Welcome to Episode 203, host Andrea Atherton and guest Janessa Filey-Ford, lean into a truth that often gets lost in the highlight reel of modern love: conscious relationships aren’t always rainbows and unicorns. In fact, some of the most profound moments of growth, intimacy, and connection happen in the hard times—in the middle of conflict, discomfort, and uncertainty. This episode is an invitation to explore how we show up for ourselves and our partner when love gets real.
We’ll explore the importance of emotional regulation, not as a way to suppress your feelings, but as a commitment to owning your emotional experience, so you don’t project, rescue, or rush someone else’s process. It’s easy to fall into the habit of giving advice when our partner is hurting, but real intimacy begins when we pause and ask, “What do you need from me right now?” That question alone can transform your relationship from reactive to deeply responsive. It's the difference between helping from love versus acting from anxiety.
We’ll also talk about the sacred act of allowing your partner to just be—to feel, to process, and to move through their own emotional landscape at their own pace. It’s an act of trust and surrender to hold space without fixing, to witness without rushing, and to remember that your presence often speaks louder than words. Conscious love is built in these quiet, challenging moments—the ones where you choose to stay, soften, and grow… together. Let’s drop in.
Janessa Finley Ford
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