Andy Fiori chats his stand up special CHECK RIGHT, Sirius XM and dating in the work place!

Stand up Comedian and SiriusXM Program Director, Andy Fiori, stops by Chanel in the City and chats with host, Chanel Omari about his new stand up special album: Check Right, airing on YOUTUBE now! The special has been dedicated and inspired by his father who always taught him to "Check Right" in situations in life.

Andy chats how he became a stand up comedian and what inspired him to become one. Andy chats the inspiration behind his jokes and how he has developed them over time. He opens up that being a good stand up comedian takes time.

Andy also chats about wanting to be a writer on The Simpsons and more. He opens up how comedy is different these days than before/back in the day because of digital and social media platforms.

We chat about how to date a comedian, the dos and don'ts in the comedy industry and how to always be your authentic self in order to achieve success and more! How to work out your jokes.

Andy chats about the dos and don'ts in the dating world, how men are using the term "negging" to catch a woman and what negging means and how to have mature break ups or ghost someone in a "mature" way! Situationships and getting attached to the idea of "dating someone" instead of actually really liking them.

Andy also chats on how people like to avoid confrontation and sometimes communication is the key to success in the comedy and entertainment industry!

Follow Andy Fiori @AndyFiori for more information!

Check out his Stand up Special here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bF5Xb66vwTI

Visit his website for tour dates: www.andyfiori.com

Episode Transcript

(00:05):
Hey, everyone, welcome back toanother episode of Chanel in the City.
I'm your host, Chanel O Mariand I have an exciting guest here today.
I really love him. Um,we all know we love I love
my boyfriend. But he's a goodfriend of mine and he is a talented
stand up comedian. He's a powerhouse. He has a special out right now
which is hilarious. Please go checkit out on YouTube called check right.

(00:28):
And he has another show on SeriousXM. He has a couple of shows,
and we're gonna get into that.He is talented, he is funny,
his handsome eighties he single single slideinto his side. But I have
to prove his friends, his femalefriends have to prove No. I like
that, and he's one of thebest guys in the world. So kind
please welcome my friend Andy Fiori.How are you. I'm good, how's

(00:51):
everything. You're the coolest. I'msorry, it's my high blood pressure too.
Well. First of all, congratulationson your special. Thanks, that's
a big deal. Yeah, Iworked hard on it. I think you'll
love it. Give it a watch, leave a comment, do all that
good stuff. But yeah, I'mreally proud of it. Talk to us
a little bit about the inspiration behindit, like, yeah, and why

(01:14):
during this time, Like, becauseyou've been in comedy for years, you
know, and you've been doing comedyforever. Why now I'm like, why
now the special? No one wasasking for it? Why now everybody's asking
for it. It's, by theway's really hilarious. Thank you very much.
It was a little bit of Well, I'll start with the inspiration check
right, comes from a thing mydad Rip used to say when we were

(01:38):
little kids. Actually our whole lives. I had an old dad. I
don't know if anybody out there hasold parents. My dad was super old,
had me at fifty five. Ohwow, yeah, I had my
kids sister at sixty three. WayI know. Oh wait, so shit
is possible. Okay. So Igrew up with like a guy with just
really old tendencies. And when wewere driving, if you were, you

(02:01):
know, sitting in the front seat, he'd be driving, he'd come up
to like a stop sign and hewould only look left and he'd bark,
he'd go check right. I swearto God, no, you would have
to be responsible, yeah, say, well, you would have to be
honest because he went on your say, so so you had to be like
all clear or like you learn atan early age not to mumble because a

(02:24):
he was older, like he didn'thear great, but you also can't say
words that sounds so like no andgo, you know, because one time
I swear to God like under myI was like playing game Boy and I
was like, he's like check right, I went no, and he fucking
took off into the traffic. Howdid you become so normal? He's having
kids at and your sister right me, your sister, she's beautiful. Yeah,

(02:45):
you guys are like normal because hewas a pretty normal guy. Okay,
I mean, and age didn't limithim whatsoever. He was at every
ball game at like after he wasa miracle of modern science agewise, Like
he was an old dad, buthe acted like twenty years younger. Oh
wow, So we were playing catch, he was helping me with homework.

(03:06):
It was never deterned to anything.So I grew up with like a normal
childhood, normal father. You know. It's just he just looked like a
grandpa but didn't act like it atall. You know. For the girls,
my dad didn't have daddy. Theyfucking loved him. Are you kidding
me what a wingman. Holy charismatic, charismatic like Sung Barbershop quartet his whole
life Sung Barbershop was a World WarTwo veteran, ex olympian. Yeah,

(03:30):
wow, American icon. That's amazing. Yeah, and how like big of
an influence. So he was abig influence in your life? Up?
Oh huge? Yeah, So that'sthe specialist name check right after him.
There's some stuff about him and therebecause he passed away at ninety six.
Wow. Yeah, that's amazing.Yeah, sorry to hear about that hard.
It's so sad of course because you'regoing to miss the person. But

(03:52):
you're like, ah, I can'tbe. We had such a good run,
right, you know, and sothere's a lot of good. So
to get to your second question,is whine now is because that was kind
of prescient, you know, itwas kind of timely with the dad stuff.
There's some a little bit of COVIDstuff in there, just because we
shot it in March of twenty twentyone, and I wanted to thirdly move

(04:13):
on from that stuff. You know, just as comics you kind of get
tired of stuff, and I imagineit's like a band. You're just like
I can't play fucking Stairway to Heavenone more time. I have to move
on, you know what I mean. I know I can't even tell Mike
we were talking about this, Ican't tell my jokes. They could be
funny, clever work for a while, but I'm like, I gotta I
gotta write new ones. I gottawrite new ones. I gotta write new
ones. So that was a bigmotivation, and it just felt like the

(04:36):
timing was right where I was atwith it, because you know, it's
a comic, You're always developing bits, even the ones you already have.
You know, I have stuff frommy first album in twenty sixteen that just
I'd go on the road and Iwould need the time because I hadn't written
new stuff yet. But then Iwould, like three months later, say

(04:56):
it differently. I'm like, oh, this is better than when I actually
taped and had it on my album. So they're always evolving. But to
your my point is I was prettyhappy with where every piece of material was,
and I had been touring with itfor a little while, so I
was just like, you know what, let's just fucking shoot it and let's
get it out there. Let's putit it was time for me to put
out a new album, just tohave some fresh stuff, and I made

(05:18):
an album out of it, andthey're special, So yeah, I think
you'll love it. Do you feellike you have been able? Like,
is it therapeutic for you to copewith your father's passing the comedy stuff or
the special or doing comedy general?Do you ever do jokes about him a
lot? There's a good chunk ofDad on check right. That was me

(05:39):
dealing with his death in my comedy. But I don't know if it was
therapeutic for me. It's not likeI mean, it's sentimental to me.
It's not overly sad, but it'sjust more of a tribute. It's like
I have such fond memories, soit's not like these are more he loved
them, by the way, likeit was his favorite thing, the jokes
about him. My aunt Sel toldme that once. She was like,

(06:00):
he adores the jokes about him becauseI don't feel bad. Sometimes you never
know what a guy like that.You're like, I don't want hurt his
feelings. That's the last thing Iwant to do. This is an homage.
These are this is purely you know, tributary to him. Yeah,
and so tributary. I don't knowif that's right, Like you're smarter than
me. I mean, I'm wherethe water goes in from the fucking lake

