double missect to me on the books, or already have
had one, or had one plan for next year. That's
actually a thing that thousands of young females in this
(30:31):
country have had done and have had happen as miners
and have been pushed towards this, and many of them
will regret it. So I'm glad this didn't end terribly
or tragically for you, but thank you for speaking out.
Keep doing it because these experiences are real, and as
much as transactivists like to say they're not, and these
sisters are statistically super rare, we actually don't know that.
(30:54):
We don't have good data, and there are I fear
going to be a lot more stories like yours that
come out in the coming years. All Right, guys, that'll
be it for this bonus episode. Let me know what
you think of this. Did you enjoy this? Do you
want me to do this kind of content regularly? Please
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gave that you disagree with. I do definitely want to know,
so hop down to that comment section, and if you
want to send in a voice note for the next
time I do one of these, telling me a story
about your life or your experiences and asking for advice,
the link is in the description, so please do reach
out and with that we'll talk again real soon.
Ronald Lisbian who voted for Truck. These people and I'm
actually friends with who aren't actually aware of my political stance,
we're all advocating for this violence and especially violence around
will killing over President.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Guys, I asked you to send in voice notes spilling
the tea and it is piping hot. We're going to
react to messages from listeners and here's some really shocking
stories and things that are going down in this bonus
episode of the Bad Versus Everyone podcast, my daily show
where I take on the craziest ideas from across the Internet,
our media, and our politics, or from an independent perspective.
(00:39):
Up first, this woman sent me a message telling me
about how her friends won't stop talking about killing Donald Trump.
Take a listen and buckle up because this is a
crazy one.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Hey, Brad, I'm Aiden. I'm twenty two, when I'm freshly
out of college. I wanted to tell you a little
bit of story of a question at the end. The
main thing is this is tying around the little political
assassination culture.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
See.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
To start off, I'm a lesbian who voted for Trump,
and one of the hardest things I've gone through was,
especially after the twenty twenty four election was slowly unfriending
all these people who are saying, if you vote.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
For Trump, kill yourself.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
If you voted for Trump and you're a lesbian or
a woman, you turn your back against women.
Speaker 4 (01:16):
And that was just painful.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So to my own surprise and my own group, these
people that I'm actually friends with, who aren't actually aware
of my political stance, we're all advocating for this violence
and especially violence around well killing of the president. My
main question is is that should I call them out
on this stuff, because at this point it started off
as a joke and it's not a joke anymore. And
I don't know what to do because, you know, some
(01:38):
of the stuff they say literally threatens my own father,
who is a Republican man. And well, by thank you, Brad,
I love your podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Wow. So first of all, I'm so sorry that's happening
to you, and it's just a sign of the times
and how deranged everything has become. The people are actually
treating each other like this because of political disagreements. When
I opened up the voice notes, guys that got over
one hundred from you guys just in a couple of days,
and so many of them were about this about friends
(02:05):
and family cutting people off because of politics, and it's
so tragic, But this one is particularly disturbing because, setting
our differences aside, it is not okay to support political violence.
It is not okay to want to kill people or
wish harm on them because you disagree with them politically.
And that's like a very basic premise or fact here. Now.
I'm a big believer that sometimes when you have friends
(02:26):
or family members of very different political views, the best
thing to do can be to just not talk about it.
You're not going to change their mind, they're not going
to change yours. But in this case, I do feel
differently because at some point there is a light in
the sand where you have to stand up for your values.
And if they are openly wishing harm on people like you,
people like your father, if they're openly talking about killing
(02:50):
the president of the United States, if they're just saying
they wish it would happen, that's one thing. If they're
actually talking about it or talking about doing it, you
need to contact the police. But if they're just joking
about it or saying, oh hope it happens soon or
something like that, you should call them out and It
doesn't have to be, you know, you putting them on blast.
(03:11):
You don't have to send them a text paragraph about
how terrible they are. I would simply say, how would
you have felt if Republicans talk that way about Biden?
I thought, you, guys, I thought we all believed in democracy.
