November 7, 2025 • 24 mins
Kindergarten gender transitions, crazy neighbors, family drama, and more! I react to your horror stories in this Voicemail Friday episode of the Brad vs Everyone podcast.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What do you do when somebody in your kid's kindergarten
class is transitioning. We're gonna break this down, plus all
your other wold car stories, personal life situations, and questions
that you guys have for me in this voicemail Friday
(00:22):
episode of the Brad Versus Everyone podcast, my daily show
where I take on the craziest ideas from across social
media and the Internet, all from an independent perspective. On Fridays,
I take your voicemails. The link to send one in
is as always in the description. And up first, we're
gonna hear from a parent with a kid in kindergarten
where some truly wild stuff is going down. Take a listen, Hey, Bradley,
(00:48):
my name is Ali.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I have been watching your stuff for a while. Don't
mind the noise in the background. I'm outside with my kids.
But my oldest is in kindergarten and she got in
trouble with her school because another boy who is in
kindergarten was using she her pronouns and changed his name
(01:15):
and she got in trouble. My daughter got in trouble
for it because she told the boy he can't use
she her because he's not a girl, he's a boy.
I'm proud of my daughter, but just rightfully so it's
it's crazy because they're kindergarteners. But yeah, that's my woke
horror story.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Thank you by Sometimes the stuff y'all taught me about
leaves me a little speechless, and I do kind of
have to put this one in that category because I
genuinely don't know what to do in this situation. And
I'm always a little bit hesitant to give parenting advice
in any way because I don't have kids and I
haven't been a parent, and I feel like that's a
(01:58):
unique struggle kind of and a unique scenario to find
yourself in. But in this case, I mean, it's kind
of wild that there's even someone in your kid's class
that is, how does a five year old have a
transgender identity? I mean, I will I will say that
when I talk to people with gender dysphoria, like long
(02:19):
term real og transsexuals, they'll sometimes tell me yeah, as
young as five, I like, I think, looking back, I
felt like a girl or whatever. But none of them
knew or had any coherent or concrete idea of what
gender and sex were, especially in a transgender sense. At
just five. That's really not a thing at least as
(02:41):
far as I am aware, And I think the most
likely scenario is that you have a woke mom or
woke parents that planted that seed in their child's head, honestly,
But I guess what we can't say for sure in
terms of what your child should do about it, or
how you handle the situation with your kid. I think
you have to tell your kid that she can't necessarily
(03:04):
always vocalize her opinion on everything that other people do,
and sometimes we keep our opinions to ourselves. I don't know, like,
you don't need to tell her, yes, absolutely affirm this
identity and you can actually be whatever. I totally understand
not wanting to send that message to your kindergartener, But
also I think for your daughter to go up to
(03:28):
the other student be like, you can't use she her,
You're really a boy, will true? Is probably not like
the role of the other students. I guess that's a
question of the school's policies towards that kind of thing,
which I kind of question how they're handling this and
whether that's what else are they doing right, because I guess,
(03:51):
who are you entrusting your kid's education with not everyone
unfortunately has access to a ton of choice or options.
But yeah, I guess just teach your child your beliefs
about gender and sex and it sounds like you are,
and then encourage her to be respectful but not necessarily
(04:13):
have to affirm the classmate in any way. But just
maybe you don't have to also like aggressively contradict them.
It's a lesson that maybe kids need to learn young
now they always have had to learn it, but that
we live in a big country with lots of different
types of people, with different beliefs and faith and identities
and practices and hobbies and habits and preferences and traditions,
(04:36):
and we all just have to be able to coexist
even if we don't agree or share a belief or perspective.
So maybe that's the message to tell your child rather
than try to explain all the crazy gender stuff to them.
I don't know. That's just my two cents, but the
rest of y'all please chime in on the comments, because
I don't quite know what to tell you, my friend,
(04:56):
but anybody anyway, guys, do make sure you're subscribed. Comment
you can send in your voicemails the link in the description,
and let's listen to a good story for once.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Listen to this, hey brat that I throw things up
a little bit, I actually have something fairly positive to share,
which is shocking. I know right off the bat. Love
your channel, Enjoy being able to hear a little bit
of common sense, honestly, really enjoy your takes. But I
am lesbian, and I grew up with my family very conservative,
(05:29):
grew up Catholic, and honestly, I thought that I would
forever have to be in the closet. Had some difficulty
with my family growing up. But yet here I am
twenty twenty five. I somehow managed to give myself a girlfriend,
which is already weird, but just the fact that I'm
able to bring her over for Thanksgiving and my family
(05:54):
hasn't completely disowned me. They're actually at the point where
they kind of just don't care, and some of them
have already met my girlfriend. They absolutely love her, And
it honestly just kind of blows my mind that I
am at this point and haven't completely lost my family,
when that's what it originally looked like was going to happen.
