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Hi, this is Dr.
Stephanie Wautier, and I'm the hostof Conversations with a Chiropractor.
This is not a health how to, butrather a conversation with some
amazing people I've had the pleasureof being with on my journey of life.
Think of it more like Tuesdays with Maury.
A fireside chat orchicken soup for the soul.
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Grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and enjoythis conversation with a chiropractor.
Cheers to a new year!
Have you made any new year's resolutions?
I actually haven't, and Iwas pondering this a lot.
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January 1st is the perfect time toreevaluate and reassess and look at
the things in your life that you mightwant to change, and I think that's
well and good and quite wonderful.
But then I started to think about howeasy it is to be so critical of ourselves,
how easy it is to be punitive and thethings that we put ourselves through.
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And this got me on this thoughtprocess of negative self talk.
No matter what your goals, no matterIf you want to exercise more, lose
weight, if you want to stop drinking,if you have other addictions that you
want to tackle, what I know for sure,what I know to be true is that degrading
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yourself will not make anything better.
if you've been listening to thispodcast since the beginning, you'll
remember perhaps that episode three,we talked to Kurt Hewitt and we
talked a little bit about thisexperiment, the rice experiment.
So I'm going to go into thatin a little bit more depth.
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Kurt did an amazing job tellingus how he did it with his family.
I'm going to go a little bitdeeper into the background.
To demonstrate the powerof positive thoughts, Dr.
Masaru Emoto, a Japanese researcher,and a quote unquote alternative science
teacher, invented this rice experiment.
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He decided that, or wanted to prove,that human consciousness had an
effect on the molecular structureof water, and that water can react
to positive thoughts and emotions.
He even believed that positivethoughts and speaking positively
can remove pollution from the water.
So he started studying water and allof these details back in the 1990s.
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He referred to water as the blueprintof reality and published various
findings that asserted his ideas.
He wanted to prove that emotional energyand vibration can change the molecular
and physical structure of water.
If you are curious to dive a little deeperinto this topic, there's actually a 2004
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movie called What the Bleep Do We Know?
So let's go back to the rice experiment.
So, What is the rice experiment andwhat was it supposed to prove to us?
So, Dr.
Masuri Emoto, this Japanese researcher,took three sort of, containers of rice.
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In this famous experiment, he demonstratesthe power of negative and positive words.
Finding that speaking negativelyto rice in water over time decay,
and speaking positively over atime was allowing it to thrive.
to illustrate the physical effectof negative and positive words and
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how they can impact our well being.
the rice that was sort of yelledat and hated, became black
in color and a rotten smell.
The ones that were, completelyignored degraded as well, where
the rice that was spoken positivelywas like a healthy cup of rice.
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one little quote I love aboutthis says that beautiful
words make beautiful worlds.
Now, many people might not believe orbuy into this whole rice experiment
or speaking positively or thechange that can occur to water.
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So, if you aren't going to go allthe way there to that point, let's
bring up Some very, very well knownmedical system like Mayo Clinic.
Mayo Clinic has a great articleabout negative and positive self
talk, and I'm going to read alittle bit of it to you right now.
So this is from the Mayo Clinic.
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Positive thinking doesn't mean that youignore life's less pleasant situations.
Positive thinking just means thatyou approach unpleasantness in a
more positive and productive way.
You think the best is going to happen.
Not the worst.
Positive thinking often startswith positive self talk.
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Self talk is the endlessstream of unspoken thoughts
that run through your head.
These automatic thoughtscan be positive or negative.
Some of your self talkcomes from logic and reason.
Other self talk may arise frommisconceptions that you create because of
lack of information or expectations dueto preconceived ideas of what may happen.
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If the thoughts that run through yourhead are mostly negative, your outlook
on life is more likely pessimistic.
If your thoughts are mostly positive,you're likely an optimist, someone
who practices positive thinking.
Increased lifespan, lowerrates of depression, lower
levels of distress and pain.
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greater resistance to illness, bettercardiovascular health, and reduce risk
of death from cardiovascular diseaseand stroke, a reduced risk of death from
cancer, respiratory conditions, And areduced risk of death from infections.
So even Mayo Clinic is acknowledgingthat positive self talk and being a
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positive person have health benefits.
if you are not sure if your selftalk is positive or negative, Mayo
Clinic goes on to say, Here are somecommon forms of negative self talk.
Filtering.
This is when you magnify the negativeaspects of a situation, And you
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filter out all the positive ones.
For example, you had a great day at work.
You completed your tasks ahead of time.
You were complimentedfor doing a speedy job.
But that evening, you focus only on yourplan to do even more tasks and forget
about the compliments that you received.
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Another form of negativeself is called personalizing.
When something bad occurs, youautomatically blame yourself.
An example of personalizing iswhen someone cancels on you.
You assume the change of plans isbecause no one wants to be around you.
Instead, they could have had a familyemergency or something could have
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happened in their life that couldhave had nothing to do with you.
Another form of negative selftalk is called catastrophizing.
This is when you automaticallyanticipate the worst without
facts that the worst will happen.
The drive thru coffee shop gets yourorder wrong and then you think the
rest of your day will be a disaster.
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Another negative selftalk technique is blaming.
Where you try to say that someoneis responsible for what happened
to you instead of yourself.
