June 19, 2025 • 8 mins
Are you building your business from your "Gold Star Strengths" - the talents that get you paid and praised but leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled? In this episode, Victoria reveals why the strengths you've worked hardest to develop might be keeping you from your highest potential.
Discover the difference between Gold Star Strengths (learned abilities that create effort and resistance) and your natural genius (innate gifts that create flow and energy). Victoria explains how these Gold Star Strengths can become sabotages that require more effort for fewer results, and why so many successful women entrepreneurs feel like they're running a beautiful prison instead of a business that lights them up.
Learn how Human Design reveals your unique energetic blueprint for accessing your natural genius, and get introduced to Victoria's SOULution methodology - a six-step approach to building a Human Design-Powered Business that honors who you're designed to be, not who you think you should be.
If you're tired of chasing recognition and ready to unlock the business that's been waiting inside you all along, this episode is your roadmap from Gold Stars to Genius.
In This Episode:
- The difference between Gold Star Strengths and natural genius
- Why the talents that get you paid might be keeping you from your purpose
- How Gold Star Strengths become Gold Star Sabotages
- Why successful women entrepreneurs often feel unfulfilled despite their achievements
- How Human Design reveals your unique energetic blueprint for genius
- Introduction to the SOULution methodology for building a Human Design-Powered Business
Key Takeaways:
- Gold Star Strengths are learned abilities that create effort and resistance
- Natural genius comes from innate energetic gifts that create flow and energy
- Building from Gold Star Strengths can create a "beautiful prison" business
- Human Design maps the difference between what you've learned to be good at vs. what you're designed to be great at
- The SOULution approach helps you move from Gold Stars to Genius
Resources Mentioned:
- Victoria's SOULution Quick Class
- Free Human Design Type Guide at victoriagibson.com
Read More Here https://victoriagibson.com/the-fast-pass-to-access-your-genius-unlock-your-highest-potential/
Connect with Victoria:
- Website: victoriagibson.com
- Instagram: @iamvictoriagibson
- Get your free Human Design Report: victoriagibson.com
- Click for your free Inner Influence Guide
Next Steps:
Ready to discover your natural genius?
Watch Victoria's free SOULution class to learn how
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(00:01):
Hey, if you're like most women out there, you built your business from your strengths andyour talents, right?
Makes sense.
The strengths you've had to learn or cultivate through experience, study or expectationand the kind of strengths that make perfect sense to use to start, grow, empower your
business.
You've worked hard for them and I'm sure you're proud of them too.
(00:23):
I'm also willing to bet that you get plenty of gold stars for these strengths too.
degrees, awards, praise, and other badges of honor.
I'm sure they pay you well, come easily, and create a lot of value for other people too.
So why isn't the work you're doing, the offers you're selling, and the content you'resharing from those strengths lighting you up?
(00:46):
And I'm talking fully charged, endless enthusiasm, boundless energy lit up, the kind ofgreat work you never tire of.
always want to talk about and that gets you so in your flow that time just disappears.
Why aren't you having more of that?
Well, it's because you're sticking to what I like to call your gold star strengths.
(01:08):
The ones that get you paid, get you praise and get you on a perpetual pattern of chasingrecognition, rewards and even more gold stars.
There are never enough gold stars, right?
Maybe you started out wanting to be known for marketing.
The ones that get you paid, get you praise and get you on a perpetual pattern of chasingrecognition, rewards and more gold stars.
(01:34):
There are never enough gold stars, right?
You can collect them all you like, but you're still going to be wanting to have more ofthem.
They're never quite that satisfying.
Like maybe you started out wanting to be known for marketing strategy in business becauseyou cultivated a great following on social media.
You're always good at it.
And there are always plenty of people who wanted to pay you for it, but now you're findingyourself drained by the topic.
(02:00):
ah You don't really want to talk about algorithms.
You don't really want to answer questions on what to post.
And you don't really feel like interacting with clients who want you to do it all for themrather than inspire them.
Or perhaps you built your reputation on being the go-to dating expert, but now you feellike you're over-helping people who aren't motivated to help themselves.
(02:22):
And perhaps you're giving and giving without any kind of energy exchange or feelingenergized by it, all while attracting clients who need more hand-holding than
transformation.
