Decoding and Dealing with Toxic Behaviors (Rebroadcast)

Why do toxic behaviors persist in workplaces despite efforts for a healthier work culture? Find out how to discern healthy behaviors from toxic ones and learn what you can do to cope successfully with toxic relationships and environments.

Anna Eliatamby is a clinical psychologist and workplace well-being expert who has played a pivotal role in developing mental health, responsible leadership and well-being strategies for global organizations, including the UN, International Red Cross and Red Crescent, and PwC. She is the Director of HealthyLeadership CIC, a collective that encourages individuals and organizations to foster decency and make positive changes. Anna is also the author of the Decency Journey Series, a collection of compact and practical pocketbooks designed to help individuals flourish in their careers and workplaces.

 

Originally aired as episode 96.

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Episode Highlights

2:56 Why do people engage in toxic behavior?

6:22 The combination of toxic behavior and positive intent

9:37 Impacts of toxic behavior

12:32 Toxic behaviors can cause inadvertent self-sabotage

14:44 The difference between holding someone accountable and blaming

17:31 The mindset behind toxic behaviors

19:55 Assessing our own toxic tendencies

26:08 Critical skills and expectations for confronting toxic behaviors

30:14 More techniques for coping with toxic behaviors

33:10 The importance of self-care when coping with toxic behavior

34:28 Practical considerations, and pitfalls, for deciding on a coping strategy

39:14 Key ingredient for outgrowing our own toxic attendances

 

Anna's view on the greatest unmet wellbeing need at work today

"I think the greatest unmet need is that we must address the negative the toxicity at the same time as we're adding to the positive and teaching people about things like compassion, both are necessary."

What “working with humans” means to Anna

“It's a lovely phrase, and I think it is just that to remember that we are human beings, we all are. And that should be the center from which we work. So if we're human we work with compassion, with respect, with decency -- with ourselves and with other people.”

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