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November 1, 2025 56 mins

Have you ever caught yourself saying "yes" to someone...when every part of you wanted to say "no"?

For so many women in midlife, people-pleasing feels like second nature…putting everyone else's needs before your own, keeping the peace at all costs, and feeling guilty for setting boundaries.

But what if this pattern is the very thing keeping you stuck in old unhealthy patterns?

In this week's episode of Life Is Now… Do It While You Can, Suzanne Oshima, Life Coach for Women in Midlife, sits down with Heidi Gustafson, a People-Pleasing Recovery Coach, a Board-Certified Hypnotist, and host of the Mastering Midlife with Heidi podcast to talk about how to finally break free from people-pleasing and start honoring yourself first.

Heidi shares her deeply personal turning point in her life, after a painful third marriage ended on New Year's Day 2018.  She faced the hard truth…she was the common denominator in relationships where she felt disrespected and unseen.

That painful insight launched her healing journey through Codependents Anonymous and powerful subconscious rewiring through hypnosis.

Her biggest A-ha?

Your beliefs drive your behaviors.

When you change the belief ("I'm only worthy if I keep everyone happy"), you can finally change the habit (overgiving, apologizing, saying yes).

This episode is an empowering roadmap for women in midlife who are ready to stop people pleasing, start speaking up, and create healthy, authentic relationships without guilt.

In this inspiring conversation for women in midlife, you'll learn:

  • Why people-pleasing isn't "nice", it's a form of self-abandonment.
  • How to rewire the subconscious beliefs that keep you stuck in old patterns.
  • The connection between boundaries, self-respect, and true freedom.
  • How to stop attracting takers and start building balanced, healthy relationships.
  • Simple ways to start putting your needs first, without guilt.

If you're ready to stop living for everyone else and start showing up for you, this episode will help you take your power back — one brave "no" at a time.

Because midlife isn't the time to keep pleasing others — it's the time to finally please yourself.

Connect with Suzanne:

Suzanne's Website: https://suzanneoshima.com

Join The Circle of Love Sisterhood: https://suzanneoshima.com/circle-of-love-sisterhood/

It's Never Too Late to Make New Friends eBook: https://suzanneoshima.com/friends-ebook/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fb.suzanneoshima

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzanne_oshima/

Connect with Heidi:

Heidi's Website:

https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/

 

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