EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Love brought you together, but relationship skills keep you together. That is what this podcast is all about: the relationship skills to be a truly empowered couple! You will hear a range of practical relationship topics like: fantasy love vs true healthy love, unhealthy conflict vs healthy conflict, and ineffective communication vs great communication. We are your hosts, Jocelyn & Aaron Freeman, and will provide you the most relatable, authentic, deep, and practical relationship skills so you can overcome ANY challenge and connect in deeper ways. We, The Freemans, are known as “the couple that coaches couples.” Be sure to read our newest book, The Argument Hangover!

Episodes

August 3, 2021 34 min

The quality of your conversation comes from the quality of your questions! No matter how much you love each other, your conversations can feel routine if you’re asking the same ol’ questions (especially if you are a ‘busy’ couple or have been together for years). 

Truthfully, it’s natural to crave more emotional depth in your relationship, which comes from being able to ask more meaningful questions in a state of curiosity and inte...

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There is one big thing in your life that disconnects you and keeps you from fully enjoying your life and relationship, and that is 'suffering'!

Though ‘suffering’ sounds like a very strong word, this experience happens whenever something is happening that you do not want to be happening. This leads to moments of discouragement and discontentment, and over time will lead to a feeling of “things not being good”. 

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The most attractive trait in a partner is reliability! So what is reliability really? Well, can your partner count on you to follow through, or do you make promises and then have excuses for why it didn't happen? 

The thing is, how reliable you are in your partnership directly impacts how much they can TRUST you. Now you might think we're just speaking about the "big" things...but actually, it's also about the s...

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Coming off of last night’s webclass on “Communication Mastery”, many people were intent to bring more empathy into their relationship. The very next feeling however was “being empathetic is not easy when I don’t agree with my partner.” 

This most likely is the case for you as well. Though being empathetic to our partner’s experience is a true expression of love, it isn’t easy especially when you haven’t practiced it. 

In this one-o...

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Establishing boundaries as a couple can sometimes be a point of tension. It can feel like a battle between wanting to feel security, but also not feeling controlled by the other. The thing is, boundaries are critical to agree upon, so you both feel respected, loved, and also fulfilled.

Most couples discuss boundaries as: expressing commands, arguing repeatedly, a resistance to feeling controlled. Yet, they can be discussed in a lov...

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We wanted to give you an update on our pregnancy journey and how we’re preparing for parenthood...intentionally. For us, it’s important to prepare together for a natural birth AND to get our marriage prepared for parenthood.

Because we talk to couples all day every day (with many being parents), we get to see the behind the scenes challenges that come up with marriage and parenthood. So we’ve been taking those insights into our con...

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It can feel frustrating or unsettling when you and your partner disagree on a big decision. For some couples, this can lead to making no decision and staying in a standstill for a while, which is also not ideal for you.

For others, it can lead to tense conversations, full blown arguments, and feeling like you’re limited by the other person. But it doesn’t have to go that way…

Whether it’s parenting styles, financial decisions, wher...

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It’s a great personal trait to be considerate of your partner (especially of their needs from the last episode). However there is a danger of being overly considerate or overly pleasing in your relationship. 

You might not have ever considered this or realized that it was happening to you, but the effect can be very disruptive. It can make you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, and even disengaged from your partner. 

In this solo episode w...

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Of course you know that you and your partner are not exactly the same. Yet, how often do you expect them to fulfill all of your needs? Or even how often you assume that they should just know or desire to meet your needs? 

When you get to a place where you have conflicting needs, this can feel as if you have to sacrifice or be discouraged that your needs won’t be met. When we asked on IG what some of the common conflicting needs for...

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We received this question privately after the last podcast: “What is the difference between justifying and explaining, when you feel like your partner misread your intentions? Sometimes I feel like we’re fighting over a version of me that doesn’t feel true, and I can’t tell if that’s just me being defensive.”

In this episode you will hear:

  • The subtle difference between justifying and explaining
  • The major difference between Intent vs...
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    Defensiveness is a learned behavior to compensate for something going on beneath the surface. 

    A few common sources of defensiveness in relationship:

  • A lack of feeling emotionally safe because they often feel invalidated
  • Taking something personally (and making it mean something different than what was said)
  • Fear of being judged, not loved, abandoned, or punished
  • An attachment to a certain perspective about themselves or the situation
  • ...

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    Do you and your partner feel perfectly aligned and on the same page? Do you ever feel caught off guard by a comment your partner makes about being dissatisfied somewhere in your relationship? If so, it's time for a Family Meeting Check-in! 

    We define a"Family Meeting" as: a designated time to have an intentional, judgment-free conversation together as you discuss your relationship + life. You each get to share your...

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    No matter the stage of relationship you are in, it can seem like you and your partner have different sex drives. Often we think this means frequency, but in this episode we interview Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander who collaborates with her on content, to discover just what sex drive and compatability means. 

    In this episode you will realize the different forms and types of intimacy, how to raise your satisfa...

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    What’s the main difference between being just “roommates” with someone vs romantic partners? The answer: the depth of emotional intimacy.

    Of course you’ve heard us say that a relationship requires all the functional things (the to-do list, things around the house, errands, etc)...but that can easily consume your attention and diminish your emotional intimacy. 

    In fact, we received a private message yesterday saying, “how do I creat...

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    Are you working to rebuild trust in your relationship? Perhaps a lie was told, or a boundary was crossed….but you’re committed to repairing it and not ending the relationship.

    Today you’ll meet Joy and Peter Harrington who share very candidly about repairing broken trust after his long term use of porn. They share some radically true things about whether porn use is healthy in a relationship and what to do if your partner denies cr...

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    A male client was vulnerable last week and said, "we've been together 10 years, have 3 beautiful children, and have great careers. And while I think we should be closer than ever, I feel more distant than ever."

    This powerfully shows that being emotionally connected does not have to do with time or reaching life milestones together. In fact, couples grow apart emotionally from 4 subtle behaviors that build up over time....

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    Maybe this is a question you have never thought of! Have you ever taken the time to think about the different types of sex you might be in the mood for? For most the answer is, no… Taking this question one step further, depending on your mood on a certain day of week, you might be more or less open to certain types of sex with your partner. 

    Ok that was a great thing to think about, but now the next part is to express this whole ne...

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    You know those moments when you're sharing your emotion, and your partner responds with logic? They might say “that’s not how that happened, that doesn’t make sense, or that wasn’t my intention.” 

    It can make you feel invalidated and  misunderstood, which hurts because your partner is the one you should feel most understood by, right? You might feel that they don’t listen to you and certainly that they don’t understand you. Or ...

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    Why can’t the past just stay back in the past?! How often in your relationship do you feel that you resolved an issue, only to have it come back up again later? What about making a decision together about a big life event, only to doubt it (or your partner) later? 

    This “past thing” is a block for many couples that keep them feeling in the same place and not making the progress they really want. In this motivational episode we will...

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    How do you two tend to act after an argument? If you don’t have a solid repair process, you likely are keeping the issue lingering and unresolved. When this happens you can lose trust in each other, erode love and connection, and just turn this into an emotional trigger for the future. 

    In today’s episode, we’ll cover 3 mistakes that couples make after an argument, and you’ll likely find that you have done all 3! But we also share ...

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