I thought we all believe that in this country we
had to pick our elected leaders and we solve our
differences at the ballot box, not with bullets or other
(03:31):
kinds of acts of violence. And I would challenge them
in that kind of a way and make it clear that, look,
you're talking about violence, because it sounds like they're talking
about violence against Trump supporters, not just Trump, about people
I love. And I also think you should be able
to tell them if you're truly close with these people,
that you are less being Republican. That shouldn't have to
(03:51):
be a secret. There's nothing wrong with you. You're entitled
to your opinion and your perspective and to vote for
whatever you'd like. And if they really finding that information
will make them disown you and hate you, that's tough.
And I'm not going to sit here and say, oh,
it's an easy call. They were never your real friends.
Or anything like that. But at some point, if you're
hiding a big part of yourself because you know they'd
hate you if they knew about it, they already hate
(04:15):
you and they just don't know it, you know what
I mean. So I think when it comes to something
this serious, there is a point where it's not just
a disagreement you can just ignore, right, Like we disagree
about abortion, so we don't talk about it, okay, Like
I have family members where there's issues like that where
we both feel strongly we're not going to change each
other's minds, So why debate it and argue about it.
(04:36):
Just let it aside. When we're talking about violence against people,
When you're talking about this kind of drastic, dangerous rhetoric,
I do think at some point you have a responsibility
to call it out, and I would recommend doing it
in the way that I said. And if they can't
handle that, if they lash out at you, or if
they kick you out of the group or unfriend you
or whatever, ultimately that's on them and you'll be able
(04:58):
to know that you did the right thing. So my
heart goes out to you, and good luck dealing with
what sounds like a really toxic social environment right now.
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have somebody calling in about their rather tumultuous love life.
Take a listen.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
My name is Bill. I recently broke up with my
hey boyfriend assigned female at birth. He was a very
much left wing individual. I consider myself of a right
leading moderates. How would you recommend on trying to talk
with these individual hus, add some nuance to you our
(06:55):
conversations with the and do so in a way without
being accused of being a Trump apologist. Unfortunately, my relationship
didn't work, and I was just kind of wondering where
I went wrong, not only in my relationship with my
domestic partner, but with democrat that's all over the place.
Speaker 6 (07:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Well, there's a lot there, and there's part of this
I will not be able to help you with, which
is how do I talk about these things or raise
questions without being accused of being a Trump supporter or whatever. Honestly, bro,
they're going to accuse you of that. Some people are
going to accuse you of that. No matter what you say,
no matter how much you criticize Trump, the minute you're
not on their side, they're gonna blast you as I
didn't know you were a mega right wing nut. I
(07:39):
get this all the time. It's obviously not true. In
my case, I didn't endorse Trump, I don't support Trump fully.
I agree with some things, I disagree with others, and
I give my honest opinion. But some people will always
say that because they're just still trapped in that kind
of tribalistic partisan thinking. So I wouldn't get too hung
up on how do I get them to not say that.
(08:00):
Some of them will, and it just is a sign
that maybe their mind is closed off. Now I'm sorry
your relationship didn't work out with your trans boyfriend. Now,
I will say that the idea that if you're anywhere
on the right, or you're a right leaning gay person,
that a relationship between you and a trans person is
what's going to go well might have been kind of
(08:21):
naive on your part. Not all trans people. Maybe if
it was a trans conservative or a trans Republican, which
do exist. A lot of trans people are very left
wing in their politics and have kind of this social
justice ideology that for me would have been a flag
that even if you are open to that personally, I
wouldn't be open to that. That's just my preferences. But
(08:42):
if you are open to dating a trans guy, I
would make sure you're at least somewhat on the same
page politically, or it's doomed to fail. And I'm not
sure there's a way that, especially in this current climate
where trans issues are so contentious and so toxic, that
there's a way around that. So I would say say
that you need to be on the same page on
that front, and just in dating in general. I like
(09:04):
this idea that you know, we can be a Democrat
and a Republican and we can still get along. And
we've been married for four years, and I hear from
people and I support that. I think it's wonderful. I've
got nothing against it. But I do think it's fine
to not want that for yourself. I do think it's
okay to say, actually, I want and need a partner
who shares similar values to me, not oh, we agree
(09:25):
on every political issue, we vote the same way in
every election, but we generally agree on what things we value.
