May 12, 2025 • 27 mins
Welcome back to the Good Girls Get Rich podcast. I’m your host, Karen Yankovich. This week’s episode of Good Girls Get Rich is a little different. It’s softer. It’s deeper. And honestly? It might be exactly what your nervous system is craving.
Because here’s the thing: we are all holding a lot right now. And if you're a high-achieving woman with a big mission, you probably feel like you're carrying the weight of the world in heels, with a smile, while posting about it all on LinkedIn. Sound familiar?
This episode is a permission slip to stop the madness.
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We want to hear your thoughts on this episode! Leave us a message on Speakpipe or email us at info@karenyankovich.com.
About The Episode:
Here's what we're diving into today:
- Why grace and ease aren't just self-care trends—they're magnetic strategies for building real, sustainable wealth and thought leadership
- The myth of “doing it all” (and how letting that go creates space for you to receive more of what truly matters)
- The emotional toll of keeping up in a noisy, chaotic world—and the boundaries you must set to protect your peace and your power
- A step-by-step breakdown of the six practices I use to build ease into my life and business (without sacrificing impact)
- The game-changing realization that rest, softness, and slow mornings are not weaknesses—they are superpowers in the Empowerment Era
This isn’t about checking out of your ambition. This is about checking back in with your alignment.
When you honor your rhythms... when you protect your energy... when you say “no” without guilt and schedule buffer time like it’s your job? That’s when the real magic starts to happen. That’s when LinkedIn messages turn into high-ticket contracts, when podcast interviews magnetize new clients, and when your calendar starts to feel like a reflection of your soul—not your to-do list.
I’m also gifting you something really special at the end of this episode—a short guided reflection you can come back to anytime you need a reset. Whether you're listening at your desk or walking around the block, this is your moment to breathe, ground, and remember who you really are.
Let’s talk real talk:
You don't have to earn your worth through exhaustion. You don’t have to hustle to be credible. And you certainly don’t have to run yourself ragged to build a business that leaves a legacy.
Grace is not weakness. Grace is strategy. Ease is not indulgence. Ease is alignment.
The most successful, magnetic, and wealthy women I know? They’re not running on fumes. They’re running on clarity.
So if you’ve been feeling stretched, overwhelmed, or just plain tired… I recorded this one for you.
Let’s take your foot off the gas (just for a minute) and reconnect with the version of you who leads with calm confidence—because she’s already in there.
Let’s go deeper:
- Ready to build a business rooted in peace and profit? Take my LinkedIn quiz and get a custom visualization based on your unique energy type.
- Want to chat about how grace + visibility + magnetic strategy = high-ticket consulting contracts? Let’s connect on LinkedIn and DM me the word “GRACE
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Music.
Karen Yankovich (00:10):
Hello and welcome back to another episode
of The Good girls get richpodcast, the show that's all
about helping you step into morewealth, more influence, more
impact, without sacrificing yourpeace, your health or your joy.
I'm your host, Karen Yankovic,and today we're talking about
something that's really been onmy heart lately. Because, let's
be honest, the world is feelinga little bit heavy right now. We
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are all carrying so much, and ifyou're anything like me, or like
so many of the brilliant, drivenwomen that I get to work with,
you're probably holding yourselfto some sky high standards right
now, right? Trying to do it alland do it all perfectly and do
it all authentically while,while kind of walking your talk,
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right? So what I'm trying, whatI'm doing in my world and in my
business, and what I want toshare with you today is the the
theory that success does nothave to come through struggle,
right? You don't need to runyourself into the ground to
build the life that you want. Infact, the real magic you know,
the success that feels good itcomes when you give yourself
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permission to slow down, tobreathe and to lead with grace
and with ease. So today we'regoing to talk about why giving
yourself grace is not just selfcare. It's a strategy for
sustainable success. We're goingto dive into how you can protect
your energy, how you can andshould nurture yourself, and how
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you can still do that and stillbe showing up as a powerful,
successful, wealthy women makingan impact in the world, even
when the news is exhausting andthe pressure feels relentless,
and frankly, you know, businessfeels crazy like some of some
I'm getting more and more phonecalls that are like, Karen, I
don't even know how to moveforward in my business right
now, right? But stick around,because at the end of this
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episode, I'm going to gift yousomething that's a little bit of
a little bit of a shortreflection a moment just for
you, something I've never doneon this episode on this podcast
before, because I want you toreconnect a little bit with that
calm, with that confident visionof yourself, right, that version
of yourself that's alreadywithin you. All right, so grab a
cup of coffee. Maybe find somequiet space, because this
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episode is for you, my friend,this episode is for you. So
where do we? Where do we want tostart with this? I want to start
by talking about the importanceof grace for yourself. So often
we are called to give grace toothers, or we choose to give
grace to others. We I enjoygiving grace to others, right?
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But I need to also remember thatI need to give grace to myself.
And this, you know, all theheaviness in the world right now
is important to me. It'simportant that I show up in a
way that that is in authenticitywith my values, right? With my
values. So this is a timelytopic for me, because it's baby
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steps for me. It's baby stepsfor me. You know, I'm I'm
committed that I want to put mymoney into small businesses. I
want to put my money and my myeffort and my energy into
businesses that have the samevalues that I have and support
the same visions for the worldand for humanity that I have and
not that's not always the easything, right? It's not always
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the easy thing. It's really easyto just like, pick up your
phone, right? And go into Amazonand quickly have something
delivered. And I mean, I live innorthern New Jersey, I can have
it delivered this afternoon,right? And I'm still doing that,
because I'm giving myself grace,but I am looking for
alternatives, right? I'm lookingfor ways that that I can still
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have it feel like ease and givemyself the grace of I'm stepping
slowly through this. Thepressure's High. High achieving
women are often pushingthemselves to the edge, and I
don't want success to feel likeburnout, certainly not for me
and certainly not for you. Sowe're going to talk today about
how to create ease in your lifeand in your business while you
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are still making an impact. Youknow, society tells women we
need to do it all and we need todo it all perfectly. And I've
talked about this before, right?Like there's, probably, there's
a video, if I can find it, I'lllink to it in the show notes.