The problem is your gold star strengths don't give you the peace, purpose or profits thatyou're longing for.
Your highest potential doesn't come from more gold stars.
(02:45):
It comes from unlocking your natural genius.
And because the, and because those gold star strengths get us paid and get us praise, butthey also divert us from our purpose in business and keep us from our highest potential.
Oh, hang on.
(03:06):
Because those gold star strengths get us paid and get us praise and get us platitudes, butthey also divert us from our purpose in business and in life.
And they keep us from our highest potential.
They're good enough, but they're not great.
They're distracting enough to keep us going.
They're enough effort to feel like we can't give up what we've already created.
(03:33):
But that's
With so many things we can do, the most common things we choose to do stop just short ofour natural genius.
The problem with building your business from your gold star strengths and the reason whyit's making so many entrepreneurial women unhappy is that they're driven by other people's
(03:55):
needs and ideas and too often our own misguided expectations.
These beliefs and expectations are in a direct
These beliefs and expectations are in direct opposition to your true knowing and deepestdesires.
Even when they fool us into thinking that they were our deepest desires, right?
(04:16):
Who here hasn't bought a new car and then a year later gone, oh, okay, this old thing,right?
Because that's not living your purpose, right?
We think some of these gold stars or badges of honor are going to bring us
true success and happiness but they don't they can just end up helping us feel quite emptyright but they don't they can just take us off course from what we truly want okay let's
(04:49):
start again
With so many things we can do, the most common things we choose to do stop just short ofour natural genius.
The problem with building your business from your gold star strengths and the reason whyit's making so many entrepreneurial women unhappy is that they're driven by other people's
needs and ideas, external expectations, the rules of the game, and too often from our ownmisguided expectations that come from years and years of conditioning.
(05:23):
These beliefs and expectations are in direct opposition to your true knowing and deepestdesires.
They can get you close to activating your natural genius, but mostly fall short.
Your gold star strengths require more effort and create more roadblocks and resistancethan your genius, which is what keeps you from unlocking your highest potential and living
(05:48):
out your purpose in business.
And here's what happens when you keep chasing these gold stars.
You end up building a business that looks successful from the outside, but feels like anenergy draining prison on the inside.
You're making good money, but you're exhausted.
You're getting recognition, but you're not fulfilled.
(06:09):
You're frustrated and everything feels like it needs so much more pushing to get the sameresults.
You're helping people, but you're not energized by the work.
You don't want to put your offers out there because you don't want more people to buythem.
It seems to make sense because gold star strengths appear logical on paper and in yourmind.
(06:30):
The big issue is that gold star strengths can far too easily become gold star sabotages.
And these sabotages mean you need way more effort to generate the same results.
But
There's a better way to create more energy, flow, results and opportunities and sidestepthat resistance and sabotage.
It's understanding and embracing your natural genius.
(06:53):
This is from your energetic gifts, strengths and talents, which are innate, not learned.
Your genius is your key to unlocking your highest potential in business and in life.
And this is exactly why I'm so passionate about human design.
because it reveals the difference between what you've learned to be good at and whatyou're energetically designed to be great at.
(07:15):
And there is a big difference, even though it seems like those lines can be blurred.
Like if you do enjoy getting praise for doing things that come easily, it can feel likethat's what you're really, really designed to be great at.
it's not.
Your potential is so much bigger than that.
Human design contains the unique
(07:36):
energetic blueprint that maps your natural genius for you.
When you can activate your genius, you unlock your highest potential and it's theactivation that helps you build a human design powered business, which is the lucrative
business that lights you up from your genius.
It's not just from having your chart printed out, although, you know, that can be usefulwhen, you know, it can spark that next step, but
(08:02):
It's at the activation and the embracing of your human design that is going to totallytransform you from gold stars to genius.
Right?
The genius is what gets you more results with less effort.
The business is the one where you are.
(08:26):
It's the activation that helps you build a human design powered business.
The lucrative business that lights you up from your genius.
The one that gets you more results with less effort.
The one where you wake up excited about your work instead of dragging yourself to thelaptop.
The one where clients are drawn to you and effortlessly naturally attracted to you ratherthan you having to convince them of your value or over deliver.
(08:54):
in order to fulfill their expectations.
