218. Couple’s Retreat Recap – Why Your Marriage Deserves a Getaway

Hey Family Brand! It’s Chris and Melissa here, and we’re finally sitting down to share the recap of our recent Couple’s Retreat in Hawaii. And wow—what an experience! Whether or not you were able to attend, this episode is for anyone who wants to grow in their marriage, reconnect with their spouse, and create intentional rhythms that bring joy and strength to your relationship. We’re pulling back the curtain on what we learned, what surprised us, and why this trip was such a full-circle moment for us personally.

It had been over 14 years since the two of us visited Hawaii—just the two of us—with no kids, no distractions, and no big agenda other than connection. The last time we were there, our marriage was in a rough place. We weren’t even sure we’d make it. So to come back to the same place, not only thriving in our relationship but hosting a retreat for 20 amazing couples? It was surreal. A reminder that your marriage is worth fighting for and healing is possible—even if it feels far off right now.

The retreat was filled with intentional conversations, practical tools, and a chance for couples to hit pause and truly reflect on where they are and where they want to go. From the kickoff dinner to the group workshops, one big theme kept showing up: You don’t need to wait for the “perfect” moment to prioritize your marriage. One couple told us they hadn’t been away together in over 10 years. Another said they hadn’t gone to the gym together since before they had kids. The retreat was their reset—but yours can start today, even with just a date night or a shared walk.

We also talked about what happens when couples drift. It’s often not intentional—just a slow, subtle pulling apart that adds up over time. That’s why building in non-negotiables, like a weekly date night or check-in, is so powerful. These little systems act as a “forcing function” to help you reconnect even during the busy seasons. One of our favorites? Just putting it on the calendar. Whether it’s lunch dates or evening walks, we’ve found ways to prioritize our connection, even when life feels full.

And if you’re thinking a couple’s getaway sounds amazing but totally out of reach, Melissa has something for you. We created a 30+ page Couple’s Getaway Guide that walks you through everything—from budgeting and planning to conversation prompts and goal-setting exercises. You’ll even get a recorded training to help you bring the retreat experience to your own trip, no matter where you go or how long you stay. You can grab it for just $11 at familybrand.com/webinar.

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Episode Minute By Minute:

• 0:00 – Welcome to the Couple’s Retreat Recap
• 2:30 – A full-circle moment: Returning to Hawaii 14 years later
• 4:00 – What helped our marriage go from struggling to thriving
• 5:15 – Stories from couples who hadn’t gotten away in years
• 7:00 – Why you shouldn’t wait to prioritize your marriage
• 8:15 – The danger of drifting and how to avoid it
• 10:00 – What non-negotiable rituals keep us connected
• 11:30 – The surprising power of a simple couple’s getaway
• 12:30 – What’s inside our Couple’s Getaway Guide
• 14:00 – Research behind strong families and marriage prioritization
• 15:30 – Final thoughts: Don’t wait—do something today to grow closer

Let us know if you grab the guide and plan a little getaway of your own—we’d love to hear how it goes!