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Many times when we wantsomething, we want it yesterday,
we want it asap.
And then comes that feelingwhere it just starts to weigh on
you. It's not happening.Why isn't it happening?
And you can really get lost inthat emotion and that feeling.
But you got to remember, God'stiming is not your timing.
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No. Oh, that's better, right, babe?
Yeah.
Yeah. She founded anarchitectural concrete company.
He.
Founded a hundred milliondollars clothing company.
She took the world by stormas a social media star. He.
Took the world by storm as afamous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a business.
And had babies.
Now we're figuring outthe best ways to do both.
Join us as we learn from otherentrepreneurs going through the same life
struggles.
As they share their life,hacks about success, love kids.
And everything in between. If.
Your dreams don't scareyou, they're too small.
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Quote by Richard Bronze.
A goal without a plan is only a dream.
Welcome to the Pretty and punkpodcast. I'm your host, Dan Caldwell,
and I'm here with my beautiful wife who.
You'll be co.
Next to me.
You feel like you do that on.
Verbiage He Loves is goingto be a good podcast.
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Okay, this is going to be a good podcast.
Now we have a fun announcement beforewe jump into the podcast real quick.
Why don't you announce that real quick?
Well, summer's here and we feel likeyou guys are working so hard and it's
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Here we go.
And we really wanted to talktoday about are you truly ready
for what you want inyour life? And I think
there's things that we want in our life.
There's things that we're doing right now.
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We're building the podcasts, otherthings, other businesses that we have,
and we want the best for our kids.
And there's things that we'reasking for in our life that we want
and we're not getting it yet.
And so sometimes we have tolook back at ourselves and go,
are we truly ready for thatblessing if it came to us today?
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Because I know there's times in mylife that if I would've received
certain things that I wouldn'thave been ready for it.
I think that's everyone's life.
So this is something where youneed to just take a step back and
look back on your life.
Were you ready for the blessingthat you were praying for when
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you began to want and to
invest in that need? I know thatmany times when we want something,
we want it yesterday, we want it asap.
And then comes that feelingwhere it just starts to
weigh on you. It's not happening.Why isn't it happening?
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And you can really get lost inthat emotion and that feeling.
But you got to rememberGod's timing is not your
timing. So this is what we'regoing to talk about this.
Week. And before we jumpinto that, hey guys,
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And thank you again, andlet's get back to the show.
Are you truly ready for what you want,
for what you're praying for right now?
I get a lot of moms come to meand we have this thing in common
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where it is not an easy pregnancy,
and we're all praying for that. Now,
the other thing that peoplecome to us for is business
advice. Their business isn't booming.It's not rocking. It's not blowing up yet.
And that can be very frustratingtoo. But you need to,
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are you a hundred percent ready to have
that business blow up at that time,
or should you be preppingand preparing for the
things that need to bedone when that business is
ready to blow up?
Yeah. Are you studying? Doyou have the systems in place?
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What have you received? The truthis, if you had a thousand orders,
we experienced this afterthe Ultimate Fighter one,
when we had thousands and thousands oforders come through and we were not ready
for it. We had no inventorysystem on the backend.
Anybody who's ever workedat Shopify knows that
if you have a certain shirt and youhave a hundred medium, a hundred large,
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a hundred xl and you run out,
it should stop them from being ableto sell that size anymore. Well,
we didn't have that in place at the time.
And so when thousands and thousandsand thousands of orders started coming
through many years ago,all of a sudden, yeah,
because the show wasn't Shopify obviously,
but thousands of orders are comingthrough and it's not stopping the orders.
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We're accepting every single order thatcomes through. So at some point we had
these thousands of orders leaned upagainst the walls around the warehouse
with the one product that they had andthe rest of the products that they didn't
have.
We realized at that moment that we neededto put an inventory system in place.
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That's what happens. How many of youdon't have what you need in place,
whether that be what you need in yourheart or what you need in your mind,
the understanding,
the ability to deal with thepressure of whatever you might
be asking for. Are you ready forit? Are you truly ready for it?
So there's the preparation season,
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and I think that's what we're hitting on.
That's just one of the points.
Just like seeds need time to grow.You need the time to prepare,
and God is molding you.God is shaping you.
You're getting better atdealing with your customers.
You're getting better atunderstanding your business.
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So don't feel like you're gettingburied because it can feel like that.
But just understand that the seedsare being planted and you're going to
be so ready for when this thingblooms in your life finally.
Happens for you. Ecclesiastes three,
one says to everything there is a
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season a time for everypurpose. And I wouldn't,
in my younger self, I'm not sure Iwould've understood this as well,
but when you realize that when Ilost my job as a police officer,
I thought that my life was over.
But I think I realized at thatmoment that God was closing
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that door for me.
And maybe because I originallywanted to start my own business,
and now I had done whateverI was meant to do as a police
officer, it was done.
I did that and now it was time to moveon and I was in the next season of
my life.
And I think that that verse alwayshits home with me because I think
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about the seasons of your life,how there's certain parts. In fact,
we were having a discussiona few days ago about
how these seasons of yourlife, I think I believed,
I think what was our disagreement aboutthat? I mean, it wasn't a disagreement,
it was just that I believedwhere you were at that time,
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you were supposed to be thereand you're supposed to be doing.
That right?
But I also said how ifyou are on the wrong path,
God is very quickly going to reel youin with that fishing line and pull
you in a different directionif it's something that
feels so right.
And Proverbs 1921 tells us there are the
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plans in a person's heart,
but it is the Lord'spurpose that prevails.