(06:20):
into an ocean. Isn't that atributary? Well? Are you tribute?
It's my tribute alizing. I don'tknow. I'm not pre I mean,
I'm dyslexing, so I tribulation.I don't know. So uh, I'm
He loved all that stuff about him, and no, I don't think it

(06:42):
wasn't really therapeutic, but it was, you know, it's dedicated to him.
At the end we had there's anice picture of him in the credits,
and he was supportive of your comedy. He loved it. Yeah,
he loved it, absolutely adored it. One of my favorite pictures I haven't
framed is a when I was tapingmy first album. Actually, uh,
somebody in the audience, one ofmy fans sent me the picture afterwards.
She said, I kept looking atyour parents all night because they kept beaming

(07:06):
watching you. And they were inone of the tapings and she took a
picture of both my parents watching andthey're both really big smiles on their face.
That is that makes me really happy. You know. So he,
like I said, he loved it, he loved he was a storyteller,
a very charismatic guy. Like Isaid, he was a you know,
a singer and just the life ofthe party. So I think I inherited

(07:27):
that part of from him. Whydo you think so? Another question is
what got you into comedy? Uh? Being a fan mostly? I was
a huge fan of comedy since Iwas really young. I loved snl I
loved in Living Color on forty three. So like early Simpson, I grew

(07:48):
up with the Simpsons Simpsons was Iwas ten when The Simpsons premiered in nineteen
eighty nine, and that shaped mysense of humor. I wanted to I
was in college, I really wantedto be a writer for the Simpsons.
Like that was the Simpsons too.I mean, we're not that far.
Yeah. I started like looking inthe producer Cray. I'd started like researching
how you got that job. Neverfigured it out. But it was in

(08:13):
my senior year of college when Iwas dating a girl and we went to
see her uncle, John Kensel,who's still a stand up comedian Philadelphia.
I went to Villanova University outside Philly, and one night. She was just
like, do you want to gosee my uncle and his friends. They're
doing a stand up show. AndI was always a huge fan of stand
up. I was Comedy Central Presents, all those early ones I loved,

(08:35):
and I jumped at the opportunity togo. And afterwards we were hanging out
with her uncle John and his friends, and I did that naive thing of
being like, who's on to trystand up? And they did not shun
me at all. They were theywere like we do. We are at
an open mic at the Comedy Cabaretin Northeast Philly every single Wednesday. They

(08:56):
were like, just come down andtry. Wow. And so I went
and watched, Like through times,I didn't get up on stage, and
I went and just scouted. Andthen after a few times of doing that,
I I wrote like what I thoughtwas two minutes of material. And
for the first time I went onstage. It was October of two thousand
and one, so it was wow. I was like, holy shit,

(09:18):
I was graduated? Was I graduatingcollege? I was graduating? Is it
a month after nine to eleven?I was like, I guess the world
needs my humor now more than ever? Oh the month, Yes, before
nine. I was in high school. Yet now was the time when I
should hit the scene. Wow,you've been doing it a long time.
Well, there was some gaps,some big gaps in there. Not big

(09:39):
gaps, but there was There wastimes when I would do like one spot
a year, or I didn't knowhow to the sound was ignorant now looking
back, but I didn't know.I didn't know how to do comedy.
Then I didn't know how to doanything. So not that you asked,
but I graduated, moved back hometo North New Jersey where I'm from,
and there was one club there,Rascals, and then there was the city.

(10:00):
You know, I live an houroutside of Manhattan, right, So
it was hard to figure out whatto do because I really only had bringer
show opportunities. I don't know,if you're fans, you know, you
pay basically pay to play, youknow, bring ten people and you get
ten minutes of audience being you know, on a Monday night. So I
was doing that, but like,you can only do that for so many

(10:20):
times my friends, until everyone's like, you're scamming. You think I'm a
slow writer. Now you should haveseen me back in the day. My
friends were like the same bits monthafter month after month. So I didn't
there wasn't the same opportunities of barshows and produced shows and and things you
could just go out to every singlenight. So it took there. So
there was a long It was twentyyears ago, but I really probably condense

(10:43):
it down, it's about fifteen.There's so a long time. Yeah,
you've mentioned it's been a long time. Like, listen, I looked,
why aren't you more successful? No, you're very success. Well stop,
here's my next question, Like whenyou say I had you know, a
lot of comics are like you,how to do it straight? For all
these years to be respected to dothis? And then you have some influencers

(11:05):
or some comics that have started literallytwo years ago and I'm killing it.
Sure, what's your take on allthat? Like, can you do you
have to be doing a certain formulato be respected a lone comic, you
don't have to do a certain formI do think it takes time to get
good. Okay, tell me?And why why of the obvious? Because

(11:26):
just look at the history of standup comedy, very very rarely are people
amazing and good out of the gate. I mean, it's so few and
far between. Obviously there's exceptions tothe rule, but it's such a wild
art form where the only way toget better is by doing it. It's
not like you can have natural talentand become a painter and just be It's
not you're not it's you're not mozartwhere you can sit down, you can

(11:48):
look at a piano and be aprodigy. You have to get good by
doing. It's trial by fire,so very rarely are those. It's just
such a learning it's long con meaning, you know, you just year one
and you're five, are so differentbecause you don't know how to write,
you don't know how to perform,you don't know tricks, you don't know

(12:11):
little things that will help you downthe line. You don't know how to
react to a crowd, you don'tknow how to react to Heckler's. You
know, it's just such a thingwhere there's so many different variables that it
just takes years of experience getting usedto that to finally be comfortable in yourself
and in your own skin. Now, are there people two years in getting

(12:31):
successful? Sure, but that's becausemaybe it's twenty twenty two and you have
so many mediums of social media.You know, you have TikTok, you
have Instagram, you have YouTube whereyou have a chance to get seen by
eyeballs, where ten years ago evenyou didn't have those kinds of opportunities.

(12:54):
Like I produced self produced my specialson YouTube. Fifteen years ago. I
could have self produced a special,but it could have ended there because I
still needed somebody to buy it andput it out on a platform. Right
now, I can self produce aspecial. Somebody will see it because of
YouTube, you know what I mean. So there are people out there who

(13:15):
are selling out tickets and theaters andclub They might not be great, but
they're selling so and it's a business. It's a business, absolutely, And
I you know, as comics whohave been doing for as long as I
have, as you like to reiterate, Yeah, I could another. I'm
thinking about it. You're right,Oh god, I mean to give you

(13:35):
the respect. Thank you. Iappreciate that. Um. I do think,
yes, you do have to doit for a certain amount of time
to garner that respect amongst your peers, because let's sell comics. We love
shit talking more than anybody. Andwhen we see a comic who's been doing
it a year and a half andthey've got a half fucking four point three
million followers, and they sold outa weekend on the road versus somebody who's
doing it fifteen years and you knowthey're papering the room. You go,

(13:58):
fuck this motherfucking you know? Soright, it's all like perspective and ego
and sure, sure, and it'sa jealousy a little bit too. Like
I always say to people, ifif somebody got it, let's say somebody
was on a reality show, neverdid stand up, and then they start
killing it two years into they havea background, that's their lot. You
know what I'm saying. You can'tconsolutely, you know. And then there's