You avoid being responsiblefor your thoughts and feelings.
Saying you should do somethingis negative self talk.
You should have done this, youshould have done that, and then
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blaming yourself for not doing them.
Perfectionism.
Keeping impossible standardsand trying to be more perfect
sets yourself up for failure.
Polarizing.
You see things as either good or bad.
There is no middle ground.
Now that we've heard a few of these Morecommon negative self talk descriptions.
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I want to say as a disclaimer,I am not a psychologist or a
mental health professional.
I am simply a podcaster who every dayis a chiropractor and nurse injector.
And I am just sharing some of my thoughtsand feelings about how to make the
world a little bit of a better place.
And I think that it really starts with us.
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If we are continuing to sort oflive in this hatred of ourselves, if
we are continuing to bring our ownenergetic selves low and down, then
what comes out of us is negative.
I absolutely love this Wayne Dyer quote.
I call it the orange orsqueezing the orange quote.
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So Wayne Dyer said, when yousqueeze an orange, you'll always
get orange juice to come out.
What comes out is what's inside.
The same logic applies to you.
When someone squeezes you, puts pressureon you, or says something unflattering
or critical, and out of you comes anger,hatred, bitterness, tension, depression,
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or anxiety, that is what's inside.
If love and joy are what you wantto give and receive, change your
life by changing what's inside.
I know that many of us havehad deep wounds, deep hurts.
Many of us have been working on ourselves.
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And I want to encourage you.
I want to encourage youwith some resources.
There's a book that I've recentlyread that I absolutely love.
It's called Worthy by Jamie Kern Lima.
She talks a lot about selfconfidence versus self worth.
And I want to read one ofthe quotes from that book.
Self confidence is the beliefin your abilities as a person.
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Self worth is the beliefin your value as a person.
Another quote from Jamie's book,Self worth is the internal, deep
rooted belief that you are enough,and worthy of love and belonging.
Just as you are.
On the other hand, self confidence,while it is also an internal trait, is
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generally linked to your assessment ofhow you compare to the outside world.
So, as an example, if you're in highschool and you try out for the school
play and you don't get the role thatyou wanted, that is linked to your
self confidence because that is anexternal factor, a status factor.
I think that we need to so focuson being human beings and not
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human doings and remove a littlebit of that ego status assessment.
What people say is keepingup with the Joneses.
because that, unfortunately, probablyis going to lead to some negative
self talk and some self criticism thatisn't always helpful or beneficial.
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And I think that we, we start inourselves and that does create.
A better world, a more beautifulworld, I'm gonna give you another
quote from the Jamie Kern Lima book.
I believe passionately thatwe're responsible for the
energy we bring into any room.
And I also believe We can allow ourselvesto live in our full true emotions, no
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matter how horrible they feel and stillshow up with love at the same time.
When our intentions are based in love,it doesn't mean we won't have the same
wide range of emotions as anyone else.
It just means that we accept and processthem and share them in a way that doesn't
project pain and hurt onto others.
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This is something I've said.
To my patients, to different folks,I don't watch the news very much.
I try to really protect my ownenergy so that I'm not bringing
anything negative into the healingspace that is my adjusting room.
maybe I don't always succeed,but that is my intention.
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Some people might call this a littlebit of pop psychology, and I agree,
I am not an expert in psychology.
I'm not a psychologist, but Ido want to share a few little
things, a few little tricks.
If you are caught up in this negativeself talk, you really have to focus on
changing that, bringing positive selftalk into your world, into your life.
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Do you not know where to start?
Jump on Pinterest.
Pinterest is an amazingly great freeresource, and I simply searched, you know,
positive affirmations or positive quotesand I'm going to read some of them to you.
I believe the power of life anddeath is in the tongue and speaking
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things out loud creates like astronger, energetic, spiritual impact.
So I am encouraging you as you'relistening, maybe, or you can make your
own little poster for your bathroom.
To say these out loud.
So here are just some verygeneral positive affirmations
that I found on Pinterest.
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I am worthy of love and happiness.
I believe in my abilities and Iexpress my true self with ease.
I am grateful for thewonderful things in my life.
I deserve to take timefor myself every day.
I am resilient, strong, and brave.
I trust myself and my intuition.
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I am proud of all myachievements, big and small.
I am becoming a betterversion of myself every day.
I am deserving of respect and kindness.
I choose to focus onthe positive of my life.
I am surrounded by love and support.
I embrace change andwelcome new opportunities.
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I forgive myself for past mistakes,and I've learned from them.
I am in control of mythoughts and actions.
I radiate confidence and positivity.
I am capable of achieving my goals.
I am at peace with who I am.
I nourish my body, mind, and spirit.
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I am a source of inspiration for others.
I choose to be happy right now.
I am constantly growing and evolving.
I honor my needs andI take care of myself.
I am grateful for my uniquetalents and abilities.
I am worthy of success, abundance.
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I am enough just as I am.
And that is my message to you today.
If you're listening, I want you toknow that you are enveloped in love.
You are enough just as you are today.
No matter what the scale says, no matteryour mistakes, you are worthy of love.
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God doesn't make junk and he made you.
Thank you for being withme on this little journey.
As we start the new year.
I hope that today, you know, thatyou are worthy just as you are.
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