So sometimes God is aligning yourpath with his divine purpose,
and that is, it's in the goodbook. And sometimes we feel, yes,
I'm supposed to be an actress or a model,
or I'm supposed to startthis big T-shirt brand,
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or I'm supposed to start whateverit is that you're so caught up
in the concrete company. Ithought that was my purpose too.
I'm a woman in a man's world.Everybody's so proud of me.
Television companies are coming to me.
They want to do a reality show.This must be, this must be my purpose,
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but
how am I truly changingthe world? It wasn't.
I believe now when I look backon all these things that I felt
were things that I was born to do,
I think God reeled mein and just put me on
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track and was trying to showme what I was truly meant for.
And I know building a business sometimes
is, especially whenyou're at the top and you,
you're making millions of dollars andyou're taking care of everyone going on
all these trips,
and it feels like the rightthing because it's easy,
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but it may not necessarily be your.
Purpose. Yeah. But don'tyou think that, I mean,
and we've talked about this before,don't you think that I believe,
and this is just me kind of lookingback on my life and even looking at your
life,
we talked about this specifically that I
believe that you were in.Did I say that three times?
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I believe. I'll say it onemore time, just for good about.
You meant to be there and I'll talk. Well.
No, because you learn things whileyou were building your business.
You had to go through those things. Youhad to understand how to run a business.
You were meant to do that. So youcould be sitting here right now,
but telling people how to do.
That. But in my life,
I feel that that was not my purpose.
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But I do believe that God gave methe lessons as a blessing because.
Yeah, mean it's yourpurpose at that moment.
Though can bad. I don'tknow if it, honestly,
when I back, I think that.
Was, did I just say Ibelieve five times in a row
when you were taking your acting classesand you were going through this acting
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part of your life, that iswhat brought you, I mean,
you've coached me on doing some of this,
the speaking on the podcast.
But God pulled back the curtainand let me see the dark side of it,
the addictions.
Well, yeah. I mean the big part,that's why you didn't go too far in it.
Right? But he gave me the discernment,thank God, because I was close to him.
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Of course,
I wasn't as close to him in prayerand relationship as I am today.
But something big had to, I don'tknow, had to happen in my life.
I don't want to say that I don'tknow, because I'm very, very clear.
I haven't missed a day of prayer, morningor night or including my kids, ever,
ever, ever, ever since the bombshell.
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But I did have the discernment,
thank God to not followthe people that were on a
wrong path of addictionor just getting so lost in
just, there was a lot of vanity.
People were changing theirbodies, cosmetic surgery,
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breast augmentation, which nowwe know people are getting so,
so sick from these things thatthey're doing to their body.
But God sent me, evenmy agent, he said, no,
you don't want to do the augmentation.You are perfect the way you are.
And I believe that yes,
God was talking through him becauseeverybody else around me was
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changing themselves,
and I was trying to find differentways to make myself look good,
but not go under theknife and risk my life.
And now I see that peoplethat did those things
are getting really.
Sick. So don't you think, I mean,
thinking about why you had started yourfirst company, why you were enacting,
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I see all those pieces in you,bringing you to this moment right here,
right now.
You sitting in this chair on thispodcast touching people's lives.
You would not have that voiceto be able to speak to those
things if you hadn't gone through that.
So I believe God put you in thatpurpose at that moment and then said,
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okay, that season is over and now it'stime to move to How do you not see that?
I don't feel like.
That. I do see that. I mean,I see it in myself, my own.
I feel the lesson.
Was a police officer at the time.I needed to be a police officer,
and then it was time to moveon. And then Tapout was.
But even with, I havepolice officer friends,
and there's a very dark side to that too.
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There's a lot of cheating.There's a dark side.
There's purpose that's not acrossthe board's a good and a bad side to
everything, but I don't.
Maybe those guys aresupposed to be there. I mean,
how do you know there's not guys?
I think this is a very complicatedthing that's way above our
pay scale. But God puts,
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I feel like this whole world,
as much as it seems like it'schaos and it's out of control,
that it's all or a lot ofit ways is running in a.
Certain way, a lot of itis planned for your story.
I do believe that many things inmy life were planned for my story,
and I like to look ateverything as a gift.
But if I look back and Iwas still in that thing,
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would I be a hundred percent happy?
I feel like we are free to makethe right or the wrong decision.
We have that discernment to do that.
We can go into somethingthat is pleasing our
flesh. But I feel like when youreally step back and you look at it,
if I look at it today,whereas before I was like,
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I want to do what makes my heart happy.I want to do what I'm passionate about.
Do what makes you happy. Dowhat makes your heart be,
that's kind of my languageat that time. But now,
how am I honoring God every day?Is this honoring God, really?
Am I changing people's livesin a way where they're,
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I guess doing their inventory of theirlife and saying, am I on the right path?
I think we are looking atthings in the same way.
But where I am today now,
I could honestly say Iwas doing things because
I had that as a cop. There'sa rush. You feel like a hero.
You feel like you're invincible,but you are. Are you honoring You?
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But you're saving people'slives? Nobody's invincible.
I think, well, of course not. Butthose guardians, those guys in blue,
the ones that run into the fire wheneverybody's running out or for firemen,
but running into the gunfire wheneverybody else is running out,
maybe they're there to keepyou alive so that you can live
on, to do your purpose, to live on,
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to be at the right place thatyou're supposed to be in,
because you might not have survivedcertain situations if those guys weren't
there. Or for other people that, notnecessarily us, but I mean, I know I wish.
They came in time when my mom got robbed.
I really wish they didn't takea half an hour. But anyway.
But I mean,
there's guys out there that have savedpeople's lives over and over and over and
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over again. Thousands and thousands ofthese situations every year. Yeah. Oh,
absolutely. So you have togive credit where credit's due.