(06:17):
But for once, I'm actually having a very fun holiday,
and I am just extremely surprised, but I know, nothing
too exciting, but thought i'd share that with you.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Well, I think it's exciting, and I'm so happy for
you and just really a really great story, you know,
because there are still a fair number you think, oh,
it's twenty twenty five, no one cares about being gay,
what have you? Yes and no. It kind of depends
on the unique circumstance of your family and what part
of country you're in, and what your family's faith background is.
And having gotten to know some people from West Michigan
(06:57):
in particular, not all family are accepting, and sometimes it's rough,
and sometimes it stays rough, like they never really get better.
But oftentimes, even when families have a hard time with
it at first, I do encourage people not to get
too discouraged, because I've seen people do just like complete
one eighties and really grow and change and accept their
(07:18):
loved ones. So I'm super glad that that's what happened
with your family, and hopefully your story gives a little
bit of hope to anybody out there who's worried that
their family's not going to be okay with them. That
it's okay to take that leap, and it may work out,
it might not. Of course, there's no guarantee of a
happy outcome. But yeah, I think it's awesome. I'm so
(07:40):
happy for you, and I appreciate you throwing a little
bit of positivity in the mix there, because we we
listen to and react to so much toxic and negative
and crazy stuff. It's it's nice to just hear a
happy ending for once. Now we're gonna hear a kind
of crazy question from somebody in Australia. Let's listen to this.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
Hi, my name's tanz In. I am Australian and I
am planning to visit the States around Christmas time. I
told my best friend about this, and she leans very,
very very far left. She's very intelligent, she has an
IQ of one hundred and forty five. But she absolutely
(08:24):
freaked out and said that there are troops on the
streets and that Australians are enemies of the United States
now apparently officially, and that I need to get a
Berna phone, that they're going to think I'm anti Trump.
I'm actually not anti Trump and all these things, and
I mean, I'm going to go anyway. I've booked my tickets,
but I just want to know is any of that
(08:46):
actually true? Is any of that actually happening or is
it just the media blowing stuff up as they do,
because that's what I'm more thinking is happening.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Thanks, Well, first and foremost, I don't think you need
to worry too much. I'll give you an honest answer.
Trump has definitely thrown kind of a wrench in the
whole immigration system, and some people have had issues coming
in and out of the country. I'm talking about legal
immigration here, not just illegal immigrants getting deported. But that
(09:22):
tends to be more like if you've had very outspoken
social media posts about Israel or some other controversial topic,
that could become an issue when you're trying to enter
the country. But no, you don't need to worry about
like the secret police whisking you up. And no, Australia
has not been declared an enemy of America or anything
like that. You're probably, i would say, very very very
(09:45):
strong odds you'll be able to visit with no problem.
As for the whole troops on the street thing, Listen,
it is not like there was just military marching down
the streets and American cities all over the place. No,
there are select few cities where Trump has deployed the
National Guard to protect federal buildings or to enforce laws
(10:05):
or help with immigration enforcement. And it's a big controversial
political debate here, but it's really it's just not going
to affect you as a Torus, So you don't need
to worry about that. I don't think you need to
have a burner phone unless there's something you would be like,
unless you're extremely outspoken politically on social media or something.
(10:26):
But if you're just an average citizen who doesn't openly
post their opinions about things, I really think you don't
have anything to worry about and are going to be
just fine. It sounds like your friend has been listening
to too much TikTok or other kind of hysterical left
wing voices who always make it sound like we're in
the Handmaid's Tale and Trump is literally Hitler or whatever.
(10:49):
That is not in fact the case. I mean, there's
some concerning things going on, some things I agree with,
some things I don't, but you'll be most likely just
fine as an Australian forest is my strong suspicion. But
I'm also not an expert on this stuff, So if
you have more concerns, I mean, I definitely consult with
the people who are. That's my two cents, and I
(11:11):
hope you enjoy your trip too. Our very chaotic and
deeply flawed, but beautiful, beautiful country. That's my take at least. Guys,
if you want to send in your voice, no, don't forget.
The link is in the description. It's the speak pipe link.
And now we got something interesting. What do you do
with a counselor who refuses to treat conservatives? Listen to this.
Speaker 5 (11:34):
So, my name's Elizabeth. I am currently in grad school
for counseling. One of my classes required and in person residency,
where one of the girls who made her identity politics
very well known to everybody, asked the whole group professor
(12:02):
and all how she could put it in her professional
disclosure statement, how to avoid that she does not want
to treat conservative people. And I didn't at that point,
I didn't even care who was around. I was just like,
that flies in the face of all of our codes
(12:25):
of ethics as counselors. If that's the attitude you're gonna
have going in, you should not be a counselor and
that's my wolcrror story.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Well, good for you for actually speaking up. I feel
like most people in that scenario think what you thought,
but don't say anything. But I appreciate the backbone that
it takes to even call someone out like that. That
would have been me and what I would do, but
not everyone would. So I definitely give you credit for that.
