The Right Way to Handle Tough Conversations Without Losing Your Team

Most leaders avoid tough conversations out of fear—of seeming harsh, being misunderstood, or facing backlash. But the conversations we dodge are often the key to growth, accountability, and psychological safety. In this episode, Paul Falcone, bestselling author & former CHRO of Nickelodeon Animation, breaks down how leaders can approach tough conversations with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Paul introduces powerful frameworks like the “Performance vs. Conduct” model and the “iron hand with a velvet glove” approach to help leaders hold people accountable without alienating them. He explains why career development and respect in the workplace go hand in hand—and how to deliver feedback that actually builds trust instead of breaking it. We also discuss the delicate balance between psychological safety and high standards, the risks of having too much sensitivity in today’s workplace, and how values-based leadership is quickly becoming a CEO-level priority. Paul shares real-world strategies like quarterly development check-ins, “safe word” communication systems, and team-led accountability sessions to help leaders build stronger relationships while reinforcing high performance and conduct.

 

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