And I think that a lot of those thingsare all playing out. And in the same way,
were.
You in a hundred percent good placewhen you were in that line of work?
Were you a hundredpercent in a good place?
Well, could you.
Look back and say, I'm not talkingabout someone else's purpose.
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Someone else could lookback and say, listen,
I really am saving lives every day.
I feel closer to God thanI've ever felt in my life.
And when I have that talk withGod, this is where I'm meant to be.
I am meant to be a firefighter,or I'm meant to be a marine,
or whatever it is. I am doingthis for the greater good.
I'm not just doing this because it makesme feel good and my flesh feel good.
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I think that's the only difference thatI'm trying to point out is were you
in a good place? Wasit making you do truly.
Just like you weren't in the best ofplace was when you were building your
company or when you were acting,
but I still feel like you were in theright place that you were supposed to be
in. You were learning the thingsthat you were supposed to learn.
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And I don't know how I affected lives.
I told you about the babythat I found this triple roll.
There's kids listeningand well, yeah, the baby,
the triple rollover and the baby'scar seat gets thrown from the
car and the baby's found.
I find the baby still in the carseat without a scratch on them.
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And who knows what that baby, thatbaby might've turned out to change,
be saving lives inAfrica. Who knows. Knows.
What a hundred percent.I totally believe that,
but I believe that. But do you feel,
I feel like a part of me, andI'm just going to be honest here,
because things in your life thatyou're exposed to changes people.
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I feel like you lost a bit ofinnocence because you saw a lot of dark
things.
And when you see the truth isyou can watch something and
you're not bothered by it. ButI don't even want to see that.
I don't want to seesomeone lose their life.
I don't want to see that stuffbecause it's not meant to
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it. I don't want to expose, this.
Is way off subject, expose.
Myself. But don't you understand, feel,
when I am in pain or someonearound you is in pain,
I feel like you have less of a,just because you've seen bloody,
gory, scary things.
Like when the kids get hurt andI'm like, you're fine. Let's go.
Yeah. Or something.
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And it's almost don't necessarily.
Do, that's part partly hauntingand scary. I'm like, yeah,
I'm really not feeling well.
And I feel there was whenI was really, really sick,
and I would just ignoreit to the point where
I was dealing with something sobad. Or even after the C-section,
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you're like, it's just whatever.She's got these wounds all over.
She's fine. She's fine.
I don't think I ever talked to you likethat. But the one thing that, I mean,
I think men overall lose their
innocence and they'remeant to because yes,
because they are meant to be thepeople that do that so that they can
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protect the other people in theirlives. They have an understanding.
It's like when we walk into a room whileyou're admiring the cute flowers on the
wall and.
Oh no, I notice every, I'm a different.
Scene. I'm looking for exits. And no.
I am like that.
Too. How I'm going to killeverybody in the room.
If I have. No, I wouldn't thinkabout that. But I'm very hyper,
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I think once I've been inan armed robbery and I've
been in a robbery in anotherarmed, how does this happen?
I've been in a shoot up ina restaurant, armed robbery.
So I think the trauma from that,
plus my mom getting robbed atgunpoint, the trauma from that,
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whenever I go into a store,I'm always looking around me.
I understand what you're talking about.
Most. But in the same way,
remember when we were driving down thefreeway and that motorcycle drove by us
and I said, that guy is going todie. Okay? And five minutes later,
he had crashed and was all overthe pavement. And I jumped out to,
there's kids listening. I know, butI'm not saying anything, Gloria.
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I'm just saying I jumpedout to save his life.
And who was the first person out of thecar to go save this guy's life? I mean,
those are the things that men.
Get prepared for. Therewas a lot of people,
there was like five people out there. Yes.
I was the first person out of the car.Nobody was out before I was, there.
Was five guys on.
The side of the road. No, butnobody got to him before me, I.
Think because they were.
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Was the first people werestanding around doing nothing.
And I'm down to that guy, talking to him,
telling him he's going to be okay, givinghim some hope. And I, till this day,
Don.
Hope he's okay,
which I think is important because I thinkit's hard because a lot of people are
scared because of the lawsuits.You touched him, and this happened,
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and that happened.
Most of the time they say don't touchsomeone when they're in a bad s.
Situation. And that's exactly whatI was telling him, not to move,
telling the other people not to touch him.
Somebody wanted to take his helmetoff. I was like, don't touch him. No,
you can't. And those arethe things that, because.
You could, without knowing, domore harm than good, I think is.
What he's trying for. Sure.
Those are the places thatI believe is not a mistake.
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It's not a mistake that we're in thatplace, that we've learned these skills,
that we are able to do these things,
and I still don't know where it'sgoing to save us down the road.
I know you get mad sometimes watchingpolice videos or something and just
trying to understand. Because if youdon't know that, that can happen.
If you don't know a situation,if you don't know how that.
Can play out.
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You're not ready for.
It. I just don't wantyou to get lost in it.
Some people get a rush fromseeing things that they shouldn't
really be watching, and Idon't think you get that,
but I know there's a lot of people thatget rushes from seeing things that are
not meant to be.
Seen. Now we're way off subject, but whatabout, so let's just go back to this.
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What about the people?
Because it doesn't always playout the way it's supposed to.
Maybe there's a lessonto be learned. I mean,
think about the lottery winnerswho are probably, oh man,
if I could just win this. They're buyinga lottery ticket for a reason, right?
And then all of a sudden they need.
That.
You just won $30 million.And they're like, yeah,
I won $30 million andthey got what they wanted,
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and then they go and lose $30million over the next few years.
I think because they're spending it ontheir fleshly wants rather than what they
were called.
