Episode 21: Self-Sabotage: What’s Really Happening?

In this thought-provoking episode of Food Shrinks, we challenge the concept of self-sabotage and explore a radical reframe—what if it’s not sabotage at all, but an attempt at protection? Join us as we unpack the deeper, more compassionate understanding of behaviors that are often mislabeled as sabotage. Together, we discuss how our brains are wired for survival, not destruction, and how unmet needs, fear, and safety-seeking responses shape our actions.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ Why we don’t believe in self-sabotage—and what we think is actually happening
✔️ The difference between intentional harm (true sabotage) and subconscious protective mechanisms
✔️ How labeling behaviors as “sabotage” can create shame and keep us stuck
✔️ The role of childhood survival mechanisms and nervous system responses in our habits
✔️ Why language matters—how the words we use can either empower us or hold us back
✔️ The impact of chaos, stability, and safety on our decision-making and emotional responses

Key Takeaways & Highlights:
💡 "Your brain is wired for survival, not sabotage." The behaviors we often call sabotage are usually our brain’s way of keeping us safe from discomfort, fear, or overwhelm.
💡 Labeling creates limitations. When we call ourselves “self-saboteurs,” we’re reinforcing a belief that we are our own worst enemy rather than recognizing our need for new coping skills.
💡 Self-compassion is key. Understanding our behaviors through a lens of protection rather than destruction allows for healing and real change.
💡 It’s not sabotage—it’s an unmet need. Instead of asking, “Why am I sabotaging myself?” try asking, “What need is going unmet, and how can I address it in a healthier way?”
💡 Language shapes reality. The words we use—whether “sabotage,” “lazy,” “manipulative,” or others—carry energy and impact how we see ourselves.

Listener Reflection Questions:
🔹 Have you ever labeled your own behaviors as self-sabotage? How did that label impact you?
🔹 What if your “sabotage” was actually your brain trying to protect you? How might that change your perspective?
🔹 What language do you use to describe your struggles? Does it help or hinder your growth?

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We’d love to hear your thoughts! Do you believe in self-sabotage, or do you resonate with this reframe? Email us at [e-mail] and let us know!

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