(14:20):
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have TV times, have credits,sure, and they love what they do.
They haven't gone the fame. Yeah, it's I guess, how do
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that's a super hard question. Ithink that's I don't know, because that's
something that's that monster that's always creepingin. At least if you're insecure like

(19:11):
I am, Um, I thinkfor me, just put your head down
and keep working, you know whatI mean, and hopefully your audience finds
you or you find them and thensomething clicks one day and you know,
then you get some management. Idon't know, right, It's like I'm
still searching. Well, that's thething. There's no formula. No,
there's no real formula. I meanyou can say, like, hey,

(19:32):
do an open mic, do this, get on shows, like there's a
lot of things that we know inthe industry, but there is no right
formula of how to get success.It's such a subjective thing for every person.
There's no you can't go if you'rea college graduate and you wanted to
go, all right, here's theway you'd be successful in stand up do
ABC D and E. It's notgonna work because that's different for everybody.
You can't just it. There's thereliterally is no shortcuts, you know,

(19:53):
right. Yeah, I like thatyou're saying that because we need to hear
that more often. I think peoplewant to find the short get good.
I mean, there are shortcuts togetting there are shortcuts like people now,
you know a lot of stand upshave found that they can put stuff up
on TikTok. Maybe not necessarily,but I mean, I that scares me
because of of oversaturation, you knowwhat I mean, where here's where it

(20:18):
scares me, And here's where itdoesn't scare me. It scares me because
I don't want the bar to drop. Whereas people think that putting up a
crowd work clip of just saying hito somebody being like where are you from
the Saint Louis and being like that'sweird, there's a good crowd work clip.
Oh, I don't know what Iget it. Conversely, that also

(20:40):
when you when when good emerges,then then it's really good good talent,
a good will always rise, creamrises to the top. So it's like,
I guess, let the saturation ofbad get out there because that way,
I know when my ship goes outthere, it's gonna be way better
than that. So it's one wayto look at it that way. I
don't know. It's this shitty thingssay, but you have to have a

(21:00):
little bit of ego, You haveto have a little bit of delusion and
hard work to just plow through this. It is fucking crazy. But I
don't know if there's something calling youto just keep striving forward in the end
where for better for worse, Becauseyou know, we've all seen comics where
it's like, what the fuck areyou still doing this right right, right,
right right, And I'm sure somebodyhas said that about me before.

(21:22):
But it's like, I don't know, as maybe a little bit of like
I said, delusion, Maybe there'sa little bit of mental illness. But
if you're happy and you're doing it, that's what. Clap your hands,
I guess. Yeah, No,that's good, that's good if you're happy.
I'm sure sure trying to focus onthat. Everybody needs fortunate, fame
success like I do. Coms werejust you know, they're happy doing spots

(21:45):
and then that's fine, that's absolutelyfine, nothing should be wrong with that.
Yeah, but I think a lotof times, like you said,
that's sometimes the only way to getvalidated or judged by or respected. But
then there's so many other comics whereyou like, that guy doesn't have representation,
he's on the road, he's grindingit out, but he's fucking killer

(22:06):
he or she, you know,but whatever, So are they Yeah?
Are they speaking of writing? Becauseyou're a good joke writer. Not every
stand up comic you know can write. Yeah, that's straight, Like what
inspires you behind the writing? Idon't know if it's inspiration. I'm the
kind of I'm a slow writer.Okay, I need something to hit first

(22:29):
in my head. I don't.Yeah, I don't have a routine where
I would go, Okay, I'llgo to the coffee shop, open up
my laptop and start writing. I'venever been that kind of writer. I
have to have I'll be jerking offon my couch and something will pop in
my head and that way I'll writeit down in my phone or something,

(22:52):
and then I'll try and go backand write around that. Okay, Yeah,
there's really no inspiration. Sometimes ifI'm watching other stand ups, like
some of my favorite stand ups,I'll get inspired and like because I'll get
into humorous mood. Or sometimes ifI'll be out with other comics, like
hanging around doing spots, because it'sthat humorous vibe all of a sudden that
kind of inspires me, or toto riff and something like. Sometimes I've

(23:15):
I've said something to my friends it'sgotten a big laugh and I've gone,
oh, write that down. AndI've gotten bits like that before. There's
been on my special about like meDonnale and Mushy Mike Suarez and we're on
the road together and I said somethingabout like I wonder if our sleep apping
is gonna sync up at night becausewe're a and they fucking die. And
I made that into a bit,you know. So yeah, it's just

(23:38):
like maybe I'm I'm more aware ofif something gets a laugh that maybe could
be a bit. Sometimes a tweetwe'll get we'll turn into a bit,
you know. Yeah, You're right, it's can't I mean, do you
ever also try your stuff on shows? Like if let's say it doesn't get
a laugh, You're like, okay, I'm taking that one out. Try
to go through that process right now. I'shing it out because I think it's

(24:00):
funny, so it doesn't really matter. I gotta just maybe flush it out
and yeah, a lot more infront of Well, you do have to
try because sometimes you get surprised.Yeah, I've had that happen to me
where I'm like, I know what, which of my bits are funny?
But then I'll have an idea.Then it gets a huge pop and I'm
like, Okay, maybe I waswrong, right, I didn't think that
was that funny, but the crowdseemed to love it. I have one

(24:22):
thing that's not working right now thatI want to work so badly. It's
about it's about how I lost anumbrella that I had for a really long
time, and it feels like arelationship that's ended. And it's like and
I feel doubly it's because and kindof like how I find I also kind
of find umbrella is the same wayI meet women. You know, someone

(24:45):
left the salone in a bar.It was broken inside, but you know
I was still trying to get it. Well, I don't know, see
it's not working. It's so dumb, but it's it's not dumb because it's
a good metaphor. I feel likeI hate it, but there's no humor.
I don't know the punch behind it. Well, I think you could
do it between like umbrellas, right, Like I hate umbrella's like you don't
you don't want to take them outwhen you're ragining, You leave them,
You find them random places. Socomparing that to a relationship in itself,

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that's a funny setup of a thoughtso too. But boy, you crowd
hate it. So do they notlaugh? Think? And I'm sure it's
me. What do you do whenit's awkward, like when they don't know?
How do you save it? You'reI think acknowledging it is the funnest
way. It's the funnest way.Yeah, they see him to go all
right, at least, you know, it's not just it loosens them up,
you know. Right, If you'veever been on stage and you go,
all right, that was a newone. I'm just working on it,

(25:29):
you'll get a laugh from that alone. Yeah, you know what I
mean. Also, you have toremember that other fellow comics will find it
funnier because we're a little bit wittierand smarter than the standard ordinance. We
love you, audience. I'm mebut Chanel right in my own head,
in my own princess head, I'mone of you people. But you know
what I'm saying, Like the audience. Also, sometimes they need time to
catch on. Sure, you know, sure, I don't know. I'm

(25:52):
going through that right now. Thespecial came out a month ago, and
I'm really trying to write new stuff. Yeah, and I really am down.
I don't go. I am soa slow, slow writer. But
it is fun to get new bitsthat work again, when you're like,
all right, that's a keeper that'sgoing to go in the next thing.
Yeah, that's still exciting. Thatis really exciting. Man. It's a
tough process. For me, I'mnot to sit down righte every day kind
of either. And that's I don'tknow how many comics really are still.