You know, a commercial from amillion years ago. You know, I
can bring home the bacon and fryit up in a pan, right? Like it's
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exhausting to do it all, right?We don't have to do it all, and
we don't have to do it allperfectly, right?
We're often hardest onourselves, you know, we're often
hardest on ourselves. You know,maybe, if you're, if you've been
listening for a while, you know,maybe you know, I don't know,
maybe you know that I've had acrazy six months. I've moved
had, you know, some personalissues with my you know, my dad
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passed, and my mom needed a lotof support and selling her
house, and just a lot, right?And, and I'm running my
business, and. And, you know, Ican let, I can go on. There's
been a lot, there's just been alot, and I am hardest on myself,
right? Like I need to do allthese, I need to be all these
things to all these people. Andif I'm not doing it all, then I
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feel guilty, right? Then I feelguilty even when I'm doing
probably more than many peoplethat are in my life, right? So I
have to continue to remindmyself that having to do it all
is a myth. It is not reality. Itis never going to be the right
answer for anybody in my life.Sure as heck, not me or my mom
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or the other people or myclients, right? It's not going
to be the answer nobody.Nobody's going to I'm not able
to serve the people I want toserve if I burn myself out to
get there, right so doing it allis a myth, and we need to dispel
that myth today, right here,right now, I am embracing and I
firmly believe with every fiberof my body that grace and ease
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are essential for our success.You know, giving yourself grace
is not laziness. It'ssustainability, right? Like
having more grace in your life,doesn't that feel good? First of
all, doesn't it feel good whenyou just say that, say that out
loud, right? I want to bring, Iwant to embrace more grace in my
life, and the grace, yes,there's giving grace to other
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people, I think is a big part ofthat, because it helps your
energy, right? If you'reconstantly bickering or annoyed
by other people, that's oneenergy I choose to have grace.
And you know, maybe the guy thatjust cut me off on the highway
is on his way to take his wifeto, you know, deliver her baby.
Who knows, right? So, so grace,grace in my energy is not about
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laziness, right? It's aboutsustainability, having having
boundaries around all of thethings that are going on and
creating my day and my world ina way that is sustainable and
that makes me more successful.And that's what I want you to
understand, right? Success comesfrom when you when you operate
from a place of alignment, notexhaustion, right? And it is
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something that you have tocontinue to remind yourself of,
you know, I know that there's alot of stuff out there, and I
read it all, and I probably talkabout some of it where, you
know, how do you start yourmorning? Do you start it with
meditation? Do you end your day?Are you doing hypnosis and
meditation? And I those, thosemodalities are so important in
my life. But you know what Ineed, I need a midday circuit
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breaker, because a couple hoursin, I need to remind myself of
that alignment and not thatexhaustion. I need to pick the
one or two things each day thatare important to get done and
know that once those things getdone, I'm in alignment, and
then, you know, I'm not going toexhaust myself. But what else is
on my to do list that I canknock out today? Right? The
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wealthiest, most influentialwomen on this planet have strong
boundaries and prioritize ease.Right? Think about that. Think
about the people you know, thewomen that you want to emulate,
or you you know that you youfeel a connection to. I don't
know. I mean, for me, they'renot the women that are running
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around like crazy people. Theyare prioritizing, prioritizing
ease in their life, and thatease comes when you nurture
yourself, when you show up in astronger and wiser way, bringing
that weight, that grace intoyour life, that my friend, is
what makes you more magnetic,and that magnetic energy is at
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the heart of everything that Iteach, everything in this
podcast. When you are inalignment, you are magnetic, and
you're not out there pitching,and you're not out there
pounding the pavement, andyou're not out there pitching,
you know, writing 500 LinkedInconnection requests to see if
somebody responds, if somethingsticks to the wall, right, you
are more magnetic, the more youare in alignment, and the more
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you show up, stronger and wiser.And I know, at least in my
world, and I know for many ofthe people that listen to this
show, that though there is suchan emotional weight to what is
happening in the world rightnow. So it's normal to feel
drained with all of this. Ihonestly feel like in 10 years
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or I mean, I don't know what 10years, 20 years, is going to
look like to us, right? But Ifeel like we're going to look
back at this period of time likethe two the 20s, right, starting
at 2020 and certainly through2025 and go, What the f? How do
we even get through all of that?Right? It is normal to feel
drained. It is not normal tohave the weight that we've had
on us worldwide pandemics, youknow, democracy at stake. It is
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normal to feel drained by all ofthis. Okay, so what I struggle
with, and maybe you do too. AndI, you know, I wish I had an
answer for you on this. I'lltell you what I do and you know,
we'll see if it works for you,but it's so I can tell you right
now. It is not a perfect answer.I have to I am trying to balance
staying informed without gettingcompletely emotionally depleted,
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right? And I, you know, I don'twant to stick my. In the sand.
