Breaking Sales

Every closing technique you've been taught is training your prospects to resist you.

While you're focused on "Always Be Closing," your prospects are running in the opposite direction, “Avoid Being Closed.” The harder you push, the further they pull away. It's a losing game.

In Part I, we revealed why traditional closing tactics backfire and the three stages prospects go through when debating c...

Traditional closing tactics focus on winning the deal—but that’s not the process your prospects and clients experience. They experience a process that requires them to debate change. If you want to get better at closing, then you’ll need to master the process that your prospects go through. The ABC, or "always be closing" method, is great for the movies, but detrimental to your real world conversations. 

In this revealing second part of our conversation with Lappin180 and top commercial real estate advisor Emily Smith, we dive deep on one of the most damaging barriers to successful selling: - anxiety, and how detachment is a practical and proven way to reduce the thoughts that hold you back. 

Emily shares the remarkable transformation that occurred when she stopped trying to control things that she couldn’...

After 12 successful years in commercial real estate, Emily Smith thought she had the perfect formula: be the most prepared, most knowledgeable person in every room. Then she started working w/ Lappin180.

In this candid conversation, Emily reveals how she completely transformed her approach by letting go of the "expert" persona that had defined her career. She shares the humbling process of recognizing that...

Do you view your calendar as a constraint or an asset?

In this episode, Dan and Pam discuss why your relationship with time is the foundation of high performance. They explore the zero-sum approach to time management, revealing why traditional time blocking doesn't work for most sales professionals and how to build the discipline to stop re-prioritizing in the moment. Learn practical strategies to stop was...

When was the last time you sat comfortably in silence during a sales conversation? 

In this episode, Dan Lappin and Pam Evanson explore the transformative power of giving prospects space to think. You’ll learn: 

• Why jumping in to fill every pause can cost you valuable insights

What hidden patterns from your past might be limiting your sales performance?

In this candid episode, Dan and Kristie share personal stories about how childhood experiences shaped their approach to business conversations. Dan reveals his journey from seeking validation to finding freedom in authentic interactions, while Kristie discusses reframing her view of tension from something negative to a positive force in sales dialogues. D...

Have you ever felt like you were chasing the day? You know, that gap that exists when you set out to achieve or create something new, but you’re unsure if the different routines and actions you’re investing in will pay off. Your days include more uncertainty than normal because the new and different actions feel like you're taking a step back, not forward.

In this episode of Breaking Sales, ...

WARNING: Part II of this conversation might make you uncomfortable—especially if you've been in sales for more than 10 years.

When Dan asked a room of veteran salespeople with multiple 7-figure deals under their belts when they last practiced their sales conversations, the silence was deafening. Not a single hand went up.

These same professionals tell their children to practice constantly to i...

What separates sustainable high performance from occasional success? Often, it's not the big moments, but the small daily practices that create the foundation for excellence. In this final episode with MJ Insurance Chief Growth Officer and President of Benefits Consulting Andy Vetor, we explore how intentional routines enable us to maintain focus, energy, and impact across multiple demanding roles. 

Throug...

Ever notice how the more attached you are to someone's success (kids, friend, client, or prospect), the less likely they are to listen to and take your advice? 

Through stories from sales, leadership and parenting, MJ Insurance Chief Growth Officer and President of Benefits Consulting Andy Vetor talks about how slowing down and asking questions actually helps the other person take ownership of improving or...

Do you know what it’s like to stay unwavering and fully committed to asking questions and seeking to understand the other person’s perspective, versus sharing expertise or having all the answers? That powerful shift from no longer making yourself the lead character in the conversation, and instead allowing the other person to take on that lead role. This is exactly what long time client and friend Andy Vetor, Chief Gro...

Ever wonder how you can learn to embrace those uncomfortable moments? You know— the ones that light the path toward where you want to be headed verses where you currently are. Whether a difficult conversation, new routine, or some new action. 

In this episode, Pam and Dan break down:

• What's really happening in your head duri...