In this episode, Host Andrea Atherton sits down with therapist and relationship coach Christie Bemis to explore the hidden forces shaping our love lives—our childhood experiences and unconscious patterns. So much of what we struggle with in relationships—conflict, emotional distance, unmet needs—often traces back to the attachment wounds and learned behaviors we absorbed in our earliest years. Christie sheds light on how these patterns play out in our partnerships and, most importantly, how to break free from the cycles that keep us stuck. Awareness is the first step, but what does real healing look like? They discuss practical strategies for uncovering these unconscious wounds and transforming them into opportunities for growth and deeper connection.
Beyond healing the past, Andrea and Christie dive into how long-term relationships can lose their spark and fall into ruts. While comfort and routine can feel safe, they can drain passion and excitement. Christie shares keys on how to reignite desire, bring playfulness back into intimacy, and rediscover the deep attraction that brought partners together in the first place. From communication shifts to shared experiences, they discuss how couples can keep their connection fresh and fulfilling, even after years together.
Finally, the conversation turns inward—because the most powerful way to improve any relationship is by doing the work on ourselves. What does it mean to be the best partner we can be? How do we cultivate self-awareness, emotional regulation, and personal growth so we can allow the healthiest version of ourselves into our relationships? Andrea and Christie offer actionable tips on shifting mindset, fostering deeper emotional intelligence, and embracing change in ways that positively impact both partners. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for decades, this episode is packed with insights to help you create a love that creates healing and deep fulfillment.
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