#154 How to Engineer Your Memoir with Wendy Dale

Estelle Erasmus talks with author and memoir coach Wendy Dale, creator of The Memoir Engineering System. Wendy shares her practical, seven-step approach to structuring memoirs so writers can skip trial-and-error and finish their books with confidence.

Wendy Dale is the founder of Memoir Writing for Geniuses and has spent 15 years developing a method that helps writers build their memoirs from the ground up without structural errors. She coaches both newbies and professionals, drawing on her own experience as the author of the  memoir Avoiding Prison and Other Noble Vacation Goals (Three Rivers Press/Penguin Random House), and The Memoir Engineering System.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why memoir structure matters more than prose alone [3:06]

• The difference between remembering your life vs. creating plot [8:17]

• How to craft scenes that pull readers in (and avoid generic writing) [11:13]

• The surprising truth about universality in memoir [15:50]

• The role of transitions in connecting life stories [18:31]

• Why subjective writing is the key to emotional resonance [24:34]

• How to manage (and not get lost in) piles of existing material [26:50]

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Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/68mj_phSlwM

 

Connect with Wendy Dale

Website: https://www.geniusmemoirwriting.com

Reality Show Website: https://www.writeorflightshow.com/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/writerwendydale

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/memoirwritingforgeniuses 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@memoirwritingforgeniuses

 

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