Conduct Unbecoming: A Military True Crime Podcast

Eight young men started the night at various happy events, celebrating the end of an arduous week of work. Then, they clashed in an unplanned roadside encounter. Although they'd been at parties, they had at least a combined four knives between them, some brandished, some reserved. The two groups struggled to find common ground in what had become a racially charged atmosphere. Fortunately, they found their common thread and the tens...

There’s been a lot of discussion in the legal community about the culpability of those whose brains have not yet fully developed. I think that’s why college has such a deserved reputation for being formative. Your brain is still developing and you’re processing new experiences and shaping your worldview, giving you the chance to outgrow your high school, hometown self. The military offers many of America’s you...

I've shared before that military moves force everyone into creating quick community ties so that everyone can keep their heads above water and feel tethered to their new duty station while they're miles away from the comforts of wherever feels like home. Where spouses and children are moving to new places and forging new relationships… that new community, if safe, can be vital in identifying signs of abuse tha...

When we talk about personal liberties, we necessarily carry with that discourse the question of how far our right to do something extends. To that end, a quote that has long stuck with me is from Oliver Wendel Holmes Jr., who observed that the right to swing his fist ended where another man’s nose begins. 

As applied to this case, I’d suggest that the right to physically discipline your child ends well before injury begins.

I rel...

Back in my sorority days, I often served as one of the sober sisters for events. The task was pretty simple--keeping an eye on my sisters. Sometimes it involved passing flip flops to whoever thought stilettos were danceable or a plastic bag to those who looked green around the gills on the bus ride back. We had a few sober sisters at each event, including the President, Vice President of Social Standards, volunteers, and sometimes ...

People who were stationed in Okinawa sometime before the internet became commonplace waggle their eyebrows at you when you say you lived there. The island had a Bacchanalian reputation, known for its promise of misanthropic adventures. The appetite for easy sex, alcohol fueled parties, and cheap experiences that garnered Okinawa’s 1990s reputation didn’t go anywhere, and a rotund defense contractor that unders...

Every so often, I get it in my head that I need to find some hyper specific item that I know I own.  The downside to living in two countries and two states in the last three years is that I can visualize the item exactly where it was in Japan or Virginia, but draw a blank for our current home. There are a few stages of looking for the object. First, I look to where items of a similar type are stored. Second, I pester my spouse and ...

You’ve made it through the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. Perhaps your season went well, there were no fights about politics, and you got to see the people you love and care for most. Perhaps your season was the exact opposite, and you’re relieved to be past Christmas and New Years, retreating from family gatherings for the foreseeable future. Wherever your holiday fell along that spectrum, if everyone made it out alive, ...

Four hundred years ago, the religious climate in England was tense. Religious wars were nothing new, and the head of state was also the head of the Anglican church. It was a dangerous set up that served to further the absolute power of the monarchy. People harboring a devotion to other faiths needed a place where they could go and practice their religion without fear it was a criminal violation. When colonists began moving to Ameri...

Single servicemembers that deploy from duty stations stateside often put their belongings in some kind of storage. It's a dicey proposition because some storage facilities are terrible. Cars present their own special challenge and dead batteries are common. When a friend of ours was out of the country for six months, I was great at starting the car up for the first few months, but my streak soon fell apart. I ...

A listener note: I recorded this while in the final throes of a cold that I though I had beat, but heard in my voice in the first few words. Sadly, I've not yet found a filter to de-nasalfy a recording. I can certify, however, that the case is worth pushing through the empathy-based discomfort for.

One night while driving in Okinawa, my eyes wandered to the side of the road where a young Japanese woman was walking. She wore heels...

Our cell phones bear witness to our insecurities, patiently returning search results for the things that spark in our brains that we need immediate answers to. Mine, if you were wondering, would tattle on me for my deep election anxiety. Army Sergeant Perry’s phone laid out a path to radicalization - winding around his interest in underage girls, past his view that Afghans weren’t people, and ending in the mur...

About this time two years ago, the weather in Virginia had just begun to shift from crisp to cold and I decided it was time to fill up my tires because the cold made the air inside sluggish. I first tried to plump them up at Costco, but I’m an early bird and I got there before hours and their pumps weren’t turned on. I knew that my impatience meant I’d have to pay to fill the tires, but set off for a gas stati...

At work, I have a little white board where I can see at a glance where all of my projects are - it’s not entirely dissimilar to the surgery board in Grey’s Anatomy, except my projects are not life or death and don’t require nearly so much room. It’s color coded, and I’m acutely aware when any one task is hanging out longer than it should be. I think, given my work organizational skills, I’d be excellent at mai...

I used to have this recurring nightmare about going into a restroom and instead of finding a stereotypical American toilet, I’d encounter the kind that required the user to squat over them.  It didn’t occur to me until I wandered into a nature park restroom in Japan that the style of restroom was common in the areas my family traveled when I was very young, leaving  the indelible mark on my developing brain.  My restroom nightmare ...

I am a human who gets to the airport with as much lead time as possible to get through security, confirm my gate exists, and then try to be chill. I say try because I have no chill while traveling. I stress sweat and keep getting up to see if our plane has pulled up to our gate. I have the best of intentions with the most generous of timelines, and things still routinely go haywire. 

One sailor, Marcus Murphy, had no such fears and...

When a job is wrapping up, it’s only natural to turn an eye to what comes next.  Folks getting out of the military can speak with people trained in supporting servicemembers transitioning into civilian life and get one-on-one support with resume writing, job applications, and interview preparation. That route isn’t for everyone, and some people forge their own path into civilian life. 

For Airman Cook, preparing for his administrat...

What we don’t talk about in the Bar is that law school ruins eyeballs. Looking between our incoming class photo and photos from my 3L year, I clocked a lot of new framed faces. I went that opposite direction - I went from wearing glasses to wearing contacts. Learning to wear contacts was not without bumps and the most significant setback took place at the beginning, in my optometrist’s office. The optometrist brought me over to a b...

Growing up in the Golden State means a certain familiarity with warm summers and fire risks. We worry about lightning strikes, gender reveal parties that involve any kind of explosives, and lost hikers who, for some unknown reason, light a flare instead of using their working cell phone to summon assistance. The California I grew up in is this way because of an awareness of a challenging climate, drought conditions, and, frankly, h...