#437 From Resentment to Repair in Marriage with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

This week on the podcast, I’m joined once again by the brilliant Dr. Morgan Cutlip- author, psychologist, and relationship expert. She is known for equipping individuals and couples with practical, down-to-earth tools to navigate the most challenging parts of relationships. She has a true gift for turning psychological research into relatable, real-life strategies, and she shares her wisdom through her books, courses, blog, podcast, and social media platforms.

Morgan first joined us to talk about her book Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, and now she’s back with her brand-new release, A Better Share, which just dropped last week. 

In this episode, we talk about the “invisible load” so many of us carry in marriage and relationships. From emotional labor and intimacy to resentment and repair, Morgan helps us understand what’s really going on beneath the surface- and how to stop feeling like you're carrying it all alone.

Heads up: we touch on some adult topics, so this one might be best saved for when little ears aren’t around. 

I know you’re going to love Morgan’s wisdom, insights and message of hope today!

4:01 – Morgan 201

•    Life in a book-writing hole
•    Kids getting older
•    The bob is bobbing!

6:56 – Morgan’s Expertise And Book Launch

•    Morgan’s background in psychology
•    Helping women stay connected to themselves
•    How Morgan’s experience and others’ experiences influenced this book

11:28 – The Mental Load

•    Defining “the mental load”
•    The weight on women 
•    The emotional work of home and family 

15:00 – Challenges In Modern Relationships 

•    Why couples end up in imbalanced relationship dynamics 
•    How women are socialized to self-sacrifice
•    Breaking under the weight of assumed responsibility

20:43 – Repairing Resentment and Rebuilding Intimacy

•    Talking about these issues without defensiveness
•    Externalizing the problem and setting up conversations well
•    5 key conversations couples should be having 
•    Practical tools for improving relationships
•    Getting your copy of Morgan’s book

 

FEATURED QUOTES

“If we just point the finger at our partners, it's not going to get us to a better place.”

“Everybody has a mental load…However, in home and family life, research shows us time and time again, even when women work full time, part time or stay at home parents, it doesn't matter, we tend to carry the bulk of it.”

“When couples stop talking about the little things, they stop reaching for the big things, like intimacy.”

Learn more about Morgan:

https://drmorgancutlip.com/

My Love Thinks:

https://www.mylovethinks.com/

My Love Thinks Podcast:

https://www.mylovethinks.com/relationship-podcast/

Get Your Copy of A Better Share:

https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder/

Get your Copy of Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself

https://drmorgancutlip.com/book/

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