It's important to me that I knowit's happening in the world, and
not just politically, right? Imean, here's the thing I at the
heart of everything I do, is Iwant more women to have more
money, because more women withmoney can change the world. And
I believe we're in a world rightnow that needs that. So if I'm
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not paying attention to what'shappening in the world, then
there's a disconnect betweenwhat I'm teaching and the and
the mission behind everything Iteach and, you know, and the
reality, right? So there's apart of me that it's important,
that it's important to me tostay informed, but I want to do
it in a way that is notcompletely emotionally depleting
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me, so that what does that mean?There are different people that
I follow that I feel like areinformative, but not emotionally
informative. They're not drama.I'm not getting the drama. I'm
just getting like, the facts tothe best of everybody's ability,
right? I have to create, Icreate boundaries around my
consumption of the news. Whatstations I'm watching. Sometimes
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I'll watch somebody that Ireally enjoy, and I'll get five
minutes into it and go, yeah,no, I'm done. I can't listen to
this anymore, right? Socialmedia, I have blocked or hidden
more people in the last coupleof weeks than probably in my
entire use of social media inall the years I've been using
social media. In fact, I'm notreally engaging much on social
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media anymore. I'm on LinkedInbecause I'm on social media for
for business and then obviouslysome personal stuff, like, you
know, friends and family. Ireally do enjoy that part of
social media. There's familymembers that I get to know
what's going on in their lifethat 10 years ago I didn't
right, because we didn't really,or 20 years ago, we didn't have
social media, so I didn't knowwhen they were when their
pictures of their babies, orwhen their kids were graduating,
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or pictures of their weddings,right? It's so people. I
graduated high school with thatI went to grammar school with. I
enjoy that part of social media,so I'm trying to create
boundaries around my socialunit. Social media use and and
the conversations that drain me,I do not. I get to choose who I
allow into my energy, right? Andso do you I want to protect that
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energy because I want to beeffective, not reactive. And
trust me when I tell you, I canbe reactive, right? So and I so
I choose not to. I am choosingnot to be reactive, and I have
to and boundaries. Andprotecting my energy helps that,
right, helps that. And again,that makes me more magnetic,
right? Who the heck wants tohang out with somebody that is
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constantly reactive andconstantly, you know, but
spitting out all kinds of crazystuff, right? I choose my
energy, and I choose how I wantto show up. So let's talk about
a couple of practical ways so togive yourself that grace and to
cultivate more ease in your lifeand in your business. First of
all, schedule it. Schedule it.Build intentional buffer time in
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your week and in your day,right? I don't know if you guys
can see whoop back here on that,on this, oh, if you're, if
you're listening, you got toturn this on YouTube. But back
here on this piece of driftwoodI have, I invested recently in a
couple more sets of mala beads.I need a midday break, and I'll
grab a set of mala beads, andI'll sit in a quiet place, and
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I'll just kind of meditate for,you know, 1520 minutes I
schedule that in that is part ofthe grace that I give myself
every day. I've also rescheduledmy week, right? Mike, I've
looked at my Calendly and I'verescheduled. It's not I'm not
shrinking the time that I'mavailable, but I am putting
boundaries around the time thatI'm available, right? I'm
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choosing this day, and this dayis what I do this type of work,
and this day I do that type ofwork, then I build intentional
buffers around that, so I'm notall over the place all the time,
right? So that's the first way,practical way to give yourself
some grace and to cultivate someease. The second way is to
reframe rest. I want you to seerest as a power move, not a
weakness. Okay, if you know Ihave I am not a Napper. I have
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never been a Napper in my entirelife. But I am trying to reframe
what a midday rest looks like.Or maybe I'll just hang out
another hour. I'm an earlymorning person, so, but maybe
I'll hang out an extra hour inbed. Maybe I'll, like, just, you
know, I have an adjustable bed.Maybe I'll put the backup and
grab the remote and, you know,binge something on TV if I don't
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have a busy morning, right? I'mreframing this, and I'm thinking
of it as a power move, not as aweakness. Okay, the third way
that I'm protecting I'm givingmyself grace and cultivating
ease is saying no more often.
Every time you say yes, it mustserve your highest vision. I
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want you to, I want you to hearthat again. Every time you say
yes, it must serve your highestvision. You know that a big part
of the work that I do aroundhere is helping you with
visibility, right? But if, butif, saying yes to an interview
in front of the wrong audienceis not serving your highest
vision, right? So I want you tosay. Yes, but also remember that
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you can say no, and I want youto say no more often. I want you
to be so, so picky about what itis you do and make sure that it
serves your highest vision.Because guess what, it opens up
the pathway, it leaves the spacefor more of those perfect
opportunities. Okay, now thenext one, the fourth one I'm
going to talk about, is mostit's something that's important
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to me. Maybe you're not the samekind of person I already
mentioned. I'm a morning person.I protect my mornings. I like
slow mornings. I like slowmornings. It's morning and it's
morning ish, when I'm recordingthis right now, I've got tea in
one cup. I've got coffee inanother cup. I've got water over
here too. I i make tea. I put apot of coffee on. I start with
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tea. I'll meditate. I'll grab aset of those mala beads, and
then I'll meditate a little bit.In the morning, I like to sit in
a special spot and just kind ofjust kind of breathe and think
about what my day looks like. Alittle bit of visualizing what
my day and my life looks like.But to me, a peaceful morning
sets the tone for my success andsets the tone for a successful
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day. Okay, the fifth thing Iwant you to think about that can
that is a practical way to giveyourself grace and cultivate
more ease is micro moments ofself care. Okay? Self Care
doesn't mean run a bath and sitin the bath for an hour, or go
drive to the top of a mountainand sit there and chant for two
hours. It can be a five minuteenergy shift, right? A five
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minute energy shift. There's alittle pond right near where I
live, and just to walk aroundthat pond, it's not a half an
hour there and back. And youknow, it's to me, that's a micro
moment where I can just walkoutside. I mean, it's a little
cold here in New Jersey rightnow, but I could just walk
outside. Walk outside, or justeven look outside, right, um,
and just have that five minuteenergy shift. Or if it's even,
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can just be breath, it can evenjust be breathing right, like I
you know, there's apps on yourphone, um, let me see if I can
find the app that I'm thinkingof right now, but there's an app
that I use that somebodyrecommended to me a while back
called, well Tory, W, E, L, L,T, O, R, Y, and basically, you,
you put your finger on it and itand it checks your blood
pressure and your heartbeat andall that other stuff, and your
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your and please don't takemedical advice for me, right?