And my key to help you do that is helping you create your SOULution That's the six stepbreakthrough approach to activating your genius in business that gives you a new path to
success.
that honors who you're designed to be rather than who you think should be.
(09:16):
One that doesn't leave you chasing gold stars, but instead helps you activate your geniusin the world.
You can find out more on my website.
I've got a quick class there or go and grab your human design chart and report and guidethat sort of starts the ball rolling for you.
Okay.
And tells you how you can get started on your own path to move from gold stars to genius.
(09:39):
And finally unlock the potential in your business that's been waiting there.
And finally unlock the potential.
And finally unlock that potential that's always been inside you that.
(10:09):
And finally unlock the lucrative business that lights you up and reach that potentialthat's really been waiting and reach the potential for
and reach your highest potential.
Experience that fulfillment that somehow seems to elude you so far.
(10:32):
I can't wait till you discuss.
I can't wait for you to experience it.
I'll talk to you next time.
I can't wait for you to experience.
I can't wait for you to experience it and I'll talk to you next time.
What?
(10:55):
No.
Oh my God, this is what is happening.
Okay.
All right.
Okay.
I stop.
Hey, if you're like most women out there, you built your business from your strengths andyour talents, right?
Makes sense.
The strengths you've had to learn or cultivate through experience, study or expectationand the kind of strengths that make perfect sense to use to start, grow, empower your
business.
You've worked hard for them and I'm sure you're proud of them too.
(00:23):
I'm also willing to bet that you get plenty of gold stars for these strengths too.
degrees, awards, praise, and other badges of honor.
I'm sure they pay you well, come easily, and create a lot of value for other people too.
So why isn't the work you're doing, the offers you're selling, and the content you'resharing from those strengths lighting you up?
(00:46):
And I'm talking fully charged, endless enthusiasm, boundless energy lit up, the kind ofgreat work you never tire of.
always want to talk about and that gets you so in your flow that time just disappears.
Why aren't you having more of that?
Well, it's because you're sticking to what I like to call your gold star strengths.
(01:08):
The ones that get you paid, get you praise and get you on a perpetual pattern of chasingrecognition, rewards and even more gold stars.
There are never enough gold stars, right?
Maybe you started out wanting to be known for marketing.
The ones that get you paid, get you praise and get you on a perpetual pattern of chasingrecognition, rewards and more gold stars.
(01:34):
There are never enough gold stars, right?
You can collect them all you like, but you're still going to be wanting to have more ofthem.
They're never quite that satisfying.
Like maybe you started out wanting to be known for marketing strategy in business becauseyou cultivated a great following on social media.
You're always good at it.
And there are always plenty of people who wanted to pay you for it, but now you're findingyourself drained by the topic.
(02:00):
ah You don't really want to talk about algorithms.
You don't really want to answer questions on what to post.
And you don't really feel like interacting with clients who want you to do it all for themrather than inspire them.
Or perhaps you built your reputation on being the go-to dating expert, but now you feellike you're over-helping people who aren't motivated to help themselves.
(02:22):
And perhaps you're giving and giving without any kind of energy exchange or feelingenergized by it, all while attracting clients who need more hand-holding than
transformation.
The problem is your gold star strengths don't give you the peace, purpose or profits thatyou're longing for.
Your highest potential doesn't come from more gold stars.
(02:45):
It comes from unlocking your natural genius.
And because the, and because those gold star strengths get us paid and get us praise, butthey also divert us from our purpose in business and keep us from our highest potential.
Oh, hang on.
(03:06):
Because those gold star strengths get us paid and get us praise and get us platitudes, butthey also divert us from our purpose in business and in life.
And they keep us from our highest potential.
They're good enough, but they're not great.
They're distracting enough to keep us going.
They're enough effort to feel like we can't give up what we've already created.
(03:33):
But that's
With so many things we can do, the most common things we choose to do stop just short ofour natural genius.
The problem with building your business from your gold star strengths and the reason whyit's making so many entrepreneurial women unhappy is that they're driven by other people's
(03:55):
needs and ideas and too often our own misguided expectations.
These beliefs and expectations are in a direct
These beliefs and expectations are in direct opposition to your true knowing and deepestdesires.
Even when they fool us into thinking that they were our deepest desires, right?