We value hard work, self sufficiency, independence, freedom, family, whatever
it may be, or maybe you value other things, maybe
you value community, justice, fairness, whatever those values are the
(09:45):
animate you in life. You should be on the same
page with your partner, and so I would say it's
really important to lead with those things. Not necessarily in
a dating profile. You don't need to plaster like moderate
Republican in all caps, because some people might just be
instantly dismissive of it. Who wouldn't be if they would
get to know you. But you should be upfront about
it pretty early on, and you should try to find
(10:07):
somebody who you don't have to hide part of yourself,
where there's not part of yourself that you feel like, oh,
I need to kind of keep that down because I
wouldn't want them to be upset with me. That shouldn't
be how a loving relationship is. You should be able
to talk about things and have disagreements and not always
have the same viewpoint and be okay about it. So
I would just honestly imply that as a litmus test.
(10:27):
Apply it as a litmus test going forward in your friendships,
your romantic relationships, just early on, try to test is
this person open minded to differences in opinion, because even
if they're a liberal or a Democrat, there still are
many that are. Or maybe they're an independent, or they're not,
you're to their right, whatever it may be. Just test
for that openness, because it's really important in a relationship
(10:49):
in my book, if you're not entirely on the same page,
or try to find someone who is and maybe cast
a wider net. Maybe try to meet offline or meet
online outside of your area. I'm a big proponent. You
know what, if you can find somebody who's really perfect
for you and they're halfway across the country, you can move,
you can get a new job. That's so important and
so rare and so hard to find, especially if you're
(11:12):
in a niche subcommunity like gay Republicans or gay moderates,
where most of the community is not on the same
page as you. So maybe cast a broader net as well.
And I hope it works out for you, my friend.
Up next, we've got a voice note from somebody who
is not very happy with me and thinks that I'm
the problem. Let's take a listen.
Speaker 7 (11:31):
Hey, Brad, You, as far as I can tell you,
you pick out like the worst representatives of the people
on the left. You make them influencers. You give them
voice with complete disregard to the possibility that they could
be paid shills, or they could just be people who
have mental health problems that really don't need to be
(11:52):
picked on as a form of entertainment.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
But for sake, man, you are causing this escalation of
violent and polarized views by punching down.
Speaker 7 (12:06):
So to be accusing the other violence is wrong? Correct?
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Why do you need it to be violence is wrong
from the left?
Speaker 7 (12:13):
You make this trash man.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Well, thank you for telling me how you really feel.
But I just think the whole premise here is wrong.
I don't make the people I criticize on my show
influencers or influential. I'm not picking out. I mean, maybe
once in a while I'll show a video of somebody
who's a small account, But like if you look at
just recently, I cover a lot of this guy's videos,
Spence Wap. His videos get millions of views. He has
(12:36):
seventeen point eight million followers. Me on YouTube, I got
like two hundred k. So I'm not punching down. I'm
not making these people influencers the same way half the
people I talk about are major cable news hosts or
elected politicians, and I play clips disagreeing with Jasmine Krockett
(12:56):
and her craziness and her ideas and her toxic rhetoric.
I'm not making her a star of the Democratic Party.
They are, They're literally uplifting her as a new leader.
So then I'm reacting to that. Am I using these
people for entertainment, content and enjoyment? Yeah? I am, And
I don't feel bad about that. I don't apologize for that.
I disagree with you that. I first off, I never
(13:19):
encourage violence against anyone. I even try. I'm not perfect,
so I'm sure I've slipped up. I try to avoid
even making personal insults against people and just talk about
their ideas and why they're wrong. And maybe once or
twice I've crossed that line, and I'm not perfect, sure,
But to say that I'm bullying them or punching down
on them, heck no. A lot of these influencers have
way more followers than I do and already are reaching
(13:41):
millions of people with this message. I'm just doing some
counter programming, pushing back on it, and yes, entertaining people
with it. And if you don't like it, that's cool,
but I'm not gonna feel bad about it and this criticism.