But it's just what I do my HRTheart rate via heart rate
variability, right? I can tellyou that if I am not taking that
five minutes to shift my energybefore I like measure my HRV, I
get a very different result thanif I take that five minutes,
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right? So if that, if that isthe case, if my physical body
measures differently from thatlittle micro moment of self
care. Think about how valuablethat can be in your energetic
being as you go through yourday, and how valuable that can
be to having a day filled withgrace as instead of a day filled
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with stress and anxiety, right?And the last thing that I want
to talk about as a practical wayto give yourself grace and
cultivate ease is to stop thenegative self talk and replace
it with affirming thoughts. Andyou know, it's just, it's just a
thing, right? It's just a thingthat we sometimes do, or that I
sometimes do, and I and if youare having, you know, and I can
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think of some clients that I'vehad this conversation with where
they're talking to me andthey'll be like, Oh yeah, well,
I'm not, I'm terrible at Tech.And I'm like, How can you
reframe that, right? How can youreframe that? You can reframe
that as I've had some troubleswith tech in the past, but I'm
committing to being more, youknow, more aligned with the tech
in my life as I move forward,right? Like, stop the tell this,
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the negative self talk, and putout to the universe the
positive, affirming things thatare so important to you and and
let the universe if you don't,if you don't do this, then who,
how can anybody know what it isto give you? Because you're not,
you're all you're talking aboutis the negative things, right?
You've got to focus on thepositive things, or reframe
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these things to be positive. Solet's talk about how all of this
ties into the topic at hand forthis show and for all the shows
I publish here on good girls getrich. And that is, how does this
all tie back to wealth andinfluence? I believe in my heart
of hearts, that you do not needto hustle to be wealthy. You
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need to be intentional.Operating from Grace makes you
more magnetic to theseopportunities and to sec, to
this, to success and and helpspeople want to be more in your
energy, okay, and that you knowall the work we do, and she's
linked up in the in our in ourmembership program, and in the
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private work that I do withclients is about building
influence that feels aligned andempowered and not exhausting. I
want you to feel aligned and.Powered and have opportunities
just being drawn to you. I donot want you to be exhausted and
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and who nobody wants to pee inthat energy, right? So it's an
important part of the work wedo. It's why, as much as I love
love love strategy, and I cantalk about strategy all day and
all night, if strategy alone isnot going to is not the answer,
our energy and our alignment ismore almost more important than
the strategy. So what I'm goingto do now, I mentioned to you
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that I had a gift for you. I amgoing to give you a moment of
grace right now, and you can, Iwould suggest that you save this
episode and come back to thisover and often as you need.
Maybe this is your midday breakthat we talked about earlier,
right? That that micro moment ofself care. Okay? So if you're
driving, you know, I suggestthat you you either pause this
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now and listen to it later, orknow that, you know this is,
this is intended to be like aguided reflection. So I want you
to be safe. So listen to this ina place that you're safe. What
we're all gonna do right now,what you and I are gonna do
right now, is just take a deepbreath together, all right? So
just take a deep breath in, holdit and then release that deep
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breath wherever you are, justallow yourself to settle in for
a moment, taking another deepbreath in, releasing that deep
breath. Maybe you've beenrushing all day. Maybe your mind
is moving a mile a minute rightnow I am giving you permission
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to pause so inhale deeplythrough your nose and hold this
for a moment, and exhale slowly.And I want to ask you a few
gentle questions. Okay? And Iwant you to ask yourself these
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few gentle questions, where inmy life am I pushing too hard?
Where in my life am I pushingtoo hard? Where can I allow more
ease and more grace in my life?Where can I allow more ease and
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more grace? What would it feellike to truly trust that I am
already enough. What would itfeel like to truly trust that I
am already enough?
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Now I want you to imagineyourself one year from today,
the version of you who hasmastered grace and ease and
flow. She is powerful, she issuccessful, and yet she moves
with lightness. She has space inher day. She has peace in her
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heart. She's creating wealth andinfluence and impact without
struggle. Breathe in thatenergy. Breathe in that future
vision of you and let it settleinto your body. Sit here for a
couple seconds, breathing inthat future version of you, let
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it settle in, feel the feels,smell, the smells, touch, the
feeling, hear what you hear, andnow bring your focus back to
this moment. Know that the pathto the future starts with the
small acts of grace today,giving yourself permission to
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rest, to say no, to breathe, onefinal deep breath in hold that
breath and then exhale. And whenyou're ready, open your eyes or
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come back to the present momentand remember you are worthy of
grace right now exactly as youare. Remember that grace is not
a luxury. It's a necessity. Thisone simple action, just giving
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yourself that couple minutes toenvision the thoughts we were we
did together. It. It's you'realready inviting more ease into
your life. I don't know ifyou've gotten our taken our quiz
yet. If you go to LinkedInquiz.com we incorporate morning
visualizations into our quiz. Soif you haven't grabbed the quiz
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yet, you totally want to dothat. It's something you can
spend the morning doing everymorning depending on your
results of your quiz. Everybodygets a different visualization
depending on your type. And it'sjust a great way to start your
morning and again, do it in themiddle of the day too, right?