(26:15):
I mean, because I have somefriends who are and that's good, but
it's not my process. So yeah, I mean, what do you tell
other comics also, like about comparingand despairing? I have this whole thing
of like a lot of comics orpeople and then, yeah, you gotta
do this to be successful. Wegot to do that. What do you
say to that you gotta have bitchprocess? I don't. I really try
not to compare at all because somebodyis always going to have something more than

(26:38):
you in less time and seemingly notas good as you. It's always gonna
happen. So you'll you'll beat yourselfto death if you compare yourself and get
caught up in that jealousy. It'snot worth it. Just put your head
down, find your lane and workhard and just try and be as funny
as you can and you know,be nice and good things will happen.
I think, do you ever havedo you have a story that ever that

(27:00):
ever happened to you where someone wasvery like you you felt like am I
gonna am I gonna be successful inthis because this person's yeah, telling me
I'm not good enough or in someshady way. I mean, has that?
I mean because with men, right, it's a little bit than women
in comedy. Would you say menget it as much, get what as
much? Like criticism or bullied?Yeah, I don't know, but bullied
probably not as bullied. Um.I think for me personally, I've never

(27:26):
had anybody outright be like you know, you should not do this, um
or been overly critical. There's obviously, you know, you get comments on
clips and social media and stuff likethat that are negative, but if the
majority of them are good, thenyou know, there's always going to be
exceptions to the rule. Um,I think enough of us, I'll just

(27:51):
be for myself. Yeah. Um, I'm a very insecure person as is,
so I am constantly self critical.You do not appear in well you
just know it's eating me to death. Okay, Well, I think I
yeah, sometimes can project confidence,but that's a part of the delusion in
the show as well too. Youknow, I am very hypersensitive to what

(28:14):
people think of me. I wishI wasn't, but I'm super sensitive to
that. Um. I am verycritical, self critical of myself. I
get very down on myself sometimes,you know, for not maybe having done
this or this or this. Butyeah, I think in a way that
can help you because I wouldn't putanything else. I wouldn't put out stuff

(28:38):
that I didn't think was worthy ofbeing out. It's like my point before,
I don't know how a lot ofyoung comics just put out a clip
to appease the algorithm, like justto have a clip, just to put
out a clip, you know.I know why they do it because it
works, right, you know,you gain followers and you're constantly it's you're
feeding the algorithm. God yea.But I personally can't do that because of

(29:00):
my insecurity and be like, Idon't want I'd be embarrassed, right,
you're being honest. Yeah, Ijust can't put something out that I think
is subpar. I don't know,call that fucking I don't know. It's
just I'm too self critical of myselffor that. Yeah. No, I've
always been insecured. I've been acan chubby kid my whole life. That's
it's apt. I think a lotof comics I have been also. I

(29:21):
mean I feel like that becomes this, yeah, this voice almost like well
that's I mean. Humor was myway of also getting in front of that,
you know what I mean. Itwas the absolute armor that went up
because if I say this about myself, if I self deprecate, it's been
a chance for me to do itbefore you do it. Yeah, so
if I'm going to call myself fatbefore you get a chance to, it's
better coming from me, And thenwe all get a laugh because at least

(29:45):
I said it, and I controlthe laugh rather than you being like,
hey, chubbs, what's so true? Growing up I was I don't want
to say, maybe volumptuous, butaccording to my know, according to the
masses. But like you know thatwhen you grow up in high school,
you got the skinny girls on LongIsland, and I had to really,

(30:07):
you know, there was always apretty girl. I can has got to
be a million times worse being afemale. Oh my god. It was
hard because like I had to reallylead by funny because yeah, men didn't
find me attractive at the time,even though I thought I was, let's
saying myself or my confidence, andI realized very quickly I wasn't gonna be
the smartest, the prettiest, orthe funny. But I could be the
funniest. Yeah, that's what Irealized. In the class, nobody had

(30:30):
my game of funny like me.Yeah, like people relied on me to
entertain. Yeah, you know,I was a girl like I caught go
to the principal office because I wouldmake you know I had good grades.
But you know that was really mySo I get what you're saying. I
had to do that in order tobe popular, in order to be not
bullied and shoved in my no,I was the same way I used humor
and acting up in class to toget friends and not get shunned. Yeah,

(30:53):
but I am personal and I canget along. Like once you get
so people go, oh he's allright, you know, and then I'm
able to you know. I guessit's a way of diffusing. Yeah.
So, like I said, it'sthe armor that it's like, I'm not
going to give you a chance tosay something to me before I say it
about myself. But isn't it interestingon stage now when you perform and you
are self deprecating, do you feellike sometimes the audience doesn't get it because

(31:17):
they and then they like feel morebad for you, like, oh,
like I hate the ows and thenI'm like, okay, now I gotta
make this funnier. No, Iget us. Sometimes I've had a bunch
of times I have a whole Ihave a good chunk of being of you
know, just doing like I havea whole bit of a fat brain and
eating and a bunch of stuff likethat, just because it's like, well,
hey, it's right way, youknow, but right I've had mostly

(31:42):
actually one hundred percent, females ofa handful of times come up to me
afterwards being like, you're not fat, You're not You're yeah, you're not,
And I'm going, yeah, well, I mean, obviously you're being
hyperbolic on stage. You're making itmore than you know for humor. But
um, I don't know, Ijust I feel that way. So that's
those where those jokes come from.But I don't know, I get it.

(32:06):
It's what it's what we're used to. It's literally growing up with that
that voice in our head, orgetting in front of the you know the
situation, yeah, and realizing holythe guy from the Jersey Shore, the
guy if you get he is hilariousstand up comedy. You ever seen him?
On. He's on one of theroasts. It's the roast of.

(32:29):
It's fun. Is he hilarious?No, he's fucking brutal and it's great.
Um, Jeff, Yeah, hebombs. He bombs so hard.
He bombs even though like he's sucha hilarious person, laugh at because he's
not right. He's reading the jokesthat have been written for him. Clearly
he didn't write these, but hehis one riff Jeff Ross has the greatest.

(32:50):
He goes, He's like, comeon, guys, this is my
first time doing stand up. JeffRoss on the bag goes, also your
last hilarious, dude, you lovea good bomb. Watch. Oh,
it's the roast of. I can'tremember who it is. It's one of
those comedy stunts. Were ones ofrecent memory, but h and I remember,
like he's brutal. No or Vinnyfrom this Yeah, if vinny's a

(33:15):
nice guy he tried doing. Idon't know if he does anymore, but
like, yeah, Mike's the situationwas one of those guys they it's they're
one of those guys who think they'refunny, but you're just oh Jesus Christ,
And I think that's the thing It'slike I would want when I came
out of reality to be I wantboth of the best of both worlds where
I'm really working on the stand upcraft and I'm becoming known for stand up

(33:35):
comedy. Yeah, but also youhave that background of performance and what engages
in all you know exactly you are. You have shows on Serious x M.
Yeah, I have one called TheRaw Report. It's a show I
host with Jason Shabiro who comes fromthe like the Sketch UCB world, and
our other co host is Liz Furioitywho runs the comedy seller. She's the

