In this candid Food Shrinks conversation, Molly Carmel, Clarissa Kennedy, and Molly Painschab explore why being in community—whether recovery groups, professional networks, or even family—can sometimes feel activating instead of supportive. From comparing recoveries to feeling others’ pain too deeply, the shrinks share personal stories and professional insights on how envy, shame, and frustration show up in groups.
They talk about:
• Why community can trigger old wounds and trauma responses
• How to hold onto your energy without shutting down
• Seeing comparison and envy as growth opportunities
• The importance of role modeling and contributing instead of withdrawing
• Building tolerance for discomfort as part of recovery
With humor, honesty, and a lot of real talk, this episode reminds us that community is often where the hardest work—and the deepest healing—happens.
Key Takeaways
• Keep the focus on yourself. Triggers often point to what still needs healing within.
• Envy can guide growth. It shows us what we want and where we’re being called to expand.
• Your energy matters. What you bring to community is just as important as what you take from it.
• Discomfort is not danger. Learning to stay present with uncomfortable feelings is part of recovery.
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The content of our show is educational only. It does not supplement or supersede your healthcare provider's professional relationship and direction. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified mental health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, substance use disorder, or mental health concern.
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