You know, I sometimes I jokethat that I am the only LinkedIn
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strategist that talks about youryour power chakra at the same
time. You know, I do thatbecause the women that I work
with, they are so they'reoverachieving women and and
often there aren't peopletelling us that we need more
ease in our life so that we cangrow our influence and grow our
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success. So I want to be thatperson for you. I want to be
that person for you. So what I'dlove for you to do, if this
episode today was valuable toyou, first of all, if we're not
already connected on LinkedIn,we should be connect with me on
LinkedIn and DM me and let meknow how you're giving yourself
grace this week. Or, evenbetter, share this episode on
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your social media, on yourLinkedIn, or wherever you
wherever you hang out and sharethere where you're giving
yourself grace this week andencourage your audience to do
the same thing. You know, Ibelieve that in that rising tide
that lifts all boats, and I dothis podcast every week for you,
and while you with you, sharingit with your audience, hopefully
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my words will be able to helpmore people, but also it helps
me help you, and helps mecontinue to do this right? So
it's win, win, win. So I havenever done anything like this
before on this podcast. I'vedone it in my in the private
work, if we've, if we're, ifwe've worked together on a
consulting arrangement, or inour she's linked up program,
then these little visualizationsare not new to you, but if you
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haven't experienced them yet, Ihope that it helps you, and know
that I am here for you. I amworking every day to build more
grace and ease into my life, andI am here to support you to do
the same. I will see you backhere again next week with
another episode of The Goodgirls get rich podcast.
Music.
Karen Yankovich (00:10):
Hello and welcome back to another episode
of The Good girls get richpodcast, the show that's all
about helping you step into morewealth, more influence, more
impact, without sacrificing yourpeace, your health or your joy.
I'm your host, Karen Yankovic,and today we're talking about
something that's really been onmy heart lately. Because, let's
be honest, the world is feelinga little bit heavy right now. We
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are all carrying so much, and ifyou're anything like me, or like
so many of the brilliant, drivenwomen that I get to work with,
you're probably holding yourselfto some sky high standards right
now, right? Trying to do it alland do it all perfectly and do
it all authentically while,while kind of walking your talk,
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right? So what I'm trying, whatI'm doing in my world and in my
business, and what I want toshare with you today is the the
theory that success does nothave to come through struggle,
right? You don't need to runyourself into the ground to
build the life that you want. Infact, the real magic you know,
the success that feels good itcomes when you give yourself
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permission to slow down, tobreathe and to lead with grace
and with ease. So today we'regoing to talk about why giving
yourself grace is not just selfcare. It's a strategy for
sustainable success. We're goingto dive into how you can protect
your energy, how you can andshould nurture yourself, and how
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you can still do that and stillbe showing up as a powerful,
successful, wealthy women makingan impact in the world, even
when the news is exhausting andthe pressure feels relentless,
and frankly, you know, businessfeels crazy like some of some
I'm getting more and more phonecalls that are like, Karen, I
don't even know how to moveforward in my business right
now, right? But stick around,because at the end of this
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episode, I'm going to gift yousomething that's a little bit of
a little bit of a shortreflection a moment just for
you, something I've never doneon this episode on this podcast
before, because I want you toreconnect a little bit with that
calm, with that confident visionof yourself, right, that version
of yourself that's alreadywithin you. All right, so grab a
cup of coffee. Maybe find somequiet space, because this
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episode is for you, my friend,this episode is for you. So
where do we? Where do we want tostart with this? I want to start
by talking about the importanceof grace for yourself. So often
we are called to give grace toothers, or we choose to give
grace to others. We I enjoygiving grace to others, right?
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But I need to also remember thatI need to give grace to myself.
And this, you know, all theheaviness in the world right now
is important to me. It'simportant that I show up in a
way that that is in authenticitywith my values, right? With my
values. So this is a timelytopic for me, because it's baby
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steps for me. It's baby stepsfor me. You know, I'm I'm
committed that I want to put mymoney into small businesses. I
want to put my money and my myeffort and my energy into
businesses that have the samevalues that I have and support
the same visions for the worldand for humanity that I have and
not that's not always the easything, right? It's not always
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the easy thing. It's really easyto just like, pick up your
phone, right? And go into Amazonand quickly have something
delivered. And I mean, I live innorthern New Jersey, I can have
it delivered this afternoon,right? And I'm still doing that,
because I'm giving myself grace,but I am looking for
alternatives, right? I'm lookingfor ways that that I can still
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have it feel like ease and givemyself the grace of I'm stepping
slowly through this. Thepressure's High. High achieving
women are often pushingthemselves to the edge, and I
don't want success to feel likeburnout, certainly not for me
and certainly not for you. Sowe're going to talk today about
how to create ease in your lifeand in your business while you
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are still making an impact. Youknow, society tells women we
need to do it all and we need todo it all perfectly. And I've
talked about this before, right?Like there's, probably, there's
a video, if I can find it, I'lllink to it in the show notes.
You know, a commercial from amillion years ago. You know, I
can bring home the bacon and fryit up in a pan, right? Like it's
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exhausting to do it all, right?We don't have to do it all, and
we don't have to do it allperfectly, right?