It doesn't hit for me, babe, not the way that
you think it hits. Anyway, Guys, let me know in
the comment if you have thoughts on any of the
(14:01):
things that we've discussed so far, if you're enjoying this series,
if you'd like to have me do it more often.
I'll also link the voice note feature if you want
to send me one in the description. And now we'll
take a look at a note I got from a
long time listener whose comments I've seen and who I appreciate,
asking me about a rather unique personal dilemma she has.
(14:22):
Let's take a listen to this.
Speaker 8 (14:23):
Hey, Brad, my name is Jayla Starr, and my question
is that I used to do korn back in the
day in my early twenties, about ten teen years ago,
and I still dabble in nov right now. But I
also have two daughters, and I'm wondering, what is your advice?
What would you say to them, you know, when they
asked me about it when they get older, hopefully no
time soon. They're all in ten. But yeah, I was
wondering what you would say. I know, you're a libertarian,
(14:46):
So yeah, but what would you say to your children
if you are in this position. I'd hope that but that,
you know, maybe it would be forgotten and buried under
the internet by this time, but it has not. It
is still very much bre it. People still bring it
up to me. So yeah, my name is Jayla Start
and I'm a big fan. I love you so much
and I really appreciate everything you do. You're so entertaining.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
I love your show.
Speaker 8 (15:07):
I watch it every single day, multip time today because
I don't have people, I watch it all the time.
So thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Bred Well, first off, thank you for your support, and
I appreciate it. I know a lot of y'all who
send in voice notes are loyal listeners and it means
the world to me that I'm able to do this,
and it's only because of you guys. So first off,
I'm not judging you at all. It's your life, it's
your body, do whatever you want, make whatever decisions you want.
And guys, in the comments, I don't want to see
people being nasty or judgmental. Keep it chill, keep it constructive.
(15:33):
But I will say this is why I personally advise people,
especially young women or young gay men, against doing only
fans or against doing adult content because for some people
they think they're going to make a lot of money,
but really only the top top top ones make a
ton of money, and then most people barely make anything
from it, and then it will follow you for the
rest of your life, like there's no such thing. I've
(15:55):
said this before and I'll say it again. Once you
show hole on the internet, you can't unshow pull on
the internet. And that's the dilemma you find yourself in.
What I'll say is this, your daughters will find out.
There is no chance ever, zero percent, that they just
don't discover it, that it gets buried in the Internet.
(16:16):
And I know they're only ten, but and this is
really sad, kind of a sad indictment of where we're
at these days with society. Ten year olds, eleven year olds,
twelve year olds. Some of them do see pornography on
the internet. Their friends do show them adult content. They're
exposed to it at increasingly young ages. So I would
sit down with them very soon and I would tell
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them about it in whatever way feels right to you,
rather than wait till a friend teases them about it,
or a bully teases them about it because someone finds
out that will happen. Honestly, is just a question of
when more than if, in my view, So I would
take an affirmative stance. Decide how you want to frame it.
Explain maybe why you chose to do it, what you think,
(17:02):
if you regret it, if you would not do it,
if it maybe try to steer them if it's something
you don't want them to do. Maybe try to emphasize
the downsides of it to them. But I think you
gotta bite the bullet and talk to them about it
before someone else shows them or bullies them about it, because, sadly,
with the state of digital America that we live in,
(17:23):
unless you're gonna homeschool your kids and live in a cave,
they're probably gonna find out and it will be better.
It won't be great, It's not gonna be great, but
better to hear it from you, with your context and
your framing, than from some bully on the school bus.
