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June 25, 2025 10 mins

Love How Deep Podcast: Can Your Marriage Survive an Affair? (Solo with Brian Mayer)

Episode Title: Can Your Marriage Survive an Affair? Brian's 3 Keys to Healing & Hope

Host: Brian Mayer

Show Notes:

Brian from Love How Deep dives into the difficult question: can a marriage truly survive an extramarital affair? With compassion and directness, Brian shares his firm belief that healing is possible and outlines three essential steps for couples navigating this painful crisis.

In this episode, Brian discusses:

  • The Unwavering Need for Honesty: Brian underscores that complete and thorough honesty about the affair is the very first and non-negotiable step towards recovery. He addresses the complexities of sharing sensitive details and emphasizes the importance of transparency about actions and whereabouts.
  • Empathy and Responsive Listening: Brian explains why the partner who committed the affair must cultivate deep empathy for the pain and anger of their spouse. He stresses the importance of being responsive to their emotions without defensiveness or anger, as these reactions can further erode trust.
  • The Power of Aligned Actions: Brian highlights that words alone are not enough; genuine change and commitment must be demonstrated through consistent actions. He provides practical examples of how to prioritize the marriage and show the betrayed spouse their importance.
  • The Often-Overlooked Necessity of Patience: Brian shares insights into the timeline of healing after an affair, noting that it can often take 12 to 18 months for true recovery. He cautions against burnout and urges consistent effort and understanding.
  • A Powerful Tool for Healing: The Forgiveness Online Course: Brian passionately recommends the Love How Deep Forgiveness Online Course as a valuable resource for both individuals and couples seeking to navigate the difficult path of forgiveness after infidelity. He details the course content and emphasizes its accessibility and affordability.
  • Finding Ultimate Hope and Healing in Faith: Brian concludes by pointing to the profound importance of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ as a foundation for healing, forgiveness, and lasting hope.

Resources Mentioned:

  • Love How Deep Forgiveness Online Course: lovehowdeep.com/forgiveness
    • Discount Code: FG19 (Get the course for $19!)
  • Email Brian: brian@lovehowdeep.com

Key Takeaway: While the journey to recovery after an affair is challenging, Brian offers a message of hope and practical guidance. By prioritizing honesty, empathy, aligned actions, and patience, couples can begin to rebuild trust and heal their marriage. The Love How Deep Forgiveness Online Course is a valuable resource to support this process, and ultimately, faith can provide the strongest foundation for lasting restoration.

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