Dating Unsettled
Welcome to the Dating Unsettled Show where we dare to date differently hosted by Joy Ofodu, a Creative Executive who has reached millions of people with my original comedy content, voiceover and original stories. I am unsettled by my Nigerian culture’s expectations of dating. I’m unsettled by American dating norms and traumas. I harnessed my inner romantic and childhood dreams of a healthy BLACK relationship to author a new set of dating rules, ones that work for me, rules that made Black love not only possible but PROBABLE. I was going to fall in love, and I knew I would find it online. I refused to settle. I swiped on over 2,000 profiles, matched with over 150 fine young gentlemen and went on about 20 first dates with some amazing guys. You already got 50 apps in your phone baby, what’s one more? Dating Unsettled, where we dare to date differently. Make sure you’re subscribed anywhere where you can listen to podcasts. Follow me @joyofodu and follow the show @datingunsettled. It would help me tremendously if you would rate and review the show FIVE STARS. Thank you for your undying love and support
Episodes
What Are Girlfriend Duties vs. Wife Duties? Threads apparently explains!
Alright, picture this—you're vibing in a relationship, doing all the things, but then you stop and ask yourself: Wait… is this a girlfriend thing to do/give/be or a wife thing? We’re unpacking that strange perpetually chronically online urge. Not in a dusty "play your role" kinda way, but in a WOW we don't have any common o...
Unsettler Request: My Boyfriend Thought I Abandoned Him During Evacuation ft. Dr. Chidi Ohaeri
Psychoeducation on how we respond to our partners taking past hurt and gender roles into account. If you are dating, loving, losing anything duirng this natural disaster: I am with you and feeling for you.
Dr. Chidi and I read a vulnerable Unsettler Request centering the Southern California wildfires.
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New Year, So I Redownloaded the Dating Apps: What Changed?
Dating in 2025: how to use these features to find love in the New Year! I redownloaded the dating apps—Tinder, Bumble, Hinge—you know, the usual suspects. In this episode, I dive into what’s changed, what hasn’t, and whether the swipe scene is any less chaotic than before. Spoiler alert: it’s probably still a lil weird and VERY full of hope! If you’ve ever wondered whether ...
In this episode of Dating Unsettled, we're (yes, you and me) diving BACK LIKE WE NEVA LEFT into the chaos of summer relationships. I'll be reading your submissions and offering some no-nonsense advice—sprinkled with just the right amount of sarcasm. Whether you're navigating summer flings or long-term love, tune in for a reality check you probably didn't ask for, but definitely need.
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In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about abeing divorced and not finding the folks she's looking for in her area (South Florida). Tips for distance and going the distance! + I will be meeting and greeting in Florida at the Miami Beach Convention Center June 14 in the early afternoon! Follow me for more details.
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Joy interviews Vasavi Kumar (@mynameisvasavi) about her experiences as a Brown girl, divorcee, dater in her 40s and voice actor/author! The two really get into what it's like to grow up as immigrant kids in the U.S. with a media landscape that makes them feel Othered, with blonde white girls as the mold and parental criticism as the fire under their feet. They react to Joy's video about her voices in her head and self-talk, and cha...
Joy interviews Danielle Connolly (@_Daniellevates) about her experiences as a hotgirllll who just takes a lil bit more time getting out of chairs on dates! The two talk infantilization, common misconceptions, whether or not she discloses her disability and MORE! Yes, more.
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Fun this week: DU has been featured by Apple Podcasts on TikTok and in curation with a new series! https://www.instagram.com/p/C4RXAGjPDM5/
Ride through the latest Love Is Blind Season 6 drama with your favorite dating podcast host, Joy!
In this episode, Joy spills the tea on all the jaw-dropping moments that have left us questioning both the concept of love and the sanity of the contestants.
But hold on to your heartstrings, bec...
Join Joy in this episode as she delves into her thoughts after the film "Players" on Netflix, exploring the complex themes it unravels about love, relationships, and the challenges that come with being an adult looking for grown folks love.
First, Joy reflects on the societal pre...
Good Morning America recently recognized me as a Dating Expert and featured my advice from this beloved pod! Here’s my full appearance on GMA and dating tips to help you build a real relationships from the apps this year
Seeing myself Good Morning America was a surreal experience, one that I never imagined would happen so soon in my podcasting journey or journey as an entertainer! As host of my...
Get to Know Me as a Dater with Skin Deep + GMA and Apple Podcasts Features!
Thanks for listening to this podcast, and entering a space that proves dating can be a comedy goldmine, full of love and mistakes and healing and not just the he-said-she-said the Internet is making it out to be.
Also - stay tuned or visit the @datingunsettled IG for the podcast's features on Good Morning America and Apple Podcasts this Jan and Feb! We made...
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...In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about a man who dumped her and blamed it on his medical condition..Should she believe what he shared, or is he using it as an excuse?
I go off with loving affirmation and evaluation!
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In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about the Ghost of Bumble's past -- a man who insists on being a recurring character. Should she date him or drop him?
I also spill tea on where my own relationship with self/Ivan/podcast is this holiday season.
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"I'm single but tbh I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm really working on myself right now." UGH! We've all heard it. But have we interrogated it? What can we do when we meet someone we really want to be there for who isn't really into dating? Meet local man Alex Clewis, and goalie for Napa Valley 1839 FC. He's my boyfriend's teammate and a stand up salesman who is recovering from serial monogamy! Our convo opens up a lot of ...
Is Michael's new app, Cosmic, gon' save the dating scene?
We're about to find out... it'll at the very least save people who don't like to write bios about themselves..themselves.
Listen and learn more -- or read about it in TechCrunch!
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A legendary moment. The reason for my season and to my rhyme. What every dating podcast needs: I get to introduce you to my maaaan, Ivan! We discuss his surprising first impressions of me, why he asked me to be his girlfriend and what it’s been like since.
Joy gives her thoughts on the Unsettling world of Netflix's hit series, "Love is Blind." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and Joy's personal icks that Season 5 Episodes 1-4 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for the footage aired in Episodes 1-4, including season preview (what may happen beyond the pods).
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This week, I talk about literally visionboarding the love I wanted for myself and how you can do the same!
Here's a link to my actual visionboard (Click the VZN BRD highlight)
RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA with The Skin Deep on October 10th
We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around ...
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We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles!
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