(33:57):
GM down there, and it's mostlyus having guests on and then making fun
of Jason for being a UCB guy. But um no, it's great.
We are on Raw Dog ninety nineevery Thursday at four pm. You've been
guest. Yeah, we have comics, actors, anybody. We really use
the Serious XM talent department to ouradvantage. We've had some a list people

(34:20):
who have we have no business talkingto. You know, We're talking to
fucking Matt Modeine about Full Metal Jacket. I'm like, what am I doing
here? But speaking of doing bothlike and you also have a great job
at serious X. Yeah, programdirector there. That's a big deal because
I come from radio and to handleall this it's like having a lot of
responsibility at a full time job.Right, you're running a huge radio station
that's very um important to people andimpactful. You have your own show,

(34:45):
then you're doing comedy. Yeah,what's you know? How do you do
it all? Well, you don'thave that's what it is, so you
can't have it. I have meand the New York Rangers. There's my
one, Teve New York too.So do I? Um? I love
hockey. I was a hockey umplayer that people don't know about. In
high school, I was a sowas I you were? I grew up

(35:06):
playing ice hockey really yeah, fromlike three I love. I did ice
hockey and you know, regular hockey, and I was the goalie and I
love I mean ice and regular fieldfield, sorry field, regular field.
I'm like, yeah, I'm ahockey not coffee ice and regular Well,
I mean, I think I haveearlier Alzheimer's and I don't. I think
think I'm slurring my fucking speech.Any Oh, you're drunk, I'm drunk,

(35:28):
um, But how do you like? Um? I guess that's like
the here's the thing. I likebeing busy. I don't as much as
I'm also sober too, right,no crippling drunk. Okay's gonna be like,
I'm a sober. We were outdrinking one night for a fucking hour.
You didn't act like you were.You seem sober to me, really,

(35:49):
God Like, I forgot that youdrink because I'm like, he has
he handles his liquor. I guess, I guess if that right, that's
I have some You know, Ihave actually watched my special check Right,
you'll hear all about my trials andtribulations, attributaries of why I can't smoke
weed anymore or do edibles. It'sjust too much for me. I can't.

(36:12):
It's weed has gotten so strong inmy lifetime alone. I used to
be a great podhead in like twothousand and two when I was in college,
and since then, weed science hastaken the fuck off so much.
It's really strong. It's too strong, I swear to God. Now people
all fer me a weed. I'mlike, do you have anything lighter?
Like coker, math or some shitlike you know what I mean? That's

(36:35):
funny, Yeah, well that's directlyripped off of my special because it's I
was literally just doing a bit.No, I really think that we because
I'm a weed smoker and I'm notas much of a drinker. But I
see what you're saying. It kindof prevents me from doing more than I
can. Drinking with me multiple times, I know, but I feel like
you're really good at handling your liquor. Well that's because I've been like,

(36:55):
you're not drunk well till a point, but I will stay around me.
No, that's true, but Imean I have been known I'll be one
of the guys closing down the bar, and I'm not sloppy. But I
also six foot three, I'm youknow, two hundred and fifty pounds.
I can hold booze pretty well,and I've been drinking for a long time.

(37:15):
So I think it affects your work. I mean, yeah, when
you wake up and you're fucking miserablethe next day, you don't want to
do shit. I'm certainly not fuckingwriting in that state. You know,
I'm really not doing much of anything, simplaying on the couch watching cartoons.
Right. Yeah, So, um, to answer your question about doing all
the work stuff, I like tobe busy in the sense of I can't

(37:39):
just sit around all day like likewhat people think comics do. It's like
that must be great. You justgo out at night, you talk for
an hour and yeah, but there'sa lot of day hours in the day
to phil, right, So Ilike having something to do during the day.
I like programming radio, I liketalking, and I like having podcasts
and producing shows, which I alsodo. You know, me and to

(38:00):
Papa have a show Come to Papathat we write together and then you know,
we put on at the Village Undergroundonce a month. It's sell It's
an old timey radio show where wehave music and we have comics obviously,
and then we write sketches and stufftogether. So it's like, I like
being busy because I as much asI'm not a writer for myself, as
much as that takes a really longtime for me, I still have doing

(38:22):
a bunch of stuff in the comedyworld. So I don't know, maybe,
yeah, that's just I think that'sa lot for my dad too.
My dad was never able to sitstill, like even when he was old.
He worked full time into his eighties. He was a mechanical engineer,
always had his brain going, hadlike schematics and was always designing. The
only guy I knew who used fuckinggeometry after twelfth grade. I mean,

(38:45):
but literally, I find that asI'm getting older too, is I can't
sit still more. Maybe it's Ican't relax until I like finished something,
or you know, I just maybeit's with age, I'm not able because
I see so much of myself nowin stuff my dad used to do,
where like it'd be a Saturday orSunday and we'd be like, let's just

(39:07):
finally we relaxed. He did.He would do yard work for three hours,
and he'd come in and go,all right, done, you know
what. We think, let's watcha football game or something, and then
ten minutes later he go, Igotta do this. Like he couldn't sit
still until things were I think I'mstarting to be like that because I was
a pretty bazy fucking kid. Well, it's not a bad way to be
because it's being right right, gettingmore done. Yeah, and I think

(39:31):
that's why you probably fucking lived solong. You know, you got the
if the brain is active everything else, But yeah, well then how do
you have time? So let's talkabout from that you're working a lot,
you're doing you're successful, you're doingwhat you love. Thanks dating, How
are you saying home? I don'tknow. You're a great catch with thanks

(39:52):
so I mean, but you've alsohad girlfriends? Yeah right, yeah?
Yeah? And what do you like? What you're young too? For a
man, here's the thing that peopledon't understand. That's true. I feel
like for men, this is reallywhere the insecurity is going to shine.
Notice how I'm not making eye contact? Wait? Am I giving too many
compliments? No? No, no, Well, so we've talked about this,

(40:12):
like how it's crazy. A lotof comics who have it together are
very insecure. Yeah, I can't. I hate. I can't take a
compliment it really, I thank youvery much. I don't know. I
don't know, you're like, Idon't know. I gotta talk to my
therapy. Yeah I probably should bein therapy. I'm in. I went
one time and I never went back. I swear to God. Maybe I
shouldn't go back. I don't knowit. Probably I should probably have somebody

(40:35):
to like talk things out to outloud. But this is where a lot
of my insecurity will shine. Whenit comes to girls, especially I go
and they don't like me. Theydon't want to fucking chubby guy like me.
Us. Yeah, I don't know, it's all that's my personality though.
Yeah, I go out on I'vebeen. I just got back on
Hinge. So you see me outthere, say, are you under your

(40:59):
real name? Okay? Because sometimescomics will like, what would my fake?
Maybe? I know I'm not.If you see me, I'm Marty.
Why no, because you eventually haveto come clean. You're right,
I know that's worth it. Imean, do you and how do you
like Hinge? I don't know thoseThat's fine. I just went on a

(41:20):
I just went on a very successfuldate a couple of weeks ago where we
really hit it off. I meangreat as good as the first day could
go, very cute. We wereboth attracted to each other, big makeout
at the end of the who Thenext day, I was out with friends.
She was out doing something and thenuh I was texting. I was

