Chapter 1: Resilience

Resilience is the fourth and final meditation for Chapter 1: Emotional First Aid Kit.

What first comes to mind when you see the word resilience?

Resilience is a nuanced concept. Resilience is more than just courage or confidence. It is more than just being disciplined, showing up and putting in the effort. It includes qualities like determination and adaptability. Most importantly, resilience is our ability to encounter challenges or adversity, to rise above to continue moving forward. Being resilient is being capable of learning from our mistakes or from dark periods of our life; to use the lessons we pull from our failings or our suffering in a sustained effort to help guide our actions and decisions for a better future.

Resilience doesn’t exist if there hasn’t been hardship before it. You don’t just wake up one day, suddenly resilient. It’s in the actions we take following difficult moments when our resiliency can be most acknowledged with awareness.  It’s something that’s worked on, built upon and then fully recognized further down the line. Resilience is a long-term investment of the soul.

We all encounter, endure or contribute to challenges in our lives that teach us hard lessons about resilience. If we successfully learn from those moments, we can apply our earned wisdom to future situations that bring up similar emotions. When times get tough, practice diving into your toolkit and tapping into your earned resilience.

Here are 3 takeaways from my own personal learned lessons on resilience:

One: Know with complete certainty that you deserve happiness. You deserve to be treated with kindness, love and respect.

Resilience thrives in the knowing that each and everyone of us deserves to be at peace. You, the person reading this, wholeheartedly deserves happiness, meaning and purpose. It is healthy to ensure you’re being treated with kindness and consideration of your feelings. We all have different standards of what we allow into our lives. It’s helpful to assess if your life, and the people in it, reflect those standards and if you’re living a life that is aligned with what’s in your heart. You always and eventually get to have a choice. In the face of hardship or mistreatment from others, choose your happiness. Know that you are worthy of it, every single day.

Two: Learn to recognize when it’s time to persevere and when it’s time to quit.

Throughout my life, I have had to change my definition of success because I have often felt a pressure to succeed and perform well beyond my capacity. The grind culture we live in, and especially throughout adolescence, we’re bombarded with the expectation to find ourselves quickly and be successful TM (whatever that means). Let’s be clear, everyone’s definition of success is different anyway.

While I believe having a goal to work towards is incredibly important, I have found it helpful to continuously assess my wellbeing as I build my life. Doing so ensures I don’t rush through things, and it prevents burning myself out. A part of resiliency