I agree with you, like fundamentally that if you're going
(13:00):
to become a counselor you become a doctor or a nurse,
you do have to be interested in providing those services
to everyone, especially when it's a question of health, Like
this is not a wedding cake, right, this is stuff
that people need, and you have to treat patients, and
there's no such thing as a perfect patient. You don't
get to choose your patients like, oh if I agree
(13:21):
with them or not. I mean, that's just a very
myopic and I think harmful perspective to have as a
perspective like a mental health counselor. And there are probably
ways that she could actually get away with what she
wanted without openly stating it, because openly stating it just baby.
Just put your pronouns in your bio. It'll have the
same effect. No conservative will come see you. But more seriously,
(13:48):
I think it's sad that somebody would want to do that.
And I feel the same way if if you're a
counselor and you're like I or a nurse, and you're like, oh,
I can't treat gay people or trans people. It's a
different question from a specific service I don't feel ethical
participating in Like I'm a doctor, but I don't want
to perform an abortion right like, or I don't want
to prescribe transgender hormones or something like a specific thing.
(14:12):
But yeah, if a transgender person shows up in the
emergency room with a broken arm, it's your job to
help them, whether you agree with their gender or identity
or not. And I feel the same way about this.
It's like, if your job is to help people with anxiety, isshows,
it's not a question of who they've voted for. And
somebody who thinks like that or acts like that doesn't
(14:32):
belong in that kind of a profession. Now, I'm not
sure there's a whole lot you can really do about it,
besides holding yourself to a different standard and modeling a
better way forward. But again, good for you for calling
that person out. I love that we need more of
that energy around here in twenty twenty five unless like
cowering and oh, I don't want to rock the boat. No,
(14:52):
it's time to rock the boat a little bit. That's
what I think. At least y'all have to let me know.
All right, we got a couple more crazy situations to
hear about. Let's listen, hey, Brad.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
I just wanted to share an interesting story about how
I was recently outed as a female to male transitioner,
but really I was just doing IVF treatment. So I
have a cousin who has been transitioned male to female
for about six to seven years, and we really don't
see eye to eye, but that's a different story entirely.
So I hosted a barbecue family barbecue recently, and they
(15:23):
approached me and said that they were so happy for me,
so proud of me. If I had any questions for them,
I could ask, and that they were just really happy
that I finally understood the trans struggle. And I was confused,
and I asked for clarification because I really haven't changed
any of my opinions or views, and I just wanted
a little bit more clarification. So that's when they kind
(15:44):
of turned evil and they rounded up the family and said,
I have an announcement that they were here to expose me,
that I had been posting to private Facebook groups with
FtM on it that had rainbow emojis and trans hearts
all over it, and that they looked through my medicine
cabinet and they found lupron, testosterone, and other hormones. So
(16:06):
now I have the whole family staring at me, and
I had to admit that, yes, I'm doing IVF. The
loupron is for me to treat endometriosis. The testosterone and
other hormones were from my husband to help improve his numbers.
That the private Facebook groups that I was a part
of didn't stand for female to male but first time mom.
(16:29):
And yes they have rainbows next to it because it
means a rainbow baby, which is a mother who's experienced loss.
And they're not tran's hearts, they're just pink or blue,
meaning boy or girl. So I had the family's attention,
I didn't make the happy announcement that I am currently
pregnant and do a spring of twenty twenty six so yeah,
needless to say, I'm not going to be inviting this
(16:50):
cousin to the baby shower anytime soon. But thanks, Brad.
I really love your show and keep up the great work.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Well, thank you for sharing this story, which is so wild,
Like it's up there for the craziest stories I've heard
doing this segment on this podcast Voicemail Fridays, which I've
done like dozens and dozens and dozens of times now,
Because what, I'm so happy for you that you're pregnant
and you're growing your family, especially since you had a
hard time with it. I'm that's amazing. Congratulations. However, this really,
(17:27):
to me, doesn't even have that much to do with
the fact that your cousin is trans and really just
mostly has to do with that your cousin is psychotic,
Like where are why are they stalking what Facebook private
pages you post to for what purpose? That's weird, Like
that's not normal behavior. Love, And then that, okay, all
(17:49):
of us have like creeped on someone on social media before,
I guess, But to then go search your medicine cabinet
is just psycho Like why don't you mind your own business?