(41:43):
like, yeah, it'd be fun. She was like should I just come
on? And she's like is thatcrazy? And I was like, and
you know, I'm like, comeget the funk over here, and so
it was very Things happened very quicklyand then I went away for I went
on the road for like the Thursdaythrough Sunday, and we were talking a
little bit, but you know,I didn't want to be too overwhelming.
And then I got home. Shecame to hang out on Sunday. We

(42:06):
went out to dinner and we uhby that next day, I think hated
each other. I wait a second, wait, how does that turn into?
I think we were like so excitedto have such a great first date
that our true selves hadn't shine through. When you're at a date, you're

(42:29):
fucking on and like when things areclicking, you know, you're you're kind
of in a you're in show modealmost. You know, you're riffing,
you're rapping, you're doing bits,and you're you know, chucking and jiving.
And she came over my house.I'm like, I gotta finish this
video game and you know, watchthe Rangers, and and then you know,
I said something about I was like, I was watching Chappelle last night

(42:51):
on Sarah Alive, and she waslike, oh, I can't fuck with
them. We start like our trueselves started by our true selves started to
just bubble up, and then itwas just like it became apparent really quickly
that like there were certain things thatwould just always we're not going to get
by, and to her credit,we did the very cool thing because then

(43:14):
like a couple of days went byand we didn't contact each other. So
I was asking my friend Gabby,she's like my my conciliary of dating.
She's you know, she's she's likemy assistant in my office. Um.
I was telling her. She's like, well, it might be a very
mutual thing. And then to thisgirl's credit, she was just like,
hey, so I think we havefun together, but I think we're just
not right for dating each other.Right, we're both adults. We can

(43:36):
get out. And I was like, oh, thank god she said it.
She made it super and I wasjust like exactly. I was like,
yes, exactly what I think.I think it was nice getting to
know you, but this is whyyou try. I just don't think we're
the right romantic match. And itwas the best. But where you if
she did not say that, wouldyou have hosted her? No? I
can't. I have, I have, but I won't anymore. I have

(44:00):
now learned that just being honest withsomebody and is because I would want that
to be saying what would happen tome. Yeah, it's a shitty feeling
when somebody goes you. We've allbeen there, and yeah, I have
done it, and I do feelbadly when I do it, but listen,
it is easier when you can justignore. It's ignorance is bliss.
But we are adults now and I'vealways gotten a response back with I appreciate

(44:22):
you reaching out whatever you know.They say afterwards, it's usually thank you
for letting me know. Yeah,you know what I mean, and that
way, you know, it's justrespectful. It's respect. It's about respect.
I mean, I do understand whywhen I had you know, you
always justify your own reason, likewhen I ghosted. Sometimes I'm like,
is it really that bad when youget ghosted, Like if you don't know

(44:42):
that person, you don't really owethem. But as you get older,
you realize it's a respect exactly.It's literally. Also, I'm like,
I would just be honest with me, I can take it. Yeah,
So it's like that. It's it'sit's true. Most people are adults and
you I don't think we give eachother enough credit where I'm like, I
don't want to hurt their feelings.But it's like, nah, there's they're
fucking adults too. They can handleit. And honestly, if you say

(45:04):
in a respectful manner. Just usuallysometimes I'll just be like, hey,
it was nice getting to know you. I enjoyed hanging out. I just
don't think we're the right fit orthe right match or something. People are
like either, yeah, okay,I'm glad you said that. I was
kind of thinking the same thing,or I'm sorry you feel that way,
but whatever, And it's just everybodygoes about their lives and now you're not
fucking guessing of what, but whathappens if you have a relationship like dating

(45:25):
your days one three months? Fourmonths? This has been a question from
our audience lately. Uh huh andthen they ghost you? Oh that's like,
how did you have that? Everhappened to you? Have You've you
done the tone? And how doyou cope with that? I haven't been
ghosted after after like a long time, I mean three or four months by
that point, is you know arelationship that's tough? I don't know,

(45:45):
because that's really when you'd be like, are they dead? What happened?
Right? Do they really hate me? Yeah? Seriously, I mean that
is a real shitty That to mejust means another person, that's all that
is. And yeah, I wasgonna say also, like in terms with
men in general, with women,you know, what would you be your
advice to keep a guy because alot of times, you know, we're

(46:07):
so fundamentally different. Yeah, andI feel like men less is more.
Yeah, I don't know, Like, what is it that you think most
Why are men ghosting women in general? They are they asking for too much
explanation? Are they expecting too much? Well, I think if it's a
quick if it's a three to fourmonths, is brutal. I don't know.

(46:30):
I think we had a listener justmentioned that. I thought so.
First of all, sorry that happenedto you. I think that's a really
shitty thing to have happened, becauseI've told you about this before. It's
I've never I haven't been ghosted afterthat a long after that amount of time,
but I've been cheated on, andI've been gas lit to think that
I was wrong about the situation.That really fucked me up for future relationships.

(46:54):
I do think if it's after threeto four months and they just fucking
disappear, somebody else they met somebodyelse. It's shitty to hear, but
that's probably what it is. Andif you accept that, I agree with
you. If you accept that earlier, then later correct me if I'm wrong,
it's going to be easier on you. Yeah. And also that's just
it's so fucking cowardly to do that. But you just gotta remember, it's

(47:15):
nothing you did. It's just themnot wanting to fucking have the awkward conversation
or deal with confrontation. People justdon't want to deal with confrontation. That's
really what it and that's what itis. So it's nothing necessarily you did
wrong. It's probably that they justmet somebody else and they don't want to
have the confrontation. If it's likeafter a date or something in a one
night stand, then that's it wasjust a one night stand. Then the

(47:37):
guy just wanted to get laid andit's nothing again you did, but he
probably just doesn't want to see youagain. I am sorry I'm saying Thats
why I don't believe in women.Don't They get mad at me when I
say this, But I'm very traditionalwhen it comes to that. I don't
think one night I don't do onenight stands if you're not if you want

(47:57):
a relationship, Yeah, don't lieto yourself, you know what I mean,
because then you're gonna ask yourself.Don't make something I I agree,
don't make something up in your headthat is more than what it is,
which is easier said than done,of course, because sometimes the first day
feels great and that's why you Sometimesmaybe you go home with them, You're
like, well, this is gonnabe a person I'm going to see again
because the data is going so well, and then you maybe have sex and

(48:20):
you don't ever hear from them again. Right, And the shitty situation is
that guys are shitty sometimes and that'sall it was to them was maybe,
uh, they got laid and thenfor whatever reason, they don't, you
know, want to hang out ormake it a relationship, and so it's
just easier to not deal with it. Yeah. Yeah, what is your
tips on situationships? We've got alot of calls about when I'm when you

(48:44):
feel like you're in a situation shipand not necessarily a relationship, Like do
you feel you have to have totalk with the guy or how do you
mean the worst with this? BecauseI feel like I am most coming a
relationship, but I want a relationship. Yeah, I would likely know at
that point where I'm like, itwould be nice to be in a relationship
again. So what was the question? I'm sorry, So the question is

(49:05):
really like, how does a girltell a guy when she feels she's dating
him but they're not girlfriend and boyfriendand she wants to be his girlfriend?
Yeah, I think after a certainamount of time goes by, you know,
it's appropriate to be have the whatare we conversation? But you gotta
also remember it does it feel right? Don't paint something up that it's not