Good luck to you, and thank you again for your
loyal listenership and support. Up next, what do you do
(17:44):
when your sisters are both communists? Let's take a listen
to this really interesting voice. Note we got from one
of our audience members, pay bread.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
My name's Luna. I've been watching you for maybe three
years now. Just want some advice on how to go
about me and my sister's relationship. I have two they
both identify as Communists. One is twenty and the other
one's almost nineteen. I mean, I do think maybe they
(18:16):
just need time to mature a little bit in the
things that they believe. I can understand some of their
beliefs and might agree with them on a lot of points. However,
if they knew all of the things that I believe in,
they would most likely cut me off. So I just
would want to know your opinion on how to deal
with something like that, because I love my sisters, I
(18:39):
truly do, and I don't believe in alienating or cutting
off family members who think differently than I do.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
Thank you. Okay, so there's a lot there, but let's
start with an upside. I was worried when you told
me this, and I'm still worried for them, but when
you said they're nineteen and twenty, I got a little
less worried because the good news is they still got
mushy brains. All right, those brains are still underdeveloped. The
adults are not in the room with us, not really
(19:05):
like they're legal adults. But there is hope for them
yet a lot of people were communists or Marxists or
crazy in college and then grew out of it and
became normal people. Trust me, When they leave college and
that first tax bill hits, the communism is going to
be leaving their body real quick. Potentially, maybe not. Some
(19:25):
people stick with it, but far fewer. What I would
say is this, I don't think that especially with people
that age, especially I'm an older sibling, you really if
you come into him fisted and try to like correct
them or teach them or set them straight, it's only
going to engender resistance and push back, and they're not
going to actually be open to it. So, just like
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an older sibling relationship or a parental figure, there's still
probably in that young phase of rebelliousness where they're not
going to want you coming in and like correcting them,
and they'll push back on that. What I would say
is a couple things, keep an open relationship and connection
with them, avoid at all costs getting cut off and
is stranged, and just try to maintain that relationship and
(20:10):
sneak a little bit of connection to reality or to
different perspectives into it, not a lot. Don't come on strong,
but just maybe open up things in conversation or let
them know that you're not on the same page on
some thing, so that someone they love and care about
does see the world differently. That kind of thing where
they still have a tether to other perspectives or reality,
(20:31):
is much better than just being totally cut off from them,
both from a personal standpoint but also from the standpoint
of changing their mind. It's almost like the way that
cult experts recommend having a relationship with someone in a
cult is to keep contact, not cut off contact, but
just have that tether. So that way, if at some
point they do feel themselves maybe wanting to explore or
(20:53):
move away from it, they're not cut off. They have
a lifeline there and maybe this would be hard to navigate.
Try to expose them to the viewpoint of somebody in
real life who lived under communism, because there's a lot
of them and they're still with us, people who lived
in the Soviet Union, people who escaped Maoist China, all
(21:13):
of these things. I would try to expose them to
somebody who actually lived it. They can't dismiss it as
old their CIA propaganda, like, no, they were there. So
I would try to introduce them or in some sort
of way brought in their perspective to include something else.
But think about it. It might be something to try to
do over a longer term, because short term, if you
just start sending them prager you videos from people who
(21:35):
escaped communism, they're not going to buy that. But maybe
if you got to know someone in real life and
introduce them casually in some way, it could start to
get through to them. Otherwise, I would say, just keep
the doors open, keep that relationship going, and try to hope,
cross your fingers, and hope that those brains develop a
little bit and the Communism leaves their bodies. I'm rooting
(21:58):
for you, and I'm rooting for them, and I would
say that not all hope is lost quite yet, thankfully.
Up next, speaking of young people, we've got a question
from a young listener who wants to know how he
can avoid getting brainwashed. Let's take a listen.
Speaker 9 (22:11):
Hello, I'm cult, I'm going into college next year. I'm
a senior in high school right now, I'm going into
economics and polysci. I'm mastered in polyscie, but I'm going
into a very leftist college. I was wondering how you
would suggest to keep your political lining straight.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Well, thank you for the message, but I'm not sure
you should keep your political lining straight, or your orientation
or your value set in stone. If you're just a
eighteen year old high school senior. I think you should
go to college with an open mind, and maybe I
mean be aware that you're probably, depending on the college,
going into a very left wing echo chamber. Maybe they're
(22:44):
right about some things. Don't entirely close yourself off or
try to like fortify yourself from any of the liberalness
entering your body. It's almost what I hear. Maybe it's
not what you meant, but it's almost what I hear.