And then to make all these assumptions that you're becoming
trans or something reveals a fair amount of ignorance that
these medications aren't just for that, and not everyone is
(18:12):
like you and just obsessed with that, I guess. And
then the idea they get to confront you or expose
you to the family and all this. Not one of
these decisions or actions is emotionally or psychologically healthy or
normal at all. So this person seems like they're just
like lashing out at you, crossing boundaries all over the place.
(18:35):
So I think, I mean, you should call them out
on that and distance yourself from this person, however much
you feel necessary for those boundary violations, not because they're transgender, right,
but because they have no chill and are engaged in
like just wildly inappropriate and creepy behavior. How could anyone
think that's like okay or normal? I genuinely don't understand,
(18:56):
And I have so many questions, like how did the
rest of your family, Because if I'm at the family
barbecue and this shit is going down, I'm like, uh,
excuse me, what's going on here? Sally? Why are you
rifling through people's medicine cabinets? And it sucks because it
sounds like she also or yeah, she you said a
(19:17):
trans woman said, It sounds like she also like stole
from you the ability to tell your family. Maybe I'm wrong,
maybe I'm interpreting this incorrectly, but it sounds like you
had to tell your whole family, Oh, we did IVF
and I'm pregnant and that's what those hormones are for us.
So she also like stole from you the way or
comfortability of making that announcement and telling your family in
(19:38):
the way or in the timing that you wanted to.
That's also not okay, So listen, I'm sorry you had
this experience. Truly wild stuff. The entitlement and simply like
diabolical behavior of people these days is out of control.
And please please draw whatever boundaries you need to to
(19:59):
keep this person from violating your boundaries like that. Again,
but thank you so much for sharing, and let's listen
to our final voice mail for today.
Speaker 7 (20:07):
Hi, Brad, my name is Haley. I'm gonna try to
keep this as short as possible. So there's this man
in the quiet corner of Connecticut where I live, and
he lives less than half a mile from a school.
Like you, walk in his backyard the football field is like,
right there, this man has signs, which I'm all for
free speech. I really don't care what you want to say.
I don't care how profane it is, whatever. But they
say things like Trump's steen kids just like yours. There's
(20:29):
another one directly addressing children, where it's like, hey, kids,
if your parents are dumb stupid Republicans, here's a real
adult you could talk to with his phone number or something.
There's photos of this man pacing back and forth on
his roof with a giant rifle. The police have been
called on him. They basically were like, oh, well, he's
within his rights, he's harmless, whatever, it's fine. I've seen
people say that they've had on settling encounters, but I
(20:50):
try to take that with a grain of salt if
it's not from like a reliable source.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
But I just wanted to know.
Speaker 7 (20:55):
Your opinion on this situation because it's just rubbing me
the wrong way. Like I'm all for free speech, I'm
all for gun rights, but I do think we need
more regulation on it, like needs to not be so
willing nilly. But yeah, I really just wanted your opinion
on the situation. It's it's kind of crazy, and I
don't know how I feel about it. It makes me
uncomfortable because you can see the school from his house.
(21:17):
It's like right there, kids walk by every day. It's
just unsettling, I guess. But he's within his rights, so
I don't know. Maybe I'm just crazy.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
No, Look, I totally understand why you find that creepy
and unsettling. I do as well, especially the vulgar signs
that kids would be seeing, and the like call me
thing is, it's all so weird as well. I think
I also support gun rights, but like chilling on your
roof with a rifle is strange. The problem is, though,
(21:47):
I just don't think there's anything they can do about it.
Sounds like he's on his property that he owns putting
up signs and displaying his guns. Those are things he's
entitled to do. Yeah, I mean, you have a First
Amendment right to put whatever sign up you want on
your property. I think maybe there's some local ordinance or
(22:09):
something they could pass or try to enforce. And then
with the guns, yeah, unless he aims at someone or
threatens someone, that would be different. But just simply hanging
out on your property with your guns, out not a crime,
not an America, not with our Second Amendment. So I
guess the way I would frame this is that the
cost of these freedoms is that some people are going
(22:32):
to use them in terrible and distasteful ways. On the margins,
for sure, but it's just fundamentally and that sounds like
what's happening here, but it's fundamentally better and more moral
and more just to air on the side of that
freedom than to start cracking down on people, because it's
(22:53):
never going to just be the craziest they get cracked
down upon, and it's kind of an all or nothing
thing when it comes to a right and legal protection.
So I'm not sure there's much you can do about it.
