Heal from Infidelity

In this episode, I’m diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often push love away. Whether it’s making demands, spending recklessly, or holding back truth, these “power grabs” may feel satisfying in the moment but ultimately create more distance in our relationships.

I share both my own story and my clients’ experiences of trying to reclaim control aft...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to find peace when facing tough decisions. Recently, I was torn between attending my sister’s milestone birthday celebration and staying home to comfort my daughter who needed me. Both were “good” choices, but ultimately, I chose alignment with my values—being present where I was most needed.

Difficult decisions often force us to choose between equally meaningful paths. Whether it...

In this episode, I open up about one of the most frustrating parts of the healing process—when the results don’t seem to match the effort you’re putting in. Whether it’s journaling, therapy, coaching, or trying to rebuild trust, it’s easy to wonder if all your hard work is even making a difference. I’ve been there too, and I know how discouraging it can feel.

I share why this “lag phase” is actually part of growth, how seeds take ...

In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I’ve used with clients: asking the question, What team are you on? When betrayal shakes your world, it’s easy to question your worth and wonder why your partner seems to show up differently elsewhere. But often, the truth isn’t about your value—it’s about which “team” each person chooses to play on.

I share insights from my own experiences and ...

In this episode, I open up about the hidden cost of unspoken truths and what happens when we hold back from sharing how we really feel. I talk about why silence can feel safe in the moment, but ultimately keeps us stuck in patterns that don’t serve us.

Through personal stories and practical tools, I share how learning to speak up and honor your true feelings can change not only your relationships but also your confidence in yourse...

In this episode, I open up about how avoiding uncomfortable truths in relationships can create even deeper pain over time. I talk about the emotional toll of denial, the importance of addressing challenges quickly, and the role a supportive community can play in the healing process. This conversation is an invitation to face what’s really going on so you can prevent unnecessary heartache and move forward with clarity, strength, and...

In this episode, I explore how storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing after betrayal. I explain the difference between revisiting a story to gain clarity and retelling it in a way that keeps the pain alive. You’ll hear how to recognize when it’s time to release an old, harmful narrative and replace it with an empowering one that supports growth, self-discovery, and emotional healing after infidelity.

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In this episode we're going to talk about the complexities of conversations about infidelity. I know that sometimes it's important to revisit painful topics, so let's discuss some effective communication strategies, and the importance of setting boundaries to foster healing. We have to own responsibility while moving forward and practice conscious communication while rebuilding trust and intimacy post-betrayal.

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It's the 200th episode of Heal from Infidelity!

I'm going to share a personal story about planting flowers - and the importance of continuing to care for yourself and your relationships, even when faced with challenges after betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing after betrayal requires patience and nurturing.
• Just like flowers, relationships need care to thrive.
• It's important to keep watering even when results aren't visible.
• Yo...

Let's talk about the challenges of navigating disapproval and emotional reactions in relationships. You'll learn about differentiation — maintaining one's identity while being in a relationship — and hear about ways to manage emotional responses. We'll look at the significance of self-respect, personal growth, and keeping the courage to stand firm in your truth, even when faced with someone else's discontent.

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Today we take a look at the complex relationship between forgiveness and forgetting, emphasizing that true forgiveness does not require the erasure of painful memories. I'll discuss the importance of recognizing and processing emotions through the body, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the ongoing journey of forgiveness as a continual practice.

Key Takeaways:

• Forgiveness does not mean forgetting; it means letting go o...

In this episode, we look at the hidden pain of betrayal, emphasizing that both the betrayed and the betrayer experience deep emotional turmoil. We explore the myths surrounding infidelity, the importance of facing one's pain, and the necessity of mutual understanding in the healing process.

Key Takeaways:

• Betrayed partners often feel worse while the betrayer appears unscathed.
• Pain avoidance leads to deeper issues later on.
• I...

In this episode we discuss the pervasive issue of avoidance in relationships. We explore how avoidance manifests as a lack of communication and emotional engagement, leading to disconnection and mistrust. We look at the costs of avoidance, the importance of setting real boundaries, and the detrimental effects of cancel culture on personal growth and relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Avoidance is a habit that keeps us stuck.
• Hard ...

In this powerful episode, we welcome Alysha Lee, who shares her intense journey of leaving an abusive relationship. Alysha opens up about her experiences, the challenges she faced, and how she ultimately reclaimed her life. This episode is a beacon of hope for those who may find themselves in similar situations, offering insights into healing and the courage to seek a better future.

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• Alysha's early experiences a...

In this episode, I explore the concept of being 'all in' on a relationship and talk about the importance of commitment, understanding deal breakers, and establishing rules of engagement. I highlight the significance of truth-telling, emotional maturity, and personal accountability in fostering a healthy relationship.

Key Takeaways:

• Being all in means commitment with your eyes wide open.
• It's important to know your deal breake...

In this episode we'll discuss the concept of relational bypassing, a pattern where individuals avoid emotional pain in relationships, particularly after infidelity. This behavior can hinder intimacy and healing, so there is a real importance of emotional presence and truth in rebuilding the trust.

Key Takeaways:

• Relational bypassing can kill intimacy in relationships.
• Fixing without hearing leads to disconnection.
• Emotional s...

What does it mean to be "all in" on yourself, especially in the context of healing from infidelity? We'll talk about the importance of self-commitment and internal stability before you can fully engage in relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Going all in means committing to yourself first.
• You cannot be all in on a relationship without being all in on yourself.
• Internal stability is crucial for healthy relationships.
• Overriding your...

In this episode, Majo Torreli, a somatic coach who helps women break unhealthy relationship patterns and cultivate self-love, shares her personal journey of healing from emotionally abusive relationships and the transformative power of somatic coaching.

Key Takeaways:

• Majo Torreli is a somatic coach helping women heal from unhealthy relationship patterns.
• Her personal journey involved overcoming emotionally abusive relationsh...

In this episode we'll explore the critical distinction between manipulation and influence, particularly in the context of relationships affected by infidelity. We'll emphasize the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier interactions and personal growth. The discussion covers how manipulation often stems from fear and self-serving motives, while influence is rooted in strength, clarity, and a desire for collec...