One of the only certainties about having children is uncertainty: we can't find out beforehand how a pregnancy or birth experience will go, or who our children will grow up and become. Add in a premature birth, an illness diagnosis, and a NICU stay to the mix, and it can lead to overwhelming worry and anxiety.
My guest today, Meg Helgeson, is certainly no stranger to this. Her twin girls Ellie and Leah, who are now healthy 12-year-old girls, had to be flown to the NICU at Comer's Children Hospital at only 5 days old to receive a meningitis diagnosis.
Looking back, Meg is now able to share her advice for parents going through similar situations: from the nerves of discovering you are having twins, to the heart-wrenching experience of caring for them in the NICU. She shares helpful tips on allowing others to be there for you, remembering to care for yourself, managing expectations, and dealing with overstimulation.
If you're a "recovering perfectionist" trying to balance that with the beautiful chaos of parenthood, then this episode has some goodies for you.
Key Takeaways with Meg Helgeson
- The highs and lows of finding out you're having twins
- Setting healthy boundaries throughout pregnancy
- Managing and grieving pregnancy & birth expectations
- The importance of accepting help from friends and loved ones
- Taking care of yourself through the NICU journey
- Accepting that it is normal not to know everything
- Avoiding comparison in the NICU
- Treating siblings (especially twins) as separate individuals
- How nursery nurses make the experience less daunting
- Celebrating non-traditional milestones to help find joy
- Dealing with overstimulation around small children
- Letting go of perfectionism
- Giving yourself "second chances" to get things right
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