To do and they weren't readyfor it. I mean, the truth is,
if they would've been workingon themselves and reading and
understanding finance and understandinghow to invest their money,
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imagine a guy who isstarting to buy stocks.
Let's just say he's buying some stocksand he's figuring out how to invest his
money and he's putting hismoney in the right places,
and then all of a sudden thatguy wins $30 million. Wow,
that guy's been working on himself for10 years now. He's won $30 million,
and I promise you that $30million go to good news.
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Compound. He knows how to make more of it,
and then also put part of it into great
causes and help a lot of people out.
I feel like the one thingthat I always pray for is
when we are blessed,
how can we help otherpeople with our blessings?
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How can I be a blessing to others?
And I feel when you start tochange your words and you start to
put it out there that you are notjust asking for this blessing for
yourself, but once you become a blessing,
once you have the platform, howdo you become a blessing to other.
People? Yes.
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I think sometimes even thingscould happen to you so that
it helps you grow up faster.
Imagine the person who's not readyfor a child but gets a child.
We had a recent post onour Instagram page on our
pretty punk Instagram page that went to,
it's like at 7 million now because
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this couple had just had achild. And six months later,
she finds out she's pregnant again.
And the guy kind of sighabout it a little bit,
and people are sitting on both sidesof the fence about his reaction.
But I think overall is was thatgiven to them for a reason?
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We put at the top, not always our timing.
And a lot of people pushed back on thatsaying, God had nothing to do with this.
And I argue with that.
I say that maybe they were giventhis challenge for a reason.
Maybe it was supposed to play out in theirlife for a reason. Maybe they needed,
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maybe they're meant to do something intheir older life and they wanted to have
these two kids close together,and so they became great friends.
Maybe children are supposed tosupport themselves later in life.
I don't know what it is,
but I think there's a reason there'sthere for everything that's happening
right now.
A hundred percent.
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It's funny because I see ourfamily in that where my mom,
I mean, some people cansay it's a mistake, but my mom said it was a surprise.
She was not expecting me, andshe always wanted a daughter.
And because it was in atime where she had really,
really high risk pregnanciesand she had really
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hard pregnancies,
the doctors actually toldher that she needed to
not have this baby. And she was justvery outspoken. She said, no way.
No way. I'm having this baby.It's going to be a girl,
and God needs me to have this baby.
So maybe it puts stress on themarriage. I don't really, yeah.
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There was a big age gapbetween you and your brother.
Yeah. But she just, you were.
Surprised.
Yeah, I was a surprised. And shewas just so adamant about it.
And when she became friends withthe doctor and he came running
in when it was the ultrasound, he said,
how did you know were going to have adaughter? And this was later, of course,
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but she said, God told me. I knewit was going to be a little girl.
And here I am,
and here I am in my life whereI had a very hard time getting
pregnant.
And this is why a lot of motherscome to me about this infertility or
problems because they understandthat they can lean into me.
And it was hard. It washard on my marriage.
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It was hard on me.
It just something that I learned to,
I guess I really focused on greatsuccess like you. And I was like, oh,
I'm just going to focus all this energyinto being great and grinding and being
successful.And all of a sudden we became pregnant.
And then on Daniel's second birthday,he's asking for a baby sister.
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And then I get pregnant again. Again.
And when I sit back and Ilook at this movie of my
life, I think,
isn't it amazing how God's timing works?
How my mom,
if she would've listened tothe professionals around her,
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I wouldn't be here now. Number two,
if I would've fallen intothe negativity totally
about not having thesebabies while I had them.
And I can't tell you that itwas more perfect because of
destiny. My second baby,I was sick after Daniel,
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and I didn't know what thisthing was hiding inside of me.
And we didn't find it until after Destiny.
So these Babies Timing actually saved my
life because this couldhave been happening.
The doctor said it could have taken10 years to get to this point.
And a lot of us, I mean,
the goal is when you havethe C word or anything else,
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you want to outlive any kind of disease.
So when you've had a long, long,long, long, long, long, long life,
you have some things in your body andhopefully you don't have to deal with it
and it doesn't make you ill.
But we figured out very quickly aftershe was born that this thing was
happening and they savedmy life. How beautiful.
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God's timing is perfect.
Yeah, it's perfect.
Just to think back of all thetears and the broken hearts,
if I would've just said,
let it be his timingand just trust in him.
And I think that's what we got to do.
We got to have that patienceand that faith that what we are
asking for is going to come about,but we also got to prepare ourselves.
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I think that's a lot of thething. That's the one thing.
And I think the whole reason for thispodcast is that everybody who's on here
needs to look at themselves and go,
are you prepared for what you'reasking for? And if you're not,
what do you need to do in your ownlife to prepare yourself so that you're
ready for these blessings to come to you?Because if you're not ready for them,
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I mean,
I think there's a certain amount of freewill there or something's going on that
allows us to mess that up.
And we may mess it up and maynot get another chance at it,
or maybe we'll get another chanceat it. But we have to be prepared.
And the best thing to do is just beprepared while we're asking for it.
Before we get it right. Andbuilding your trust in God,
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Palm 37 7 encourages us
to be still before the Lord andwait patiently for him waiting
builds that trust in God.
When you rely on him completely,
that's when we're ready to receivethe blessings. And while we're still,
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that's when the work isdone. The lessons are coming,
all the things that you need, so you arecompletely ready when it comes along.
So guys,
if you guys are not ready for theblessings that you're asking for you guys,
get prepared, prepare yourselves.
Start looking inward instead of alwaysoutward for those blessings to come to
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you. Prepare yourself first.
And we believe that thoseblessings would come your.
Way. Yeah, sometimes it comes inthe blink of an eye. It really does.
