Hairy Butthole

This week I talk to Erin Hosier the host of Tell Me About Your Father Podcast and author of Don't Let Me Down, a book about her relationship with her narcissist father. We talk all about narcissism. We talk about how common this personality disorder is but how it's very misunderstood. We specifically touch on the experience of being the child of a narcissist and how it effects us both to this day. We also talk about the confusing n...

This week I talk to my friend Cindy who is the owner of Azaelea's in NYC. She and I have been friends for a long time so I was totally shocked when she told me about a traumatic incident she endured in her early 20s involving the death of someone she was dating at the time. We talk about the nature of traumatic events, especially events that happened a long time ago in a different era of our lives. We talk about how we can be frien...

This week I talk about how I discovered that the abortion I had was illegal and why I had no idea until I discussed it on this podcast. I talk about how Korean people deal with an oppressive and conservative government and how the spirit of doing whatever they want behind "father's" back lives on in me. I also talk about being confused by people who are JUST NOW losing faith in the government as someone who has thought it was run b...

CW: childhood assault, Bullying. This week I talk to Gus Constantellis (Comedian, Tiktok star) about how his obsession with celebrities and media from a certain time of his life relates to a trauma that he experienced during the same time. Gus discusses how during the pandemic his body had a severe reaction to an incident he experienced almost 20 years ago as a child. After processing the trauma he came to the realization of how th...

CW: Sexual Assault, Childhood Sexual Abuse. This week I talk to Lucie Pohl, the brilliant comedian behind Immigrant Jam Podcast. I talk about a really traumatizing experience I had as a teenager and Lucie talks about two incidents of her life where she experienced sexual assault and why her inital reaction was to blame herself. Also we laugh about the absurdity of sexual assault and discuss how it's scary to make jokes about our ow...

CW: death. This week I talk to John deBary about the death of his mother from brain cancer. John had no emotional reaction to her passing only to suffer a mental breakdown two years later after Hilary Clinton lost the presidential race in 2016. We talk about how we both tend to repress strong emotions and how it's conditioning from our childhoods. John also talks about his family history which he can trace back one thousand years. ...

CW: Abortion, Statutory Rape, Abuse. This week I talk about my abortion in full detail by myself. It was weird recording on my own but then I ended up sharing stories I have NEVER told until this day. I talk about having sexual relationships with adults as a minor and why I think that happened and how it directly led to me having to have an abortion. I talk about this cop that stalked me when I was 16. Until we raise female-present...

CW: Child Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Homophobia. This week I talk to Ryan Marie Burdge (who also goes by Hilary Burdge) about growing up neurodivergent and queer. Ryan Marie talks about being part of the first group of children to be diagnosed with ADHD in the 80s and the abuse they went through at the hands of the adults in their community. We discuss our friendship history and how we met working in the abusive environment of restaur...

CW: Violence, ED, Negligent Abuse. This week is part two of the conversation with Chansophalla Nop and Oak Laokwansathitaya. Chan talks about her family's traumatic history of living in wartime Cambodia and Oak discusses recently finding out he might suffer from narcoplepsy. Oak also talks about his discovery of being lactose intolerant after a childhood of having his symptoms ignored. We discuss how being the children of traumatiz...

CW: Childhood SA, A, Asian hate crimes, Violence. This week on Hairy butthole Chansophalla Nop and Oak Laokwansathitaya discuss childhood trauma and how the recent spike in Asian hate crimes encited trauma responses from both of them. They discuss how their response to violence and harrassment might seem confusing or inappropriate to people who have not had a background of abuse. Chan discusses a scar on her face she received as a ...

This week Lana Siebel joins Youngmi to discuss her life as a Ukranian Jewish refugee in America. She talks about Ukraine in a realistic way that feels authentic and different compared to recent discourse. Her family considered themselves "second class citizens" as Jews in their own homeland and thus their relationship to Ukraine is complicated. She also touches on having a narcisstic mother, how eating disorders were handled in her...

This week on Hairy Butthole I talk to my long-time friend Helen Cho. Helen is a celebrated producer. After four years she finally breaks her silence on the death of her beloved friend Anthony Bourdain. We also talk about grieving the loss of Christina Yuna Lee as strangers, not feeling entitled to expressing grief, and feeling like our expressions of grief are inadequate or inappropriate constantly. Then we laugh about me wanting t...