Episode 29: “Chronic Relapser”? Don’t Talk About My Friend Like That

In this compelling episode, the Food Shrinks team tackles one of the most used—and deeply harmful—labels in recovery spaces: “chronic relapser.” With both fire and tenderness, the Shrinks dismantle this shame-based term and offer a new way to understand recurrence through the lens of chronic ambivalence, self-compassion, and trauma-informed care.

You’ll hear why language matters, how shame can block healing, and why we must stop reducing people to their most painful patterns. Instead, the team explores what it means to stay curious, build emotional safety, and make your recovery as big as your disease. Whether you’ve struggled with “starting over” or have judged yourself harshly for returning to food, this episode will offer relief, insight, and a powerful reframe.

 

🔑 Topics We Cover:

• Why “chronic relapser” is a harmful, moralizing label
• The power of reframing: from chronic relapse to chronic ambivalence
• Understanding recurrence as part of a chronic condition
• The trap of perfectionism and diet culture in recovery
• How confirmation bias reinforces addiction
• When you’ve “tried everything” but nothing sticks
• Recovery as practice—not performance
• Why your recovery must be as big as your disorder
• Meeting recurrence with curiosity, not shame

 

💬 Quotes Worth Sharing:

“Please don’t say that about my friend.”
“Chronic ambivalence is a sign of your complexity—not your failure.”
“Your addiction doesn’t get a seat at the table if you want to build traction in recovery.”
“One bad moment doesn’t define your recovery. It’s just a single patch in the quilt.”
“You haven’t failed. You’re still practicing. You’re still learning.”

 

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