But it does sound like a really crazy and weird situation,
like just more than anything, just very strange. He sounds
like a strange, strange guy. But we gotta, yeah, we
(23:16):
gotta cope with that. There's some weird people out there
and they have rights too, So I'm not sure there's
anything you can do, but thanks for sharing with us,
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What do you do when somebody in your kid's kindergarten
class is transitioning. We're gonna break this down, plus all
your other wold car stories, personal life situations, and questions
that you guys have for me in this voicemail Friday
(00:22):
episode of the Brad Versus Everyone podcast, my daily show
where I take on the craziest ideas from across social
media and the Internet, all from an independent perspective. On Fridays,
I take your voicemails. The link to send one in
is as always in the description. And up first, we're
gonna hear from a parent with a kid in kindergarten
where some truly wild stuff is going down. Take a listen, Hey, Bradley,
(00:48):
my name is Ali.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I have been watching your stuff for a while. Don't
mind the noise in the background. I'm outside with my kids.
But my oldest is in kindergarten and she got in
trouble with her school because another boy who is in
kindergarten was using she her pronouns and changed his name
(01:15):
and she got in trouble. My daughter got in trouble
for it because she told the boy he can't use
she her because he's not a girl, he's a boy.
I'm proud of my daughter, but just rightfully so it's
it's crazy because they're kindergarteners. But yeah, that's my woke
horror story.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Thank you by Sometimes the stuff y'all taught me about
leaves me a little speechless, and I do kind of
have to put this one in that category because I
genuinely don't know what to do in this situation. And
I'm always a little bit hesitant to give parenting advice
in any way because I don't have kids and I
haven't been a parent, and I feel like that's a
(01:58):
unique struggle kind of and a unique scenario to find
yourself in. But in this case, I mean, it's kind
of wild that there's even someone in your kid's class
that is, how does a five year old have a
transgender identity? I mean, I will I will say that
when I talk to people with gender dysphoria, like long
(02:19):
term real og transsexuals, they'll sometimes tell me yeah, as
young as five, I like, I think, looking back, I
felt like a girl or whatever. But none of them
knew or had any coherent or concrete idea of what
gender and sex were, especially in a transgender sense. At
just five. That's really not a thing at least as
(02:41):
far as I am aware, And I think the most
likely scenario is that you have a woke mom or
woke parents that planted that seed in their child's head, honestly,
But I guess what we can't say for sure in
terms of what your child should do about it, or
how you handle the situation with your kid. I think
you have to tell your kid that she can't necessarily
(03:04):
always vocalize her opinion on everything that other people do,
and sometimes we keep our opinions to ourselves. I don't know, like,
you don't need to tell her, yes, absolutely affirm this
identity and you can actually be whatever. I totally understand
not wanting to send that message to your kindergartener, But
also I think for your daughter to go up to
(03:28):
the other student be like, you can't use she her,
You're really a boy, will true? Is probably not like
the role of the other students. I guess that's a
question of the school's policies towards that kind of thing,
which I kind of question how they're handling this and
whether that's what else are they doing right, because I guess,
(03:51):
who are you entrusting your kid's education with not everyone
unfortunately has access to a ton of choice or options.
But yeah, I guess just teach your child your beliefs
about gender and sex and it sounds like you are,
and then encourage her to be respectful but not necessarily
(04:13):
have to affirm the classmate in any way. But just
maybe you don't have to also like aggressively contradict them.
It's a lesson that maybe kids need to learn young
now they always have had to learn it, but that
we live in a big country with lots of different
types of people, with different beliefs and faith and identities
and practices and hobbies and habits and preferences and traditions,
(04:36):
and we all just have to be able to coexist
even if we don't agree or share a belief or perspective.
So maybe that's the message to tell your child rather
than try to explain all the crazy gender stuff to them.
I don't know. That's just my two cents, but the
rest of y'all please chime in on the comments, because
I don't quite know what to tell you, my friend,
(04:56):
but anybody anyway, guys, do make sure you're subscribed. Comment
you can send in your voicemails the link in the description,
and let's listen to a good story for once.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Listen to this, hey brat that I throw things up
a little bit, I actually have something fairly positive to share,
which is shocking. I know right off the bat. Love
your channel, Enjoy being able to hear a little bit
of common sense, honestly, really enjoy your takes. But I
am lesbian, and I grew up with my family very conservative,
(05:29):
grew up Catholic, and honestly, I thought that I would
forever have to be in the closet. Had some difficulty
with my family growing up. But yet here I am
twenty twenty five. I somehow managed to give myself a girlfriend,
which is already weird, but just the fact that I'm
able to bring her over for Thanksgiving and my family
(05:54):
hasn't completely disowned me. They're actually at the point where
they kind of just don't care, and some of them
have already met my girlfriend. They absolutely love her, And
it honestly just kind of blows my mind that I
am at this point and haven't completely lost my family,
when that's what it originally looked like was going to happen.