We're often hardest onourselves, you know, we're often
hardest on ourselves. You know,maybe, if you're, if you've been
listening for a while, you know,maybe you know, I don't know,
maybe you know that I've had acrazy six months. I've moved
had, you know, some personalissues with my you know, my dad
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passed, and my mom needed a lotof support and selling her
house, and just a lot, right?And, and I'm running my
business, and. And, you know, Ican let, I can go on. There's
been a lot, there's just been alot, and I am hardest on myself,
right? Like I need to do allthese, I need to be all these
things to all these people. Andif I'm not doing it all, then I
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feel guilty, right? Then I feelguilty even when I'm doing
probably more than many peoplethat are in my life, right? So I
have to continue to remindmyself that having to do it all
is a myth. It is not reality. Itis never going to be the right
answer for anybody in my life.Sure as heck, not me or my mom
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or the other people or myclients, right? It's not going
to be the answer nobody.Nobody's going to I'm not able
to serve the people I want toserve if I burn myself out to
get there, right so doing it allis a myth, and we need to dispel
that myth today, right here,right now, I am embracing and I
firmly believe with every fiberof my body that grace and ease
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are essential for our success.You know, giving yourself grace
is not laziness. It'ssustainability, right? Like
having more grace in your life,doesn't that feel good? First of
all, doesn't it feel good whenyou just say that, say that out
loud, right? I want to bring, Iwant to embrace more grace in my
life, and the grace, yes,there's giving grace to other
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people, I think is a big part ofthat, because it helps your
energy, right? If you'reconstantly bickering or annoyed
by other people, that's oneenergy I choose to have grace.
And you know, maybe the guy thatjust cut me off on the highway
is on his way to take his wifeto, you know, deliver her baby.
Who knows, right? So, so grace,grace in my energy is not about
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laziness, right? It's aboutsustainability, having having
boundaries around all of thethings that are going on and
creating my day and my world ina way that is sustainable and
that makes me more successful.And that's what I want you to
understand, right? Success comesfrom when you when you operate
from a place of alignment, notexhaustion, right? And it is
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something that you have tocontinue to remind yourself of,
you know, I know that there's alot of stuff out there, and I
read it all, and I probably talkabout some of it where, you
know, how do you start yourmorning? Do you start it with
meditation? Do you end your day?Are you doing hypnosis and
meditation? And I those, thosemodalities are so important in
my life. But you know what Ineed, I need a midday circuit
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breaker, because a couple hoursin, I need to remind myself of
that alignment and not thatexhaustion. I need to pick the
one or two things each day thatare important to get done and
know that once those things getdone, I'm in alignment, and
then, you know, I'm not going toexhaust myself. But what else is
on my to do list that I canknock out today? Right? The
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wealthiest, most influentialwomen on this planet have strong
boundaries and prioritize ease.Right? Think about that. Think
about the people you know, thewomen that you want to emulate,
or you you know that you youfeel a connection to. I don't
know. I mean, for me, they'renot the women that are running
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around like crazy people. Theyare prioritizing, prioritizing
ease in their life, and thatease comes when you nurture
yourself, when you show up in astronger and wiser way, bringing
that weight, that grace intoyour life, that my friend, is
what makes you more magnetic,and that magnetic energy is at
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the heart of everything that Iteach, everything in this
podcast. When you are inalignment, you are magnetic, and
you're not out there pitching,and you're not out there
pounding the pavement, andyou're not out there pitching,
you know, writing 500 LinkedInconnection requests to see if
somebody responds, if somethingsticks to the wall, right, you
are more magnetic, the more youare in alignment, and the more
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you show up, stronger and wiser.And I know, at least in my
world, and I know for many ofthe people that listen to this
show, that though there is suchan emotional weight to what is
happening in the world rightnow. So it's normal to feel
drained with all of this. Ihonestly feel like in 10 years
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or I mean, I don't know what 10years, 20 years, is going to
look like to us, right? But Ifeel like we're going to look
back at this period of time likethe two the 20s, right, starting
at 2020 and certainly through2025 and go, What the f? How do
we even get through all of that?Right? It is normal to feel
drained. It is not normal tohave the weight that we've had
on us worldwide pandemics, youknow, democracy at stake. It is
(09:33):
normal to feel drained by all ofthis. Okay, so what I struggle
with, and maybe you do too. AndI, you know, I wish I had an
answer for you on this. I'lltell you what I do and you know,
we'll see if it works for you,but it's so I can tell you right
now. It is not a perfect answer.I have to I am trying to balance
staying informed without gettingcompletely emotionally depleted,
(09:55):
right? And I, you know, I don'twant to stick my. In the sand.
It's important to me that I knowit's happening in the world, and
not just politically, right? Imean, here's the thing I at the
heart of everything I do, is Iwant more women to have more
money, because more women withmoney can change the world. And
I believe we're in a world rightnow that needs that. So if I'm
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not paying attention to what'shappening in the world, then
there's a disconnect betweenwhat I'm teaching and the and
the mission behind everything Iteach and, you know, and the
reality, right? So there's apart of me that it's important,
that it's important to me tostay informed, but I want to do
it in a way that is notcompletely emotionally depleting
(10:39):
me, so that what does that mean?There are different people that
I follow that I feel like areinformative, but not emotionally
informative. They're not drama.I'm not getting the drama. I'm
just getting like, the facts tothe best of everybody's ability,
right? I have to create, Icreate boundaries around my
consumption of the news. Whatstations I'm watching. Sometimes
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I'll watch somebody that Ireally enjoy, and I'll get five
minutes into it and go, yeah,no, I'm done. I can't listen to
this anymore, right? Socialmedia, I have blocked or hidden
more people in the last coupleof weeks than probably in my
entire use of social media inall the years I've been using
social media. In fact, I'm notreally engaging much on social
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media anymore. I'm on LinkedInbecause I'm on social media for
for business and then obviouslysome personal stuff, like, you
know, friends and family. Ireally do enjoy that part of
social media. There's familymembers that I get to know
what's going on in their lifethat 10 years ago I didn't
right, because we didn't really,or 20 years ago, we didn't have
social media, so I didn't knowwhen they were when their
pictures of their babies, orwhen their kids were graduating,
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or pictures of their weddings,right? It's so people. I