(04:16):
Who here hasn't bought a new car and then a year later gone, oh, okay, this old thing,right?
Because that's not living your purpose, right?
We think some of these gold stars or badges of honor are going to bring us
true success and happiness but they don't they can just end up helping us feel quite emptyright but they don't they can just take us off course from what we truly want okay let's
(04:49):
start again
With so many things we can do, the most common things we choose to do stop just short ofour natural genius.
The problem with building your business from your gold star strengths and the reason whyit's making so many entrepreneurial women unhappy is that they're driven by other people's
needs and ideas, external expectations, the rules of the game, and too often from our ownmisguided expectations that come from years and years of conditioning.
(05:23):
These beliefs and expectations are in direct opposition to your true knowing and deepestdesires.
They can get you close to activating your natural genius, but mostly fall short.
Your gold star strengths require more effort and create more roadblocks and resistancethan your genius, which is what keeps you from unlocking your highest potential and living
(05:48):
out your purpose in business.
And here's what happens when you keep chasing these gold stars.
You end up building a business that looks successful from the outside, but feels like anenergy draining prison on the inside.
You're making good money, but you're exhausted.
You're getting recognition, but you're not fulfilled.
(06:09):
You're frustrated and everything feels like it needs so much more pushing to get the sameresults.
You're helping people, but you're not energized by the work.
You don't want to put your offers out there because you don't want more people to buythem.
It seems to make sense because gold star strengths appear logical on paper and in yourmind.
(06:30):
The big issue is that gold star strengths can far too easily become gold star sabotages.
And these sabotages mean you need way more effort to generate the same results.
But
There's a better way to create more energy, flow, results and opportunities and sidestepthat resistance and sabotage.
It's understanding and embracing your natural genius.
(06:53):
This is from your energetic gifts, strengths and talents, which are innate, not learned.
Your genius is your key to unlocking your highest potential in business and in life.
And this is exactly why I'm so passionate about human design.
because it reveals the difference between what you've learned to be good at and whatyou're energetically designed to be great at.
(07:15):
And there is a big difference, even though it seems like those lines can be blurred.
Like if you do enjoy getting praise for doing things that come easily, it can feel likethat's what you're really, really designed to be great at.
it's not.
Your potential is so much bigger than that.
Human design contains the unique
(07:36):
energetic blueprint that maps your natural genius for you.
When you can activate your genius, you unlock your highest potential and it's theactivation that helps you build a human design powered business, which is the lucrative
business that lights you up from your genius.
It's not just from having your chart printed out, although, you know, that can be usefulwhen, you know, it can spark that next step, but
(08:02):
It's at the activation and the embracing of your human design that is going to totallytransform you from gold stars to genius.
Right?
The genius is what gets you more results with less effort.
The business is the one where you are.
(08:26):
It's the activation that helps you build a human design powered business.
The lucrative business that lights you up from your genius.
The one that gets you more results with less effort.
The one where you wake up excited about your work instead of dragging yourself to thelaptop.
The one where clients are drawn to you and effortlessly naturally attracted to you ratherthan you having to convince them of your value or over deliver.
(08:54):
in order to fulfill their expectations.
And my key to help you do that is helping you create your SOULution That's the six stepbreakthrough approach to activating your genius in business that gives you a new path to
success.
that honors who you're designed to be rather than who you think should be.
(09:16):
One that doesn't leave you chasing gold stars, but instead helps you activate your geniusin the world.
You can find out more on my website.
I've got a quick class there or go and grab your human design chart and report and guidethat sort of starts the ball rolling for you.
Okay.
And tells you how you can get started on your own path to move from gold stars to genius.
(09:39):
And finally unlock the potential in your business that's been waiting there.
And finally unlock the potential.
And finally unlock that potential that's always been inside you that.
(10:09):
And finally unlock the lucrative business that lights you up and reach that potentialthat's really been waiting and reach the potential for
and reach your highest potential.
Experience that fulfillment that somehow seems to elude you so far.
(10:32):
I can't wait till you discuss.
I can't wait for you to experience it.
I'll talk to you next time.
I can't wait for you to experience.
I can't wait for you to experience it and I'll talk to you next time.
What?
(10:55):
No.
Oh my God, this is what is happening.
Okay.
All right.
Okay.
I stop.
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