(06:17):
But for once, I'm actually having a very fun holiday,
and I am just extremely surprised, but I know, nothing
too exciting, but thought i'd share that with you.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Well, I think it's exciting, and I'm so happy for
you and just really a really great story, you know,
because there are still a fair number you think, oh,
it's twenty twenty five, no one cares about being gay,
what have you? Yes and no. It kind of depends
on the unique circumstance of your family and what part
of country you're in, and what your family's faith background is.
And having gotten to know some people from West Michigan
(06:57):
in particular, not all family are accepting, and sometimes it's rough,
and sometimes it stays rough, like they never really get better.
But oftentimes, even when families have a hard time with
it at first, I do encourage people not to get
too discouraged, because I've seen people do just like complete
one eighties and really grow and change and accept their
(07:18):
loved ones. So I'm super glad that that's what happened
with your family, and hopefully your story gives a little
bit of hope to anybody out there who's worried that
their family's not going to be okay with them. That
it's okay to take that leap, and it may work out,
it might not. Of course, there's no guarantee of a
happy outcome. But yeah, I think it's awesome. I'm so
(07:40):
happy for you, and I appreciate you throwing a little
bit of positivity in the mix there, because we we
listen to and react to so much toxic and negative
and crazy stuff. It's it's nice to just hear a
happy ending for once. Now we're gonna hear a kind
of crazy question from somebody in Australia. Let's listen to this.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
Hi, my name's tanz In. I am Australian and I
am planning to visit the States around Christmas time. I
told my best friend about this, and she leans very,
very very far left. She's very intelligent, she has an
IQ of one hundred and forty five. But she absolutely
(08:24):
freaked out and said that there are troops on the
streets and that Australians are enemies of the United States
now apparently officially, and that I need to get a
Berna phone, that they're going to think I'm anti Trump.
I'm actually not anti Trump and all these things, and
I mean, I'm going to go anyway. I've booked my tickets,
but I just want to know is any of that
(08:46):
actually true? Is any of that actually happening or is
it just the media blowing stuff up as they do,
because that's what I'm more thinking is happening.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Thanks, Well, first and foremost, I don't think you need
to worry too much. I'll give you an honest answer.
Trump has definitely thrown kind of a wrench in the
whole immigration system, and some people have had issues coming
in and out of the country. I'm talking about legal
immigration here, not just illegal immigrants getting deported. But that
(09:22):
tends to be more like if you've had very outspoken
social media posts about Israel or some other controversial topic,
that could become an issue when you're trying to enter
the country. But no, you don't need to worry about
like the secret police whisking you up. And no, Australia
has not been declared an enemy of America or anything
like that. You're probably, i would say, very very very
(09:45):
strong odds you'll be able to visit with no problem.
As for the whole troops on the street thing, Listen,
it is not like there was just military marching down
the streets and American cities all over the place. No,
there are select few cities where Trump has deployed the
National Guard to protect federal buildings or to enforce laws
(10:05):
or help with immigration enforcement. And it's a big controversial
political debate here, but it's really it's just not going
to affect you as a Torus, So you don't need
to worry about that. I don't think you need to
have a burner phone unless there's something you would be like,
unless you're extremely outspoken politically on social media or something.
(10:26):
But if you're just an average citizen who doesn't openly
post their opinions about things, I really think you don't
have anything to worry about and are going to be
just fine. It sounds like your friend has been listening
to too much TikTok or other kind of hysterical left
wing voices who always make it sound like we're in
the Handmaid's Tale and Trump is literally Hitler or whatever.
(10:49):
That is not in fact the case. I mean, there's
some concerning things going on, some things I agree with,
some things I don't, but you'll be most likely just
fine as an Australian forest is my strong suspicion. But
I'm also not an expert on this stuff, So if
you have more concerns, I mean, I definitely consult with
the people who are. That's my two cents, and I
(11:11):
hope you enjoy your trip too. Our very chaotic and
deeply flawed, but beautiful, beautiful country. That's my take at least. Guys,
if you want to send in your voice, no, don't forget.
The link is in the description. It's the speak pipe link.
And now we got something interesting. What do you do
with a counselor who refuses to treat conservatives? Listen to this.
Speaker 5 (11:34):
So, my name's Elizabeth. I am currently in grad school
for counseling. One of my classes required and in person residency,
where one of the girls who made her identity politics
very well known to everybody, asked the whole group professor
(12:02):
and all how she could put it in her professional
disclosure statement, how to avoid that she does not want
to treat conservative people. And I didn't at that point,
I didn't even care who was around. I was just like,
that flies in the face of all of our codes
(12:25):
of ethics as counselors. If that's the attitude you're gonna
have going in, you should not be a counselor and
that's my wolcrror story.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Well, good for you for actually speaking up. I feel
like most people in that scenario think what you thought,
but don't say anything. But I appreciate the backbone that
it takes to even call someone out like that. That
would have been me and what I would do, but
not everyone would. So I definitely give you credit for that.