graduated high school with thatI went to grammar school with. I
enjoy that part of social media,so I'm trying to create
boundaries around my socialunit. Social media use and and
the conversations that drain me,I do not. I get to choose who I
allow into my energy, right? Andso do you I want to protect that
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energy because I want to beeffective, not reactive. And
trust me when I tell you, I canbe reactive, right? So and I so
I choose not to. I am choosingnot to be reactive, and I have
to and boundaries. Andprotecting my energy helps that,
right, helps that. And again,that makes me more magnetic,
right? Who the heck wants tohang out with somebody that is
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constantly reactive andconstantly, you know, but
spitting out all kinds of crazystuff, right? I choose my
energy, and I choose how I wantto show up. So let's talk about
a couple of practical ways so togive yourself that grace and to
cultivate more ease in your lifeand in your business. First of
all, schedule it. Schedule it.Build intentional buffer time in
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your week and in your day,right? I don't know if you guys
can see whoop back here on that,on this, oh, if you're, if
you're listening, you got toturn this on YouTube. But back
here on this piece of driftwoodI have, I invested recently in a
couple more sets of mala beads.I need a midday break, and I'll
grab a set of mala beads, andI'll sit in a quiet place, and
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I'll just kind of meditate for,you know, 1520 minutes I
schedule that in that is part ofthe grace that I give myself
every day. I've also rescheduledmy week, right? Mike, I've
looked at my Calendly and I'verescheduled. It's not I'm not
shrinking the time that I'mavailable, but I am putting
boundaries around the time thatI'm available, right? I'm
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choosing this day, and this dayis what I do this type of work,
and this day I do that type ofwork, then I build intentional
buffers around that, so I'm notall over the place all the time,
right? So that's the first way,practical way to give yourself
some grace and to cultivate someease. The second way is to
reframe rest. I want you to seerest as a power move, not a
weakness. Okay, if you know Ihave I am not a Napper. I have
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never been a Napper in my entirelife. But I am trying to reframe
what a midday rest looks like.Or maybe I'll just hang out
another hour. I'm an earlymorning person, so, but maybe
I'll hang out an extra hour inbed. Maybe I'll, like, just, you
know, I have an adjustable bed.Maybe I'll put the backup and
grab the remote and, you know,binge something on TV if I don't
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have a busy morning, right? I'mreframing this, and I'm thinking
of it as a power move, not as aweakness. Okay, the third way
that I'm protecting I'm givingmyself grace and cultivating
ease is saying no more often.
Every time you say yes, it mustserve your highest vision. I
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want you to, I want you to hearthat again. Every time you say
yes, it must serve your highestvision. You know that a big part
of the work that I do aroundhere is helping you with
visibility, right? But if, butif, saying yes to an interview
in front of the wrong audienceis not serving your highest
vision, right? So I want you tosay. Yes, but also remember that
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you can say no, and I want youto say no more often. I want you
to be so, so picky about what itis you do and make sure that it
serves your highest vision.Because guess what, it opens up
the pathway, it leaves the spacefor more of those perfect
opportunities. Okay, now thenext one, the fourth one I'm
going to talk about, is mostit's something that's important
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to me. Maybe you're not the samekind of person I already
mentioned. I'm a morning person.I protect my mornings. I like
slow mornings. I like slowmornings. It's morning and it's
morning ish, when I'm recordingthis right now, I've got tea in
one cup. I've got coffee inanother cup. I've got water over
here too. I i make tea. I put apot of coffee on. I start with
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tea. I'll meditate. I'll grab aset of those mala beads, and
then I'll meditate a little bit.In the morning, I like to sit in
a special spot and just kind ofjust kind of breathe and think
about what my day looks like. Alittle bit of visualizing what
my day and my life looks like.But to me, a peaceful morning
sets the tone for my success andsets the tone for a successful
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day. Okay, the fifth thing Iwant you to think about that can
that is a practical way to giveyourself grace and cultivate
more ease is micro moments ofself care. Okay? Self Care
doesn't mean run a bath and sitin the bath for an hour, or go
drive to the top of a mountainand sit there and chant for two
hours. It can be a five minuteenergy shift, right? A five
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minute energy shift. There's alittle pond right near where I
live, and just to walk aroundthat pond, it's not a half an
hour there and back. And youknow, it's to me, that's a micro
moment where I can just walkoutside. I mean, it's a little
cold here in New Jersey rightnow, but I could just walk
outside. Walk outside, or justeven look outside, right, um,
and just have that five minuteenergy shift. Or if it's even,
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can just be breath, it can evenjust be breathing right, like I
you know, there's apps on yourphone, um, let me see if I can
find the app that I'm thinkingof right now, but there's an app
that I use that somebodyrecommended to me a while back
called, well Tory, W, E, L, L,T, O, R, Y, and basically, you,
you put your finger on it and itand it checks your blood
pressure and your heartbeat andall that other stuff, and your
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your and please don't takemedical advice for me, right?
But it's just what I do my HRTheart rate via heart rate
variability, right? I can tellyou that if I am not taking that
five minutes to shift my energybefore I like measure my HRV, I
get a very different result thanif I take that five minutes,
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right? So if that, if that isthe case, if my physical body
measures differently from thatlittle micro moment of self
care. Think about how valuablethat can be in your energetic
being as you go through yourday, and how valuable that can
be to having a day filled withgrace as instead of a day filled
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with stress and anxiety, right?And the last thing that I want
to talk about as a practical wayto give yourself grace and
cultivate ease is to stop thenegative self talk and replace
it with affirming thoughts. Andyou know, it's just, it's just a
thing, right? It's just a thingthat we sometimes do, or that I
sometimes do, and I and if youare having, you know, and I can
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think of some clients that I'vehad this conversation with where
they're talking to me andthey'll be like, Oh yeah, well,
I'm not, I'm terrible at Tech.And I'm like, How can you
reframe that, right? How can youreframe that? You can reframe
that as I've had some troubleswith tech in the past, but I'm
committing to being more, youknow, more aligned with the tech
in my life as I move forward,right? Like, stop the tell this,
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the negative self talk, and putout to the universe the
positive, affirming things thatare so important to you and and
let the universe if you don't,if you don't do this, then who,
how can anybody know what it isto give you? Because you're not,
you're all you're talking aboutis the negative things, right?
