How To Tame Your Inner Control Freak With The Heart Center In Human Design

We've all heard "where there's a will, there's a way" - but what if that willpower is one of the biggest roadblock in your business keeping you exhausted, stressed, and wondering why success feels so damn hard?

In this episode, we look into the Heart Center in Human Design - your willpower headquarters that governs ego, material success, competition, and value. While this motor center has incredible power to propel your business forward, it's also where your inner control freak can take up permanent residence.

You'll discover:

• Why operating from pure willpower turns business into a constant battle you have to win through force
• How control issues show up in your offers, team management, marketing, and client relationships
• The real cost of "control mode" and why it's more expensive than you think
• The four key Gates in the Heart Center that reveal exactly how control patterns show up in your business
• The game-changing distinction between energy and force in building sustainable success
• How to transform control into authentic authority that makes success feel inevitable

Whether you have Heart Gates defined in your chart or not, you're subject to these influences. The pressure to control, compete, and force success through willpower affects everyone in business.

This episode will help you:

• Notice where you're forcing instead of flowing in your business
• Question whether your drive comes from authentic desire or fear
• Experiment with letting go and trusting your natural genius
• Step into authentic authority that energizes rather than depletes you

Ready to stop letting control issues run your business into the ground? Your Heart Center holds the key to freedom from the exhausting cycle of force and control.

Resources mentioned:

• Free Inner Influence Guide
• Blog post: "How To Tame Your Inner Control Freak Using The Power Of The Heart Center in Human Design"
• Free Human Design Report

Connect with Victoria:

• Website: victoriagibson.com
• Instagram: @iamvictoriagibson

Tags/Keywords:

Human Design, Heart Center, willpower, control issues, business strategy, entrepreneurship, ego center, sustainable success, authentic authority, energy vs force, business mindset, natural genius

Category:

Business/Entrepreneurship

Episode Length:

7mins

Episode Transcript

(00:16):
They say that wherever there's a will, there's a way.
Through sheer willpower and determination alone, you can achieve great success and muchadmiration in business.
And while it's true that this energy is substantial and necessary to accomplish many ofour deepest desires for business success, it can also give rise to our control issues.
The heart center in human design is concerned with our willpower, ego, material success,competition, and value.

(00:42):
All that good stuff, right?
And this motivational power and driving force in business success has the potential toembrace your desires and translate them into thoughts, deeds, actions designed to bring
success, confidence and wealth through its powerful energy.
But it's also where you're in a control freak can quickly take hold.

(01:03):
So it's worth understanding how your heart center can propel you forward in business andmore importantly, how it can hold you back.
As one of the nine energy centers, this Motor Center is where our willpower resides.
And it's also where we drive our self-confidence, our pride in the work we do, ourrelationship with our audience, our competitive spirit, and our sense of value in who we

(01:24):
are and what we achieve.
The world tells us that to be successful in business, we should climb to the top, win outabove the competition, be admired by many, and most of all, make a pile of cash along the
way.
It's a very masculine force, largely driven by
the lower expression of our egos.
The desire to be first, to enjoy material success, and to have the admiration of many caninfluence how we show up in business, the strategies we use, and the offers we make.

(01:52):
Whether or not we are consciously aware of them or not, we adopt widely held successblueprints and common goals without fully realizing when they are against the flow of our
natural genius.
And this leads to us needing to force a lot of things in business.
It gives us more of a grabbing type of energy, believing that sheer force and will aloneare the two things that will support our success.

(02:15):
This gives rise to negative control issues, which, when left unchecked, lead to untoldstress and exhaustion, meaningless comparisonitis and endless self-judgment.
And when you're in peak control mode, you try and force your success or hold onto it nomatter what.
the focus of control is often power and money, which is largely driven by fear and ego,And it's easy to believe that money equals power.

(02:40):
Being in control freak mode leads to not being able to handle change unless you haveinstigated it.
It can resist the changing market forces and overlook key strategic opportunities.
It can lead to holding onto an offer product or service in the face of declining sales anddisappointed clients,
Or it can show up as you're refusing to hand over full autonomy to your team, leaving themfeeling disempowered and you feeling overworked as you hold on tightly to all the tasks.

(03:09):
And when you don't empower your clients to succeed with the value you give them,
and set yourself up for the further exhaustion of over delivery and the constant stressthinking they aren't going to get the results you know they could.
Or maybe it can happen when you withhold value in your free content, thinking youraudience should pay you for the good stuff, otherwise it doesn't have any value,

(03:30):
Or, now this is what I've seen many times in my mentoring, coaching and consulting work,where you overrule the expert recommendations and strategies you paid for oftentimes
handsomely and end up compromising your results.
All of these examples and there's plenty more mean that you don't see the effortless magicthat comes when you stop holding on to the unhelpful belief that you can't get anywhere

(03:53):
except by the sheer force of your will and keeping tight control over your results, yourbusiness and outcomes.
When you see the only way ahead is through force, you miss the creative opportunities thatcome from your own instincts.
and aligned intentions for creating value in the world.
And when you notice the lower frequencies driving your issues of control, you see thatthey usually come from fear, comparison, competition, loss, negative outcomes, and

(04:24):
relentless self judgment.
You can start learning how your thoughts and experiences have shaped your sense of valueand how
you created in the world for material success.
And the place you go to that is the heart center in human design.
It's where you can start making sense of why and how you're letting control rob you ofyour energy and success in business and life.

(04:47):
Surrendering this control requires great courage.
To know the depths of your own fear of losing control is big and very easy to overlook inthe juggle of entrepreneurship.
But it's one of the biggest causes of burnout in business.
the Heart Center is a great place to look to for the lessons that can come fromunderstanding the difference between energy and force.

(05:11):
Whenever your actions are in alignment with your natural genius, the energy you need issupplied from within.
And when your actions don't flow from your natural genius, your energy will be depleted.
Business is harder, results take more work, and you'll be stressed and exhausted makingmoney from your business.
the key themes of the roadblocks to your natural genius live within the gates of the heartinclude the stress of gate 26, the exhaustion of gate 40, the competition of gate 51, and

(05:42):
the control, just what we're talking about here, of gate 21.
And...
Even if you don't have any heart gates activated in your life chart, you can be subject tonegative influences that give rise to fear and self judgment, especially around making
money in business, having longevity, your public perception, creating community, all ofthose things
And although many of the negative aspects of control, ego and willpower stem from theheart center, there are also many key opportunities to create some effortless magic.

(06:12):
And these can be harnessed through your awareness of human design.
The gifts of authority, community, synergy, resolve, accomplishment and freedom areavailable to us all.
Capture the positive elements of influence available to you and hold them lightly andlovingly.
You can still wield your strengths, but no longer from a place of fear self-judgment orcontrol.

(06:39):
So release the control freak.
It's time.
And I'll talk to you on the next episode.