But other times it may take many years.
And that's okay because it is buildingyour character, your resilience,
and all the lessonsthat you need to learn.
And even sometimes when you've gonethrough the most tragic or hard
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obstacles in your life and you'retrying to make sense of it all,
Daniel was crying the other nightbecause he never got to meet my brother.
And he's just such a beautiful soul.
And he was crying because he wantedhim to play Legos with him like he
played with me.
I always talk about myfamily that has passed,
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and I said,
sometimes we just willnever truly understand.
But I do know that he doesn't wantyou to be sad and he wants you to
have his legacy go on becausehe was an amazing young man,
much like yourself, and.
That's why you were givinga little sister Daniel,
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And we really wanted to talktoday about are you truly ready
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there's things that we want in our life.
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and we want the best for our kids.
And there's things that we'reasking for in our life that we want
and we're not getting it yet.
And so sometimes we have tolook back at ourselves and go,
are we truly ready for thatblessing if it came to us today?
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Because I know there's times in mylife that if I would've received
certain things that I wouldn'thave been ready for it.
I think that's everyone's life.
So this is something where youneed to just take a step back and
look back on your life.
Were you ready for the blessingthat you were praying for when
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invest in that need? I know thatmany times when we want something,
we want it yesterday, we want it asap.
And then comes that feelingwhere it just starts to
weigh on you. It's not happening.Why isn't it happening?
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Are you truly ready for what you want,
for what you're praying for right now?
I get a lot of moms come to meand we have this thing in common
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where it is not an easy pregnancy,
and we're all praying for that. Now,
the other thing that peoplecome to us for is business
advice. Their business isn't booming.It's not rocking. It's not blowing up yet.
And that can be very frustratingtoo. But you need to,
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are you a hundred percent ready to have
that business blow up at that time,
or should you be preppingand preparing for the
things that need to bedone when that business is
ready to blow up?
Yeah. Are you studying? Doyou have the systems in place?
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What have you received? The truthis, if you had a thousand orders,
we experienced this afterthe Ultimate Fighter one,
when we had thousands and thousands oforders come through and we were not ready
for it. We had no inventorysystem on the backend.
Anybody who's ever workedat Shopify knows that
if you have a certain shirt and youhave a hundred medium, a hundred large,
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a hundred xl and you run out,
it should stop them from being ableto sell that size anymore. Well,
we didn't have that in place at the time.
And so when thousands and thousandsand thousands of orders started coming
through many years ago,all of a sudden, yeah,
because the show wasn't Shopify obviously,
but thousands of orders are comingthrough and it's not stopping the orders.
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We're accepting every single order thatcomes through. So at some point we had
these thousands of orders leaned upagainst the walls around the warehouse
with the one product that they had andthe rest of the products that they didn't
have.
We realized at that moment that we neededto put an inventory system in place.
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That's what happens. How many of youdon't have what you need in place,
whether that be what you need in yourheart or what you need in your mind,
the understanding,
the ability to deal with thepressure of whatever you might
be asking for. Are you ready forit? Are you truly ready for it?
So there's the preparation season,
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and I think that's what we're hitting on.
That's just one of the points.
Just like seeds need time to grow.You need the time to prepare,
and God is molding you.God is shaping you.
You're getting better atdealing with your customers.
You're getting better atunderstanding your business.
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So don't feel like you're gettingburied because it can feel like that.
But just understand that the seedsare being planted and you're going to
be so ready for when this thingblooms in your life finally.
Happens for you. Ecclesiastes three,
one says to everything there is a
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season a time for everypurpose. And I wouldn't,
in my younger self, I'm not sure Iwould've understood this as well,
but when you realize that when Ilost my job as a police officer,
I thought that my life was over.
But I think I realized at thatmoment that God was closing
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that door for me.
And maybe because I originallywanted to start my own business,
and now I had done whateverI was meant to do as a police
officer, it was done.
I did that and now it was time to moveon and I was in the next season of
my life.
And I think that that verse alwayshits home with me because I think
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about the seasons of your life,how there's certain parts. In fact,
we were having a discussiona few days ago about
how these seasons of yourlife, I think I believed,
I think what was our disagreement aboutthat? I mean, it wasn't a disagreement,
it was just that I believedwhere you were at that time,
(09:39):
you were supposed to be thereand you're supposed to be doing.
That right?
But I also said how ifyou are on the wrong path,
God is very quickly going to reel youin with that fishing line and pull
you in a different directionif it's something that
feels so right.
And Proverbs 1921 tells us there are the
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plans in a person's heart,
but it is the Lord'spurpose that prevails.
So sometimes God is aligning yourpath with his divine purpose,
and that is, it's in the goodbook. And sometimes we feel, yes,
I'm supposed to be an actress or a model,
or I'm supposed to startthis big T-shirt brand,
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or I'm supposed to start whateverit is that you're so caught up
in the concrete company. Ithought that was my purpose too.
I'm a woman in a man's world.Everybody's so proud of me.
Television companies are coming to me.
They want to do a reality show.This must be, this must be my purpose,
(10:45):
but
how am I truly changingthe world? It wasn't.
I believe now when I look backon all these things that I felt
were things that I was born to do,
I think God reeled mein and just put me on
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track and was trying to showme what I was truly meant for.
And I know building a business sometimes
is, especially whenyou're at the top and you,
you're making millions of dollars andyou're taking care of everyone going on
all these trips,
and it feels like the rightthing because it's easy,
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but it may not necessarily be your.
Purpose. Yeah. But don'tyou think that, I mean,
and we've talked about this before,don't you think that I believe,
and this is just me kind of lookingback on my life and even looking at your
life,
we talked about this specifically that I
believe that you were in.Did I say that three times?