(49:27):
if you're not feeling that it's beingreciprocated, if it's one way where if
the emotions are all coming from you, and if it's if he's not acting
like a boyfriend, then he mightnot want to ever be that more than
Yeah, it's not about you know, I mean, honestly, come on,
guys, will you know when it'swhen it's going the right way,

(49:50):
where you go, this person isgoing to be in a relationship with me
after that certain amount of after amonth, after two months, yes,
if they're acting like that, ifyou talk, if it's if it's fun
if it's lighthearted, if you're notjust hanging out after midnight, you know
what I mean, Like, yougot to use your heads with these things.
A lot of times we overthink thingswhere it's like, well, I
only hear from him every other weekwhen he's been out with his friends,
and then he wants to come over. That's not somebody wants to be your

(50:13):
boyfriend, exactly what I mean.We don't take the signs. You're right.
Well, you go, well,I've been hanging out with him for
two months, have you? Oryou have you been just fucking him for
three months? You know what Imean. Boyfriend is somebody you hang out
with most you know, all almostall the time, not all the time,
but you know what I mean.It's somebody you talk to frequently.
It's somebody who is looking forward toseeing you as much as you're looking forward
to seeing them. You know,when that stuff's mutual. Use your fucking

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heads, right, honestly, that'sthe best add I was thinking about that
day. Easy to get in yourhead. I we all do it,
but you gotta just be It's commonfucking sense in the end, you know,
I think we sometimes to be honest, we lie to ourselves and we
complicated. Yeah, we kind ofsubconsciously like the drama, like, well,
I bet you he likes me.He just it's like no, but
someone else, or it doesn't feelright, you got to give up.
And if you're the type of personthat doesn't want to be single, it's

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easy to get attached to the ideaof having somebody in your year. Well
I'm dating somebody, are you?Or you just kind of you know what
I mean. And I've fallen preyto that a lot too, where I've
liked the idea of being with thisperson even though they were the wrong person
for me and I wasn't getting itback reciprocally. So my girlfriend before COVID
didn't I couldn't. I can't evenreally call her my girlfriend. It was

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a person I was dating, andthen I knew she was way out of
my league and was nothing. Itwasn't gonna be anything long term. But
man, I liked the idea oflike her. I liked her family,
like everything about her. She wasgorgeous, she was a little younger,
and I just I liked it.And even though I knew it wasn't clicking,
I stuck it out because I wasfooling myself, you know, and

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yet longer than we should. Yeah. Sometimes and again it's easier said than
done. But if you can takea step back and look at the forest
for the trees, just be like, all right, what about this makes
it a relationship? A relationship that'sgoing both ways? It has to go
both ways, right, it hasto guy, And you really do know,
we you do because when honestly,all the cliche stuff you're still do.

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We just don't want to. Wedon't want to admit it to ourselves.
When you know, when it feelsright, then it's usually right.
It's like, it's all the clichestuff when it comes to like love and
relationships, it's usually rings true.And there's too many Christmas movies on Netflix
right now that are too hopeful.Um, well, the transit, We're
gonna transition a little bit. That'spretty much the theme of the podcast.
What um Comedy? Growing up?Who were your favorite comics that you looked

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up to and some that you canrecommend now that you feel like are good
um to watch? So, growingup, I was more of a fan
of sketch comedy in SNL and likeI said, the Simpsons, Um,
I came from the My idols werePhil Hartman and Farley and like that kind

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of class A Saturday Night Live anduh I I for better or for Worse
absolutely UH cried watching uh one ofCosby's special. You know, look,
he was still a good comedian,all right, because a rapist doesn't mean
he's a bad comedian. This isthe problem. They associate rape with comedy.

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Okay, should not go into this, mom, but um, I
don't. I just was such afan of comed like I used to watch
MTV half hour comedy hour. Yeah, and I can't name you anybody specific,
but I used to just appreciate Iused to love the comedians. I
used to just love how their turnto phrases were clever to me and I
it was just these observations that werehilarious to me. So I didn't really

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have a favorite comedian growing up whereit was like, you know, that
guy was my guy. Um.I just loved comedy in a broad sense.
So uh nowadays, UM, Imean it's really hard to beat davidtel
I just think he's the quickest,funniest guy there is. He really is.
And by the way, on thatman, he's an example of who

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really just loves the stage. He'sa hardcore stand absolutely meaning like Fame,
I don't feel I don't know him. Yeah, it doesn't seem like he
needs to stand up, stand up. Um, Big Jay, maybe the
funniest person I've ever met in mylife, just face to face and just
talking. I mean there's nobody funnier. Um, who else do I love?
You know, I'm really bad.I should have more people. No,

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but you're also yourself. What kindof an asshole would be? Well,
you should really check out me.We should we should get comfortable though,
putting ourselves up without being arrogant.So I'll just do it for you
are one of the funniest, Wellyou your whole class, like you,
Mark Norman, being Jay Ookerson.I feel like those are people that,

(54:42):
like I think, are super funny, been doing it for a long time.
Yeah, Joe List gives getting betterand better and better. He's really
a guy who impresses me every time. And you're you know, it's hard
for comics now, Like I don'twatch it's just get such so pretentious.
But like I don't watch every newspecial that comes out. I don't intake
I don't ingest comedy. The wayI used to. Um, but Joe

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was a guy who I really likewatching, UM who you know is constantly
has new stuff and I'm constantly like, damn, that's really really funny and
he's a really funny performer. Um, I wish I could give you some
more names. No, that's good, that's this is good stuff. Yeah,
we'll go with those guys. Okay, cool. Um, what's your
I guess advice about like this beingsuccessful in general? I don't know if

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I do think. Oh, Conanis my altar last week and you did
congratulations, that's a big deal.I Um it was. I wasn't super
awesome. I uh yeah, itwas fantastic. And um, he's been
my comedy idol. That was somethingI can't believe I left off the lists

(55:50):
Full Circle ninety four. Like Iwas in high school right when Conan started,
and that was he was my guy. Like, you know, a
generation older than me, people werelike letter and Letterman, Letterman, that
was their guy. Conan was itfor me. So he is. He's
my comedy idol. I just thinkhe's the absolutely funniest soum advice. I
would just say, I don't knowif I feel comfortable tips. I mean,

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I'll tell you what everybody else hastold you. If you want to
be a stand up comedian, thenyou have to get up and do it,
and do it over and over andover and over again, and don't
get frustrated with it, even thoughit'll be the most frustrating thing you've probably
ever done. But if you havea passion for it, you'll find a
way to keep doing it. Iam a big believer. And also in

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finding your group and finding your peers, because that way you have people to
go through a very hard thing withand it's always easier to go through something
with people, you know what Imean. Job. Yeah, and then
if you find your friends and peopleyou are with at the same amount of
time you're going through the same thingstogether, then you can kind of be

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like, what do you think aboutthis? Should I do this? Then
you have people you can ask advicefor, and yeah, hang out as
much as possible. It's a timeconsuming thing, but I mean through hanging
out, I got to meet peoplelike in literally people I would be watching
when I was a kid and idolizing, and then I'm working with you know,

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like Nick to Paulo, Tom Poppa. I mean these are guys.
Twenty years ago, I'd be watchingthem like these are this is so funny
and this is just amazing, andthen I, you know, I opened
for Tom a lot, and soit's like, be a part of the
scene. You want to be apart of you know what I mean,
and be around people that make youfeel comfortable. Like I was going to
ask you, this is kind ofa harder question. Don't try too hard.
Don't to be funny around them.Just let them, you know.

