Mind Movers #46 — Lalalaletmeexplain

This compelling episode features Lala, the anonymous voice behind "Lalalaletmeexplain" - a former social worker turned influential author who's helped thousands recognise red flags and find their worth. 

Rhona and Payman explore deeply personal territory as Lala shares her childhood trauma, decade-long career in child protection, and the systemic failures she witnessed firsthand. The conversation weaves through heavy topics, including misogyny, male influencers like Andrew Tate, and the recent concerning developments in UK abortion rights. 

What emerges is a raw, unflinching look at how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships, why anonymity can be liberating, and how society's treatment of vulnerable people - from social workers to women seeking healthcare - reveals our collective blind spots.

In This Episode

00:02:45 - The birth of anonymity

00:04:40 - Why hiding can mean truth-telling

00:09:10 - When dads abandon and mothers struggle

00:15:15 - Forgiving the unforgivable

00:24:15 - From personal pain to professional purpose

00:28:40 - When systems fail the vulnerable

00:42:35 - Blackbox thinking

00:59:55 - Misogyny as cultural DNA

01:11:55 - The Andrew Tate problem

01:15:00 - When women turn on women

01:32:05 - Justice on trial

01:38:45 - Tracking women's bodies

01:47:15 - Healing through words

01:52:35 - Moving trauma through movement

About Lala

Lala is a former social worker who spent over a decade in safeguarding, witnessing firsthand the realities of domestic abuse and child protection. She's now a best-selling author and one of the most important voices online when it comes to love, abuse, power and patriarchy. Operating anonymously through her platform "Lalalaletmeexplain," she helps people recognise red flags, establish boundaries, and understand their worth through truth and lived experience.