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I believe. I'll say it onemore time, just for good about.
You meant to be there and I'll talk. Well.
No, because you learn things whileyou were building your business.
You had to go through those things. Youhad to understand how to run a business.
You were meant to do that. So youcould be sitting here right now,
but telling people how to do.
That. But in my life,
I feel that that was not my purpose.
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But I do believe that God gave methe lessons as a blessing because.
Yeah, mean it's yourpurpose at that moment.
Though can bad. I don'tknow if it, honestly,
when I back, I think that.
Was, did I just say Ibelieve five times in a row
when you were taking your acting classesand you were going through this acting
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part of your life, that iswhat brought you, I mean,
you've coached me on doing some of this,
the speaking on the podcast.
But God pulled back the curtainand let me see the dark side of it,
the addictions.
Well, yeah. I mean the big part,that's why you didn't go too far in it.
Right? But he gave me the discernment,thank God, because I was close to him.
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Of course,
I wasn't as close to him in prayerand relationship as I am today.
But something big had to, I don'tknow, had to happen in my life.
I don't want to say that I don'tknow, because I'm very, very clear.
I haven't missed a day of prayer, morningor night or including my kids, ever,
ever, ever, ever since the bombshell.
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But I did have the discernment,
thank God to not followthe people that were on a
wrong path of addictionor just getting so lost in
just, there was a lot of vanity.
People were changing theirbodies, cosmetic surgery,
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breast augmentation, which nowwe know people are getting so,
so sick from these things thatthey're doing to their body.
But God sent me, evenmy agent, he said, no,
you don't want to do the augmentation.You are perfect the way you are.
And I believe that yes,
God was talking through him becauseeverybody else around me was
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changing themselves,
and I was trying to find differentways to make myself look good,
but not go under theknife and risk my life.
And now I see that peoplethat did those things
are getting really.
Sick. So don't you think, I mean,
thinking about why you had started yourfirst company, why you were enacting,
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I see all those pieces in you,bringing you to this moment right here,
right now.
You sitting in this chair on thispodcast touching people's lives.
You would not have that voiceto be able to speak to those
things if you hadn't gone through that.
So I believe God put you in thatpurpose at that moment and then said,
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okay, that season is over and now it'stime to move to How do you not see that?
I don't feel like.
That. I do see that. I mean,I see it in myself, my own.
I feel the lesson.
Was a police officer at the time.I needed to be a police officer,
and then it was time to moveon. And then Tapout was.
But even with, I havepolice officer friends,
and there's a very dark side to that too.
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There's a lot of cheating.There's a dark side.
There's purpose that's not acrossthe board's a good and a bad side to
everything, but I don't.
Maybe those guys aresupposed to be there. I mean,
how do you know there's not guys?
I think this is a very complicatedthing that's way above our
pay scale. But God puts,
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I feel like this whole world,
as much as it seems like it'schaos and it's out of control,
that it's all or a lot ofit ways is running in a.
Certain way, a lot of itis planned for your story.
I do believe that many things inmy life were planned for my story,
and I like to look ateverything as a gift.
But if I look back and Iwas still in that thing,
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would I be a hundred percent happy?
I feel like we are free to makethe right or the wrong decision.
We have that discernment to do that.
We can go into somethingthat is pleasing our
flesh. But I feel like when youreally step back and you look at it,
if I look at it today,whereas before I was like,
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I want to do what makes my heart happy.I want to do what I'm passionate about.
Do what makes you happy. Dowhat makes your heart be,
that's kind of my languageat that time. But now,
how am I honoring God every day?Is this honoring God, really?
Am I changing people's livesin a way where they're,
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I guess doing their inventory of theirlife and saying, am I on the right path?
I think we are looking atthings in the same way.
But where I am today now,
I could honestly say Iwas doing things because
I had that as a cop. There'sa rush. You feel like a hero.
You feel like you're invincible,but you are. Are you honoring You?
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But you're saving people'slives? Nobody's invincible.
I think, well, of course not. Butthose guardians, those guys in blue,
the ones that run into the fire wheneverybody's running out or for firemen,
but running into the gunfire wheneverybody else is running out,
maybe they're there to keepyou alive so that you can live
on, to do your purpose, to live on,
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to be at the right place thatyou're supposed to be in,
because you might not have survivedcertain situations if those guys weren't
there. Or for other people that, notnecessarily us, but I mean, I know I wish.
They came in time when my mom got robbed.
I really wish they didn't takea half an hour. But anyway.
But I mean,
there's guys out there that have savedpeople's lives over and over and over and
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over again. Thousands and thousands ofthese situations every year. Yeah. Oh,
absolutely. So you have togive credit where credit's due.
And I think that a lot of those thingsare all playing out. And in the same way,
were.
You in a hundred percent good placewhen you were in that line of work?
Were you a hundredpercent in a good place?
Well, could you.
Look back and say, I'm not talkingabout someone else's purpose.
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Someone else could lookback and say, listen,
I really am saving lives every day.
I feel closer to God thanI've ever felt in my life.
And when I have that talk withGod, this is where I'm meant to be.
I am meant to be a firefighter,or I'm meant to be a marine,
or whatever it is. I am doingthis for the greater good.
I'm not just doing this because it makesme feel good and my flesh feel good.
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I think that's the only difference thatI'm trying to point out is were you
in a good place? Wasit making you do truly.
Just like you weren't in the best ofplace was when you were building your
company or when you were acting,
but I still feel like you were in theright place that you were supposed to be
in. You were learning the thingsthat you were supposed to learn.
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And I don't know how I affected lives.