I agree with you, like fundamentally that if you're going
(13:00):
to become a counselor you become a doctor or a nurse,
you do have to be interested in providing those services
to everyone, especially when it's a question of health, Like
this is not a wedding cake, right, this is stuff
that people need, and you have to treat patients, and
there's no such thing as a perfect patient. You don't
get to choose your patients like, oh if I agree
(13:21):
with them or not. I mean, that's just a very
myopic and I think harmful perspective to have as a
perspective like a mental health counselor. And there are probably
ways that she could actually get away with what she
wanted without openly stating it, because openly stating it just baby.
Just put your pronouns in your bio. It'll have the
same effect. No conservative will come see you. But more seriously,
(13:48):
I think it's sad that somebody would want to do that.
And I feel the same way if if you're a
counselor and you're like I or a nurse, and you're like, oh,
I can't treat gay people or trans people. It's a
different question from a specific service I don't feel ethical
participating in Like I'm a doctor, but I don't want
to perform an abortion right like, or I don't want
to prescribe transgender hormones or something like a specific thing.
(14:12):
But yeah, if a transgender person shows up in the
emergency room with a broken arm, it's your job to
help them, whether you agree with their gender or identity
or not. And I feel the same way about this.
It's like, if your job is to help people with anxiety, isshows,
it's not a question of who they've voted for. And
somebody who thinks like that or acts like that doesn't
(14:32):
belong in that kind of a profession. Now, I'm not
sure there's a whole lot you can really do about it,
besides holding yourself to a different standard and modeling a
better way forward. But again, good for you for calling
that person out. I love that we need more of
that energy around here in twenty twenty five unless like
cowering and oh, I don't want to rock the boat. No,
(14:52):
it's time to rock the boat a little bit. That's
what I think. At least y'all have to let me know.
All right, we got a couple more crazy situations to
hear about. Let's listen, hey, Brad.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
I just wanted to share an interesting story about how
I was recently outed as a female to male transitioner,
but really I was just doing IVF treatment. So I
have a cousin who has been transitioned male to female
for about six to seven years, and we really don't
see eye to eye, but that's a different story entirely.
So I hosted a barbecue family barbecue recently, and they
(15:23):
approached me and said that they were so happy for me,
so proud of me. If I had any questions for them,
I could ask, and that they were just really happy
that I finally understood the trans struggle. And I was confused,
and I asked for clarification because I really haven't changed
any of my opinions or views, and I just wanted
a little bit more clarification. So that's when they kind
(15:44):
of turned evil and they rounded up the family and said,
I have an announcement that they were here to expose me,
that I had been posting to private Facebook groups with
FtM on it that had rainbow emojis and trans hearts
all over it, and that they looked through my medicine
cabinet and they found lupron, testosterone, and other hormones. So
(16:06):
now I have the whole family staring at me, and
I had to admit that, yes, I'm doing IVF. The
loupron is for me to treat endometriosis. The testosterone and
other hormones were from my husband to help improve his numbers.
That the private Facebook groups that I was a part
of didn't stand for female to male but first time mom.
(16:29):
And yes they have rainbows next to it because it
means a rainbow baby, which is a mother who's experienced loss.
And they're not tran's hearts, they're just pink or blue,
meaning boy or girl. So I had the family's attention,
I didn't make the happy announcement that I am currently
pregnant and do a spring of twenty twenty six so yeah,
needless to say, I'm not going to be inviting this
(16:50):
cousin to the baby shower anytime soon. But thanks, Brad.
I really love your show and keep up the great work.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Well, thank you for sharing this story, which is so wild,
Like it's up there for the craziest stories I've heard
doing this segment on this podcast Voicemail Fridays, which I've
done like dozens and dozens and dozens of times now,
Because what, I'm so happy for you that you're pregnant
and you're growing your family, especially since you had a
hard time with it. I'm that's amazing. Congratulations. However, this really,
(17:27):
to me, doesn't even have that much to do with
the fact that your cousin is trans and really just
mostly has to do with that your cousin is psychotic,
Like where are why are they stalking what Facebook private
pages you post to for what purpose? That's weird, Like
that's not normal behavior. Love, And then that, okay, all
(17:49):
of us have like creeped on someone on social media before,
I guess, But to then go search your medicine cabinet
is just psycho Like why don't you mind your own business?
And then to make all these assumptions that you're becoming
trans or something reveals a fair amount of ignorance that
these medications aren't just for that, and not everyone is
(18:12):
like you and just obsessed with that, I guess. And
then the idea they get to confront you or expose
you to the family and all this. Not one of
these decisions or actions is emotionally or psychologically healthy or
normal at all. So this person seems like they're just
like lashing out at you, crossing boundaries all over the place.