I would say, don't do that. Go in with an
open mind. However, this is the problem that plague so
many college students. Even when they're in an economics department
or a political science department, where you think they'd be
(23:06):
exposed to all sides, they're not. They just hear the
left wing perspective and everyone around them is agreeing with it,
and there's this social pressure of all the college students, like, wait,
how could you be pro life? How could you oppose
gun control? How could you not want socialist healthcare for everyone?
What that to avoid? What I would recommend is building
a media diet, an intellectual and media diet where you
(23:29):
are still consuming right of center viewpoints and conservative arguments
and independent libertarian arguments on everything, on all the topics
you're studying. So don't just read the books assigned to
you by your economics professor who's probably going to be
a progressive knesy and economist. Also read Thomas soul, Milton Friedman,
contemporary free market economists and their critiques of the kinds
(23:52):
of people that will probably be on your course reading list,
and that sort of thing. Keep reading right of center
news and opinion, whether it's like Wall Street Journal, Auditorial Board,
National Review, whether it's watching Fox News from time to time,
whatever it may be, whether it's watching really smart YouTubers
who criticize both sides. Keep in touch with all of that,
and then bring those arguments to campus and debate and
(24:15):
challenge and be outspoken. I know a lot of people
want to just go along with the crowd, and I
would have this at my college where I'd speak out
in a class and I'd be like fifteen verse one
in the class debate me arguing again suffirmative action or
whatever it may be, and then multiple students would come
up to me afterwards and be like, thank you for
speaking out. I totally agreed with you, but I didn't
(24:35):
want anything to say anything my friends. I don't want
my friends to hate me, And in hindsight, I feel
kind of bad for those people. That's kind of a
weasily and sad way to go through life afraid to
say what you really think because of social backlash. Now,
maybe there's some situations where, like the potential consequences are
so extreme, but just like your peers not liking you,
(24:56):
at some point you got to stand on business or
what you believe in. And so I would challenge you
to not totally fortify yourself against everything you're hearing, but
simply maintain a balance of perspectives. And when you go
to a left wing campus environment, that will require very
intentional and persistent habits and seeking out alternatives because they
(25:17):
won't be in your readings, I mean, or they won't
be on your course list at least not. Most of
the time, they won't be represented in your classroom discussions,
but you can still make sure that you're hearing all
the arguments and then go wherever that leads.
Speaker 7 (25:29):
You.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Don't stay rigidly attached to everything you believe at eighteen
years old, but don't fall into an echo chamber either.
Up next, this young woman left me a message telling
a really horrifying story about something that happened to her
a few years back when she was just in the
eighth grade. Take a listen to this.
Speaker 6 (25:47):
My name's Telia. I am a sophomore in high school
right now. I am don't with some crazy shit. In
an eighth grade we were told that we were. I
was told I was trans because I simply started liking
more masculine things by the school and my parents are like, no,
you're not, and like the school kept telling me, yes,
(26:08):
you are. And it came this whole big thing to
the point where I kind of tried to become trans,
which was a very big mistake in the long run.
I figured out within like three months actually, thanks to
you and book Angels and Blair Whites talking that I
wasn't actually trans. This was just an agenda that was
being pushed on me. And then when I started speaking
(26:29):
up about my beliefs against the ideology and stuff, I
started being called homophobic, transphobic, and just overall a bigot
and stuff, And so occasionally happens. I'm a sophomore now.
It all started in eighth grade.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
But there's a lot of us.
Speaker 6 (26:49):
Who still believe that a lot of this is just bullshit,
and we disagree with almost everything that the Biden in
Commel administration has done.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Well, thank you for your note and and formos. I
am so sorry you had to go through this. Like
the regressive nature of a lot of the gender ideology
stuff and this extreme pendulum swing we lived under can't
be talked about enough. It's okay to be a tomboy.