You've got to focus on thepositive things, or reframe
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these things to be positive. Solet's talk about how all of this
ties into the topic at hand forthis show and for all the shows
I publish here on good girls getrich. And that is, how does this
all tie back to wealth andinfluence? I believe in my heart
of hearts, that you do not needto hustle to be wealthy. You
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need to be intentional.Operating from Grace makes you
more magnetic to theseopportunities and to sec, to
this, to success and and helpspeople want to be more in your
energy, okay, and that you knowall the work we do, and she's
linked up in the in our in ourmembership program, and in the
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private work that I do withclients is about building
influence that feels aligned andempowered and not exhausting. I
want you to feel aligned and.Powered and have opportunities
just being drawn to you. I donot want you to be exhausted and
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and who nobody wants to pee inthat energy, right? So it's an
important part of the work wedo. It's why, as much as I love
love love strategy, and I cantalk about strategy all day and
all night, if strategy alone isnot going to is not the answer,
our energy and our alignment ismore almost more important than
the strategy. So what I'm goingto do now, I mentioned to you
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that I had a gift for you. I amgoing to give you a moment of
grace right now, and you can, Iwould suggest that you save this
episode and come back to thisover and often as you need.
Maybe this is your midday breakthat we talked about earlier,
right? That that micro moment ofself care. Okay? So if you're
driving, you know, I suggestthat you you either pause this
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now and listen to it later, orknow that, you know this is,
this is intended to be like aguided reflection. So I want you
to be safe. So listen to this ina place that you're safe. What
we're all gonna do right now,what you and I are gonna do
right now, is just take a deepbreath together, all right? So
just take a deep breath in, holdit and then release that deep
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breath wherever you are, justallow yourself to settle in for
a moment, taking another deepbreath in, releasing that deep
breath. Maybe you've beenrushing all day. Maybe your mind
is moving a mile a minute rightnow I am giving you permission
(21:40):
to pause so inhale deeplythrough your nose and hold this
for a moment, and exhale slowly.And I want to ask you a few
gentle questions. Okay? And Iwant you to ask yourself these
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few gentle questions, where inmy life am I pushing too hard?
Where in my life am I pushingtoo hard? Where can I allow more
ease and more grace in my life?Where can I allow more ease and
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more grace? What would it feellike to truly trust that I am
already enough. What would itfeel like to truly trust that I
am already enough?
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Now I want you to imagineyourself one year from today,
the version of you who hasmastered grace and ease and
flow. She is powerful, she issuccessful, and yet she moves
with lightness. She has space inher day. She has peace in her
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heart. She's creating wealth andinfluence and impact without
struggle. Breathe in thatenergy. Breathe in that future
vision of you and let it settleinto your body. Sit here for a
couple seconds, breathing inthat future version of you, let
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it settle in, feel the feels,smell, the smells, touch, the
feeling, hear what you hear, andnow bring your focus back to
this moment. Know that the pathto the future starts with the
small acts of grace today,giving yourself permission to
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rest, to say no, to breathe, onefinal deep breath in hold that
breath and then exhale. And whenyou're ready, open your eyes or
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come back to the present momentand remember you are worthy of
grace right now exactly as youare. Remember that grace is not
a luxury. It's a necessity. Thisone simple action, just giving
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yourself that couple minutes toenvision the thoughts we were we
did together. It. It's you'realready inviting more ease into
your life. I don't know ifyou've gotten our taken our quiz
yet. If you go to LinkedInquiz.com we incorporate morning
visualizations into our quiz. Soif you haven't grabbed the quiz
(25:17):
yet, you totally want to dothat. It's something you can
spend the morning doing everymorning depending on your
results of your quiz. Everybodygets a different visualization
depending on your type. And it'sjust a great way to start your
morning and again, do it in themiddle of the day too, right?
You know, I sometimes I jokethat that I am the only LinkedIn
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strategist that talks about youryour power chakra at the same
time. You know, I do thatbecause the women that I work
with, they are so they'reoverachieving women and and
often there aren't peopletelling us that we need more
ease in our life so that we cangrow our influence and grow our
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success. So I want to be thatperson for you. I want to be
that person for you. So what I'dlove for you to do, if this
episode today was valuable toyou, first of all, if we're not
already connected on LinkedIn,we should be connect with me on
LinkedIn and DM me and let meknow how you're giving yourself
grace this week. Or, evenbetter, share this episode on
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your social media, on yourLinkedIn, or wherever you
wherever you hang out and sharethere where you're giving
yourself grace this week andencourage your audience to do
the same thing. You know, Ibelieve that in that rising tide
that lifts all boats, and I dothis podcast every week for you,
and while you with you, sharingit with your audience, hopefully
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my words will be able to helpmore people, but also it helps
me help you, and helps mecontinue to do this right? So
it's win, win, win. So I havenever done anything like this
before on this podcast. I'vedone it in my in the private
work, if we've, if we're, ifwe've worked together on a
consulting arrangement, or inour she's linked up program,
then these little visualizationsare not new to you, but if you
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haven't experienced them yet, Ihope that it helps you, and know
that I am here for you. I amworking every day to build more
grace and ease into my life, andI am here to support you to do
the same. I will see you backhere again next week with
another episode of The Goodgirls get rich podcast.
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