In this deeply honest and empowering episode, I open up about a time in my life when exhaustion brought me to a breaking point. After a panic attack, I went on a personal mission to figure out what was going on beneath the surface—and what I discovered changed everything.
I created something I call my Blindspot Blueprint, and through that process, I came face to face with a truth I didn’t expect: I was a people pleaser. Not the kind who’s just “being nice,” but the kind who was slowly burning out trying to earn love, acceptance, and belonging.
If you’ve ever been the reliable one, the dependable one—the person who shows up for others no matter what—it might be hard to hear that those same traits could be fueled by fear or emotional survival, not just kindness.
In this episode, we explore:
• What people-pleasing really looks like beneath the surface
• How it confuses many Christians who are trying to live with compassion and service
• The emotional cost of over-functioning
• Why the same people you’re trying to please may actually see it as weakness
• How to begin healing, setting boundaries, and reclaiming your emotional space
Plus, if you love someone who struggles with people-pleasing, I share 3 supportive ways you can help them without adding to their emotional load.
This isn’t just an episode—it’s an invitation to come back to yourself
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