It's actually fine to not like love makeup and pink
and want to be a princess or whatever, Like why
(27:18):
are we even back to that? But now you actually
and you know, maybe they're even in well intentioned, these
mental health professionals in schools, these guidance counselors, these teachers,
Oh you could be trans. But the thing that's so
frustrating about that is there has always existed a tiny percent, tiny,
tiny percent of the population who from a very young
(27:39):
age felt like trapped in the wrong body and felt
like they were the born and the wrong sex. And
those people, you know, if that persists through puberty and adulthood,
are actually probably best suited to live as if they
are the other sex, to be what we would call transgender.
But they did not suddenly discover that in ninth grade,
after never feeling discomfort with their body or their gender,
(27:59):
or their you know, style, or whether they like to
be masculine or feminine. It was there from a very
young age, and it is normal as an eighth or
ninth grader or what have you to feel bad about
your body, to feel awkward in your gender or your
sexuality or these other things. It doesn't mean you're transgender.
And in fact, very very rarely will people suddenly feel
(28:20):
gender dysphoria. And that's truly a lasting thing that isn't
going to go away, and I fear that a whole
wave of young people in the coming decades will come out.
We just don't have good data on this stuff right now,
detransition or regret rates or anything like that. There's really
very basically no actually high quality data. But I fear
we're gonna have a wave of this, especially female to male,
(28:42):
because there's something about this period in young female's lives
where you know, they feel uncomfortable with their body. They
hate being sexualized and objectified by the world as a
young woman, and so the idea of oh, maybe I'm
actually a boy is appealing to them, especially when it's
pushed by a thought figures or adults in their lives
who may be their well intentioned but boy, they should
(29:04):
really know better. So I'm so sorry you went through that.
And as far as people calling you a bigot, don't
listen to them, continue to speak out, consider to continue
to talk about your experience, because you are not alone.
Lots of other people have had very similar experiences. And
as long as you know that in your heart you
don't hate anyone, you're not nasty towards anyone. As long
(29:25):
as you are always kind and you speak truthfully, but
you don't bully or demean people, then they can call
you whatever they want. Those words are losing power because
they've thrown them around like candy and Halloween for years now.
So as long as you know that it's not true,
you're not homophobic, you're not transphobic. You know that you
treat people kindly and you don't call people's slurs or
(29:46):
insult them or demean them. Then continue speaking out, and
if they call you names, let them, let them tell
the air they run out of air in their lungs,
because that's losing power at this point. And it is
more important for you to speak the truth and share
your experiences and stand on business and live by your
values than it is for you to not upset some
(30:09):
people or not have some people call you names. That's
my take on it. But I'm really glad that your
parents didn't just immediately embrace this and push you down
this path, because God, who knows, maybe by now, in
another life or another scenario, you would have had a
double missect to me on the books, or already have
had one, or had one plan for next year. That's
actually a thing that thousands of young females in this
(30:31):
country have had done and have had happen as miners
and have been pushed towards this, and many of them
will regret it. So I'm glad this didn't end terribly
or tragically for you, but thank you for speaking out.
Keep doing it because these experiences are real, and as
much as transactivists like to say they're not, and these
sisters are statistically super rare, we actually don't know that.
(30:54):
We don't have good data, and there are I fear
going to be a lot more stories like yours that
come out in the coming years. All Right, guys, that'll
be it for this bonus episode. Let me know what
you think of this. Did you enjoy this? Do you
want me to do this kind of content regularly? Please
do hit that like button if you haven't yet, do
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(31:15):
with your thoughts. Let me know if you have any
opinions or advice that I left out, or advice I
gave that you disagree with. I do definitely want to know,
so hop down to that comment section, and if you
want to send in a voice note for the next
time I do one of these, telling me a story
about your life or your experiences and asking for advice,
the link is in the description, so please do reach
out and with that we'll talk again real soon.
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