Good Girl Deprogramming – Unleash the Rebel Within with Michelle Minnikin

Stacia, your host, is joined by Michelle Minnikin, a chartered psychologist, coach, author, and co-founder of multiple businesses, along with her partner James Eves. With 20+ years in leadership, organisational development, coaching, and personal development, Michelle is passionate about transformative change.

She specialises in positive psychology, guiding individuals towards clarity, purpose, and fulfilment with warmth and playfulness. Based in Newcastle upon Tyne, she enjoys family life with James, her son Oliver, and their four pets.

In today’s episode, Michelle shares her journey towards her Good Girl Deprogramming, which started with her ADHD diagnosis in December 2020. This revelation brought understanding to her life. In seeking further clarity, she deeply explored conditioning and how societal norms had shaped her and ours.  

Now, let's dive into the essentials of wealth building and why knowing your financial situation is the key to your voice and power.

 

Here are the Highlights:

00:49  Introducing guest Michelle Minnican, a psychologist, coach, and author of "Good Girl De-Programming."

03:12  Michelle talks about her upbringing, school competitiveness, and high expectations pressure.

05:11  Michelle discusses her struggles at work, her decision to start her own company in 2016, and her journey towards autonomy and freedom.

06:17  Michelle's encounter with Anna Price and the realisation of ADHD in women. The impact of societal norms on women and the concept of "fawning" as a response to trauma.

08:31  Discussion on the concept of "fawning" and its relevance in understanding women's behaviour in abusive situations. Michelle's journey of self-discovery and therapy.

09:42  Michelle explored "good girl conditioning" and its roots in coercive control tactics identified by Albert Biderman during the Korean War.

13:10  The impact of coercive control in various aspects of life, including relationships, work, and societal expectations.

18:39  Michelle explains the tactics of coercive control, including establishing trust, social isolation, and creating dependence.

19:29  The impact of societal expectations on women, including the pressure to be perfect and the guilt associated with not meeting these expectations.

27:57  The impact of exhaustion and sleep deprivation on women, both in personal and professional life. The unrealistic expectations placed on women, including the pressure to be skinny, young, and beautiful.

40:05 The concept of "strategic half-assing" and the importance of prioritising self-care and joy. Michelle talks about the importance of having a supportive network of women and the impact of societal norms on men.

46:34  The importance of awareness and questioning societal norms. Michelle's workshops and the impact of her work on women in organisations.

50:17 Michelle's approach to helping women deprogram from societal expectations and the importance of small, consistent steps. The importance of self-awareness and the impact of language on women's communication.

.css-j9qmi7{display:-webkit-box;display:-webkit-flex;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-webkit-flex-direction:row;-ms-flex-direction:row;flex-direction:row;font-weight:700;margin-bottom:1rem;margin-top:2.8rem;width:100%;-webkit-box-pack:start;-ms-flex-pack:start;-webkit-justify-content:start;justify-content:start;padding-left:5rem;}@media only screen and (max-width: 599px){.css-j9qmi7{padding-left:0;-webkit-box-pack:center;-ms-flex-pack:center;-webkit-justify-content:center;justify-content:center;}}.css-j9qmi7 svg{fill:#27292D;}.css-j9qmi7 .eagfbvw0{-webkit-align-items:center;-webkit-box-align:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;color:#27292D;}