(18:35):
So I think, I mean, you should call them out
on that and distance yourself from this person, however much
you feel necessary for those boundary violations, not because they're transgender, right,
but because they have no chill and are engaged in
like just wildly inappropriate and creepy behavior. How could anyone
think that's like okay or normal? I genuinely don't understand,
(18:56):
And I have so many questions, like how did the
rest of your family, Because if I'm at the family
barbecue and this shit is going down, I'm like, uh,
excuse me, what's going on here? Sally? Why are you
rifling through people's medicine cabinets? And it sucks because it
sounds like she also or yeah, she you said a
(19:17):
trans woman said, It sounds like she also like stole
from you the ability to tell your family. Maybe I'm wrong,
maybe I'm interpreting this incorrectly, but it sounds like you
had to tell your whole family, Oh, we did IVF
and I'm pregnant and that's what those hormones are for us.
So she also like stole from you the way or
comfortability of making that announcement and telling your family in
(19:38):
the way or in the timing that you wanted to.
That's also not okay, So listen, I'm sorry you had
this experience. Truly wild stuff. The entitlement and simply like
diabolical behavior of people these days is out of control.
And please please draw whatever boundaries you need to to
(19:59):
keep this person from violating your boundaries like that. Again,
but thank you so much for sharing, and let's listen
to our final voice mail for today.
Speaker 7 (20:07):
Hi, Brad, my name is Haley. I'm gonna try to
keep this as short as possible. So there's this man
in the quiet corner of Connecticut where I live, and
he lives less than half a mile from a school.
Like you, walk in his backyard the football field is like,
right there, this man has signs, which I'm all for
free speech. I really don't care what you want to say.
I don't care how profane it is, whatever. But they
say things like Trump's steen kids just like yours. There's
(20:29):
another one directly addressing children, where it's like, hey, kids,
if your parents are dumb stupid Republicans, here's a real
adult you could talk to with his phone number or something.
There's photos of this man pacing back and forth on
his roof with a giant rifle. The police have been
called on him. They basically were like, oh, well, he's
within his rights, he's harmless, whatever, it's fine. I've seen
people say that they've had on settling encounters, but I
(20:50):
try to take that with a grain of salt if
it's not from like a reliable source.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
But I just wanted to know.
Speaker 7 (20:55):
Your opinion on this situation because it's just rubbing me
the wrong way. Like I'm all for free speech, I'm
all for gun rights, but I do think we need
more regulation on it, like needs to not be so
willing nilly. But yeah, I really just wanted your opinion
on the situation. It's it's kind of crazy, and I
don't know how I feel about it. It makes me
uncomfortable because you can see the school from his house.
(21:17):
It's like right there, kids walk by every day. It's
just unsettling, I guess. But he's within his rights, so
I don't know. Maybe I'm just crazy.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
No, Look, I totally understand why you find that creepy
and unsettling. I do as well, especially the vulgar signs
that kids would be seeing, and the like call me
thing is, it's all so weird as well. I think
I also support gun rights, but like chilling on your
roof with a rifle is strange. The problem is, though,
(21:47):
I just don't think there's anything they can do about it.
Sounds like he's on his property that he owns putting
up signs and displaying his guns. Those are things he's
entitled to do. Yeah, I mean, you have a First
Amendment right to put whatever sign up you want on
your property. I think maybe there's some local ordinance or
(22:09):
something they could pass or try to enforce. And then
with the guns, yeah, unless he aims at someone or
threatens someone, that would be different. But just simply hanging
out on your property with your guns, out not a crime,
not an America, not with our Second Amendment. So I
guess the way I would frame this is that the
cost of these freedoms is that some people are going
(22:32):
to use them in terrible and distasteful ways. On the margins,
for sure, but it's just fundamentally and that sounds like
what's happening here, but it's fundamentally better and more moral
and more just to air on the side of that
freedom than to start cracking down on people, because it's
(22:53):
never going to just be the craziest they get cracked
down upon, and it's kind of an all or nothing
thing when it comes to a right and legal protection.
So I'm not sure there's much you can do about it.
But it does sound like a really crazy and weird situation,
like just more than anything, just very strange. He sounds
like a strange, strange guy. But we gotta, yeah, we
(23:16):
gotta cope with that. There's some weird people out there
and they have rights too, So I'm not sure there's
anything you can do, but thanks for sharing with us,
and guys. That'll be it for this episode of the
Brad Versus Everyone podcast. Thanks so much for tuning in.
Remember you can send in your voicemails. Please, if you're
listening on audio podcasts in particular, please do take a
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and leave a review, couldn't you? Yeah? I think you
could regardless. Thank you all so much for listening and
tuning in, and we'll talk again real soon.
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