3833 What the "F" Do We Need in Marriage?

When we think of marriage, not many people think of getting it right. It's more about what we do wrong. But what if we could pinpoint some of the key ones that would shift the relationship? What the "F" do we need in marriage?

These key concepts aren’t just nice ideas; they are foundational to building a resilient, loving partnership that aligns with what God desires for marriage.

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And I'm sure you're thinking: What F-bomb are you referring to? Well, more to come on that. But first things first.

Marriage is a beautiful gift. Treat it well, and your heart will overflow.

Let’s explore these ten “F” words vital to your marital success, with practical examples and scriptural wisdom.

The K.I.S.S. ~ The "F's" in marriage!

1. Faithfulness
Being faithful means staying loyal and committed to your spouse, no matter what challenges arise. It’s more than just physical faithfulness—it’s about emotional and spiritual loyalty as well.
Example: Prioritize honesty even when it’s hard, and protect your marriage from distractions or temptations.
Scripture: “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled.” (Hebrews 13:4)

2. Forgiveness
No one is perfect. Forgiveness is the key to healing wounds and rebuilding trust after mistakes. Holding grudges only builds walls.
Example: When your spouse hurts you—intentionally or not—choose to forgive quickly instead of replaying the offense.
Scripture: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)

3. Friendship
A strong marriage thrives on deep friendship—shared interests, respect, and genuine care beyond romance.
Example: Spend time doing things you both enjoy and engage in meaningful conversations regularly.
Scripture: “A friend loves at all times.” (Proverbs 17:17)

4. Flexibility
Life throws curveballs, and the ability to adapt with grace keeps a marriage stable. Rigidity leads to conflict.
Example: Be willing to change plans, roles, or expectations when circumstances require it.
Scripture: “Love is patient and kind; love does not insist on its own way.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

5. Focus
Healthy marriages require attention and intention. Focus means choosing your spouse daily, even amidst distractions.
Example: Put away phones and distractions and carve out dedicated time to connect.
Scripture: “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” (Colossians 3:2)

6. Fun
Joy and laughter aren’t optional—they’re essential. Fun keeps the spark alive and strengthens the bond.
Example: Plan date nights, be silly together, and never underestimate the power of laughter.
Scripture: “A joyful heart is good medicine.” (Proverbs 17:22)

7. Fairness
Marriage thrives on balance, respect, and equality—not keeping score or power struggles.
Example: Share responsibilities and honor each other’s needs and contributions.
Scripture: “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3)

8. Feeling
Emotional openness and vulnerability create intimacy and understanding. Hide nothing that matters.
Example: Express your hurts, hopes, and appreciation honestly and listen deeply when your spouse does the same.
Scripture: “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” (Romans 12:15)

9. Facilitation
Marriage is about helping each other grow toward the best versions of yourselves. Facilitation means enabling your spouse’s success and happiness.
Example: Encourage your spouse’s dreams, support their growth, and navigate challenges side-by-side.
Scripture: “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)

10. Faith
Finally, faith in God and in your marriage’s purpose gives strength beyond what you can supply on your own.
Example: Pray together, seek God’s guida