How to Better Share the Mental Load in Marriage

The idea of “mental load” may not have felt burdensome while dating or engaged, but over time, as the responsibilities of life increase, the emotional, mental, and physical toll of the on-going mental load starts to disproportionately affect women, which often then has a direct impact on the quality of their marriage. Women get resentful and men wonder what happened to their wives. So how do we find a better share in the mental drain and to-do list we all carry? 

Renowned relationship expert, podcast host and bestselling author Dr. Morgan Cutlip takes a different approach. Instead of pitting couples against each other, she helps them define the true enemy in their relationship: a full mental load, hustle culture, societal expectations, and the pressure to always be productive. She aims to help couples feel like they’re on the same team and find a solution that works for the ever-changing demands of modern life and family. Morgan emphasizes that these pressures often drain intimacy and connection between partners, and she is passionate about helping couples rekindle their spark. 

 In her new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex , Morgan combines research and real-life stories to guide couples into relationships built on shared responsibility, greater joy, and a thriving sex life. Through practical advice and empowering strategies, Morgan helps couples overcome resentment and feelings of inequity, fostering deeper emotional connection.