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That's I guess a good piece ofadvice. Don't. Nothing will turn a
comic off than someone who's trying toohard to impress around you, know what
I mean, Just be yourself.If you have something to say, maybe
pitch it, but don't try andfucking overact or over There's so many times
where somebody's gone in and they've youknow, thrown up a fucking oh.
I can't even I don't even knowhow the words for it. No,

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I know what you mean, like, because I feel like that's that's the
mistake a lot of comics, orUS comics make in general. We want
to impress that comic and it's likeit's not about that. Yeah, because
just be nice just literally Conan saidit, the best, be kind,
work hard, and good things willhappen. That is my religion, that
is my motto, that is mymantra, that's my ethos, that's your

(58:27):
tribulation. I probably use four ofthose words incorrectly, but I'm just dying
of laughter because I definitely that's onemore thing I wanted to talk about.
Like, it might be a hardquestion. You don't have to feel comfortable
answering it, but female comics,right, because it's still a boys club.
You've been one of the male menin general that have made women feel
comfortable and there's no one other agenda, and you're very like you give women

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opportunity. Do you feel that shouldbe the what women should do is just
also pick people or men that aregoing to support them, because a lot
of times, you know, womenwill come to me feel like, oh,
I you know, I don't feelcomfortable. I feel like I'm not
getting stage shyme. It could bea tricky situation. Well, I don't

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ideally what made you support you justsupport women in general? I don't.
Yeah, I mean, I'm sureI could do beat. I don't know.
I think I'm just I'm just Idon't. Yeah, I really think
that's what it is. Yeah,it's not being a ship head. I
don't know if I out released,like I could do more to probably support
some of my you know, femalepeers or whatever. Um, but I
think it's just not being a shipheead and just being a good person,

(59:32):
right like yeah goes absolutely being honest. Yeah, I mean have I I've
look, I've I've asked out comicsand you know, and some of them
have just been like no, Ijustly I don't want to, you know,
uh do the comedy thing with anotheror you know, dating thing with
other comics. Okay, that's fine. I don't. Don't you feel like
it affect though? If you did, because you've dated a lot of comics,

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do you feel like dating someone elsein comedy will affect your career?
No? No, I can't.I guess it can't en. Um,
I don't know. It's I thinkif you like a person though, it's
worth Yes, we have I wouldnever date somebody. It was like,
well I work at the DMV.Well i'd like, but but no,

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I it could you know what Imean, I don't give a shit what
you do for a job. IfI've attracted to you and I like you,
then I might try and you know, ask you out or something like
yeah, but I don't think toget back to your initial question of what
women should do, yeah, um, this is yeah, it is hard

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for a guy to say because Idon't want to speak for women. Um,
I think my oh man, thisis really a tough question. I
think again, be yourself and um, you know, definitely it is a
boy's clubbish for the most part.Still, yeah, I don't know,
be confident, be yourselves and hereguys are simple, so if there's always

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it kind of goes back to apoint we're bringing up in relationships. I
guess the term like high maintenance wouldused to get thrown a lot, at
least, like my generation would belike, I like this girl just really
high maintenance. Ye, so likeif she just wasn't so like, you
know, a high maintenance, shewould be great. I guess when it
comes this sounds so arrogant, Butlike if sometimes when a guy, oh

(01:01:25):
god, I'm gonna sound like afucking asshole when women try too hard,
I think that turns guys off alot. Yeah, that's the way,
but that you should still be yourselfand you know, um, I think
that's the honesty, right. It'slike, yeah, I think women feel
sometimes they have to flirt or bepretty or act pretty to get up right

(01:01:47):
right guy stage or open up.And I don't I think that we're changing
a narrative right where Yeah, Iwould definitely not. I mean, I
know sometimes it works better, butyou know, uh, I don't know.
I think it might help you inthe in the short term to flirt
and maybe get something out of thatas a short cut, but then you're
eventually going to come to that crossroads where the flirting might be misinterpreted,

(01:02:14):
and then it's the person who gotflirted with is going to feel used because
it was Oh, you were justdoing that to get a spot on my
show for example, right both ways? Yeah, so Ice, like I
said, it works for both parties. Just be yourself, be nice,
beef, easy, hang don't behym and work hard. Yeah, don't
be hard. But that goes forboth sexes. Like, don't behind an.

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I don't want to hang around thehymen. It's guy either, right,
No, If you're easy and justfun and light and silly to be
around, then that's who I wantto hang out with. You know what
I mean. I don't want to. I have a million more annoying male
comic friends than females. Right,you know what I mean. I don't
want to hang out with those guyseither. So that's life life advice.
Just be a cool person, bea nice person, be kind, be

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funny, silly, and we'll getalong great. I love that, Andy
Fioia. Where can we check?Um? Well, before we ask where
people can follow you, we askall our guests, Shanell in the city,
where do you like to go?U for a restaurant? They could
suggest that we haven't been to,or just a place that you like to
escape. Oh, we love food, you know me? I need I
need those recommends. All right?I got a couple we could have done

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the whole hour on this. We'regonna have you back. I went on
a tinge date to a place calledMonte Sacro m O N T E S
A c R O in Williamsburg inBrooklyn, Holy have you best? Some
of the best riccatoni I've ever had. Oh my god, it was fucking
great. They had, we got, we shared, We had a play

(01:03:42):
a pasta and a small pizza.Both were fucking killer. Um My little
sister just took me to a placein the west near like the Hudson Yards
area on thirty third and ninth calledKi Siamo ci new word s I a
m o again, you know,and the loon's here, Fiori just fucking
such good Italian. Oh my god, Italian. And then I'm an old

(01:04:05):
school East Village kind of guy.My buddy owns a bar called Eleventh Street
Bar on Eleventh You've been there,got out to them. Such a great
bars, great old school traditional Irishbar, not a dive, but not
like you know, fancy. It'sa perfect middle good date bar. They
have great pretzels, great pretzels,food and mc guinness if you like that.

(01:04:26):
Yeah, great, yeah, justa good I mean your special prier.
I was there like hours. Yeah, I mean, I know you
were hanging out with a lot ofpeople. I was outside with the with
the Dominicans from the Bronx. There'slike, there's a whole crew that came
and I'm like, do you knowAndy Fiori. They're like, well,
you know, we ahead of him. And then last time we got me
into the Bordom. I was like, all right, we'll hang out.
But no, there was Um,it's a great bar. Yeah, great

(01:04:47):
bar. I love the East Villagestill. I lived there when I initially
moved into the city, so there'sa lot of good spots there. Love
it. Yeah. Well, thankyou so much for being on the pod.
Thanks, you're amazing. We're gonnahave your diving. Um where can
everybody follow you? Where can theydownload your special? Check out your special?
Go to Andy Fiori dot com AN D Y f I O r
I. All my links and tourdates are there. The special is on

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their links to everything, ticket links, show dates. Hey everybody, it's
Andy Fiori. Check me out withChanelle Omar on the Chanelle in the City podcast