I told you about the babythat I found this triple roll.
There's kids listeningand well, yeah, the baby,
the triple rollover and the baby'scar seat gets thrown from the
car and the baby's found.
I find the baby still in the carseat without a scratch on them.
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And who knows what that baby, thatbaby might've turned out to change,
be saving lives inAfrica. Who knows. Knows.
What a hundred percent.I totally believe that,
but I believe that. But do you feel,
I feel like a part of me, andI'm just going to be honest here,
because things in your life thatyou're exposed to changes people.
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I feel like you lost a bit ofinnocence because you saw a lot of dark
things.
And when you see the truth isyou can watch something and
you're not bothered by it. ButI don't even want to see that.
I don't want to seesomeone lose their life.
I don't want to see that stuffbecause it's not meant to
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it. I don't want to expose, this.
Is way off subject, expose.
Myself. But don't you understand, feel,
when I am in pain or someonearound you is in pain,
I feel like you have less of a,just because you've seen bloody,
gory, scary things.
Like when the kids get hurt andI'm like, you're fine. Let's go.
Yeah. Or something.
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And it's almost don't necessarily.
Do, that's part partly hauntingand scary. I'm like, yeah,
I'm really not feeling well.
And I feel there was whenI was really, really sick,
and I would just ignoreit to the point where
I was dealing with something sobad. Or even after the C-section,
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you're like, it's just whatever.She's got these wounds all over.
She's fine. She's fine.
I don't think I ever talked to you likethat. But the one thing that, I mean,
I think men overall lose their
innocence and they'remeant to because yes,
because they are meant to be thepeople that do that so that they can
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protect the other people in theirlives. They have an understanding.
It's like when we walk into a room whileyou're admiring the cute flowers on the
wall and.
Oh no, I notice every, I'm a different.
Scene. I'm looking for exits. And no.
I am like that.
Too. How I'm going to killeverybody in the room.
If I have. No, I wouldn't thinkabout that. But I'm very hyper,
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I think once I've been inan armed robbery and I've
been in a robbery in anotherarmed, how does this happen?
I've been in a shoot up ina restaurant, armed robbery.
So I think the trauma from that,
plus my mom getting robbed atgunpoint, the trauma from that,
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whenever I go into a store,I'm always looking around me.
I understand what you're talking about.
Most. But in the same way,
remember when we were driving down thefreeway and that motorcycle drove by us
and I said, that guy is going todie. Okay? And five minutes later,
he had crashed and was all overthe pavement. And I jumped out to,
there's kids listening. I know, butI'm not saying anything, Gloria.
(22:27):
I'm just saying I jumpedout to save his life.
And who was the first person out of thecar to go save this guy's life? I mean,
those are the things that men.
Get prepared for. Therewas a lot of people,
there was like five people out there. Yes.
I was the first person out of the car.Nobody was out before I was, there.
Was five guys on.
The side of the road. No, butnobody got to him before me, I.
Think because they were.
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Was the first people werestanding around doing nothing.
And I'm down to that guy, talking to him,
telling him he's going to be okay, givinghim some hope. And I, till this day,
Don.
Hope he's okay,
which I think is important because I thinkit's hard because a lot of people are
scared because of the lawsuits.You touched him, and this happened,
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and that happened.
Most of the time they say don't touchsomeone when they're in a bad s.
Situation. And that's exactly whatI was telling him, not to move,
telling the other people not to touch him.
Somebody wanted to take his helmetoff. I was like, don't touch him. No,
you can't. And those arethe things that, because.
You could, without knowing, domore harm than good, I think is.
What he's trying for. Sure.
Those are the places thatI believe is not a mistake.
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It's not a mistake that we're in thatplace, that we've learned these skills,
that we are able to do these things,
and I still don't know where it'sgoing to save us down the road.
I know you get mad sometimes watchingpolice videos or something and just
trying to understand. Because if youdon't know that, that can happen.
If you don't know a situation,if you don't know how that.
Can play out.
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You're not ready for.
It. I just don't wantyou to get lost in it.
Some people get a rush fromseeing things that they shouldn't
really be watching, and Idon't think you get that,
but I know there's a lot of people thatget rushes from seeing things that are
not meant to be.
Seen. Now we're way off subject, but whatabout, so let's just go back to this.
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What about the people?
Because it doesn't always playout the way it's supposed to.
Maybe there's a lessonto be learned. I mean,
think about the lottery winnerswho are probably, oh man,
if I could just win this. They're buyinga lottery ticket for a reason, right?
And then all of a sudden they need.
That.
You just won $30 million.And they're like, yeah,
I won $30 million andthey got what they wanted,
(24:34):
and then they go and lose $30million over the next few years.
I think because they're spending it ontheir fleshly wants rather than what they
were called.
To do and they weren't readyfor it. I mean, the truth is,
if they would've been workingon themselves and reading and
understanding finance and understandinghow to invest their money,
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imagine a guy who isstarting to buy stocks.
Let's just say he's buying some stocksand he's figuring out how to invest his
money and he's putting hismoney in the right places,
and then all of a sudden thatguy wins $30 million. Wow,
that guy's been working on himself for10 years now. He's won $30 million,
and I promise you that $30million go to good news.
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Compound. He knows how to make more of it,
and then also put part of it into great
causes and help a lot of people out.
I feel like the one thingthat I always pray for is
when we are blessed,
how can we help otherpeople with our blessings?
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How can I be a blessing to others?
And I feel when you start tochange your words and you start to
put it out there that you are notjust asking for this blessing for
yourself, but once you become a blessing,
once you have the platform, howdo you become a blessing to other.
People? Yes.
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I think sometimes even thingscould happen to you so that
it helps you grow up faster.
