Relationship expert warrior for love, Jonathon Aslay, shares insights, secrets and tips for zoning in on the perfect partner, and the ability to be radically authentic as a sexy, soul mate attracter. We have a blast discussing not only dating but exploring how to fortify relationships of all kind through compassionate communication. This one's a game-changer.
- Curiosity + Intentionality are the doorways to secure connection.
- Attachment spotting: ask about past relationships; listen for ownership.
- NVC in 3 steps: what happened → how I feel/need → are you willing…?
- Appreciation daily: aim for ~80% positive acknowledgments—tiny, specific, frequent.
- Micro-rituals: 20–120 second hugs, “I see you when…,” bedtime check-ins, weekly “state of us.”
- Friendship first: prioritize liking each other—rabbit-hole chats, shared curiosity, play.
- Requests from love: trade criticism for clear, kind asks.
- Grief alchemized: asking “What would love do?” creates meaning and gentleness.
Try this tonight
- “When you did ___, I felt ___ because I need ___. Are you willing to ___?”
- Give three appreciations (specific!) before bed.
- 30-second hug, slow breathing, no words.
- Schedule a weekly connection date (phones away): one curiosity question each.
Guest
- Jonathon Aslay — Relationship coach; host of What Would Love Do?; author of What the Heck Is Self-Love, Anyway?
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