DA402 | Four Pillars of Manhood, Emotional Safety, and Getting to the Rocking Chair with Love (Josh Krehbiel)

• How to pass the 4 pillars of manhood to your kids
• Why celebrating vulnerability matters more than perfect discipline
• How to normalize hard conversations about sex, money, and struggle
• The long view: Becoming a tender-hearted grandpa starts now

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SUMMARY

Some days you feel like a C-grade dad, and that's when presence matters most. In this episode, Josh Krehbiel shares how he's learning to create emotional safety for his kids, celebrate vulnerability over performance, and pursue the long view of becoming a tender-hearted grandfather. You'll hear about the four pillars of manhood, why crock-pot freedom beats microwave solutions, and how to get to the rocking chair with love on your heart.

TAKEAWAYS

• Marking moments matter: Creating manhood ceremonies and intentional milestones leaves lasting impressions on your kids, even if the follow-up isn't perfect.
• Celebrate vulnerability first: When your kids fail or confess something hard, make it about their openness before addressing consequences—this builds emotional safety.
• Reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously, and be fueled by the future: These four pillars of manhood provide a framework for raising boys and girls with character.
• Pursue purity as a top priority: The war for purity as a father protects your ability to show physical affection and have compassion without contamination.
• Freedom is crock-pot, not microwave: Breakthrough comes through long-suffering love and staying present, not by trying to manhandle change.

GUEST

Josh Krehbiel is the lead founding pastor of Every Day Church in Roseville, Minnesota—a community focused on prayer, discipleship, and sending out leaders and movements. Along with his wife Katie, Josh is passionate about raising up the next generation through worship, ministry, and authentic family connection. They have four children: three teenagers and a five-year-old. Josh is also a songwriter and worship leader who believes in the power of declaring truth over families through music and prayer.

 

LINKS

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• Raising Modern-Day Knights by Robert Lewis

• Everyday Church, Roseville, Minnesota

   

QUOTES

1. "When failure happens we celebrate the vulnerability first because the most important thing is connection and felt safety."
2. "I want to get to the rocking chair with love on my heart and grandkids who say grandpa is kind."
3. "Freedom doesn't happen through manhandling it happens through long suffering love and staying present in the crock pot not microwave."
4. "Your kids don't feel safe because you think they're safe they feel safe when you celebrate their vulnerability over their performance."
5. "The war for purity as a father protects