3814 The Score Does Not Matter

In a world obsessed with metrics, likes, followers, promotions, or dollar signs, it’s easy to get trapped measuring your worth by numbers you don’t control. But here’s the truth no one tells you loud enough: The score does not matter; the win does.

What’s the difference? 

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The score is the snapshot of progress, often shallow and fleeting—the social proof, the paycheck, the applause.

The win is the deep-rooted success that comes from showing up, breaking your limits, and moving forward even when the scoreboard reads zero. It’s your transformation lived out, not just counted.

At some point, you face a choice: will you let setbacks and scores define you, or will you respond deliberately to build the life you crave?

Because if you don’t steer that ship, habit takes over—and your habits are often the invisible blockers holding you back from everything you want.

Forget the numbers. Do what it takes to win.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Do what it takes to win!

Did you watch the NFL game on Sunday night with the Baltimore Ravens and the Buffalo Bills?

Sixteen points were put on the board in 4 minutes!! Crazy? YES!! 

If you weren't one who watched the game and someone just told you who won, it wouldn't matter. But if you watched the game only to see that the Ravens were winning until these sixteen points were made in 4 minutes, you would be amazed at the final score, 40 to 41. The Buffalo Bills won!!

Here are three powerful moves to stop focusing on the score and start winning every single day.

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1. Shift Your Mindset: Prioritize Progress Over Perfection

Winning starts in the mind. When you’re obsessed with the “score,” you’re chasing perfection or external validation. Instead, pivot to valuing consistent progress—even if it looks messy or feels slow.

What this looks like:
Imagine a woman entrepreneur launching her first online coaching program. The number of sign-ups—or lack thereof on launch day—might sting. But if she measures success only by immediate sales, she’s dead in the water. Instead, she celebrates every lesson learned, every connection made, every imperfect new step. She invests in refining her offer, keeps creating, and follows up with prospects. Over time, that relentless progress builds a business, even if the "score" doesn’t reflect it at first.

This mindset frees you to do the work without being shackled to instant results. It’s the discomfort of a small daily win that stacks up into something unstoppable.

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2. Build Grit: Do the Hard Work Nobody Sees

Nobody ever wins by skipping the grind. If you want your dream, you need to commit to the unseen, unspectacular hard work that builds muscle, skill, and resilience.

Real-life example:
Consider a woman training for a marathon while juggling a full-time job and parenting. She could look at her slow pace or missed runs as a “score” failure. But true winning is in the decision to run the next mile no matter what fatigue or doubt tells her. It’s in the quiet mornings she sacrifices, the sore muscles she pushes through, and the commitment to her why—even when no one’s watching.

Grit means you stop waiting for everything to be perfect and start doing the hard stuff anyway. That’s what creates breakthroughs.

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3. Let Go of Comparison: Own Your Unique Journey

When you’re hooked on the scoreboard, you’re playing someone else’s game. Social media intensifies this trap, teasing you with everyone else’s highlight reels. But winning means owning that you are on your own path with your own terrain, speed, and wins.

Example:
A woman climbing the corporate ladder might see peers getting promoted faster or praised louder. She can waste energy feeling behind or “not enough” — or she can double down on her distinct strengths, build relationships that matter, and stretch in ways aligned with her values—even if it looks slower or less flashy.

By releasing comparison, you reclaim your focus and energy for what actually moves you toward your dream.

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