Imagine the person who's not readyfor a child but gets a child.
We had a recent post onour Instagram page on our
pretty punk Instagram page that went to,
it's like at 7 million now because
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this couple had just had achild. And six months later,
she finds out she's pregnant again.
And the guy kind of sighabout it a little bit,
and people are sitting on both sidesof the fence about his reaction.
But I think overall is was thatgiven to them for a reason?
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We put at the top, not always our timing.
And a lot of people pushed back on thatsaying, God had nothing to do with this.
And I argue with that.
I say that maybe they were giventhis challenge for a reason.
Maybe it was supposed to play out in theirlife for a reason. Maybe they needed,
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maybe they're meant to do something intheir older life and they wanted to have
these two kids close together,and so they became great friends.
Maybe children are supposed tosupport themselves later in life.
I don't know what it is,
but I think there's a reason there'sthere for everything that's happening
right now.
A hundred percent.
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It's funny because I see ourfamily in that where my mom,
I mean, some people cansay it's a mistake, but my mom said it was a surprise.
She was not expecting me, andshe always wanted a daughter.
And because it was in atime where she had really,
really high risk pregnanciesand she had really
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hard pregnancies,
the doctors actually toldher that she needed to
not have this baby. And she was justvery outspoken. She said, no way.
No way. I'm having this baby.It's going to be a girl,
and God needs me to have this baby.
So maybe it puts stress on themarriage. I don't really, yeah.
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There was a big age gapbetween you and your brother.
Yeah. But she just, you were.
Surprised.
Yeah, I was a surprised. And shewas just so adamant about it.
And when she became friends withthe doctor and he came running
in when it was the ultrasound, he said,
how did you know were going to have adaughter? And this was later, of course,
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but she said, God told me. I knewit was going to be a little girl.
And here I am,
and here I am in my life whereI had a very hard time getting
pregnant.
And this is why a lot of motherscome to me about this infertility or
problems because they understandthat they can lean into me.
And it was hard. It washard on my marriage.
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It was hard on me.
It just something that I learned to,
I guess I really focused on greatsuccess like you. And I was like, oh,
I'm just going to focus all this energyinto being great and grinding and being
successful.And all of a sudden we became pregnant.
And then on Daniel's second birthday,he's asking for a baby sister.
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And then I get pregnant again. Again.
And when I sit back and Ilook at this movie of my
life, I think,
isn't it amazing how God's timing works?
How my mom,
if she would've listened tothe professionals around her,
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I wouldn't be here now. Number two,
if I would've fallen intothe negativity totally
about not having thesebabies while I had them.
And I can't tell you that itwas more perfect because of
destiny. My second baby,I was sick after Daniel,
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and I didn't know what thisthing was hiding inside of me.
And we didn't find it until after Destiny.
So these Babies Timing actually saved my
life because this couldhave been happening.
The doctor said it could have taken10 years to get to this point.
And a lot of us, I mean,
the goal is when you havethe C word or anything else,
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you want to outlive any kind of disease.
So when you've had a long, long,long, long, long, long, long life,
you have some things in your body andhopefully you don't have to deal with it
and it doesn't make you ill.
But we figured out very quickly aftershe was born that this thing was
happening and they savedmy life. How beautiful.
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God's timing is perfect.
Yeah, it's perfect.
Just to think back of all thetears and the broken hearts,
if I would've just said,
let it be his timingand just trust in him.
And I think that's what we got to do.
We got to have that patienceand that faith that what we are
asking for is going to come about,but we also got to prepare ourselves.
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I think that's a lot of thething. That's the one thing.
And I think the whole reason for thispodcast is that everybody who's on here
needs to look at themselves and go,
are you prepared for what you'reasking for? And if you're not,
what do you need to do in your ownlife to prepare yourself so that you're
ready for these blessings to come to you?Because if you're not ready for them,
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I mean,
I think there's a certain amount of freewill there or something's going on that
allows us to mess that up.
And we may mess it up and maynot get another chance at it,
or maybe we'll get another chanceat it. But we have to be prepared.
And the best thing to do is just beprepared while we're asking for it.
Before we get it right. Andbuilding your trust in God,
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Palm 37 7 encourages us
to be still before the Lord andwait patiently for him waiting
builds that trust in God.
When you rely on him completely,
that's when we're ready to receivethe blessings. And while we're still,
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that's when the work isdone. The lessons are coming,
all the things that you need, so you arecompletely ready when it comes along.
So guys,
if you guys are not ready for theblessings that you're asking for you guys,
get prepared, prepare yourselves.
Start looking inward instead of alwaysoutward for those blessings to come to
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you. Prepare yourself first.
And we believe that thoseblessings would come your.
Way. Yeah, sometimes it comes inthe blink of an eye. It really does.
But other times it may take many years.
And that's okay because it is buildingyour character, your resilience,
and all the lessonsthat you need to learn.
And even sometimes when you've gonethrough the most tragic or hard
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obstacles in your life and you'retrying to make sense of it all,
Daniel was crying the other nightbecause he never got to meet my brother.
And he's just such a beautiful soul.
And he was crying because he wantedhim to play Legos with him like he
played with me.
I always talk about myfamily that has passed,
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and I said,
sometimes we just willnever truly understand.
But I do know that he doesn't wantyou to be sad and he wants you to
have his legacy go on becausehe was an amazing young man,
much like yourself, and.
That's why you were givinga little sister Daniel,
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somebody to play withsomebody close to you.
And we were just having that conversationright before we started this podcast.
Yes.
And so guys,
thank you so much for joining us forthis episode of The Pretty Punk Podcast.
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I hope this was a blessing for you.
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